hiii~ in synastry, what overlays do you think are the most complex? not bad but maybe kind of uncomfortable and complicated? also, I know that squares and oppositions (sometimes conjunctions) are where the relationship needs to work on more or generally the hardships, in your opinion though, what are some aspects that are very complicated and need a 'comfortable' overlay or aspects to workout? I love those synastry posts you do on celeb couples, it helps knowing that in every relationship there's always something to work on :)
The oppositions are easier to handle, because compromise is achieved easily, while it square aspects both people hold their ground and refuse to change.
Any of the aspects listed here aren’t terrible on their own, there is always something good to compensate the bad. The willingness to be patient and communicate with the other person in general solve most problems.
Aspects, placements that can be bad in synastry:
Sun square Mercury, Mercury square Mercury. No matter how strong the attraction is, communication may be very bad, they may not even try to understand each other, their minds will be in another place. If both people try to be patient and are genuinely interested in what the other person has to say and their opinions, it won’t be that terrible.
Mercury square Mars can cause verbal abuse(in the worst scenario), fights, as they can provoke each other and bring out their worst sides in an argument. Mercury annoys and teases Mars with their words, they provoke them, they nag them, Mars gets angry and breaks stuff. A dramatic example, but this is the type of situation I can imagine. Possibly some yelling.
Squares between Moon-Sun, Moon-Mercury, Moon-Mars, Moon-Venus.
One may not know how to handle the Moon person’s emotions. Sun woudn’t understand them, they may not seem rational to them, like “how can those things upset you?”. Mercury wouldn’t know how to advise them, they may mock them for being childish, upset about things that aren’t that important. A Saturn person may be similar, but they will be tougher on the Moon person like “how can you give up so easily and get upset by such bul****?”. Venus may not know how to satisfy Moon’s emotions with their love, they may feel helpless and they may deem Moon as ungrateful, because no matter what they do, the Moon person’s feelings hardly change. Mars may get very frustrated when they see the Moon person upset. They may also not be able to bring the physical comfort on intimacy connection the Moon person needs.
There can be circumstances that may prevent them from commitment, they may not be ready for this relationship, they may have other priorities. “Right person, wrong time” kind of situation.
Uranus person may seek their independence and not be ready for a stable relationship. The relationship can have ups and downs, it can be a sign of an on-off relationship, as well as distance. Other factors that bring chaos into the relationship.
Stealing this from my other post:
Suprisingly, I think here both people have equal power. Venus wants attention, she may seek it from others, Pluto’s jealousy will be triggered. Venus will enjoy it, she will take it as a compliment. Pluto will want to overpower Venus, but they won’t be able to. There can be strong attracton, they will find it hard to move on from each other, even though the relationship may turn into a battlefield.
What do I mean when I say battlefield? With Mars squares I see it as primal anger, frustration with the other person, in worst cases in can get verbal and physical. Pluto square are mind games, power, Game of Thrones (lol with this example). I think of Pluto as Mars’s more intelligent and calculated older brother. He is vengeful and the anger doesn’t pass fast.
Pluto, no matter which planet in the other person’s chart it squares, wants to control the other person like a marionette.
It can bring insane attraction, chemistry. Even if the Pluto isn’t that kind of person, there is just something in the square aspect that makes them.
With Sun, Moon, Mercury square Pluto, the other person may feel invaded, Pluto will want to discover more about them, analyze them deeper and deeper, their soul may feel exposed, they can feel vulnerable, uncomfortable.
Mars square Pluto, Mars square Uranus, Pluto square Uranus:
Mars-Pluto: You might make each other mad on another level. Mars will be primal with their anger, Pluto will be vengeful, they won’t forget any of Mars’s actions and will try to fight back in the worst ways.
Mars-Uranus: Unstable anger, unexpected fights. Uranus may be like a child that is trying to annoy their parent, because they know it will bring a reaction. Uranus is a daredevil in this situation.
Pluto-Uranus: Obsessive Pluto wants to put Uranus in their place, keep them in a cage, while Uranus fights everything that prevents them from doing what they want. It can get ugly. Like a man with a gun and a wild animal that can attack you or run away, you may never know what to expect from this scenario.
Sun, Mercury, Venus, Mars square Neptune.
A general description of someone’s planet squaring the other person’s Neptune: Neptune may view the other person as ideal despite their imperfections and often have a false idea of them. They can also have hopes and expectations that won’t be met.
Mercury-Neptune: Mercury can be as manipulative as they want, tell as many lies as they want because they know Neptune is vulnerable and will trust them.
Mars square Neptune: They can be prone to doing bad things together, substance abuse for example. No one judges anyone here, you can do whatever you weren’t allowed to do, hedonism at its fulled. There may be no control, no realization that something is wrong.
Saturn square Sun, Mercury, Mars.
Saturn may view the other person as immature, lacking ambition, they may refuse to rely on them or trust them with important decisions.
Mars in the other person’s 4th or 7th:
Mars in 4th: there can be domestic fights.
Mars in 7th: Bringing your own anger and frustrations onto the other person, trying to be in control of everything in the relationship.
Pluto in any of the other person’s houses can be obsessed, controlling over that part of the other person’s life.
Juno square Saturn, Sun, Venus:
Juno may not see the other person as someone they’d want to have as a long-term partner.
Saturn may not be comitted long-term to Juno. They may not be ready for marriage.
Past trauma will be a topic in the relationship, healing may be hard to do.
