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明知不可为而为之

[asteria-edalyn]

Oh my god wait no what’s that meme

Boys at school never look at me, BUT ALL 8 MEMBERS OF STRAY KIDS DID!!!!!!

[enbaluka-tokyo-drift]

[rebel-hunk-enjoyer]

The worst-sounding piece of advice I've ever been given that does actually work is to frame your health concerns as coming from someone close to you, whom you do not believe. Tell your doctor that you've been having pain and your mom/friend/partner thinks it might be an ovarian cyst, but you don't think so because the pain is much more intense and it has to be something else. This gives your doctor an unseen third party to fight instead of you. They can't just tell this third party, who isn't present, that you pulled a muscle, they now need to prove to this third party that it is not an ovarian cyst.

At which point they will find an ovarian cyst, but they now get whatever fucked up satisfaction they derive out of proving you wrong, because you didn't believe it could a cyst at all, but guess what? They did find a cyst! It's such a good thing you didn't listen to your intuition and came to them to verify your lay diagnosis from that third party! Bonus? Doctor doesn't have to feel like they look stupid in front of a patient, which is really what all this is about. Not your health, why would you think your medical diagnosis is about your health? It's obviously about a doctor's potential ego.

And apparently this works. Apparently you just need to be able to always play 4D chess with your medical professionals in order to find an avenue of advocating for yourself and getting you medical needs met. Isn't that great?

I hate it here, actually.

[stuckinapril]

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

[free-my-mindd]

[hometoursandotherstuff]

This house looks more like a tower, but it's called Stonewood Castle. The house was built in 1931 in Jenkintown, PA. 4bds, 3.5ba, 2,245sqft, $1.199m (Zillow's est.: $1,135,400)

Garages under the building and a back door so you don't have to cross that long bridge out front.

There's no grand hall, you enter directly into the living room.

Large living room with a fireplace and wood paneled wall with cabinetry.

In the corner, there's enough space for a piano.

There's also a small half bath.

Now, b/c it's a tower, there are castle-like stairs going to each floor, so you have tower stairs. I think that's the back door.

From here, you enter through the dining room.

It's a lovely dining room.

Then there's a small hall lined with cabinets and doors to the garden.

And, this small hall leads to the kitchen and a bedroom.

The kitchen's pretty and bright.

The 1st bedroom is on the main level, according to the listing. It has a nice alcove but I'm wondering if it was once a closet. And, there's a balcony.

The 2nd bedroom is large, but narrower, and on the upper level.

The bath is nice.

It appears that the primary bedroom suite is on the uppermost floor.

It's beautiful, and look at the ceiling- it's the shape of the roof of the tower.

The alcove is so pretty.

And, this is the ensuite.

Entrance at the back of the house.

Under the bridge.

This is lovely.

The garden. 0.25 acre lot.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/1187-Rydal-Rd-Jenkintown-PA-19046/9905063_zpid/

[egregore-engine]

I’m going to be so honest. I think in the pursuit of an individualized sexual liberation, the Overton window for misogyny has shifted violently towards normalizing bonkers levels of misogyny. Some of you have got to start being feminist killjoys again. I can’t carry this teamfight myself no matter how good I am at fragging liberal false feminists.

[mr-deep-downer]

the future rules

[egberts]

what the hell happened to me on December 30th

[innerchildabortionclinic]

the problem with genetically modified crops is not so much the genetic modification but the patenting of genetic codes (and crops in general) as a tool of maintaining agricultural imperialism, and for this reason I can't talk to most people about GMOs

[thatcrazynoona]

[ooppo]

When I was in highschool back in 2018, all the graduating seniors got a poll to fill out for various preferences on our graduation. The only thing I actually remember from it, though, was the different options for what song would be played at the ceremony. When I saw halfway down the list that "All Star" by Smashmouth was an option, I knew that whatever I chose would be a pointless vote (this was peak Shrek meme era). So of course I went with the herd and chose the Shrek song. When graduation rolled around, everyone was giggling about it, waiting for it to be played as we all walked down to grab our diplomas or whatever. However, that is not what occurred. God, they could have not done it worse. I shit you not, I absolutely fucking shit you not when I say this. I swear on my mother's and first born's life that they brought out the poor, poor fucking choir kids to fucking acapella (badly because that choir teacher had a hard on for opera) All Star. Oh my god. I still don't even know what to say

[heavenpureheart]

[fidelcostco]

WAIT HOLD ON I cannot fucking believe when I was like four years old my parents were cajoling me to walk with the family and trying to get me to keep up even though I kept insisting that I was "tired" until they took me to a doctor and found out my LUNGS DIDN'T WORK. how insane that we live in a world where reasonably loving parents think their FOUR YEAR OLD is trying to be LAZY. like they were mortified to be clear. adults are just so trained to ignore children's complaints as untrustworthy, kids just need discipline, they can't possibly speak for themselves. what the fuuuuck.

[fidelcostco]

YOU ARE NOT IMMUNE BTW you should always be trying to take children seriously, especially very little ones but definitely all of them. the most disempowered class basically legally defined as property and most people are like "yeah that's good actually I hate when they Loiter lol they're stupid and loud and i actually think children should stop existing. restrict their personhood more actually"

[hellenhighwater]

Time to get her breakfast, I think

[hellenhighwater]

The itty bitty kitty committee has reached a unanimous decision: food must be served immediately. My veto power has been refused and we're in a full blown mutiny.

[gifs-of-puppets]

Bear in the Big Blue House (1997-2006)

[galileosballs]

Something that gets really lost in a lot of discourse is that what we would now call 'going low-contact' or 'going no-contact' with your family used to be so completely within the normal range of familial contact that there wasn't even a term for it. Sure, in the pre-IM pre-social media days some people were calling their parents daily, but I'd wager the vast majority of people were not. Long distance calling used to be quite expensive, after all. If your kid went to the big city to seek their fortune you might hear from them every few weeks, or every month, or once a year, and that wasn't particularly odd. This was even more the case before telephones were common, of course - people would send letters, but definitely not more than once a week and probably a lot less. It was just a normal, accepted fact that you'd hear from some family members who lived nearby often, and some who lived farther away very rarely.

The minimum amount of contact with family that is expected of people in the groupchat-facetime-instagram era is so much higher than at any previous point in history. The ceiling is about the same, since then and now multiple generations often live under the same roof, but the floor is higher by orders of magnitude.

How many adult children who are 'no-contact' or 'low-contact' now would also have been the ones who moved to the city and sent a letter every three months then? Is family estrangement an actual current problem, or is it just an illusion caused by smartphones?

[hyperlexichypatia]

When I complain about increased surveillance, control, and infantilization of older kids and young adults, it's often a level of surveillance and control that wouldn't have been possible, or at least practical, in previous generations. At minimum, it would've been escapable.

[foolishaj]

Dude this looks like a still right out of a movie