So itās National Autism Awareness Month and in the spirit of I thought I would put together a collection of some of my and my wifeās autistic female faves from fiction. (Weāre both on the spectrum and we both love finding characters who are too.) Some are ones Iāve seen around these parts before; weāll be glad to give you receipts for all of them.
Bennett Halverson (Summer Glau, Dollhouse) ā¢ Mako Mori (Rinko Kikuchi, Pacific Rim) ā¢ Jillian Holtzmann (Kate McKinnon, Ghostbusters) ā¢ Daisy Johnson (Chloe Bennet, Agents of SHIELD)
Misty Knight (Simone Missick, Luke Cage/Defenders) ā¢ The Dag (Abbey Lee, Mad Max: Fury Road) ā¢ Luna Lovegood (Evanna Lynch, Harry Potter) ā¢ Sansa Stark (Sophie Turner, Game of Thrones)
Oh, my God, it feels like the first days of the war all over again. Bombing everywhere in Gaza right now. It you scroll past this without sharing, please question your humanity.
I know we saw the tarot reading in the trailer, but watching it play through had me thinking about the rest of the season. Like, everything sounds so doom and gloom when Temperance is telling them; betray, demise, reek havoc. You would think Horseshoe bays about to enter ran apocalyptic state lol
See below for my mad rambling predictions because there's no way she's being 100% truthful
Must admit, I looked up tarot cards and they are quite interesting. Depending on which way up they are changes their meaning. Upright is good and upside down is not so good. Their meanings are also pretty inline with the card, so we all know the death card doesn't always mean death, it could be upright; end of cycle, beginnings or change. If its upside down; fear of change, holding on or stagnation
No doubt i am totally wrong but i had fun thinking this up anyway lol. Let me know if you can think up better meanings for the cards :) And on to it;
One of you will be the others demise
The Card: The Pact, upside down so could be a broken promise
My Bet: Bess or George. Technically there are 7 souls in the room (not counting Temperance who's dealing the cards) and here's hoping the Drew Crew (Including honorary member Ryan) don't die.... so Odette. Maybe Bess is the lynch pin in freeing George, or maybe it's just George surviving. Either way. (Have either of these two made a promise to Odette or someone else?)
One of you will betray your true love
The Card: The Widow, upright so could be a new beginning
My Bet: Nick. We haven't really seen it, but I'm sure Nick would move heaven and earth to help George and with her shortened lifespan. Maybe a dangerous situation or two, or just going against her wishes either way could totally see one of his choices going against what George wants to evict Odette.
One of you will lose her heart (your heart?)
The Card: The Griffin, upside down so weakness / insecurity
My Bet: Ace. At first it sounded like this was aimed at one of the girls... and losing your heart after the murdered guy physically lost his, suuper creepy. This feels super Nace, because the card is upside down maybe Ace will feel like Nancy isnāt in to him. Read somewhere that they are pushing the love triangle this season (not really looking forward to that, but thatās another story) so maybe he will be pining. Either way looks like theres angst on the horizon and Iām so keen for that!!
One of you will reek havoc on this town
The Card: The Tempest (Fun fact, theres a Temperance Tarot Card), Still not sure about this card, its Upright so its a good thing. Storms reek destruction, so a positive on that could be change. Or as per the Temperance card; middle path, finding meanings and patience.
My Bet: Bess or George. This card sounds extremely messy, but its right side up so it should be positive. Could be George if she is looking into how to evict Odette or i feel like this one is Bess. Bess on some kind of quest for truth and answers, could be Marvin related, could be something else. But she will ruffle some feathers and stir up the dust looking for answers.
One of you will forsake what is dearest to you
The Card: The Trove, Upside down so could be clinging to control or bad luck
My Bet: Ryan. At first glance it sound like money, Ryan sure does value it and we know with Nancy disposing of the Hudson empire he is about to lose it but that feels too obvious and i hope Ryan has something he values more than that (*Cough* Nancy). I feel like there's going to be some big lead up to taking down Temperance and at some point Ryan will give up his right to Nancy so she can get through whatever the hold up is. As per the card, Ryan will feel like he has no control, perhaps her life is in danger or IDK
And only one of you will fulfill your destiny and that one will cause the rest to fall
The Card: We didn't see this one, and its the only one we never saw. The rest of the cards follow a pattern so unless this one deviates it should be upright. Which means its positive despite the negative spin Temperance threw on it.
My Bet: Obviously Nancy, They left no room for interpretation there and it plays into Nancy's fear of hurting her friends. Again this card should be positive, and however the Drew Crew fall hopefully its something simple like they fall asleep so Nancy can beat Temperance or something
And OMG that's it. So excited to see what they get up to this season. Thanks for reading!!!
