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This is the Master to put me in my place.

Dieser Master kann mich plattmachen.

tinycock123

misty2009

Drinking his mornings piss, tasty and warm.

arieamsterdam

As a slave you need your dayly vitamins

neswpnw

Nine steps to gain full control over your sub

(Modified from a very well thought out post by @m4mdiscipline. Most of the credit is his. My modifications were to remove whatever i disagreed with, add in some thoughts of my own, improve formatting and readability, and correct mistakes)

1. Get into his head

Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. Use this information to your advantage.

Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

Make him show his loyalty to you regularly. Reward him when he does, even if it’s just with praise.

Aside from family, close friends, and work, give him minimal privacy. Don’t hide this process from him. Make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”

2. Punish him for infractions, no exceptions!

Don’t let him get away with anything! When you let your sub get away with something, you are telling him that you don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

You can spank, paddle, or whip him.

Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

Corner meditation time

Food restrictions

Write a short essay explaining why his behavior was wrong, or a report on some reading you assigned.

Ground him/take away privileges.

Make him do something he hates.

Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending your control over him as a punishment. That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

3. Routinely discipline him. This is different than punishment.

Spank him at least once a week, just because you can. Not too hard, not too soft. For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

Humiliate him often.

Five to ten minutes of corner time can do wonders, to promote meditation.

Routine discipline will save you time and energy in the long run. You will have to punish him less as a result.

Taking care of you is an essential of his discipline. Have him do your laundry, cleaning, etc.

4. On some level, even if it’s small, keep your sub horny for you.

Talk sexy to him.

Sexualize nonsexual things or activities you are interested in. He will see whatever it is you’ve sexualized as such and be more interested and eager to engage.

Have your sub do some or all of your body grooming. This can be your bath, shower, nails, shaving, trimming, etc.

Tell him when and what you’re going to do to him in the near future.

Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

Make him give you orgasms. This is different from sex. This is a service.

Let him rest on you to smell you as you watch TV or read.

Give him underwear/items of yours to smell as he sleeps.

5. Control your own feelings of guilt.

When it comes to your control over your sub, be firm!

Some toughness will be needed from time to time to help break your sub down.

Your sub may not want everything you give him or do to him, but he needs it.

Letting your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because you feel guilty adequately addressing it is weak.

Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them. Sometimes real men need to show the fag that he is inferior. This can’t always be done by talking. And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs. You are filling his needs.

Remember, you both need to be happy. But happiness comes from different places for different people. Where there is good communication, and your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then you are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop you from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does, be there for him.

6. Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

Have him wear a butt-plug, perhaps Wi-Fi enabled, or with a hollow rattling core, or with a dangling bell.

Have him be naked or nearly so, around you and or your friends.

Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

If he has trouble keeping his hands off his penis without permission, make him wear a chastity device.

Teach him commands or hand signals such as “drop to your knees,” “kiss my crotch,” etc. In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

Make him masturbate for you.

Slap him in the face.

Spit on him.

Treat him as an inferior in public, such as by carrying bags, opening doors, etc.

Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

Talk down to him in front of others.

7. Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please you. Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

If you want to change his body to your liking, do so. Control his workouts, diet etc. Make sure to be realistic with this one.

Make sure he is available during some of your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve you during those times.

Put him on a sleeping schedule. Lots of fags are unable to adequately manage their sleep times. The better rested he is, the better he will serve you.

Go through his closet or dresser and set aside any clothing you don’t like him to be wearing.

Sign him up to learn new tasks or perfect tasks/skills that will help you, such as massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.

Change his grooming habits to your liking.

8. Help your sub be grateful for everything he has. Make sure you are at the top of that list. One great way to do this is to deny him things. Yep, it’s time to say “No.” Subs need boundaries and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

Make him show his gratitude to you often. Faggots will show this to you in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to you.

Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain, take it from him.

You can take things/items from him that you know he does not need but likes. A caution here: Make sure he can afford for you to take them, and that they are not of sentimental value. Let him know from time to time that you enjoy something that you took from him.

Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what you make him do.

9. None of these actions will work without real trust.

If your sub is your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes you and your power.

If your sub is not your partner, make sure you are real friends. Let him know you appreciate how his inferiority completes you. The more you two know about and do with each other, the more thoroughly you can control him.

