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@aroacedisgrace
Hey! Call me Bri, she/her.
About me: I may post about hopepunk, solarpunk, positivity, neurodivergence, aro-ace stuff, friendship, aesthetic stuff, Christianity, animals, and other stuff. I’ll tag all these things, so feel free to block any of those tags if you don’t want to see them.
This used to be a fandom blog too, but I switched the fandom stuff to another blog.
Enjoy!
New study spoke with Autistics who went through ABA therapy. The results?
"The findings include: Autistic adults remember traumatic events from applied behavior analysis, do not believe that they should be made to behave like their peers, gained some benefits but suffered significant negative long-term consequences, believe that applied behavior analysis is an unethical intervention, and recommend that applied behavior analysis practitioners listen to autistic people and consider using interventions in place of applied behavior analysis."
You can read the abstract here.
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Neurodiversity Affirming Practice:
What does it look like?
Red Flags and Green Flags
Red Flags:
🚩 withholds a desired object or activity to achieve compliance
🚩 relies on typical developmental milestones as well as neuronormative expectations
🚩 ignores sensory needs
🚩 only allows for spoken communication
🚩labels behaviours and actions without understanding the why
🚩 focuses on reducing symptoms
🚩 worth equals ability
🚩 sessions revolve around changing someone's behaviour
🚩 measures success by neuronormative, capitalist standards
🚩 encourages independence and self-regulation
🚩reinforces binary ways of thinking e.g. right/wrong, normal/abnormal
Green Flags:
💚 uses special interests to engage
💚 respects when the individual says no
💚 centers and respects the individual's goals, needs and interests on their own timelines
💚 considers and plans for sensory needs
💚 provides alternative methods for communication
💚 understands the reasons, thoughts and feelings behind behaviour/actions
💚 focuses on reducing distress and accomodating differences
💚 worth is always given
💚 allows individuals to define what is ideal functioning for them
💚 client defines what success means for them
💚 accepts co-regulation and interdependence as valid
💚 focuses on what is meaningful and quality of life for the individual
Shoutout to aro Christians 😌✊ you guys are cool forreal
The 5 things you gotta know before you let that cop into your house
THIS STUFF IS SOOO IMPORTANT TO KNOW. Seriously. It’s saved my ass before.
What do you do when you look through the peephole and see a badge?
Remember: You do not have to let the police in the house unless they have a warrant — or probable cause. If you’re having a party, turn off the music, ask your guests to chill, and ask that anyone who’s too intoxicated carry on in another room.
Go outside to speak with the cops. Close the door behind you. Although some scary precedents are being set these days, police cannot enter your home without a warrant or probable cause. By closing the door, you’re cutting off a visual — or olfactory — line to potential probable cause.
Be polite. Ask why they are there. “Good evening, Officer. What can I help you with?”
Where possible, assure them you will take care of the problem. If the police ask to enter, inform them, “I do not consent to any searches.” If a police officer gives you an order and you are confused about your position, ask, “Do I have to comply?” If they continue with questioning, tell them you’ll need to call your lawyer and that you will not answer any questions.
Ask, “Am I free to leave?” This is especially handy if, say, a group of you’d been too bawdy on the patio and an officer stops by. If he/she is getting a bit hot under the collar, politely ask, “Am I being detained?” or “Am I free to leave?” If the cop has no reason to hold you, quickly, quietly, and politely retreat inside.
The POC’s Bill of Rights when it comes to the Police. Remember. These are your rights.
The 5 things you gotta know before you let that cop into your house
FLEXYOURRIGHTS.ORG is one of the most informational websites. The videos are extremely enlightening.
Please read and know these things!
^^^ !!!!!!
studying while neurodivergent big post
this post is mainly targeted at people who are at university/college and have a disorder that makes studying challenging (e.g. you experience executive dysfunction, perfectionism, concentration issues).
however. some of these tips might be useful in general, so I'm not going to stop anyone from following my advice even if they're neurotypical
preparing for class
in general: do it. prepare for your classes. it makes it more likely that you're actually going to show up (in my experience)
you don't have to read every single word of every single reading. read the introductions, the abstracts, the sub-headings, and the conclusion. you can go back and read the rest if it feels necessary
take notes while you read. they don't have to be pretty, it's just about keeping your brain engaged with what you're learning
bring all your notebooks into uni with you if possible! this way, there's nothing stopping you from procrastinating studying for one class by studying for another class (which is a fine and good thing to do)
most textbooks are available for free or for cheap in the depths of the internet or in a secondhand bookshop :)
things to keep in mind for being in class
uni is not high school. it's unlikely that a lecturer or tutor is going to get mad at you if you bring something to stim with (as long as it isn't super disruptive)
go to class! even if you haven't done the readings! going to class will give you access to class discussions and a general flow of ideas that will help you with your assignments
skipping class to do an assignment might feel like a good idea, but it's actually a very terrible idea. don't do it. it is not worth it
be honest with your classmates about what you're finding confusing. chances are that they'll either have a cool way to explain it, or they'll be just as confused (in which case, you may have just given them the courage to ask!)
