Artem M.

21 Black + Disabled + Queer any pronouns i write -> ask me about it

[umbrapendant]

VOLANT - when i’m with you i can fly

had the honour of drawing this for the final chapter of VOLANT, a work by my creative partner @artems-quiver . more art than this is featured in the work, please give it a read!!

n e ways im trying to get into posting here because F twitter

[artems-quiver]

loved writing Volant & loved working with @umbrapendant

would adore it if yall checked it out! <3

[bedbugbiting]

My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

[bomberqueen17]

I searched and searched for the post this graphic was from, and the OP deactivated, but I kept the graphic, because my BFF does the same thing, uses her imagination to come up with the worst pain she can imagine and pegs her “10″ there, and so is like, well, I’m conscious, so this must be a 5, and then the doctors don’t take her seriously. (And she then does things like driving herself to the hospital while in the process of giving birth. Probably should have called an ambulance for that one!)

So I found this and sent it to her. Because this is what they want to know: how badly is this pain affecting you? Not on a scale of “nothing” to “how I’d imagine it’d feel if bears were eating my still-living guts while I was on fire”. 

I hate reposting stuff, but I’ll never find that post again and OP is deactivated, so, here’s a repost. I can delete this later, i just wanted to get it to you and I can’t embed images in a chat or an ask. 

[derryderrydown]

This is possibly why it took several weeks to diagnose my fractured spine.

[petralemaitre]

Pain Scale transcription:

10 - I am in bed and I can’t move due to my pain. I need someone to take me to the emergency room because of my pain.

9 - My pain is all that I can think about. I can barely move or talk because of my pain.

8 - My pain is so severe that it is difficult to think of anything else. Talking and listening are difficult.

7 - I am in pain all the time. It keeps me from doing most activities.

6 - I think about my pain all of the time. I give up many activities because of my pain.

5 - I think about my pain most of the time. I cannot do some of the activities I need to do each day because of the pain.

4 - I am constantly aware of my pain but can continue most activities.

3 - My pain bothers me but I can ignore it most of the time.

2 - I have a low level of pain. I am aware of my pain only when I pay attention to it.

1 - My pain is hardly noticeable.

0 - I have no pain.

[airagorncharda]

It’s also really important to get this kind of scale to people who have chronic pain, because chronic pain drastically lowers your perception of how “bad” any kind of pain actually is, and yet something like this pain scale is extremely user friendly. 

For example, if someone asked me how much pain I’m in at any given time, I’d say hardly any, and yet I’m apparently at a chronic 2.5, and it only goes up from there depending on the day. 

There’s also a similarly useful “Fatigue Scale”

[jedijenkins]

I haven’t been below a 5 on this scale for 4 years 

[nerdgasrnz]

Here’s the fatigue scale

[sunny-day-sky]

Fatigue scale image desc:

10: can barely move; can’t talk

9: can barely move; can talk

8: can move, but can’t do much more than watch TV

7: can watch TV and play a game on my phone simultaneously

6: can do work on my computer lying in bed

5: can get around the house, but definitely couldn’t go out

4: can run a light errand

3: can get in my 10,000 steps, making my fitbit happy

2: can do three or more activities in a single day

1: going clubbing!

[eruvadhril]

See also the Mental Health Pain Scale by Graceful Patient:

Mental Health Pain Scale transcription:

MILD

1 - Everything is a-okay! There is absolutely nothing wrong. You’re probably cuddling a fluffy kitten right now. Enjoy!

2 - You’re a bit frustrated or disappointed, but you’re easily distracted and cheered up with a little effort.

3 - Things are bothering you, but you’re coping. You might be overtired or hungry. The emotional equivalent of a headache.

MODERATE

4 - Today is a bad day (or a few bad days). You still have the skills to get through it, but be gentle with yourself. Use self-care strategies.

5 - Your mental health is starting to impact on your everyday life. Easy things are becoming difficult. You should talk to your doctor.

6 - You can’t do things the way you usually do them due to your mental health. Impulsive and compulsive thoughts may be hard to cope with.

SEVERE

7 - You’re avoiding things that make you more distressed, but that will make it worse. You should definitely seek help. This is serious.

8 - You can’t hide your struggles any more. You may have issues sleeping, eating, having fun, socialising, and work/study. Your mental health is affecting almost all parts of your life.

9 - You’re at a critical point. You aren’t functioning any more. You need urgent help. You may be a risk to yourself or others if left untreated.

10 - The worst mental and emotional distress possible. You can no longer care for yourself. You can’t imagine things getting any worse. Contact a crisis line immediately.

[kingspadedying]

These are so important! SO SO IMPORTANT SHARE THIS AND SAVE IT TO SHOW YOUR DOCTORS!