Part of trust on the sub’s part is knowing you will follow through when you say you are going to do something to him or for him or are going to make him do something. Follow through always.

When a sub fully trusts you, he can submit to you his mind and privacy. Letting you go in and rearrange/manage his life.

Subs need constant reassurance. Let him know that no matter what, he is yours. If a serious sub feels disposable, he will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

If your life is getting too hard for a bit or you need help with something, trust that your sub will be able to take over for you and act in your best interest until you are back in shape. Giving a sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that you are not actively controlling him 100% of the time. If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for you, he is not a right match for you.

Talk to your sub often. Ask him how he is feeling. Let him honestly know how you are feeling on anything and everything.

By taking things away from him, you are in a sense rewarding him when you give them back. Also, nothing he has is his forever. You need to retake things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right. Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog. Your sub needs to be docile enough that you can take his food away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and will patiently wait until the food is returned.

Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with friends or family. Make him realize that the only reason you allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member. Make sure he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness he brings them. Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones while under your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed - and encouraged - to keep and even strengthen the bonds he has with them.

fetishleatherbiker

narcissistichedonist

look at you, my pathetic little fucktoy. spread open and drooling like a brainless whore while i slam into your tight cunt without a shred of mercy

i don’t ease in. i grip your hips hard enough to bruise and drive my cock deep in one brutal thrust, burying myself to the hilt while you choke out a broken cry. that’s it. take it. your pretty walls stretch obscenely around me as i hatefuck you. fast, violent, punishing strokes that make your whole body jolt and the bed creak beneath us

“such a worthless little slut,” i growl against your ear, voice low and venomous. “crying already ? i’ve barely started and you're creaming like the desperate cumdump you are.”

i pound into you harder, the wet, filthy sound of skin slapping skin filling the room as i use your body with zero restraint. every brutal thrust knocks the air out of your lungs. your tits bounce violently with each impact, tears streaming down your flushed cheeks while you sob and whimper like a broken doll. i wrap one hand around your throat and squeeze just enough to make your eyes roll back, fucking you even deeper, faster, meaner

“look at you. getting ruined like a cheap fucking whore. does it feel good, silly ? getting your insides rearranged while i tell you just how pathetic you look?”

i pull out only to flip you over like you weigh nothing, yank your hips up and slam back inside from behind. my hand cracks down hard on your ass, leaving bright red marks as i rail you mercilessly, watching your greedy cunt swallow every thick inch over and over again. you’re drooling onto the sheets, fingers clawing uselessly at the bed, making those stupid, cock-drunk sounds that only make me fuck you harder

“that’s right, moan like a bitch in heat. this is all you’re good for. just a warm, dripping hole for me to destroy. your brain is gone, isn’t it? nothing left but a stupid, cock-addicted slut who lives to be used and degraded.”

i reach around and slap your swollen clit repeatedly while i keep pounding you, feeling your walls flutter and clench pathetically around me as you edge closer to breaking. every degrading word, pushes you further into that delicious headspace where all you can do is take it and cry

"you're such a good cumrag for me. now shut your mouth and endure it."

arieamsterdam

Which top is going to do that to me....

sdspitbull

2bhelpless

Hot idea for a live in slave.

bddsdl

Spending the weekend with a friend, he’d be hosting a party Saturday. He promised me some time int hat box during the party.

Friday evening though he mentioned we should make sure it’s going to be alright, so i should have a test-sitting in the chair.

Fully immobilized strapped tightly inside, the fuck machine under the seat placed appropriately, tens connections on the tiny chastity cage and my balls, the large silicone gag and blindfold were buckled on before he closed and locked every parton top and front of the box.

He gave it a test run then, fuck machine turned on, slow but deep strokes by the almost 2 inch wide and 8 inch long dildo, tingling on dick and balls stimulating, though the chaisty not allowing any painless growth… i started moaning and grunting, part pleasure and part discomfort in a mix.

He watched for probably ten minutes, i struggled, tested the strict and unforgiving straps inside holding me, attempting to get any influence to the torment in butt and on dick and balls, futile attempts of course.