Do any of u have decent recipes that are like 5 ingredients (not including spices) and take 45 mins or less to prepare i gotta stop eating sandwiches for dinner
ignore the title of this google doc because it's a long story but it's a really solid recipe for southwest chicken alfredo
this is a vegetarian potato curry recipe that's about 75% spices; once you get the potatoes in there you can really do whatever you want with it
this is literally just pasta, broccoli, and cheese babey and you can live off that shit for DAYS it makes such a big portion
bro this spinach/pesto/3 cheese flatbread is so fucking tasty bro
also you can make the flatbread yourself it's super quick!!
oh hey I'm eating this white chickpea chili right now, much like the curry it's mostly spices and you can do p much do whatever you want with it
don't let the name fool you these potatoes are delicious any time. not just breakfast.
this is slightly more than five ingredient when you add them together but if you have time and really wanna fuckin treat yourself I recommend these chicken strips + this cornbread + either these potatoes or these buttered veggies on the side.
this recipe for gogumabap (sweet potato and rice) saved my life when i couldn't eat hardly anything for a long time. the recipe itself calls for a heavy bottomed pot but you can absolutely use a rice cooker and put the rice and diced sweet potato in together and just let the machine do its thing
Time for me to beat my little clown drum again for Indian-ish by Priya Krishna, aka The Easiest Recipes I Have Ever Fucking Made. Dal that takes 15 minutes. Easy aloo gobhi. Easy saag feta. Buy. Cook. Eat.
I've made steak tacos/quesadillas (depends on what you want to call them) that is very simple and easy.
Just marinate sliced/diced steak in teriyaki sauce for at least 30 minutes, cook the steak to your preference, and add it to a tortilla with any fixins you like. I usually use cheese (duh), sour cream, grilled onions (that I grill with the steak), and some garlic aioli when I'm feeling fancy. You can also season how you want, I just don't tend to since the teriyaki is flavorful enough on it's own and I don't like too much flavor at once if I can help it. I also like to reduce the left over teriyaki sauce/steak juice into a thicker sauce to add to the taco.
You also don't need it to be steak, it can be anything really. Chicken, pork, tofu, mushrooms... the possibilities are endless. I've made it with shredded chicken for my mom, since she doesn't like steak.
because sometimes there are invisible tests and invisible rules and you're just supposed to ... know the rule. someone you thought of as a friend asks you for book recommendations, so you give her a list of like 30 books, each with a brief blurb and why you like it. later, you find out she screenshotted the list and send it out to a group chat with the note: what an absolute freak can you believe this. you saw the responses: emojis where people are rolling over laughing. too much and obsessive and actually kind of creepy in the comments. you thought you'd been doing the right thing. she'd asked, right? an invisible rule: this is what happens when you get too excited.
you aren't supposed to laugh at your own jokes, so you don't, but then you're too serious. you're not supposed to be too loud, but then people say you're too quiet. you aren't supposed to get passionate about things, but then you're shy, boring. you aren't supposed to talk too much, but then people are mad when you're not good at replying.
you fold yourself into a prettier paper crane. since you never know what is "selfish" and what is "charity," you give yourself over, fully. you'd rather be empty and over-generous - you'd rather eat your own boundaries than have even one person believe that you're mean. since you don't know what the thing is that will make them hate you, you simply scrub yourself clean of any form of roughness. if you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.
don't fuck up. they're all testing you, always. they're tolerating you. whatever secret club happened, over a summer somewhere - during some activity you didn't get to attend - everyone else just... figured it out. like they got some kind of award or examination that allowed them to know how-to-be-normal. how to fit. and for the rest of your life, you've been playing catch-up. you've been trying to prove that - haha! you get it! that the joke they're telling, the people they are, the manual they got- yeah, you've totally read it.
if you can just divide yourself in two - the lovable one, and the one that is you - you can do this. you can walk the line. they can laugh and accept you. if you are always-balanced, never burdensome, a delight to have in class, champagne and glittering and never gawky or florescent or god-forbid cringe: you can get away with it.
you stare at your therapist, whom you can make jokes with, and who laughs at your jokes, because you are so fucking good at people-pleasing. you smile at her, and she asks you how you're doing, and you automatically say i'm good, thanks, how are you? while the answer swims somewhere in your little lizard brain:
how long have you been doing this now? mastering the art of your body and mind like you're piloting a puppet. has it worked? what do you mean that all you feel is... just exhausted. pick yourself up, the tightrope has no net. after all, you're cheating, somehow, but nobody seems to know you actually flunked the test. it's working!
When I was younger and more abled, I was so fucking on board with the fantasy genreās subversion of traditional femininity. We werenāt just fainting maidens locked up in towers; we could do anything men could do, be as strong or as physical or as violent. I got into western martial arts and learned to fight with a rapier, fell in love with the longsword.
But since Iāve gotten too disabled to fight anymore, Iā¦ find myself coming back to that maiden in a tower. Itās that funny thing, where subverting femininity is powerful for the people who have always been forced into itā¦ but for the people who have always been excluded, the powerful thing can be embracing it.
As Iām disabled, as I say to groups of friends,Ā āI canāt walk that far,ā as Iām in too much pain to keep partying, I find myself worrying: Iām boring, too quiet, too stationary, irrelevant. The message sent to the disabled is: Youāre out of the narrative, youāre secondary, youāre a burden.