[mrswhozeewhatsis]

This is the first time I’ve seen the fatigue scale, and HOLY MOLY that’s a revelation!!! These should be on all hospital and doctor office walls.

[thesaltofcarthage]

I’ve never seen the mental health one! or the fatigue one! I printed out the pain one and gave it to my GP. 

[x-bee-x]

❤️❤️❤️

[we-are-but-dead-stars]

feeling very normal about Epic: The Musical tonight

[anomalously-written]

Let's Talk About: Writing Babies & Toddlers

Adding children into the equation when it comes to writing can be difficult for those of us who are not currently a parent or have experience with children.

“I want to have this one year old character… wait, how do one year olds even act? How do three year olds act? What the heck can babies do? CAN THEY EVEN VOCABULARY? I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT CHILDREN!”

Well, lets see if we can find out.

—

Birth - 3 Months Old [x]

Physical Skills - Raises head & chest when on stomach. Stretches & kicks on back. Opens and shuts hands. Brings hand to mouth. Grasps and shakes toys.

Social Skills - Begins to develop social smile. Enjoys playing with people. More communicative. More expressive with face and body. Imitates some movements and expressions.

Sensory Milestones - Follows moving objects. Recognizes familiar objects and people at a distance. Starts using hands and eyes in coordination. Prefers sweet smells. Prefers soft to coarse sensations.

Baby’s Temperament

Common Conditions in Newborns

Developmental Milestones: 1 Month | 3 Months

How Your Newborn… Behaves | Looks // Jaundice // Newborn Eyecolor

Physical Appearance and Growth: 1 To 3 Months

Toy Selection Tips

4 - 7 Months Old

Physical Skills - Rolls both ways. Sits with and without support of hands. Supports whole weight on legs. Reaches with one hand. Transfers object from hand to hand. Uses raking grasp.

Social Skills - Enjoys social play. Interested in mirror images. Responds to expressions of emotion. Appears joyful often.

Cognitive Thinking - Finds partially hidden object. Explores with hands and mouth. Struggles to get objects that are out of reach.

Cognitive Development: 4 to 7 Months 

Crawling Styles

How to Share Books with Your 6 to 8 Month Old

Language Development: 4 to 7 Months | Look Who’s Talking

8 - 12 Months Old

Physical Skills - Gets to sitting position without help. Crawls forward on belly. Assumes hands and knees position. Gets from sitting to crawling position. Pulls self up to stand. Walks holding on to furniture.

Social Skills - Shy or anxious with strangers. Cries when parents leave. Enjoys imitating people in play. Prefers certain people and toys. Tests parental response. Finger-feeds himself.

Cognitive Thinking - Explores objects in different ways. Finds hidden objects easily. Looks at correct picture when the image is named. Imitates gestures. Begins to use objects correctly.

Cognitive Development: 8 to 12 Months

Crawling Styles

Developmental Milestones: 12 Months

How to Share Books: 6 to 8 Months | 9 to 11 Months

Physical Appearance and Growth: 8 to 12 Months

Toy Selection Tips

1 Year - 3 Years Old [x]

Your child is advancing from infancy toward and into the preschool years. During this time, his physical growth and motor development will slow, but you can expect to see some tremendous intellectual, social, and emotional changes.

Physical Skills - Walks alone. Pulls toys behind when walking. Begins to run. Stands on tiptoe. Kicks a ball.

Social Skills - Imitates behavior of others. Aware of herself as separate from others. Enthusiastic about company of other children.

Cognitive Thinking - Finds objects even when hidden 2 or 3 levels deep. Sorts by shape and color. Plays make-believe.

Aggressive Behavior

Assessing Developmental Delays

Bedtime Trouble

Overcoming Obstacles While Toilet Training an Older Child

Cognitive Development: 1 year | 2 years

Developmental Milestones: 2 years | 3-4 years

Emotional Development: 1 year | 2 years

Language Development: 1 year | 2 years

Physical Appearance & Growth: 1 year | 2 years

Social Development: 1 year | 2 years

Teaching Toddlers to Feed Themselves (Audio)

Toddler Speech Development (Audio)

Understanding a Shy Child (Audio)

When a Child Bites (Audio)

—

Toilet Training In order for a toddler to be successfully potty trained, she needs to be able to sense the urge to go, be able to understand what the feeling means, and then be able to verbalize that she needs your help to make it to the toilet and actually go. Waiting until your child is truly ready will make the experience much faster and more pleasant for everyone involved.