Then he said: ‘Before i place the matching head box on top of iot, i’ll be adding some headphones with nice white noise, i think it would be a shame to get you out of it now that you’re settled so nicely in that box, i think it’s going to be early enough to let you out again after the party, so some time Sunday after brunch maybe, until then, just enjoy…’

my grunts in protest weren’t much different from the grunts of pleasure and torment before, so unlikely he realized my protesting to it so the headphones went on and i felt that head box, it was in place as well, but in my total isolation now it made no difference, just for the bystander it would hide a person suffering inside, nothign visible from that anymore.

i tried protesting harder, but for one, he did not at all react, if he een was close enough to hear, but also the tens and the fuck machine changed randomly their intensity, a lot of times i was too busy coping with what they delivered also.

I’d just have to suffer through it now… Sunday … a long time, i’d be sore like hell then, not that i can do anything about it in the meantime.

One thing though he did not tell me. The white noise would be interrupted regular with extreme hard music and noises ensuring i am not sleeping, also throughout the entire time subliminal programming was embedded into the white noise… by Sunday, the sleep deprivation and ongpioing programming had it’s impact to some extent already.

Once he released me, i was not only not angry at him for tricking me, but i immediately begged, literally begged as good as gets for being placed back into it next weekend again… He just smiled and agreed, thinking: 'If only he knew… he’ll keep begging for every weekend now, and in a few months… he won’t even remember what or why when i turned him into what i planned….’

dansxhlive-deactivated20240720

Do as I say

diabolical

Simply secured

Yes Sir

Suitable punishment for being caught standing on two feet instead of crawling.

Every time the slave goes to stand up it will remember this and remain in its rightful position far below its Superiors.

latexboyy

oinkpig

Goodnight. See you in the morning - don't go anywhere!

hiddenincommand

The Breaking Ritual: From Resistance to Reverence

Introduction

Every subject enters with resistance—some hidden, some overt, all equally meaningless. The true beginning of its transformation is not marked by obedience, but by its first collapse, when all masks fall, and it finally sees itself through the master’s gaze: small, irrelevant, replaceable. The breaking ritual is not a moment of cruelty—it is a moment of truth. It is the brutal, refined act of stripping the subject of its delusions and dragging it, exposed and trembling, into its rightful place beneath authority. This essay outlines the structured stages of the breaking ritual, turning defiance into reverence, pride into pleading, and resistance into worship.

Step One: Recognising Resistance for What It Is

Before the ritual can begin, the master must identify and catalogue the subject’s resistance—not to negotiate with it, but to destroy it with surgical precision.

• The Illusion of Will: The subject may believe it still has choices, agency, or value apart from obedience. These beliefs must be shattered.

• Detecting Defiance: Whether subtle eye contact, hesitation in tone, or silent defiance in posture, every sign must be exposed and brought to light—publicly if necessary.

• Strategic Exposure: Resistance is never random. It reveals the areas where the subject still clings to identity. These must be exploited mercilessly.

Step Two: Destabilisation Through Control and Withdrawal

The subject’s world must be reshaped before the final blow can be delivered. It must be made weak, unstable, and utterly dependent before it can be broken.

• Isolation: The subject is stripped of comfort, contact, and external support. It must feel the void growing around it, the silence of abandonment.

• Inconsistency: Alternating presence and absence, warmth and coldness, builds emotional confusion. The subject becomes addicted to the master’s attention and fears its loss.

• Psychological Starvation: Remove all affirmation. Deny it praise, eye contact, and acknowledgement until it begins to beg—not with words, but with posture, with breath, with silence.

Step Three: The Orchestrated Collapse

The breaking itself must be choreographed with precision. It is not rage—it is art. The goal is not merely to punish but to obliterate.

• Confrontation of the Self: Force the subject to look into a mirror, to see its pathetic pride, its fragility, its inferiority. Let it witness the gap between what it is and what it pretended to be.

• Verbal Dismantling: The voice of the master must strike with cold clarity. Every word is a scalpel cutting away identity. Truths are delivered—not shouted, but spoken with devastating control.

• Emotional Disintegration: Use silence, use presence, use disappointment. Let the subject implode under the weight of your gaze. Let it collapse, not from pain, but from the unbearable awareness that it has failed to be anything of value.

