A message, since I stumbled upon some things while being curious
You were loved and cared for, if you can remember any of it
Patience and effort was given. Fretting and worry was had more than once. Fear and sorrow for your safety was there. It was spoken of to you.
Many things were met with…
A message for http://ratboigles.tumblr.com/ and http://gransmells.co.vu/ , since I stumbled upon waaaay too many things this past month. Hilariously enough, it all is gone though. Gran’s post (tagged “callout culture”) saying that “La__y” was an emotional abuser? Gran’s post in which he threatened with suicide (including a nice picture of someone putting a gun inside their mouth) after seeing “La__y“‘s art on his dash? Boig’s message, from the 17th of February, accusing him of “guilt tripping so chill”? They all poofed out of existence! Of course, I am uncertain whether the reason for these mysterious disappearances were that you finally felt bad for openly attacking someone who didn’t speak a word about any of you nor did anything to fight you after OVER A FUCKING MONTH. Or if it’s just because, lo and behold, your actions led him to post suicide letters and you didn’t want to have that over your mind- or, probably worse, be exposed as, you know, abusers… as you are. That’s so nice of you! Really classy. It is really amazing of you to accuse someone who had been identifying as aromantic for almost a year before you appeared of not sharing the same degree of love you had for them (god save me from ever receiving the sort of love you guys give). It’s pretty amazing- the equivalent of questioning an asexual on whether or not they’re going to make out with another friend (Vik) or have sex with them when they meet. In public. With around 20 people watching the stream and listening in. Oh wait, Gran did that. Loving and irrationally jealous angel he is. You know what? I had been La__y’s friend for a very long time- long before I even found out you two existed. And I was very worried these months because he’d been hiding away from me. For the first time in a very long time, he didn’t reply to my messages for weeks. Good, bad, talking about weather, my life, whatever. He never replied. The previous times he did that to me throughout the years things ended up pretty bad. Much like now. Because, you know, I had been there before. Back in 2011, another relationship of his went south. And, instead of solving things privately, his ex made PUBLIC messages calling him out and wishing him death on a PUBLIC website. Which is, you know, a very mature thing to do. Instead of dealing with issues personally, it’s so much fucking better to go out and call him an emotional abuser in public and rally around your common friends to destroy him. His ex rallied a ton of people to call him out on this public website and shame him until he was so upset he left for 4 years. Because I don’t know if you know how it feels to be publicly humiliated. Then there was that one time “La__y” asked Gran to take a break from him for a week after he embarrassed him and his friend during a public stream in a jealousy fit (Vik). Both times it ended with them talking shit in public and to all their common friends. “La__y is an emotional abuser”. In 2011, he was also close to dying after he attempted suicide from a situation similar to this one. I watched it all unfold before my eyes back then. Then it happened again by his birthday. And yet I knew something was especially amiss. You know what? Several of the people who had abused La__y over the years resorted to gaslighting. Telling him he was doing horrible things despite what the records say. In December, when you started the first round of telling everybody he was an abuser, he was worried all your claims had been a huge gaslight fest. [20/12/2014 17:41:20] Milk: i was called an abuser yesterday…. [20/12/2014 17:41:27] Went: WHAT+ [20/12/2014 17:41:33] Milk: yeah…. [20/12/2014 17:41:47] Milk: i even went back through our logs consistently and i’d been nothing but kind to this person… [20/12/2014 17:42:08] *** Went blinks a lot *** [20/12/2014 17:42:10] Milk: i feel like im wrong tho because he claims ‘the negatives outweigh the positives’ and i can’t remember any negatives at all… [20/12/2014 17:42:39] Milk: all i know is we fought twice recently… but i looked back at both of them and i actually never said anything bad… i was just brief… [20/12/2014 17:42:48] Milk: he claims i abused him… and now all of my friends are angry… [20/12/2014 17:42:54] Milk: i dont understand… [20/12/2014 17:43:16] Milk: i feel like im being gaslit… [20/12/2014 17:45:16] Milk: his friend is claiming im abusive… [20/12/2014 17:45:24] Milk: and he himself said he feels abused… [20/12/2014 17:45:28] Went: but but but [20/12/2014 17:45:28] Milk: and i dont understand how… [20/12/2014 17:45:47] Milk: im being treated like a criminal… [20/12/2014 17:45:51] Went: you are abusive??? [20/12/2014 17:45:52] Milk: like a terible horrible person… [20/12/2014 17:46:01] Went: but you aren’t- anythign remotely close to that [20/12/2014 17:46:17] Went: oh my god [20/12/2014 17:46:22] Milk: ii really liked him i dont understand… [20/12/2014 17:46:31] Milk: like i had no negative feelings… [20/12/2014 17:46:37] Milk: i dont understand… im so confused… [20/12/2014 17:47:16] Milk: but they also seem to have made two of the people i visited just recently be upset with me too cuz one of them deleted me??