—

In short:

Infancy

–What to expect: Babies cry. –Needs: Basic love and care –Parents’ Need: Time off and sleep. –Special Problems: Fussy baby

Six Months

–What to expect: Child is always moving. Favorite game is dropping/throwing toys. Child puts everything into their mouth. –Needs: Same as infancy. Protection. [Never leave child unattended. Babies roll off beds, changing tables. Unless baby is on the floor, keep a hand on the baby or use a restraint system. Keep small things off the floor and out of reach.]

Nine Months

–What to expect: Baby is crawling, pulling up. Child has no concept of property. Everything is a toy. Still puts everything in mouth. –Needs: Child-proof environment. Close supervision. –Special Problems: Separation fears. [Baby is afraid to be left; wakes up during the night.]

One Year

–What to expect: Child needs to explore and is into everything. [Likes to dump things out. Child must touch everything that is new. Likes to tear paper apart and pull plants over to see what will happen. Enjoys throwing food on the floor to see what will happen. Wants to eat what others are eating.] –Needs: Lots of things. Safe environment. Firm limits. Plenty of sleep. Nutritious food. 

Two and a Half

–What to expect: This is THE Age of Conflict. Child is never sure whether the child wants to be independent and separate (“Me do it”, “myself,”“no,no, no”) or dependent and treated like a baby (“Hold me”, “carry me”, “help me”). Parents never know what to expect. Temper tantrums increase and are used for attention and control. Child wants the same foods all the time, refuses any change, says “no” even when the child means “yes”. Starts to stutter or stammer. Masturbates frequently. Wants to be treated like a baby when the child gets tired. The child is just starting to learn the rules and tells himself “no, no” while breaking them. –Needed: Patient, kind, firm parents. –Parents’ Motto: This too shall pass.

Three

–What to expect: Likes to do things by himself. Can unbutton and unzip the child’s own clothes. Does not know the front from the back or which shoe fits which foot and the child doesn’t care. Favorite expression is “All by myself” but cries easily when the child can’t do it. He wants to help parents do things. Refuses to hold parent’s hand even though the child must. Wants to walk in stores instead of riding in stroller. Develops sudden fears and phobias. Resists taking naps but needs one. Can control bladder and bowel functions, but still has accidents. By 3 and ½, child whines all the time. May stammer and stutter when upset or excited. Nose picking, fingernail biting, and tumbsucking reach a peak. Child also learns to spit. Favorite lines are “Don’t look,” “Don’t laugh”, “Don’t talk” which the child uses on parents. Prime time for imaginary friends. –Needs: Patience. Time to grow. Remember, a 3 year old is a baby that looks like a child. Don’t force threes to be bigger than they can be at the moment. An enabling environment.

—

Happy writing!

Xx

[cannabiscomrade]

So Arizona launched an “education hotline” that allows “concerned parents” to report “””critical race theory””” and other things like ~gender identity~ being taught in the classroom

It would be a shame if the number and email were spread to bad actors looking to prank call the AZ Department of Education

602-771-3500 or empower @ azed .gov 🤡

Horne said two staff members are sorting through the calls, and two investigators are working on credible leads.

[yeah-yeah-beebiss-1]

and for the love of god, don’t just spam it with memes or le funny shrek jokes or whatever, they’ll just hang up

make plausible-sounding reports for things that don’t actually exist, so that they actually have to waste time/resources investigating false leads - the goal is to waste time they would otherwise be using to do their jobs, not to get tumblr clout for being an epic troll

[neko-setsuka]

So apparently the internet article said the superintendent wouldn't be deterred by the prank calls because they would 'taper off eventually'. It'd be a real shame if this post stayed in circulation via queues so they get a consistent list of prank calls to filter through. 😇

[writingwife-83]

Guys, if you read on AO3 please try to create an account. So many of us writers are going to be forced to lock down our fics to registered users out of necessity to help keep AI away, and it kills us because we don’t want to stop any of you from reading.

AO3 is invite only. So if you know an AO3 user, ask if they have an invitation to give you (we’re given invite codes to share with others who want to join) because that’s an easy way to get in. If you don’t know someone you can ask, this is AO3’s instructions for requesting one from them…

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

I know this seems like an extra step and maybe you don’t think you need it and can just read from people who haven’t locked their fics. But this isn’t just about you as the reader. If you enjoy fics and you want to keep them coming, this is how you support your favorite writers! If our stats and comments plummet, I guarantee writing is going to start going down as well. Nobody wants that! So please consider making an account and signal boosting this as well! 🙏🏻

**NOTE: AO3 indicates (as of today) there’s 48k some people in the queue for invites and they’re sending out about 5k per day. That’s not a bad wait at all!!**

[gothdaddyissues]

If you need an invite, DM me. I will gladly give you one!! 💞

[jackedjacket]

You can also just sign up like normal and AO3 let’s you in as soon as a spot opens (for me it took less than a day) so no worries if you don’t actually know anyone!