āgive me back my girlhood it was mine firstā is one of the most devastating lines I have ever heardā¦..something that is especially difficult for society, and men in particular, to understand, is that relationships or sex can be traumatic and damaging even if it was consensual - something doesnāt need to be a crime to be traumatizing. at the time sheās singing about in the song, Taylor was only 19, and this was a 32 year old man she absolutely idolized Ā - of course she would fall for his advances. yes, 19 is legal, but Taylor was so young then -she was still living with her parents, she was singing about true love in princess dresses on tour - she was still very much a girl, a naive teenager - so of course she would ignore every warning and jump at the chance to be with this older man who made her feel special. to then be discarded and played and realize you were just another notch in someoneās belt can be devastating on its own, but to go through this when that was the firstĀ or one of the first people that you were intimate withā¦ to feel so thoroughly used and preyed upon, and to have that be your introduction to what intimacy isā¦it feels both heartbreaking and the shame and self-loathing can be so intense, because this person and experience affected you so monumentally while you were just another catch for them. itās only looking back as you get older that you realize - oh my god, I was just a girl, or a kid, and this person knewĀ that, and took advantage of that to get what they wantedā¦.this song is so important andĀ Iām so proud of Taylor for writing it.Ā
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