asexual confessions

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[asexualconfessions]

you can call me mod aby- ace by you.

This is a blog for anyone who has the inkling of asexuality or aromanticism. That means straight, cis, trans, gay, anyone who doesn't know or doesn't care or hates themselves for either. You're welcome here to talk.

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[asexualconfessions]

I feel so much shame for having any sexual attraction, like me having any at all is a betrayal to my identity as being asexual. It’s so embarrassing and every time I think about it, I get a pit in my stomach.

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Sometimes I have such bad imposter syndrome over my asexuality because I thirst over fictional characters in a very explicit way and have crushes on a few actors.

Recently it’s been really bad because I’ve thought about buying the Quinn app and listening to some stories from voice actors and actors I like.

I know I’m ace I just sometimes feel like I’m faking it because of stuff like that.

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[asexualconfessions]

Please I would love it so much if people stopped assuming my hijab is because of my asexuality. My hijab is a sign of devotion to Allah please stop assuming that my modesty is because I don't want men to perceive me sexually (I also don't want that but my hijab and modesty is not about that!!). Please. Just please be nice to the asexual hijabis and Muslims please I am so fucking tired. Sorry if this isn't the right space for this rant I am just so annoyed

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[asexualconfessions]

Trauma ace anon here

Thank you for the caedosexual post. I really can't tell you how comforting that is. Im not a fraud, and i can tell people im ace or caed and if i dont say im caed they dont need to know what *kind* of ace i am because i really am ace. Just a specific kind. Thank you all

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Apologies if this ends up being a bit too much, trying my best to keep things vague here, but I need to get this off my chest. Thank you for offering the space to do so. Okay. I've been questioning for a LONG time if I count as asexual, because, like a previous ask, I am sex-repulsed to an extent because of trauma (that trauma resulted in sex-repulsion/fear honestly of participating in straight sex, as a person with a vagina, but because I'd experienced attraction to women sometimes, I wasn't sure if my sex-repulsion extended to that.) For about a month or so I've been trying to figure out actual sex ed on my anatomy because no matter what I did I was never able to orgasm. The way people talk about vibrators being so special and 'magic' I gave a small one a try, thinking it'd be enough, nope. Tried a different kind of toy and after a few days of figuring out what to do, I was able to get there today. And I'm just. I guess kind of frustrated! I can't help but repeat in my mind, that's it?! I mean, it's a relief, I'm glad that this clear indifference to the way it feels helps me "prove" to myself that I'm asexual- helps me feel more confident in using that label- But, I mean. Agh-- The way it feels like society and so many people in this world hype it up- Talk about it like it's the best feeling ever, and I just? For all that effort, you'd think it'd be more satisfying, but no. I genuinely get more satisfaction and (non-sexual) pleasure from eating dove chocolates. (they're so good, but, anyway--) I guess I'm just a bit shocked it was that underwhelming. Like. I looked up the proper sex ed on this and how it's supposed to feel and what's supposed to happen, and that did happen to me! So it's not like I can be like "oh maybe i just got close but didn't actually peak yet-" I did. The peak is just meh lol- Again I'm sorry if this ended up being a bit TMI here. I guess the TLDR is, I'm glad I can feel more confident in my asexual identity and no longer feel hesitant to use the label. But I can't help but feel disappointed, shocked, underwhelmed, frustrated, at how "meh" it felt for all that effort and buildup. It just makes me angry in the same way it feels like most asexuals (in my experience anyway) have that kind of resentment towards the way society as a whole puts sex up on that pedestal. I guess I've always felt that resentment though, that it can't be that good and worth all the horrible shit some people will do for it, and uh, I guess I have the experience to back up that opinion now!

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[asexualconfessions]

i hate being horny so much oh my godddd i feel like an omega in heat it sucks so bad!! i need to like. remove the wretched organs that plague me i wish i had nothing down there like a doll

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[asexualconfessions]

i tell people im ace but i feel like a fraud my repulsion is because of things that happened when i was a kid but i cant tell anyone that because i dont want them to tell me im not really ace

just traumatized

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[geneticallymodifiedidiot]

anon you are valid as ace and would still be valid as ace even if what im about to add wasn’t a thing and its up to you how you want to interpret/use this but im just gonna leave this here

Caedsexual

Caedsexual (or caedosexual) is an orientation on the asexual spectrum, defined as someone who feels that they were allosexual at one point,

[asexualconfessions]

i tell people im ace but i feel like a fraud my repulsion is because of things that happened when i was a kid but i cant tell anyone that because i dont want them to tell me im not really ace

just traumatized

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[asexualconfessions]

I've never really used a confession blog before, so I dunno if this would belong more somewhere else, sorry....

Anywho, the constant Bellesa/sex toy ads are just kind of really annoying, after a point. Like I totally get that what the company is doing is good with like the whole personal and woman empowerment, but like. Every video. Every video feels like it has some sort of sex toy sponsorship. And I know it'll pass, cuz the next company will start their big sponsorships, and they can't even be explicit cuz nobody wants.tk be demonitised, so it's just stuck being really, really annoying.

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[asexualconfessions]

i feel like the aspec community has forgotten that by 'romance' allos usually mean 'sex'

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[asexualconfessions]

"Sex is not a need" anon here back with a clarification because of buttface mctheology pants

I didn't say intimacy, I didn't sexual gratification, I said *sex.* as in the exchange between two people. Apparently more people need to hear this, but-

*no one, not anyone is entitled to another person's body. Sex does not need to be given for any reason outside of yourself and your own desire to engage with it.*

Thusly

*Sex is not a need* and pretending it *is* is a significant part of the oppression aces face.

"But men can be depressed if jot sex :[" I have sympathy for this, I do, but not at the cost of my or anyone else's autonomy or body.

Newsflash: participating in unwanted sex does a whole lot more than depress, but that's never what's considered huh?

Love you op

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[asexualconfessions]

wondering what ppl do when theyre repulsed but still experience EFs because i do and it sucks

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[asexualconfessions]

being considered "prudish" or having my boundaries regarding sex be pushed constantly is actually so annoying. And the fact its primarily other queer people who push them is even more frustrating.

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[asexualconfessions]

Every once in a while I'll be "in the mood" or indulge something my partner wants, but I didn't used to be capable of even that much, and I kinda wish I still wasn't. I'm not attracted to them, mind, but having a deep emotional connection has allowed me to start feeling arousal, and sometimes in the moment I don't mind that, but it's a bit like being drunk, and I wish I could go back to feeling in full control of myself *all* the time, even though it's rare anyway.

Hope this post makes sense, sorry for the explicit feelings.

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[asexualconfessions]

We should start getting more radical about asexuality. I'm tired of everyone walking over us or pretending we don't exist.

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[asexualconfessions]

My kinda sex repulsed confession is that I sometimes feel just childish, like I should "grow up" because sex is a normal and natural thing that adults do so

And then I feel like a party pooper annoying person for like, having these feelings loooool

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