you're allowed to just walk out early if you start to get overwhelmed. people won't judge you or call you out for it. it's okay to leave early
general studying tips
association is the name of the game! pair a certain song, smell, taste, or colour with each class, and be consistent with it. our memories are deeply tied to our senses, and this kind of association will help to remind your brain what class you're doing
don't do what looks pretty or sounds cool, do what works. if you like to listen to your lectures as if they're podcasts while you're doing the dishes... great! if you like to turn facts into puns... awesome! whatever works is good!
count yourself in. if you've been sitting around thinking "I need to do maths" for the past however long, trick your brain by saying out loud "5, 4, 3, 2, 1, MATHS!" and then GO
another cool brain trick is to tell yourself that you're only going to study for 10 minutes, or you're only going to read one chapter. this lowers the barrier to getting started, and will usually help you get into the flow and get at least something done
if body-doubling works for you, then do it! organise a day each week to meet up with a friend and study together! you'll both appreciate it
keep your phone in a different room from your studying gear
get one of those content keeper extensions on your computer, and get your best friend to set the password. this will protect you from the pull of Tumblr when you're meant to be reading about politics in Botswana or whatever
essays
read the question! read it again! highlight the important words in the question! read it out loud! and only THEN figure out how you're going to answer it
you can't edit a blank page. whack some words down. come back to them later. your first go does not have to be perfect
organise your notes by theme, not by which article gave you the idea. this will help you to turn notes into paragraphs with consistent arguments
cite as you go. take note of where you found each of your quotes. it is so much better this way, I promise
your essay plan only needs to make sense to you. lay out your plan however you like. again, it's better to have something on the page than nothing
make your essay writing timeline as if you know that disaster will strike the week of the due date. pretend that the due date is a week before it actually is. give yourself due dates for smaller parts of the assignment. whatever it takes to trick your brain into actually doing it ahead of time!!
use text to speech to catch grammar mistakes! hearing your essay read back out loud to you will make it easier to tell when something sounds wrong or bad or clunky
self-care advice
you won't do well on your exams if you're having several meltdowns a day, so you better be looking after your emotional health!!
eat three meals a day if you can. bring snacks with you everywhere. studying makes you hungry, and your brain needs the fuel. carrying around emergency muesli bars everywhere never hurt anyone
have a big water bottle and also carry it around with you everywhere. when you're studying, it can be easy to forget to keep your fluids up, but having your drink bottle on your desk can be a visual reminder to keep on drinking
STRETCH! stretch in between classes. stretch after taking lots of notes. you do not want to damage your arm muscles from typing/writing too much
don't abandon your hobbies during the semester if it is at all possible. don't sacrifice your weekend knitting or your early morning jog. those are the things that you enjoy, and they are the things that will keep you sane once the stress hits
sleep early, sleep often. all-nighters are not the way
this is kind of all I can think of at the moment! I hope at least something on this big long list is helpful for anyone who is studying at the moment. remember that your grades don't define you, and that you are more than just a student!
The neurodivergent urge to do this
The hard truth about autism acceptance that a lot of people don't want to hear is that autism acceptance also inherently requires acceptance of people who are just weird.
And yes, I mean Those TM people. Middle schoolers who growl and bark and naruto run in the halls. Thirtysomethings who live with their parents. Furries. Fourteen-year-olds who identify as stargender and use neopronouns. Picky eaters. Adults in fandoms. People who talk weird. People who dress weird.
Because autistic people shouldn't have to disclose a medical diagnosis to you to avoid being mocked and ostracized for stuff that, at absolute worst, is annoying. Ruthlessly deriding people for this stuff then tacking on a "oh, but it's okay if they're autistic" does absolutely nothing to help autistic people! Especially when undiagnosed autistic people exist.