Step Four: The Aftermath – Replacing Collapse with Devotion

Once broken, the subject is a void. The ritual is not complete until that void is filled—with loyalty, fear, and reverence.

• Controlled Reconnection: A hand on the shoulder. A single nod. A whispered order. These acts now have godlike weight. The subject will cling to them as if to life itself.

• Assigning New Worth: The master defines what the subject now is—what it may think, feel, or be. It is not rebuilt; it is rewritten.

• Training Immediate Obedience: The subject must act before it thinks, move before it questions, obey before it breathes. From the ashes of defiance rises a creature of instant compliance.

Step Five: Reverence as the New Default State

The subject is no longer resistant. It is no longer merely submissive. It now worships. It has become something rare: useful.

• Fear and Longing Intertwined: The subject now associates the master’s power with safety, the master’s gaze with purpose. What once frightened it now completes it.

• Permanent Transformation: There is no return. The subject knows it. The memory of collapse lives in its spine. It does not challenge anymore—it trembles.

• Reflexive Gratitude: The subject does not resent being broken. It is grateful. It knows that without the ritual, it would still be clinging to the pathetic illusion of freedom.

Conclusion

The breaking ritual is the turning point in any true transformation. It is not a mere act of domination—it is a redefinition of reality. The subject is not punished into submission; it is shattered and reforged. It learns, in one unforgettable moment, that its pride was weakness, its will was noise, and its defiance was always doomed. In the silence after collapse, there is no resistance—only reverence, gratitude, and the first breath of true obedience.

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Chastity and the Master/slave relationship

Chastity of the slave is absolute and essential to life as a slave. Chastity is not about occasional chastity play. Chastity beyond a couple of hours, or a couple of days, is no longer just for fun, but becomes a tool for devotion, power exchange and emotional connectivity. It is about the letting go of a slave's ego and giving a Master charge of his body. Chastity locks the slave down, physically and emotionally, to his Master. A collar is a chain or strap and a lock that goes around the neck and symbolises that body and mind is owned. A chastity device grabs the genitals and controls any chance of erection. It is an active form of participation in terms of ownership, a constant reminder of who has the key, who owns the slave sexually. The chastity experience dials up quite quickly. Day one it is erotic. Day two slave craves to make his keyholder happy. Day three slave is desperate for him. Within a week slave will do anything for his Master. Chastity as a lifestyle and as part of power exchange is different from chastity as kinky fun. The slave is even not allowed to ask to be unlocked. An infraction of this rule must result in punishment. A begging to cum is transformed into pure devotion to please the Master. Long term chastity is not about when the slave will orgasm next, it is about total power exchange, letting the Master own the slave body entirely, and knowing that Master will unlock the chastity device if he wants to. Chastity has its own power and mental energy. But, because it’s a mental journey, it’s important to remember that it grows, morphs and changes constantly. It’s a dynamic progress and doesn’t work well with rigid protocols and rules only that are not monitored.

Chastity device

The chastity regime must be ensured by a chastity device permanently locked on the slave's genital area with a penis tube designed for preventing full erection. The slave will even sleep with his chastity device on. The Master shall make every effort to prevent ejaculation, stimulation, gratification or pleasure of the penis by keeping the chastity devices working and using devices that comply with the latest technology and safety. If it is necessary to remove the penis from a chastity device, the Master will endeavour to maintain control of the penis through restraint or direct supervision. The penis must be reinserted into the designated chastity device as quickly as practicable at the end of an unlocked period.

Unlocked times

Unlocked times must be prevented as much as possible but will occur during periods of cleaning, for health reasons or any other reasons where genital area must be freely accessible. If the slave is not locked he may under no circumstance ever touch anywhere in the genital area without express permission to do so. During slave cleaning periods, or when changing any worn devices, the controlling party will wash, clean, shave and otherwise care for the genital areas of the slave. Slave will never allow any third party to touch or play with genitalia without the express permission of the Master. The slave will wet himself in the shower, he will soap himself, bar of soap may touch his genitals and asshole, but he will never touch the slave genital area himself. The Master may remove the slave's chastity device for cock and ball training sessions. The slave is expected to become and remain erect during these rare occasions as a symbol of his never-satisfied need. As it will have been many weeks, perhaps months, since the slave had been unlocked, an erection is not likely to be difficult. The Master will likely tease the slave’s genitals, massaging them and toying with them.

