Are you trans male to female?
i identify as queer and go by she / they
theres a lot of reasons i dont personally identify with the “trans” archetype or identifier for myself. i feel like in a lot of ways it enforces a binary between “male” and “female” and it brings to mind this concept of an internal struggle and an external journey from one to the other and that is not me
the biggest factor for me in this discovery of identity has been the realization that i can do or be whatever i please and along with that has come a deconstruction of the roles / norms / constructs that make up what “gender” is currently
you have to navigate between this concept that nothing (none of the behaviors or clothes or personalities etc) we assign to any gender is inherent while still being in a society that is so heavily structured around this idea of a strict binary. its something that is confusing to navigate and hard to navigate but i feel like as a “queer girl” i can decide for myself what is feminine and girly and beautiful and ~me~ and i sometimes find solace in that fact that maybe it is all made up and most people just havent learned that yet
thats where i am at right now