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[littoldumbace]

Sorry mom!

[auraboo]

My Asexual Story, 2018.

Another little autobiographical comic I whipped together (this was drawn in like two hours tops so don’t judge the drawings lmao). To clarify, I am in a happy long-term committed relationship with a non-ace girl and we’re both very happy with our relationship, and I have never had bad experiences with relationships because of my asexuality. Being ace isn’t a big deal to me - I barely think about it - but asexuality is something that a lot of people seem to have trouble fully understanding, so I wanted to take some time to describe it the way I see it in my life and from my perspective. Every story is different - here’s mine.

[brithistorian]

Such a beautiful story. I hope this helps more people understand.

[acegirlproblems]

Beautiful

[lifesanssin]

I love this <3

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Some identities are simple, some are complex, some are vaguely defined and some are very detailed. However you identify and see yourself is good.

[zippyzstuff]

[fluffysheeps]

Sakura Godzilla 🌸

[thearomanticpeach]

There should be, like...more positivity and reassurance for aro, ace, and aroace men. Their lack of attraction and desire doesn't take away from their masculinity and only they can decide what being a man means to them.

Your lack of attraction doesn't take away from your manhood! It's not the end all be all of your existence and I know that's easier said than believed but I promise that it's true! Asexual men are real men! Aromantic men are real men! Aroace men are real men! No one can take that from you or decide that for you!

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

You can feel however you want about kissing, no matter your orientation.

[aroacequeeen]

Heya. I'm questioning my sexuality and came upon your blog. I know I don't experience sexual attraction to anyone, so ace. I also don't want a Romantic Relationship as usually described. But once we got close I've developed crush-like feelings for three female friends, but they're much less intense than romantic crushes as most people descibe. And I don't like kissing, or even care about handholding, but I would like a life partner perhaps. I'm wondering if I might be an aroace lesbian...

Hey there!! Welcome to my blog! I'm not as active as I used to be but I'm still very happy you found it! It kinda sounds like you're describing demiromantic, where you start to develop that crush feeling after you've gotten close to someone! If you can see yourself having a life partner who is a woman, you could very well be aroace lesbian! Obviously that's for you to think about and figure out, but you're doing an amazing job tuning into your thoughts and feelings in order to come to the conclusion!!

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Hi I’ve been going thru your blog the past couple days bc I’ve been struggling with my id for a very long time and it’s been so informative and enlightening, especially from all the asks you answer and you’re always so kind and patient and I just really wanna thank you I’m kind of overwhelmed rn you’ve helped me so much. I was wondering if you could link some resources to readings or information on the different aspects of sexuality or even just suggest a place to start because it really is a lot and I’m not quite sure where to begin? Thank you so much for real you’re an actual gem of a human

The Asexuality Archive can be an interesting site to click around on. Especially their Asexuality 101 section.

AVEN’s faq and wiki are fairly good too. The terminology is a bit dated now (mostly you’ll see a lot of ‘sexual’ instead of ‘allosexual’, that type of thing), but the information itself is mostly pretty good. And really accessible and easy to understand.

If there’s any specific terminology you’re looking for info on I also find the LGBTA wiki is usually a really good resource, and provides sources and good explanations for various terms.

This blog has a faq too that breaks down some of the general info you see people talk about a lot when it comes to asexuality too that may also be helpful.

There’s also Carnival of Aces, where every month a topic is chosen and aces make blog posts about it, and that can be really interesting to explore too. Especially if you’re looking for some ace perspectives. And you can search by topic too.

This is a lot, don’t feel like you have to read all of these sites top to bottom. Look into what’s interesting or what you think would be useful. Ignore what’s not.

And feel free to ask if you have any questions. And I’m really glad this blog has been helpful!

All the best!

[seashellronan]

no offence but i think a lot of us me included don’t actually want romantic love as badly as we think and really are just lonely and crave a closeness and intimacy that feels out of reach in friendships because of society’s emphasis on marriage and the nuclear family so we project that into the never ending search for a perfect love and a soulmate when really we all just want to mean something to someone

[thesevenumbrellas]

I don’t want romance but I want to share my life with someone(s)

[hoziere]

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[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Romance repulsion is normal.

[aroacequeeen]

hey! i currently identify as aroace, but im wondering if im actually an aroace lesbian. does thinking girls are pretty and admiring feminine-leaning people but not thinking the same way about men count as aesthetic attraction? and if so, would that make me an aroace lesbian? im really sorry if any of this is wrong i don't mean to be offensive!

Hi there!! Please don't apologize, I promise nothing about your ask was offensive in any way! Identifying as aroace plus something else is always tricky, since we already don't experience romantic or sexual attraction! Having a different kind of energy that draws you to women over men could definitely mean that you're aroace lesbian! You're the only one who gets to decide your orientation, but if you see yourself leaning towards women but not towards men, that could tell you something right there!

[aroacequeeen]

Uh, hi! I don't mean to sound rude, but I'm wondering how someone can be an aro-ace lesbian? I genuinely don't understand. To be a lesbian you need some form of attraction to women, right? But when you're aro-ace you don't feel or take interest in attraction... (Unless it's like. Aesthetic attraction.) So how can you be one? Again, definitely not trying to be rude, just like to have some confusion cleared up!

Thank you for bringing up the aesthetic attraction! That's actually super important! Attraction is more than just romantic or sexual. It also includes emotional and aesthetic! There is no correct way to love or be loved by someone. Just because I don't feel sexually or romantically drawn to girls doesn't mean that I wouldn't move mountains to make my partner feel loved and appreciated.

[aroacequeeen]

I can't tell if I want a relationship with a women or if I just like the idea and it's driving me crazy. First I assumed I was straight but I realized I never liked men like that. Aroace? Sure but now I'm questioning the aro part. Like, I was tearing up over a video of a girl planning a date night and dinner for her girlfriend because it hit me - I think I want that in my life. Or do I?? I don't want to hurt the community or anyone by claiming to be a sapphic ace based on fantasies..

Hi there! Let me start of by saying that being confused and questioning your own thoughts and feelings is completely normal!! There are so many terms to go through, and each one can be an umbrella term for another, and it can get super confusing to figure out exactly how you feel!

Generally speaking, people who worry about whether or not they are creating a fantasy are not the ones who are creating the fantasy so please don't worry about hurting anyone. I came out as bisexual before coming out again as lesbian, and that's just how it was! It's okay to not know exactly what term describes you! You have time, and by thinking about it and asking questions like you are right now, you're already on the correct path!

[aroacequeeen]

That's me again. Hi.

It ever happened to you you have a period in the year you have this "attraction" for men even if you are not attracted to them? I mean, I don't want to date men, kiss them or anything else than friendship. I have this period where I'm "aware of men" and I'm scared by that. It's like my mind rejected completely my attraction for women and accept only men.

It's only for a limit of days or a month and later my attraction "comes back" to women. That's why I self doubt my attraction for women a lot.

Hello again! Obviously my experience with this will be different from yours, but I do understand what you're saying.

Being attracted to men doesn't invalidate your attraction to women! There are men who are attractive, either physically, mentally, emotionally, or all of the above. As a lesbian, there are men I have found attractive, but I would never imagine myself dating or living with them. I think that's a normal thought process to go through, especially if you're still trying to figure out your sexuality preferences Don't be too hard on yourself while you're figuring all this out, and know that whatever thoughts or concerns you have are so so normal!!

I don't know how helpful that was but please know that I am here to listen and support you in any way you need!!

[cyanghosty]

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