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ucanbanything

Nick and Tao // Heartstopper

parkchanwoohoo

mousathe14

I was waiting the entire video for a ladder to come up and my god, the vindication

verymarykate

Parenting in the 80's Part 1 with Jenn Marsala

swan2swan

Where's that tweet about how American chants are "let's go [team name] and some other country (Irish?) fans are "I've made up a song about the other team's drinking problem to the tune of London Bridge Is Falling Down one two three"?

luimnigh

ladydevoir

darkandstormydolls

I was talking to my mom about John Green today and I mentioned that “he’s still on tumblr” and she asked why that would be weird and I said that no one is on tumblr these days, “except him and I guess me”

I don’t know what all of you guys are doing here, because clearly this website is occupied only by me and John Green

sizzlingsandwichperfection-blog

just the two of us / we can make it if we try.

cheeseanonioncrisps

Your partner came back from the dead after being missing for decades. Every one of their friends who they went with ended up dying a horrible death.

Now, somehow, their entire mental health is based on the continued life and happiness of this fairground goldfish that they picked up.

Neither of you know the first thing about how to care for even a healthy fish. This fish has been poorly cared for, has multiple diseases and the person who handed it over explicitly didn't expect it to live nearly as long as it already has.

You're frantically googling how to set up a fish tank, where to buy fish food, can you even take a fish to the vet? Your partner wants you to know that they're happy they made it home and survived their horrific ordeal, but also that if anything happens to the fish then they're going to kill everyone on this planet and then themself.

You're honestly wondering if you're even helping the fish, or just prolonging its suffering, but your partner will only accept medical help for their many injuries or engage in basic self-care once they're confident that the fish is being looked after.

So you get a tank. You set up a filter and all that stuff. You learn way more than you ever wanted to know about water temperature and ph and nitrate levels. The fish is safe. You start to develop some affection for the little guy. Your partner begins to recover. The fish begins to recover.

Which is when you learn that in its 'healthy' state, the fish regularly refuses to sleep when tired, keeps begging for food that is obviously unhealthy for it (and struggling to eat the food that you do provide because “it tastes gross”), and continually tries to persuade your partner to take it out of its nice safe tank so it can go explore the wonderful world of Outside, where the slightest mishap will kill it instantly.

Your name is Adrian, and you kind of wants to strangle this fucking fish, statement.

sushi-stims

source

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northshorewave

Handing the Google executive currently chained in my basement a piece of paper that reads "Shall I end your torture?" with one checkbox that reads "No" and another that reads "Maybe later."

a-gentle-yoink

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swarnpert

for pride month Five Guys will temporarily change its name to Five Theys

kaibascorpse

how i imagine every five guys employee greeting customers during pride month

pris-cas

“Lesson #1 how far can humans see”

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

today I found out my mother doesn’t know what dandelions are and now I’m wondering what other strange secrets she’s been quietly harboring

krystal-prisms

Where do you live that you don’t have dandelions?

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

we have dandelions EVERYWHERE, they are basically our State Weed, it is absolutely impossible that my mom has never interacted with a dandelion before, this requires further investigation

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

So after extensive interrogation I have an update:

my mom is in fact aware that dandelions exist. she temporarily forgot the name and there was some miscommunication.

the truth is actually weirder

she’s aware dandelions look like this

she is familiar with this flower. she knows the name of this flower. she declines to believe, however, that these are also dandelions

she does not believe these are the same plant. I tried to explain, and she thought I was either misinformed or lying. so I asked her what exactly did she think the yellow ones were called?

she answered, with complete confidence: Daffodils.

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

gosh I enjoy this website

authoratmidnight

For comparison, this is a daffodil

quietlygrousing

See, folks in the southern US will tell you up and down those are buttercups, actually.

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

i don’t think so? i’m southern and buttercups are what we call these things (much tinier)

maejacrezz007

Wait I thought those bigger cup ones were Easter Lillies???

$fractiousrvt blog's avatar$

fractiousrvt

This is an Easter Lily. It is an actual lily and therefore deadly to cats.

blood-trip-god2

They’re marigolds and I know a bitch when I see one!

delphinidin4

This is a marigold:

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

….we need to start taking the phrase “go touch grass” more literally. go outside and examine a flower i beg u

bitemeilovewaffles

But. But these are daffodils…….?

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

I AM GOING TO SHOVE DAISIES DOWN YOUR THROAT UNTIL THEY SPROUT OUT YOUR TOENAILS

moniquill

taavicleric

My personal experience with being asked this question and then given that line, is that the neurotypical person expected you to feel shame. I have some slightly less anecdotal evidence to back up this anecdotal experience. I took substitute teacher training once, and we were told that the best thing to do with middle schoolers "acting up," was to shame them, to figure out how to draw attention to them and this negative attention in front of their peers would shame them into good behaviour, or at least silence. I raised my hand, having already distinguished myself as the "weirdo" of the group, and said, "Is this the reason I spent a lot of time in the principal's office for truthfully, loudly, and clearly answering questions like, 'would you care to share your thoughts with the class?'" And was told yes, that was a perfect example, but I was the rare case where it backfires.

Since then, I have responded to that type of question with, "Do you want an explanation, or was your intent simply to indicate that I need to feel inferior, right now?" and it does tend to turn the tables a little bit.

betterbemeta

Be careful though; someone who does this to you likely already has decided there's only one acceptable outcome and will subordinate you no matter how you attempt to resist. It is good that sometimes the tables turn, but the majority of people who feel comfortable enough to put themselves in the position of power this way do not willingly accept a rebuke and may escalate or even become violent if you try.

Disengaging or redirecting their attention sometimes can help. Other people are very good for this and an interruption from a third party almost always de-fuses the situation. Someone trying to do this to you will often only go forward when you're alone, so try not to be if you know it's coming.

But if all else fails (it's your boss, a parent, a teacher, another authority, someone with massive social advantage compared to yourself, etc.) you may be stuck with someone who's plan A is to subordinate & punish you and they have no plan B. You may just end up taking heat no matter what and its not your fault. They are the ones who want 'an excuse' to belittle others.

aggressivewhenstartled

I’m not neurotypical but I do this because it’s a Standard Cultural Response and it got wired into my Standard Responses, but I tend to joke about it, too (ie: why are you doing xyz, wait nevermind I said that but I know why. What I mean is stop doing xyz). It’s not USUALLY meant to be belittling by most adults, it’s GENERALLY meant to be a reminder that what you’re doing is well outside the behavioral norm. It’s what’s funny about this classic Calvin and Hobbes panel:

Neurotypical folks taking a phrase like this literally is generally them trying to bypass the reminder and instead get into a power struggle, so neurotypical authority figures react to it that way.

Giving your reasoning is often a way of arguing that you are correct, rather than explaining mistaken thought processes for most neurotypical folks. You can avoid this miscommunication a lot of times by saying “oh I see now. I had thought xyz but I see my mistake” or “you’re right, I was thinking xyz so my bad”.

I realize just now as I finish this TED talk that the cultural expectation for this question was “empathize with me over the annoying wrong thing people do” and not “I am asking for genuine clarification” but I stand by my response to ignore that based on the premise of the complaint.