hella aroace

「 fable ☆ they/them ☆ a (mostly) aro sideblog 」

[thejsorcerer]

anything that's green, white and black is automatically aromantic culture for me. I won't accept constructive criticism about it.

[lgbtqpixelart]

and some six aromid vaporeons ^^

[once-upon-an-enby]

Hey!! You!! You don’t know where you are on the aromantic spectrum? That’s perfectly okay!! You don’t have to use a label, or if you want to, make your own!! Be ambitious about it!! You’re perfectly valid, label or not.

[geraltcirilla]

it’s so wild to me when ppl say aroaces are “basically straight” or “straight by default”. i’ve NEVER been romantically and sexually attracted to a man in my whole life. that’s not straight. HOW is that straight? just because i’m also not romantically or sexually attracted to women either? being straight doesn’t mean you AREN’T attracted to ppl of the same sex, it means you ARE attracted to ppl of the opposite sex. i literally don’t know how else to explain it. i have as much in common with straight ppl that lesbians do, which is nothing.

i’m not out here asking for shit except to not be referred to as straight. that’s all i want.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is hating when people say things like "you'll find love someday! whether it's a boy, a girl or anything else!" and think they're being inclusive to everyone

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[sunflower-punk]

I am aromantic, asexual and agender, or in other words I am a tripple A battery...

[indubitably-a-goblin-deactivate]

people on the aro/ace spectrum are deserving of the type of love that they want, to the degree that they want it. thank you

[livingbisexualtragedy]

For Aros: It's NOT your fault if someone falls in love with you.

For Aces: It's NOT your duty to have sex in a relationship.

[trivoid-r]

are you the oblivious aro or the anxious aro that overanalyzes everything and can tell who has a crush on you while they deny it

[insipidastrid]

The amount of people that think “asexual” is synonymous with “celibate” is a little ridiculous. Being asexual just means not being attracted to other people or wanting to have sex with people by means of physical attraction. Demi-sexual is also under the asexual umbrella, and that means only having sexual feelings toward others they have a close bond with. 

Sexuality is also not synonymous with sex drive. You can have a very high sex drive and just not find other people attractive by means of physical appearance. Even when you have a fluctuating sex drive, you still know who you are generally attracted to, or if you generally don’t find others physically attractive. You can also have other reasons for having sex that have nothing to do with physical attraction. There are all varying kinds of self-identification under the “ace umbrella”, but all of them are just more specific ways of describing one’s own outlook on sex and sex drive- but all of them are generally defined as not feeling sexual attraction to others based on physical appearance.  To address another common misconception, sexual trauma can not make you asexual. Whether or not you find another person sexually attractive based on physical appearance is not a choice, it’s part of who you are as a human being. However, sexual trauma can absolutely make a sex-favorable asexual person become sex-repulsed. You don’t have to be asexual to be sex-repulsed. You can be entirely straight and be sex-repulsed due to trauma. Being asexual doesn’t mean you are sex-repulsed. Whether or not you want to have sex, your sex-drive, or your feelings toward sex, this does not define your attraction to other people.  Sexuality also does not define your willingness to have romantic interactions. You can be very favorable toward romantic interactions without wanting to have sex with people. Per the same rout, you don’t have to want romantic interactions just because you enjoy sex. You can be asexual, enjoy sex, and enjoy romantic interactions without finding someone sexually attractive. It’s kind of like non-asexual people that go to the club and pick up a random stranger they’re not even attracted to just to have sex, just that’s what it’s like pretty much all the time- at least for me. Like, they don’t find the person sexually attractive, but because they enjoy sex and/or romantic interaction, they’re willing to do so with a person they don’t find necessarily sexually attractive. Some people wouldn’t do that, and a good comparison to that would someone that’s asexual and chooses not to have sex because they don’t feel any type of sexual urge toward others. It’s also possible that someone is asexual, doesn’t have sex, but still masturbates. It’s all dependent on the individual, really. You can also be asexual, not have sex, not masturbate, but enjoy romantic interactions with no intention of sex. Maybe you’re sex-repulsed, maybe you’re not, but that doesn’t affect your lack of attraction. 

I guess a good comparison would be to say being asexual is like someone offering you chocolate cake, but you feel indifferent about chocolate cake and you’re just not hungry (being asexual and choosing not to have sex, but you have no sex drive anyway). Or maybe you are hungry, so you eat the cake, but you still don’t really like chocolate cake (having a high sex drive and being willing to have sex, but still not being sexually attracted to others). Or maybe you eat the cake, but only because you want the sugar rush, not because you actually like chocolate cake (having sex because you enjoy the rush you get while doing it). Or, maybe you like the icing, but still don’t like the cake (enjoying romantic interactions, but not being sexually attracted and not wanting to have sex). This is why sexuality is a spectrum, it’s more  in-depth than just one word describes.

But the important thing to take from this is: Asexual does not mean you’re making a choice to be celibate. Asexual does not mean you never have sex. Asexual does not mean you don’t like dating or being romantic. Asexual does not mean you have a low sex drive- necessarily.

Glad we could have this talk.

[aroacecryptid]

gotta love it when someones gushing abt their crush and ur trying to be a decent human being and listen but the romance repulsion makes it so fucking difficult to not outright sigh and roll ur eyes at everything the other person is saying

[aromantic-and-heartless]

Aroaces that choose to label themselves as just aro are great! Regardless of the reason, your experiences are important and deserving of respect!

[aro-allo-positivity]

Valentines day: exists

Me, spraying the air with febreze: hm

[raavenb2619]

[ID: An image from the Matrix of Neo, labelled “me, an aroace”, dodging bullets, labelled “romantic attraction” and “sexual attraction”. End ID]

[aroacesuggestions]

Learn about QPRs! Ship characters in QPRs.

[gay-bitchdisease]

i think every 2000s high school movie would be much better with a chaotic aromantic character telling their friend she should just get a cat instead of chasing after a boy. then watch as disappointment grows stronger throughout the movie when she does the exact opposite

[asexyfaeriefate]