*~Stars of Gold

I draw stuff sometimes.

[theconcealedweapon]

[dandyraccoonbeast]

"People don't want to work" I think you'll find it's that companies don't want to pay them

[elladobdelapupa]

[undothedamage-blog]

WOW.

Truer words were never spoken.

[autumngracy]

Cool lol my entire family does this to me :) :)

[scriptshrink]

“So is [an abuser] lying when he says he loves you? No, usually not. Most of my clients do feel a powerful sensation inside that they call love. For many of them it is the only kind of feeling toward a female partner that they have ever had, so they have no way of knowing that it isn’t love. When an abusive man feels the powerful stirring inside that other people call love, he is probably feeling:

The desire to have you devote your life to keeping him happy with no outside interference

The desire to have sexual access

The desire to impress others by having you be his partner

The desire to possess and control you

These desires are important aspects of what romantic love means to him. He may well be capable of feeling genuine love for you, but first he will have to dramatically reorient his outlook in order to separate abusive and possessive desires from true caring, and become able to really see you.

The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were driven by the depths of their loving feelings. The news media regrettably often accepts the aggressors’ view of these acts, describing them as “crimes of passion.” But what could more thoroughly prove that a man did not love his partner? If a mother were to kill one of her children, would we ever accept the claim that she did it because she was overwhelmed by how much she cared? Not for an instant. Nor should we.

Genuine love means respecting the humanity of the other person, wanting what is best for him or her, and supporting the other person’s self-esteem and independence. This kind of love is incompatible with abuse and coercion.”

- Lundy Bancroft, “Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men.”

[The Shrink would like to take a moment to say that not all abusers are men, and not all victims/survivors of abuse are women.]

[iamatinyowl]

“An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he’s not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.”

— Lundy Bancroft

[invisible-pink-toast]

Saw that bullshit quote out of When Harry Met Sally about how men and women can’t be friends and it made me mad enough to do this: 

You realise of course that we could never be friends.

Why not?

What I’m saying is - and this is not a come-on 

in any way, shape or form -

is that men and women can’t be friends 

because the sex part always gets in the way.

That’s not true. 

I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.

No you don’t.

Yes I do.

No you don’t.

Yes I do.

You only think you do.

You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?

No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.

They do not.

Do too.

They do not.

Do too.

How do you know?

Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. 

He always wants to have sex with her.

So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?

No. You pretty much want to nail ‘em too.

What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU?

Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there 

so the friendship is ultimately doomed 

and that is the end of the story.

Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.

I guess not.

Shout out to all the amazing m/f friendships in media, this is just a small handful of some of my favourites. 

[bob-belcher]

The Princess Bride (1987), dir. Rob Reiner

[angel-kiyoss]

Octopus filmed changing colours while sleeping.

[fierceawakening]

i wonder what they are dreaming about

[plum-soup]

Changing colors duh

[max1461]

What’s really cool about this is that cephalopod (octopus, squid, etc.) intelligence evolved completely separately from intelligence in tetrapods (which includes primates, dolphins, crows… basically any other intelligent animals you can think of). Cephalopods are very, very far away from us on the tree of life. For context, you and a starfish are more closely related than you and an octopus. The last common ancestor of humans and cephalopods was the so-called Urbilaterian, the hypothetical first animal with a left-right symmetric body. This animal almost certainly had, at most, an extremely simple nervous system, without anything resembling a brain.

All this is to say that the fact that this octopus appears to be dreaming means one of two things. Either

a) dreaming is a very, very old thing indeed, going directly back to the Urbilaterian. This would mean that almost every animal, from insects to starfish to sea slugs to newts, is likely to have the ability to dream in some capacity or another (unless they have specifically lost it by evolutionary simplification).

or

b) dreaming evolved entirely independently in cephalopods when they developed greater intelligence. This would suggest, at least, that there’s something very fundamental about dreaming related to intelligence itself, which causes it to emerge independently when sufficient intelligence arises.

Needless to say, either of these outcomes would be really very cool.

[homunculus-argument]

I will not elaborate.

[digivolvin]

elizabeth swan and will turner are actually SO romance in the first movie and not enough people acknowledged this because the early 2000s were the age of the edgelords who only valued jack sparrow’s moral ambiguity and that is the TRUTH

[digivolvin]

the part where she’s like “how many times do i have to tell you to call me elizabeth” and he shyly says “once more, miss swann” and once she walks away he gazes adoringly after her and whispers “elizabeth” to himself like he’s unworthy of it

[digivolvin]

then when he’s patching up the cut on her hand and she flinches and he says “i know, blacksmith’s hands… they’re rough” because he thinks that’s what’s bothering her HE KNOWS HE’S NOT WORTHY OF HER!!! THAT’S THE PINING I’M TALKING ABOUT BINCH!!! I DON’T ACCEPT LESS!!!!

[digivolvin]

he has like 10 chances to confess his love to her but waits until he’s dressed like this to do it: 

my man knows 1) the importance of a good outfit when shooting your shot 2) how to ACCESSORIZE. take NOTES.

[thedevilsofficialblog]

That’s how I would dress if I was gonna confess my undying love to Kiera knightley

[grizguy]

Witch Bunny

[sosuperawesome]

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[natasailincic]

My skin. Watercolour.

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[aidashakur]

[mrspider-deactivated20221213]

ngl people coming w u so they can keep talking to u while ur running errands or just chillin in ur room while ur cleaning… love that kind of love

[frogitivity2]

Ready to start?

Yes No

[scribefindegil]

And speaking of pronouns, flat-out my favorite part of the LOTR Appendices is when it’s revealed that the Gondorian dialect of the Common Speech differentiates between formal and informal second-person pronouns but the distinction’s been lost in the Hobbit’s dialect, so Pippin’s blithely been using familiar terms of address with the Lord of the City, and thus helps to explain both why the Gondorians are so ready to assume he’s a prince and why Denethor finds him so amusing to have around.

[hippity-hoppity-brigade]

not what i expected from a post that began with “speaking of pronouns,” but an a++ show of the versatility and surprise daily available on tumblr dot com

[bigbigtruck]

are you telling me Pippin says “y’all”

[gendersnaps]

“can you pass the mead fam”