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[robocourse]

Me: What is the common ace experience? What is it actually? The unionizing force?? Is???

Inclusionists:

[fuckyeahasexual]

Actually it is more like :

Aphobes : What is the common ace experience? What is it actually? The unionizing force?? Is???

Asexuals, for years, screaming at the top of their lungs : ASEXUALITY IS BASICALLY A LACK OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION !! WE JUST DONT EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ATTRACTION TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE !! WE DONT EXPERIENCE SEXUAL FEELINGS TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE !! THATS IT THATS THE UNIVERSAL ACE EXPERIENCE

Aphobes : I guess we’ll never know..I guess i  have to make up an incorrect definition of asexuality myself based on  a few incorrect stereotypes and strawmans about ace people..oh well..

[robocourse]

Y’all: ^ above

Also Y’all:

[fuckyeahasexual]

Choosing to have sex has nothing to do with sexual attraction bruh are you gonna say that lesbians who have had sex with men before arent lesbians bc if they had sex with men it meant that they were sexually attracted to them???Are you gonna say that ALL sex workers who CONSENT to provide their services to their clients are sexually attracted to them (which isnt true) ???(And btw if you dont believe that sex workers consent then you are anti sex workers and a swerf newsflash)

Asexual people can still love????????They experience lack of sexual attraction not lack of romantic attraction???Are you implying that love just means wanting to bang other people and is all about having sex or???

Ace people CAN have romantic partners and get married bc NONE of these things have to do with sexual attraction???They can love other people ROMANTICALLY and want romantic relationships and marriages with them????Do you think relationships and marriages are all between people who just want to bang each other or????

THIS is why yall need to LISTEN to ace people and educate yourself about what asexuality is before opening your mouth about it.The original screenshot is true bc NONE of those things are related to sexual attraction.The fact that you dont know SUCH basic things yet keep involving yourself in ace discourse is horrible.

[aroaceteens]

Yo, I’m on anon bc I’m not out and paranoid like that, but my side blog a-place-to-be-panace is safe for all identities if you want to add it to your masterlist. If you don’t, though, that’s fine too! Hope you have a nice day!

It has been a while since we got this and/or updated, but thank you!

[aroaceteens]

So just last night I had a dream where there was a random girl I made up and we... kissed. It didn't go far at all -- just a quick little thing, but as I'm aro and that this was the first dream I've ever had even remotely like it; it kinda concerns me, as in the "Am I really aro?" kind of concern. So... can I still be aro?

Yup! It could be sexual, sensual, or another type of attraction - or it could just be fantasy. You don't have to feel any type of attraction to dream about or carry out the act of kissing. 

[phoenixyfriend]

Are there any posts out there that address how much the “everyone falls in love/wants sex” and “sex/love is what makes us human” messages you see in media all the time can hurt aromantics and asexuals?

I know it doesn’t get talked about much, but just like heteronormativity hurts all queer people, this idea that romance is somehow INEVITABLE and that you aren’t HUMAN if you’re incapable of it is really damaging for aroaces, especially young ones who don’t know what asexuality is, and can only define themselves as “broken.”

Even queer media falls into this trap and it really bothers me, every time. I’m still a person, even if I can’t fall in love and don’t want sex. Stop telling all of us that we’re not, just because you think it’s a romantic or inclusive line to put in your movie.

[goodpositivitylgbt]

shoutout to the aroaces who have been invalidated and experienced negativity for not experiencing romantic or sexual attraction and furthermore, not experiencing other kinds of attraction or having any kinds of partnerships or engaging in romantic or sexual relationships !!

your experiences are not lesser or less legitimate than those of your aroace siblings who experience other kinds of attraction, or who have partnerships of any kind, or who engage in romantic and/or sexual relationships, or non-aroace people who do experience romantic and/or sexual attraction !!

no matter what other people say, you are not “broken” or “wrong” and your life is not “wasted” or “meaningless” !!

there is so much more to life and humanity than just romance or sex !! 

you don’t need to experience romantic or sexual attraction, or experience any other kind of attraction, or have any kind of partnership, or engage in romantic or sexual relationships, or do anything related to societal expectations surrounding romance or sex in order to still live a wonderful and meaningful life !! 

your life is no less worthy of living and you are no less human than anyone else is for not doing any of the things listed above !!

you are deserving of respect, support, and understanding for your identity, not negativity or invalidation !!

and i hope you find the kind of respect, support, and understanding you deserve !! lots of love to each and every one of you !!

[aroaceteens]

What’s the invisible ink project?

