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[heateron]

every time someone takes a photo of me and shows it to me it’s like. there’s no way i look like that i will kill myself

[didthekingdieyet]

september 8, 2022

YES SHE DID

[oldwww]

[bleedingthroughteeth]

Pink 2000s tech

[gingerbreadfrosting]

[cozy-vibess]

Autumn🤍

[gateway-2000-deactivated2025111]

[notabiologist]

botanical garden

[lowpolyanimals]

Tails from Sonic R

[estrangedreality]

[weird-dreamz]

[fandomsandfeminism]

Just a reminder that we aren't gatekeeping Pride.

I know it's only April, but I just saw such a rancid take on Tiktok (and the person blocked me, woo!) That I need to vent somewhere.

The argument went "bi/pan/queer people with cishet partners shouldn't bring those partners into queer spaces/Pride because it makes those spaces unsafe for lgbt folks."

Which is a frankly awful take for many reasons.

First of all "makes a space unsafe" is not an identity. It is a behavior. And ANYONE who is making those spaces unsafe, regardless of their identity, *shouldn't be there.* Whether they are a cishet man or a lesbian, if you are making people unsafe, you shouldn't be there.

Secondly, it's blatantly unenforceable. You can't clock someone's identity at the door. You don't know if they are bi or trans or nonbinary. And no one should have to out themselves to a bouncer.

As a caveat to this, you also don't ever know *why* someone might bring their cishet partner to pride. Whether that's because this is an important part of their life they want to share with their partner, or they are disabled and need help managing their meds or mobility aides, or the partner is a designated driver. You just don't know. So even if you did know they were cishet, maybe they have a "good reason" for being there.

So between it not solving an actual problem to not being enforceable, all this discourse does is create an EXTREMELY hostile environment for, well, bi/pan/queer folks especially. Always. We always get targeted for this kind of stuff.

But also anyone who might worry that *they* aren't queer enough or not look queer enough. Trans folks who haven't socially transitioned, non-binary folks who aren't androgynous enough, ace and aro folks, people who are newly out- they see this rhetoric and think "Oh no. What is someone sees me and thinks I'm cishet? What if someone tells me I can't be there? What if I don't really belong?"

So we aren't doing it. It's shitty snd hostile and biphobic and exclusionary.

Everyone can come to pride.

Except cops.

Fuck cops.

[fairycosmos]

spending too much time alone is a scam because i start to think i understand things to an extent but as soon as i go back into the world i feel 14 

[godstiel]

you can see any movie for free in five minutes total. Its called wikipedia.com

[pointnclick]

whenever i see a noir detective in the rain i’m like yeah man… that’s exactly where you’re supposed to be

[hopelessandromanticc]

I am deceased.

[testosteronebutch-moved-deactiv]

I think a lot about how, with trans people becoming more accepted and trans healthcare becoming more widely available, there are going to be a lot more detrans people in the future simply because the number of trans people is going to increase. And like, I really hope we figure out a better way to deal with detrans people within the LGBT community because the amount of assumptions people make about me and the shit that gets thrown at me for stating that I detransitioned?? Like, some people regretting their decision is always gonna be a part of the outcome when you’re able to make irreversible changes to your body??? We’re gonna have to deal with that in a constructive way, rather than just lashing out and saying you’d never detransition??? ‘Cause it fucking happens sometimes.

[3liza]

agree with all this AND want to add that the narrative in the online queer scene of "u can do anything for any reason with your gender and change your name as many times as you want" is actually very much in line with how detransition should be viewed which is that if you feel like transitioning for a period of time and then detransitioning or transitioning again then that's not weird or degenerate or destructive it's just what was best for you or your circumstances at the time and also isn't anyone's business. this is how i viewed detransition before i got involved in the internet discourse about it and know several elder queers irl who were "just a man for a while" or "just a woman for a while" and then decided later to do something else. and it's just not a big deal.