Like it or not, if you want to be an ally to autistic people, you're going to have to take the L and leave eccentric, weird people alone. Even if you don't know them to be autistic. You shouldn't be looking for Acceptable Reasons to be mean to people in the first place. Being respectful should be the default.
This reminds me of that global warming comic, like
This is really important! Please call your reps to support if you can
The bill raises SSI asset limits from $2,000 to $10,000 for individuals and from $3,000 to $20,000 for married couples.
The site is '12ft Ladder' found here:
Show me a 10ft paywall, I’ll show you a 12ft ladder.
I once had a neighbor who was thoroughly convinced their indoor/outdoor cat never strayed further than a couple houses around. As proof, she put a GPS tracker and little camera on her cat. 24 hours later she had the proof she didn't want. Her cat went as far as a mile away, into the nearby woods where their were coyotes and other predators that would a snack of her cat. Her cat crossed the interstate several times, went to a construction site, and various other places that had me surprised her cat was still alive.
The following week was full of them building a catio and enriching their home. The cat became an indoor cat and chilled out very happily in the catio. They spent the summer harness and leash training their cat as well.
Oh, and the cat killed over a dozen birds and didn't eat any of them in the single day my owner tracked them with the camera and GPS. They had been going out daily for over a year. Imagine a cat killing 12 birds a day, everyday, for just a year. That devastates the local bird population and leads to the extinction of entire species.
Enrich your home, install a catio, get a few cat trees/towers, play with your cat, and they'll live long healthy lives. No worries about some random person killing them with poison or shooting them, no worries about them getting hit by a car, no worries about destroying the local ecosystem. My cats are 17 and 15 years old, 100% indoors their entire lives, and they're happy.
Oh and since avian flu aka bird flu is spreading, please remember that it kills animals that eat the contaminated meat. That means if a cat kills an infected bird and eats it, they will get sick and die.
cats can die of the bird flu
There is a new Chrome extension that detects if a video you’re streaming has a strobe in it, will freeze the video and stick this warning up there until you approve it.
WHERE THE HELL HAS THIS BEEN ALL MY LIFE????
[image description: a screencap of the chrome web store, showing an extension called “seizsafe - epilepsy alert for youtube” and an example image of the extension, showing a blocked video with the text “warning: the following content may potentially trigger seizures for people with photosensitive epilepsy.” there is a toggle with an option reading: “don’t warn me again during this video. click here or hit spacebar to continue watching 👆”. end image description.]
chrome webstore link:
Prevent Photosensitive-Epileptic seizures while watching YouTube™ videos. We'll warn you before you see any flashy videos.
reblog to help photosensitive folk feel safe!!
Yes, it’ll get worse
I’m always a bit annoyed when some ecoactivists are are all “Hope! Degrowth! The planet can heal!” without giving an honest time frame for that.
Like, even if we manage to end capitalism and degrow an all of that, the CO2 that’s already in the air will continue to heat up the planet for decades and the results of that will be with us for this century at the very least.
Yes, ecosystems can heal, yes, that’s worth fighting for. But it’ll get worse before it gets better and most of us won’t be there for the good parts. You can leave that out to spread “Hope”, but all that will do is make people optimistic for a short time only for them to feel hurt and betrayed when they figure out the truth.
An worse then feeling cheated our of a bright future, people acting on this false optimistic worldview won’t build the kind of support networks that we are going to need to survive our real future. Preparing for a more ecologically unstable earth must be part of our work, even as we continue to strive for the end of capitalism an a shift to a far more sustainable way of living.
Basically, if you’re trying to boost your movement this way, your eco-activism strategy is…ehhh.. unsustainable?
What are ways we can prepare for a more ecologically unstable Earth? I honestly don’t feel very hopeful that we’re going to overthrow capitalism in time and even if we do, like you said, the Earth is going to continue to heat up. Trying to find ways to cope with and prepare for that reality actually feel more hopeful and realistic to me and I’d love to learn about them.
There are a lot of things you can do, here’s a few:
Get into the habit of sharing stuff for free with others. We’re probably going to experience some forms of scarcity and when that happens, all we have is each other. Self-sufficiency is a myth, community self-sufficiency isn’t. Create neighborhood resources. A tool-sharing shed or a water filter for ground or rain water could make a difference here and now, but will also matter in the future. Advance mode: Start Mutual Aid collectives.
Learn first aid and other emergency medical skills. Whether your region is vulnerable to heat waves, wild fires, flooding, drought, extreme cold or electrical failures, there will be people in need of help an medical systems are unlikely to be able to cope with it all. Learning to take care of others is always useful, even if you’re lucky enough to not experience any disasters at all. Advanced mode: Start a DIY medicine collective or learn an advance skill like growing medicinal herbs or physical therapy.