… [20/12/2014 17:48:07] Milk: and his friend who was also my friend is angry with me… and said so many awful things to me.. [20/12/2014 17:48:22] Milk: and then ignored me… Apparently things were better a few days after. But I was suspicious. God I was suspicious. And right, too. I recorded and memorized everything I could. And then next thing I know, he is having another huge fight with all of you. Because he was aromantic. Because he didn’t talk to you as much as you wanted him to. And then the stream outbreak you did. So, what happened? Gran made a new skype. And then he proceeded to throw a storm of punches at La__y’s heart. Claiming that he didn’t show enough love. He didn’t show enough affection. He didn’t reassure Gran when his mental illnesses made him afraid he was being hated by everybody. La__y left because you broke his heart and then you started attacking him in public. When he asked for a chance to speak about the issue, you refused. You ignored any of his attempts to explain himself. You asked for “time” as you posted public messages in your tumblrs and twitters attacking him directly. When he tried to get other people to send you a message on his behalf, you ignored it. Those so-called “friends” also ignored it and refused to help him communicate with you. When I managed to pass his message through twitter, I was told to “stay away” and to “respect your decision”, Gran. But, you know, he had a right to speak. You aren’t the only one who has friends, you aren’t the only one who is cared about. He sent Gran this message: http://pastebin.com/gQ4VQZGT And Gran’s reply? He needs more time. Then he blocks me. Boig? “Hes in terrible shape over this.” “its wrong of Larry to have/let his friends force his messages at quin”. As if Larry was just fucking smiling about the whole deal. As if you weren’t calling him all sorts of terrible things in public. “Larry will make you feel like you have an expiration date”. As if he wasn’t the one seeing all his friends shame him without even giving him the chance to defend himself. Blocked and deleted and no chance to speak his case. Gran is hurt? Poor dude let’s give him all the hugs. Larry is hurt? He’s a fucking robot without feelings, fuck him. Publicly fucking piss on him. And then history repeats itself and he goes to commit suicide. And what do you do? Of course you would conveniently get rid of information that could possibly be used against you. It’s also convenient how you never permitted Larry access to his logs on Skype for evidence. And what do you write in return? A fucking legal text. “Fucks were given”. As a writer, all this use of passive voice makes me cringe so much. “Hurt was had”? “Fretting and worry was had”? Like, seriously. Seriously. This is the most impersonal message I have ever seen in my life. Did you EVER care for him? Let me doubt this. His last personal message was heartfelt and full of pain and regret. Your reply is entirely soulless, fittingly just like you. You claim Gran was hurt and probably he is, I don’t give a shit and he can die right now for all I care. In fact, the universe would probably be a better place that way, if only he took you with him, but, as Gran has repeatedly said (sadly those posts are gone too- nice trimming job), he’s too coward to actually put his money where his mouth is and actually commit suicide. Shame. But do you know how we have been this entire time? You know, the people who actually cared about him? A group that does not include you nor the idiots who liked that post on Boig’s blog so far. You know how we have been these past days? You know how we reacted to those posts on his blog and on yours? You fuckwads convinced him nobody really cared about him, that he was a terrible person who abused people by being aromantic and having mental conditions- something you can’t say you are alone in suffering from. “Nothing was ever good enough. It never will be. Please live your own life from us and carry on.” I don’t know if this makes me want to laugh or cry. Yeah. Live your life. Yeah. You two are disgusting, manipulative, entitled, abusive, hateful individuals. I am just sorry Gran didn’t suffer more, I am just sorry Larry didn’t do anything to cause you actual suffering, unlike what you did. Please die in a fire. It will make the world a better place. You are a waste of oxygen. And don’t worry, Madrid IP will stop haunting your blogs now, if only you stop haunting my life and that of the people I love.
I knew you guys were trouble from the very beginning. I called it months in advance and warned Larry that he was going to end up in a mess once I saw Gran’s red flags.. and I knew it would involve him. I knew Gran would do something like this to him.
I hope all of you who used to call yourselves friends of Larry feel ashamed. I really do. This drama has been downright horrifying and you are all to blame for this.
