Aro and Ace Positivity

A blog for Aromantic and Asexual people to talk about their experiences! This blog is for developing a positive ace community separate from lgbt spaces. Read the FAQ and feel free to submit or send asks! FAQ Discord server: https://discord.gg/m369mBt

[aceandaropoc]

black aros: breathtaking, i love

latinx aros: lovely, i love

asian aros: amazing, love

hispanic aros: heartstopping, i love

middle eastern aros: magnificent, i love

indigenous aros: incredible, i love

afro latinx aros: astonishing, i love

mixed aros: marvelous, i love

native american aros: noteworthily beautiful, i love

basically i love my aro poc💞💞💞💞

[herefortheace]

Ace WoC are amazing and incredible and stunning

Aro WoC are awesome and lovely and breathtaking

Ace and aro WoC deserve love and kindness and the world

[nonbinarypastels]

[Image Description: A pink color block with text that reads “support aro people of color”]

[aromanticjim]

Coming from your aro buddy here. It’s going to be okay if you discovered that you are aromantic. It will be okay. Even if you’re 100% sure that you are. I know that not all of you are feeling comforted by realizing you’re aro- and why wouldn’t some of us be unhappy? Society puts so much pressure on youth to seek out love and emphasizes so much that romantic love is what makes us human, that its easy to forget that its possible to be happy without it. Its easy to slip into the mindset that you are either never going to be happy, or that you are not human at all.

You can be happy without it. Its possible to live a meaningful life without a romantic partner. And you don’t need a romantic partner to know that you are not alone. 

[hereliestimothydrake]

asexuality is not just a “white people” thing

aromanticism is not just a “white people” thing

to all the aro/ace poc out there: you are not faking it, you are not “self hating”. you are just as real and valid as any other aro/ace and any other poc.

- signed, your fellow aro/ace poc

[enervationspell]

hey, by the way? being aromantic is a really beautiful and special thing, and if you’re aro or aro-spec I hope you are able to find joy and comfort in your identity, b/c you deserve it! 💚

[aromanticjim]

If you’re aromantic and you hate it,

It’s going to be okay. I know it seems like the end of the world. I know you’re scared you will be alone forever. I know you probably did everything you could to force yourself to love somebody like we’re told we should.

You’re not broken. And you’re not a monster.

It’s going to be okay and you’re going to get through this. You’re aromantic and you’re perfect that way.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

You can identify as aro without ever trying to date. You can identify as asexual without every trying sex. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting if you want to and think it will help you, but it’s fine if you don’t want to either.

[flower-fille]

Lesbian/ace girl solidarity is when somebody’s like “how do you know he’s good-looking if you aren’t attracted to men???” And you look into the non-existent camera like you’re on the office

[movedto-ithacanradio-deactivate]

Lesbian/ace girl solidarity is also when your straight friend shows you an ugly rude piece of cheese boy, tells you ‘isnt he so hot??’, and you have three seconds to make your choice

[flower-fille]

I have to be honest here…you are 100% right, sorry straight girls

[arotaro]

Aromanticism often goes hand-in-hand with:

Low self-esteem, self-loathing, and/or feelings of inferiority

Feeling lonely, isolated, or like you’re an “other”

Shame

Anxiety

Fear of abandonment, distrust of friends and family

Constant second-guessing one’s own identity

Fear of the future or an inability to imagine oneself with a “happy ending”

Disassociation in the form of feeling “unreal” or “inhuman”

This is a huge problem that can really destroy a person, and the root cause is the way our society treats relationships. But the thing is, nobody ever tries to address this problem. People outside of the aro community (which is small and disjointed as it is) don’t discuss aro issues, and don’t try to think critically about the messages they put out, and then when aros talk about how much they’re hurting, we just get told that we don’t have it as bad as other people, so we don’t have any right to complain, and our feelings aren’t real.

God knows it’s hard to heal yourself without help from others, and aros aren’t getting that help. And sure, sometimes we can talk to each other, but that can only get you so far- it’s the emotional equivalent of two people simultaneously trying to save each other from drowning. The aromantic community needs outside support, but nobody is trying to help us aside from saying that we’re Valid™ every now and then. That’s a big problem.

[tiredtrauma]

Aro people are human. That’s it. There’s no buts about it. There’s no specific reason. They are not more human or less human than any other human out there. They are human because they are human. Their relationships or lack of relationships don’t have anything to do with this.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

It’s OK if you had to try on a few labels before figuring out the right one for you. It’s OK if you accidentally mislabeled yourself or used the wrong label because you weren’t comfortable with your actual identity yet. Remember this is all part of the natural process of figuring out/coming to terms with your identity and that it’s OK if your journey there wasn’t as smooth as it is for others.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Reminder that consent applies to romance as well. You do not have to agree to any romantic actions that you do not want to do. You do not have to give romance a try if you don’t want to

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Reminder that it’s not always easy to figure out what type of attraction you’re feeling. And it’s OK to take a long time to figure it out. It’s OK to never really know.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

You don’t have to label yourself, or figure out your specific labels, if you don’t want to.

[roserace]

To aro & ace women of color -

You are so good. You are not a gender/racial stereotype. You are simply existing and being yourself. And that is more than enough ❤

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

It’s not your fault if other people don’t, or won’t, understand your identity.