i think i make some good points so keep reading if you want to
2x11 spoilers?
a very large theme of ted lasso is that there's a source* to everyone's behavior.
* a past experience, a trauma, a betrayal
i think the situation of nate is an interesting one.
in earlier seasons we've seen shitty behavior resolved fairly quickly (or at least with enough episodes available that we aren't left on cliffhangers of said behavior)
• jaime tartt's bullying, general selfishness, forgiven through actions of teamwork, of apologies, of self-improvement, of knowing of his father's abuse
• rebecca welton's intentional manipulation, forgiven through her guilt, her confession to ted, her apology to higgins, her self-improvement, the knowledge of her ex-husband's abuse
and now nate is going through his own arc, his being delayed by the fact that he was bullied into silence most, if not all, of his life.
his arc is out of order, compared to the previous two characters.
instead of
1) bad action(s)
2) viewers are informed of character's trauma (familial abuse)
3) redemption
nate is displaying
1) viewers are informed of character's trauma (familial, peer abuse)
2) bad action(s)
3) ?
this differing sequence of events leads viewers to become defensive. we've already seen his abuse, some have forgotten about it, and then we are all shown how abuse can fester negatively in social situations. nate doesn't have a redemption yet, so it is easy to hate his character.
BUT if ted lasso has taught me anything, it is to be patient with those who are hurting.
to be curious (why is nate doing this?)
not judgmental (nate is a raging piece of shit i hope he dies)
i'm not saying to forgive him. i am not saying nate's actions are in any way okay.
i am saying that his mistreatment is coming from a place of hurt, and he has not yet been given the time to redeem himself and take accountability.
i think this show is testing its viewers in quite a brilliant way
can we apply ted's lasso's themes to the way we react to nate's inappropriate betrayal? or will we immediately lash out against nate?
it is not my intention to be condescending, i just found the reaction to 2x11 ironic considering what this show has presented.