Learn to break the law. As the crisis deepens, governments will let more and more people fall through the cracks. Refugees and undocumented people are likely to be the first targets but other minorities can be targetted too. Those people won’t be able to survive unless people are willing to break the law to get them housing, food, etc. Advanced mode: get experience breaking the law together and put it to work actually helping undocumented people.
Learn to support each other. Our mental health is as important as our physical health and to truly support each other we need more than good intentions. Learn psychological first aid, learn how to structurally support trauma survivors, people who are mourning, people struggling with depression and more. Advanced mode: start a Support & Recovery collective.
Work on building a community without discrimination and systematic injustice. All of the things to come will hit the most marginalized harder. We can only get through it together if our communities truly value everyone in it and we understand that an injury to one is an injury to all. Learn about systematic oppression, learn about privilege, learn about conflict resolution an mediation and put that to work in your community. Advanced mode: start a transformative justice collective.
… and more.
Important: don’t take on every burden, pick a few things you enjoy doing. None of us can do all of the above and none of us can single-highhandedly prepare our whole community for what is to come. Find a way you can support your community and trust that others will do the same.
arospec ask game
what arospec labels do you identify with?
how did you realize you were arospec?
arospec headcanons?
do you have a partner? would you want one?
do you have a qpp? would you want one?
do you like valentine’s day?
sexual orientation?
do you have a crush?
how do you define your experience with being arospec? what’s your attraction (or lack thereof) like? what does being arospec encompass for you personally?
do you like the aromantic flag?
thoughts on soulmates?
gender identity?
do you like being arospec? are you happy with it?
best part of being arospec?
worst part of being arospec?
are you romance repulsed?
would you consider yourself a hopeless romantic?
fictional crushes?
are there any characters you ship platonically or as qpps?
do you like flirting and being flirted with?
have you ever been in love?
would you ever get married?
do you want kids?
thoughts on love letters?
ideal date and/or ideal platonic date?
do you believe in love at first sight?
do you make friends easily?
what’s the most efficient way to befriend you? how would someone win you over platonically?
three songs you relate to?
do you struggle distinguishing platonic love from romantic love?
do you like lovecore?
is physical affection casual or intimate for you? do “romantic” physical gestures have to mean something important, or do you wish they were more normalized forms of platonic affection?
how long have you been identifying as arospec?
your favorite ways to express platonic love? how do you show affection without seeming like you’re flirting?
is it uncomfortable or flattering when people get crushes on you?
Help me make the world more accessible!
I’m working on making a website to track bathrooms and allow people to rate their accessibility. What kinds of options/ratings would you like to see for bathrooms?
Current Options being considered:
- Wheelchair accessible
- Walker/Rollator accessible
- Cane accessible
- Gender Neutral option?
- Changing tables available?
- Treatment towards people asking to use the bathroom
Users would also be able to upload images, give an overall rating out of 5 stars, and write a more detailed review. Another feature planned is links and resources for filing ADA complaints about bathroom accessibility. Please feel free to reblog or DM me with your suggestions, thoughts, complaints, and general feedback!
How YOU (yes, you) can help stop Climate Change:
Here are some big (and small) things to help you get started if you have no idea where to begin!
First, one of the most important things you can do is to limit meat and animal products from your diet and consumption. Animal agriculture is responsible for so much environmental destruction. (Try looking up Meatless Mondays, and/or go to Pinterest to find some ideas!)
Second, please, please sign as many petitions as you can. You can go to Change.org to get started. They have plenty of petitions regarding plastic waste, pollution, fracking, and more. You should also keep up with Greenpeace and Sierra Club, make sure you sign their petitions as well.
Third, download Ecosia, the web browser that helps plant trees for every search. They even have an app you can use instead of your default browser.
Fourth, join your local Sunrise Movement and/or Extinction Rebellion chapter. If you can’t find one, consider starting one!
Fifth, set aside some time do delete emails and unsubscribe from mailing lists you don’t care about. Emails emit more CO2 than you think.
Sixth, Make sure to get involved in your states November elections this fall. If you are eligible, make sure you vote and vote for the planet. If you are unable to vote, you can always volunteer for a campaign.
Seventh, stop buying fast fashion. (and stop buying shit you don’t need or will use.) The environmental impact the fashion industry has is devastating to our planet.
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