The remarkable thing about the maiden in her tower is not her immobility; itās common for disabled people to be abandoned, set adrift, waiting at bus stops or watching out the windows, forgotten in institutions or stranded in our houses. The remarkable thing is that sheās like a beacon, turning her tower into a lighthouse; people want to come to her, sheās important, she inspires through her appearance and words and craftwork. Ā In medieval romances she gives gifts, write letters, sends messengers, and summons lovers; she plays chess, commissions ballads, composes music, commands knights. She is her householdās moral centre in a castle under siege. She is a castle unto herself, and the integrity of her body matters.
That can be so revolutionary to those of us stuck in our towers who fall prey to thinking: Nobody would want to visit; nobody would want to listen; nobody would want to stay.
#itās so so important to remember that representation is not one-size-fits-all#what is empowering to one person might be exhausting and oppressive to someone else#some people need stories about having the strength to save themselves#some people need stories about being considered worthy of being saved#some people need inspiration for their independence while others need validation that they donāt have to be able to do everything themselves#before you lash out against something PLEASE stop to consider:#is this inadequate and/or damaging representation?#or is it just something I donāt personally relate to?Ā [X]
Itās been half a decade and I still havenāt found an articulation of the complexity of ārepresentationā as concisely and precisely mindblowing as @hungrylikethewolfieās here.
anthony bridgerton is my favorite brand of male character. heās a whore with a tragic past and a fear of love. his crimes? being sexy and making terrible choices. and to top it off heās got eldest sibling disorder. heās literally perfect.
Guys. Padme isnāt Ā«I can fix himĀ» about Anakin. She saw Anakinās flaws, hurt and trauma, and loved him anyway because she knew he was a good and loving person.
I think what tcw got wrong about Anakin, and why I can never fully immerse myself in the story no matter how much I love the series, is that Anakin isnāt some jock/popular-aligned/macho-light w/ anger issues/possessive of his girl/action hero/stoic/terminator with a lightsaber they portray him as. When they fucked up his face I knew I wasnāt going to like it.Ā
Anakin is this incredibly pretty, desperate-to-please-but-not-wanting-to show-it, traumatized āmamaās boyā with a passionate/evocative manner of displaying his emotions (partly due to said trauma) and a penchant of sticking his foot in his mouth and jumping the gun.
Heās a lover and a fighter. Heās a friend and a son and and husband and a father, and each of those things deeply.
The tragedy of Anakin Skywalker is how all the beauty and potential and ways he touched the world around him and would touch it was consumed and destroyed by the worst parts of his life, by the fears and anger he (thought) he had no resources/frame of reference to assuage. His arrogance is thin veneer for his want to please, to be worth something, to be the one. Yet he resents the effort of portraying himself as such, (because why canāt he just be enough, be valued on his own?āĀ and it fucks him over many times.
Also, his relationship with Padme was the sweetest and healthiest thing he had in his entire life, (it can be argued his and Obi-Wanās relationship was much more ātoxicā than his and Padmeās) he and Padme both made their choice and chose each other, they were happy together and loved each other. Yes, it sounds cheesy and sappy, but it true, and I donāt understand why people donāt like/wonāt admit it.Ā
Also, he was a fucking slave. That accounts for so much of him, and people seem to always forget that about him. The beginning years of his life were spent being owned by someone else, and all his life he was fighting to break free of that. Only for his twilight years to be spent being owned by someone else also.Ā
He made the choices, but he was also truly thrown an extremely shit hand.Ā
Growing up with adhd/autism is constantly fluctuating between being too much and not enough for people like. Okay people have told me I'm annoying when I talk too much. But how much is too much? Because my normal is "too much" apparently. I'm just not going to talk at all and let them set the pace. Okay now everyone's saying "you're so quiet". Now I'm the weird quiet one who never talks. Fuck. But now how do I strike up a conversation? It's been too long without talking to them to get to know each other. I'm just going to wait for them to talk to me and then I can ask questions from there. Yay! They're asking me about myself! Wait. I said something wrong and they're not talking to me anymore. Fuck. *new person comes along* Okay. Don't talk too much and also don't talk too little and don't reveal too much about yourself because they'll think you're weird and stop talking to you and also-
So itās National Autism Awareness Month and in the spirit of I thought I would put together a collection of some of my and my wifeās autistic female faves from fiction. (Weāre both on the spectrum and we both love finding characters who are too.) Some are ones Iāve seen around these parts before; weāll be glad to give you receipts for all of them.
Bennett Halverson (Summer Glau, Dollhouse) ā¢ Mako Mori (Rinko Kikuchi, Pacific Rim) ā¢ Jillian Holtzmann (Kate McKinnon, Ghostbusters) ā¢ Daisy Johnson (Chloe Bennet, Agents of SHIELD)
Misty Knight (Simone Missick, Luke Cage/Defenders) ā¢ The Dag (Abbey Lee, Mad Max: Fury Road) ā¢ Luna Lovegood (Evanna Lynch, Harry Potter) ā¢ Sansa Stark (Sophie Turner, Game of Thrones)
