So, I wasn't gonna respond to this, but I remember seeing you saying something similarly in the past on your other blog, and I have some long-ass draft from that previous time, so here you go. Here is that draft with zero proofreading. Enjoy:
I'm going to out-woke you here cause tf are you talking about...? Memorializing ur tags (from your first post though it doesn't matter cause you wanna say that in the post itself this time??) below btw:
I get this position to an extent because, yeah, some people "feminizing" male characters can do it in a way that's kind of "that's not". But I think you bite yourself in the ass while making this take.
In your tags you insinuate that just calling him "their wife" MEANS anything. It’s nothing but just an often feminine gendered label for someone you marry. A wife can be anyone. And can say nothing about a person’s role in a marriage. You say things like him being a wife means a person expects him to do housework. What about being a wife to someone means doing laundry, staying home, or cooking for you? Why can't being a wife mean he continues to roof houses for a living? Why can't that mean he is or isn't spoiled? Why does he or does he not have to be a husband for any of the same to apply? You acknowledge that husbands can be “soft” and whatnot but why do you assume someone wants Darry to be soft at all in the role as wife? Yk what: Now he’s my wife by title while staying the the same “masculine” character as in canon. Now what?
And why does the title "wife" mean a character/person must be a woman in any way? Why would it mean Darry has to identify with womanhood or femininity to be deemed it at all? Why must he be trans fem or trans at all? Can masculine men/people, cis or otherwise, not go by the title of wife?
It’s also a silly position when the people you are getting upset with are almost all going to be queer people themselves. Do you think a cishet man wants to make the Darrel Curtis Jr. their wife? Do you think a cishet woman wants to make the Darrel Curtis Jr. their wife?
No one is holding a gun to your head telling you whether you have to consider him a wife or a husband. This is such a ridiculous thing to treat with such seriousness in general. But in your attempt to go far left, you ended up going right in all your assumptions, and I need you to know that.