It’s an old project of mine focusing on featuring a-spec artists, specifically a-spec pride art. Back when I was first getting involved in the community, I saw a lot of positivity posts but not a lot of art - so I tried to feature more art on our blog. You can find more info here.

Have a nice night!

~Arianna

[aroaceteens]

I have the biggest platonic crush on my best friend who's a (self-proclaiming) straight girl and I am a genderqueer aroace… we talked about it some time ago and she said she'll find a husband and stuff but she'll never abandon me (got anxiety about abandonment) but my fantasies and dreams about her got worse… I love her so much (platonically) and wanna hang out more and be more physical and… I know we will always be friends but I'm scared to ask for cuddles and I am scared to scare her… advice?

I think y’all just need to sit down and have a chat about boundaries, but plenty of friends will cuddle and hang out a lot. Talk to her, and tell her that you’re a tactile person, and would like to do x things more, and if you need to, you can tell her that it’s not romantic. She might say no, and she might think it’s weird, but chances are, she’s not going to abandon you over asking to hang out more and cuddling during movie nights. I do that with my friends already. (Also, cuddling at Girl Scout camp because sometimes it gets cold.) 

Good luck anon!

~Arianna

[aroaceteens]

i just realized i’m aroace and everything makes so much sense now. i tried to be in a romantic relationship a few years back but never felt anything and felt uncomfortable with romantic contact. i’ve never had crushes and i’ve never wanted to have sex with anyone. i like romance in fiction and fictional characters, but it’s not something for me. anyway i’m rambling but i’m just so happy i finally know who i am :’)

I’m glad you figured it out! It’s always a difficult thing, and I’m really happy for you anon :)

~Arianna

[natural--blues]

I made my adoptive uncle cry yesterday

Let me rewind.

We were sharing photos back and forth of what we’d done over summer. Him, the La Juve matches, me, Pride.

He catches sight of the Ace flag and asks about it. He’d never seen it before. I explained to him in the best words I could find what being ace meant, that it’s a spectrum. I also used that moment to come out to him as aromantic, and explain that too. I gave him links, and upon his request, translated some so he could comprehend fully (he is esl). He was really interested.

He went silent after a while. I thought maybe it was too much. But no, he came back at me an hour later and tells me he’s never had words. His whole life, he’d never had words for who he was and how he felt. He’s aroace, and having grown up for 64 years in a rural part of a Latin country, having no romantic inclination and no lothario attempts made him a very strange man. He’d always felt othered, never felt proud of it.

But he saw that not only was he not alone (by a long shot) but that he had words now. Definitions. In those moments, a pure understanding clicked. The missing piece.

He cried because there was meaning. It meant he wasn’t a ‘freak’ anymore. It only took 6 decades. ♡

[rnelodyy]

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[acephobia-is-real]

To my aros who are scared of being alone: I love you and it’s going to be okay.

Just because you won’t find a romantic partner doesn’t mean you’ll be alone forever. You’re still lovable. You still have love to give. It just won’t be that kind of love. You will find someone, or several someones, who will want to share life with you, and won’t mind that you don’t love them romantically. Maybe they will be friends. Maybe they will be partners. Aromantics have always existed, and we have always been able to find happiness.

You are not alone. Never, ever, ever.

Hugs for all of you from me. <3

[fellenleaf]

pride desserts and sweet drinks

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[splend-aros]

Daily Affirmation 582.

You can have absolutely no attraction at all. You can experience no romantic, sexual, platonic, alterous or whatever other kinds of attraction there are. That doesn’t make you bad or heartless. You have the freedom to be you.

[markaleb]

Next pride dragon is done. c: This one is for all the lovely aros out there! :D 

[romance-repulsed-aros]

Darker skinned aros are wonderful and they deserve to have a good day. If you’re aro and have dark skin I hope your day is outstanding.

[aceclubweekly]

There isn't enough aro positivity out there so I'm gonna say it

🌸shoutout to my aro guys 🌺shoutout to my aro gals 🌷shoutout to my aro nb pals 🌹shoutout to my ace aros 🌻shoutout to my pan aros 🌼shoutout to my bi aros 💐shoutout to my lesbian aros 🍀shoutout to my gay aros ☘️shoutout to my het aros

You’re all wonderful, amazing people and I hope you have a great day today, tomorrow, and the next 💚💚

[mabel-loves-aces]

Aros aren’t broken for being aro. Aros aren’t predators for not being ace also. Aros aren’t heartless robots for being ace also. Aros aren’t in need of being fixed.