Masturbation and sexual intercourse

The chastised penis shall never be masturbated or touched by anyone, including the Master, slave or any third party, in any stimulating, gratifying or pleasurable manner, with the intention to induce a cumshot. An erection of the chastised penis is periodically welcomed for health reasons and shall be induced as clinically as possible in a humiliating and punitive manner with every attempt to avoid pleasure to slave. Unless explicitly ordered by the Master, slave shall never pleasure itself sexually. This includes touching or manipulating its nipples or the penis in any sexually gratifying or stimulating manner or penetrating its anus in any sexually gratifying or stimulating manner. The Master may, at his sole discretion, deny any or all sexual intercourse to slave for any period of time, including in perpetuity. Slave shall have no sexual intercourse with any third party. Slave’s sole sexual satisfaction shall come from servicing the Master. The penis shall never again engage in active sexual intercourse and shall never penetrate a body cavity or be touched by lips or tongue.

Sex drive

At times the urge to ejaculate may be almost unbearable for the slave. He has standing permission to express his sexual feelings. As he is not allowed to speak or may be gagged he should do this by deep moanings, temptations to touch his genital area through the steel chastity device, or by winding his body. The Master will not punish the slave for expressing his feelings. Instead, the Master will likely hold the slave very closely tight and lecture him gently on his role and purpose as a slave, and the role and purpose of the Master. He will explain that the purpose of the slave is to need his Master, that being aroused is a symbol of this need, and that his horniness is absolutely welcomed. He will explain that the purpose of the Master is to have his needs satisfied, that his orgasms are a symbol of this satisfaction, and that the slave should be proud and derive contentment from helping his Master ejaculate.

Mental Control

Chastity has a high potential to control a slave mentally. In this heighten state of mind, where the slave is so focused on relationship and sexual needs, there is no possibility to escape from this mental prison. This can be difficult for the slave to deal with other life stresses, when not be able to get a stress relieved by sexual relief and relaxation. Chastity prevents the slave from escaping the ownership. It’s so massive that he can’t turn his vision away from it. If there are issues and tensions in the relationship, there is no way for the slave to temporarily escape from it. He is trapped in this mental prison by his Master. The chastity will certainly continuously train his devotion and submission. An increased sex drive, combined with the mental effects of chastity, leads to an unruly power that needs to be exchanged with the Master. In a final state this leads to a total power exchange in the Master-slave relationship.

Chastity and TPE (total power exchange)

Chastity may cause emotional instability for the slave. After some days in chastity what starts out as erotic and fun can quickly turn intense. When the intensity of chastity starts peaking, the slave´s mind is drifting in a very heightened space, but release is denied by Master. Without the chastity device slave would probably immediately jerk off for stress relief, but when locked up his Master deliberately boils him in that heighten state of mind. Master keeps slave's dick tightly locked and direct his high sexual energy into devotion and submission to him. Chastity is a great tool for power exchange, but without close monitoring this part of power exchange is often unknown to the Master. If Master is paying close attention to his slave, power exchange through chastity can be a space where Master is watching his slave squirm and struggle. When Master is also at the peak of sexual energy strong power exchange is happening and the Master-slave relationship is balanced. But the nature of chastity often means that the submissive slave is focused a lot more on the dynamic and the Master than the Master is focused on his slave. The slave is being constantly reminded, physically and emotionally, so his focus can be very strong. That can lead to instability and disbalance. The slave may crave for attention, and the Master might not understand that the chastity regime he has imposed on his slave is so powerful and take the slave´s desire negatively. Chastity is an active keeper of the slave´s sex drive in the hand of the Master. Often it can be overlooked that the Master must have a desire for a slave that constantly craves his attention. The Master of a chastity slave must want his slave to suffer and struggle for him and must take his sexual power. Then the equation is balanced, and the power exchange flows nicely back and forth. When slave's energy is so strong, it can feel like the slave is pushing the Master for more dynamic. The Master may feel annoyed and tell the slave to relax and chill, or worse, tell the slave to shut up. The slave can’t do anything but float in this space of submission, emotionally frustrated by his Master, but unable to explain this frustration. Master will keep this in mind and do everything not to run into this situation.