aroace-spec-writings

This is where I put my thoughts about being aroace-spec! She/her ^^ I have a lot of labels on aroace spec

[arospec-acespec]

Hello! (updated intro- 5/30/26)

figured i should make an intro post

Hi, my name is Darcy (She/her) but you can call me arospec-acespec, I'm the person behind this blog.

I am a MINOR !!!! please keep any proship/profic stuff out of reblogs and comments.

I don't really care if you talk about sexual things but i'd prefer discussion of sex be kept to asexual-related (among other aspec labes) conversation.

This blog is my ideas and experiences about being on the Aspec :D

Below is my strawpage + DNI list

DNI:

proship/profic. i dont want anything to do with any of that.

radqueers. again, keep it away from me

kink and fetish blogs, as in blogs solely focused on kink(s) and fetish. If you post about it but it's not your main thing, i dont care (i dont check the blogs of who interacts with me)

bigots (rascists, homophobes, transphobes, etc.)

[aroace-official]

Project hail mary made me waaaay more aroace than I already was. I've been doubting myself for a little while now but no other label seems right, and when I saw Ryan gosling tripping over that sentient pile of rocks I just KNEW that he was one of us

I need to watch that to be honest! I've been seeing a lot of good things about it though!

[aroace-official]

I'll never be the same.

[daisanfar]

a new pfp for june 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[aroace-official]

Aroace culture is being extremely annoyed every time you see someone imply that a romantic/sexual relationship is somehow better or more important than any other kind of relationship (which happens basically all the time once you start paying attention to it)

Absolutely. It annoys me to no end especially considering how shipping culture permeates fandom spaces and how some (not all) people believe that a character dynamic being interpreted as romantic/sexual holds more value than a platonic interaction. On a more positive note, I see people moving away from that in some fandoms so who knows?

[atmarkabstract]

please respect aplatonics and loveless people too!!!!! putting friendship on a pedestal like so much of the aro community does on here is really alienating tbh

[this-is-anti-homeless]

Wishing a safe, and as happy as reasonably can be, Pride Month to all homeless queers

[this-is-arophobia]

this pride month lets all not bringing up romance and romantic media around ur romance repulsed friend!

[this-is-arophobia]

the person im referring to didnt even just make a comment about their own relationship. they were actively showing me edits of romantic couples in shows and trying to get me to watch things where the whole plot is about romance. and then when i said 'hey. not into that stuff' they just kept trying to get me into them and going 'oh its not much its not much' (i looked up the plot and some clips. it is a very important not skippable part of the story. that is much.). like pls get it into ur skull that no. i, somebody who is romance repulsed, who says 'i dont like romantic media', does not want to see romantic media just because u like it and dont veiw it as 'much'.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is thinking you’re aroace, then thinking you’re not because you have crushes, then realizing all you actually wanted from said “crushes” was a really good friend instead of actually wanting to engage in romantic behaviors

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[77pink-prin-cess77]

Please don't forget about loveless people this pride month. Love doesn't make us human. People don't need to love in "other" ways to be valid. Some people are aplatonic, some afamilial, some asensual, some are heartless. They still belong. Abolish conformity and the idea that someone needs to be something specific to belong at pride.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is getting so happy when you see someone with an aroace pin cuz you get reminded that... dude im not the only one??? im not alone??? :0

uhhh i sent another ask about being aroace and a lesbian i think i was sparkle fish anon i cant remember

(I don't see a sparkle fish anon on my list, but you can be sparkle fish now if you want)

[aroace-official]

Remember this pride to respect all who use (or don't use) labels under the aroace umbrella ! This includes people who don't adhere to the typical aroace stereotypes

[tuherrus]

you don't even have a dog

[petewentz-]

It's fun being queer and weird and unconventional until you remember you live in a society

[anistarrose]

As Aromantic Visibility Day (June 5th) approaches this year, friendly reminder from an aroace: it's Aromantic Visibility Day, not "Aroace" Visibility Day! Not all aromantics are also asexual — there are aromantics who are allosexual (aroallos for short), aromantics who don't separately label their sexual orientation at all, and aromantics whose sexual orientation doesn't fit into an ace/allo binary, as well as likely even more aros who don't fit into "aroace" for even more reasons — and all of them are equally included in Aromantic Visibility Day, because they are equally aromantic! In fact, those aros who aren't ace are disproportionately erased and in need of visibility, even more than aroaces are (which is really saying something, because aroace visibility itself is already terrible), so including them in Aromantic Visibility Day is vital, and using the correct name for the occasion instead of calling it an "aroace day" is a start.

Overall: again, speaking as an aroace myself, we aroaces will not be offended if you just call Aromantic Visibility Day the thing it is actually called! I care about sharing this upcoming day with my fellow aros, so stop excluding them, even accidentally! We aroaces celebrate this day but it is not for us exclusively!

[p0ssibly-an-ali3n]

i've noticed that quite a lot of people are severely undereducated about aroace , aromantic , and asexual people , even allies and lgbtq people themselves

sure , to my knowledge we're not as focused on by homophobic groups ( correct me if i'm wrong ) . but society is still extremely against the mere existence of those who don't feel certain types of love .

i was venting to a friend about being aroace and she asked me " why don't you just not be aroace ? "

people say " aromantic / asexual / aroace people can still date !! " and then refuse to engage with the nuances of an ace/arospec relationship

so many people i've told about being aroace all say " well , you're not gonna be aroace forever , right ? "

hell being asexual didn't stop being considered a mental illness until 2013

the only representation of aro/aspec people in media are cold villains or are "innocent" and "pure" , and even THAT rep is taken away

romance is viewed as better than all else . every conversation is about romance . nothing sells without romance

people can't conceptualise a relationship with romance without sex . people can't conceptualise a relationship without romance with sex . people can't conceptualise having no desire for a relationship with romance or sex .

society doesn't treat us as people worthy of respect . people dont care enough to represent us properly .

amatonormativity , aphobia , and arophobia are everywhere once you notice it

[plum-petunia]

Aspecs are not usually explicitly targeted by homophobic groups, but are often still targeted because they're well aware that we're different and they still hate that. They may not know the words "aromantic" or "asexual," but they absolutely hate us as well.

Asexual Conversion Therapy

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The religious right is now targeting sexless marriages as "selfishness." They want to ban those too - LGBTQ Nation

It's not just same-sex marriages Republicans want to ban. Now they don't like asexual marriages either.

Amatonormativity in the Law: An Introduction

Silver Flight discusses how amatonormativity privileges particular romantic relationships, and the legal implications tied to government-rec

[boyblogdog]

happy pride month to those in the closet. to those who went back into the closet. to those who have unsupportive families, friends and relationships. those who were bullied and harassed because of their identity. those who were killed because of who they truly were and loved.

you are loved and appreciated.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is headcannoning all your favorite characters as aro and being happy together as one big aro heard side note but would a group of aros be called a quiver?

yes!!!