Mommying one day at a time

Mom of two boys and prospective foster family. We spend our days in a horse barn or out on adventures!

[desertlady-blog1]

Aren’t people who get married embarrassed at their wedding? I would be so embarrassed at everyone looking at me and listening to me talk about how much I love the other person. I’m gonna turn to them and say why don’t you all mind your own business

[probablynearthefood]

True story I have severe social anxiety and I can only remember about 5 seconds of my wedding ceremony (maybe 10 minutes long) and about 5 minutes total of the reception (about 2 hours long). We planned it so short to accommodate my hatred of being stared at, and yet here we are anyway, me with no memory. My brain blotted it all right the fuck out.

[fartgoblin]

97% of my wedding photos are of me bright red and splotchy because of all the people staring at me.

[bujnik]

This is why we got married alone. Our witnesses didn’t even know us and the whole process took 20 minutes. Then we went out for coffee and laughed about how awesome it was and everyone is doing it wrong.

I also had a really nice maple walnut blondie.

[fosternwa]

This is really true for me to. We did not write our own vows or do much of anything personalized at all during our wedding, because the significance of it would be completely overshadowed by my hatred for talking about our relationship in front of 100 people.

[violent-violence-deactivated202]

The email I sent to my brother (our officiant) the day that Paul and I got married:

I don’t know how you want to start things, if you have some general “we are gathered here today” stuff, but we can’t think of ANYTHING. It took us forever to find anything that wasn’t total cheese and sweetener. So you do the first part however you want, as long as it’s not “we are gathered here today”. 

Then go into the ring exchange stuff and have us repeat this:

I, Paul, choose you, Erin, as my best friend for life, as my soulmate and companion, to be my wife, my partner, my friend, my confidant, my soulmate.

I, Erin, choose you, Paul, as my best friend for life, as my soulmate and companion, to be my husband, my partner, my friend, my confidant, my soulmate.

Then:

Do you, Paul, take Erin to be your wife?

Do you, Erin, take Paul to be your husband?

I assume we’ll both say yes.

I now pronounce you husband and wife, kiss the bride, blah blah. 

[barnbabiesmama]

Ours was very similar. Courthouse. Few friends and family. Like a Wednesday afternoon. Didn't do ring exchange bc we were already wearing them (so we didn't lose them) after it was all official everyone went out to lunch without us. We went home and went about our day.

[on-the-precipice]

Guys. If you’re considering becoming a foster parent and you’re looking for resources that will help you understand the background from which your future foster children might come, read this. Where there is poverty, there is foster care.

This non-fiction book chronicles several low/no-income families in Milwaukee as they try to secure housing. One woman profiled in the book had five children, three of which were lost to the child welfare system. And I say “lost” because she had no clue what had happened to them; she was constantly scrambling for housing and food and trying to reinstate her welfare benefits (after the appointment notices were sent to old addresses) and she lost track of the children’s cases. Was bewildered and exhausted and embarrassed. And she kept getting evicted, on one occasion because she had to call 911 for her son’s asthma attack, which created a “nuisance condition” that the landlord was required to “abate.” The young son also threw a toy out of the second-story window, and the baby-sitter (the child’s aunt) asked a neighbor for marijuana. Like that, they had to be out within 24 hours.

Apparently, even though family status is legally-protected for housing, landlords of low-income properties often reject adults with children because, among other things, kids have a bad habit of testing positive for lead exposure. 😑

Reading this book was like watching a car wreck–I couldn’t look away even as it was making me physically ill to witness. I’m glad that New York City has stronger tenant-protection laws; if people were going to be evicted for children throwing toys out the window, @fosterhood and Jacket would have been kicked out. (Then again, she is paying a lot more than the families in this book.)

Also, isn’t the cover art brilliant?

I also recommend Random Family by Adrian Nicole LeBlanc.

[violent-violence-deactivated202]

@livewhitediepurple

[barnbabiesmama]

Reblogging to check the library later. Any other book suggestions?

[barnbabiesmama]

Omg the fireworks out here! It's like a warzone! Seriously, pops and bombs and whatever since 930am. Didn't stop til 12am last night. Constant firecrackers. The kids didn't nap and I'll guess they aren't going to be sleeping for a while. I miss WI

[rothjuje]

I don’t know how to respond to comments all fancy-like, my apologies ;-)

I didn’t think breastmilk from an actual breast was appropriate or allowed, but I assumed breastmilk was.

Wrong.

The liability is huge. If the baby gets sick while drinking your breastmilk, you can go to jail.

Anyway. It’s a well-debated topic amongst foster care/adoption forums. Some moms have a “don’t ask, don’t tell” stance. One of those moms passed an illness through her breastmilk and had all her fosters taken away. Stupid. Always ask, always tell in foster care.

[barnbabiesmama]

I figured as much. I'll have to find out what the new hospital's policy is for donations...

[barnbabiesmama]

Ha! Cooper is our last name! Parker and Sawyer are also on my list! Both don't roll off the tongue with Cooper though. I love Owen! I like lincoln too, but I think it has too much significance in our state. Thanks!

[barnbabiesmama]

Names.....

Alright @myquiverfullofarrows aaaaaand go! Boy names. We have a Carter and a Hudson. Belly baby is also a boy (although this is the first time I don't have a clear cut whoa! That's a boy ultrasound pic) I like names that cannot be shortened. Ex: I'm not into Daniel that can be called Dan or Danny. I'll take any suggestions from anyone. My husband is throwing out non serious names (at least i hope he's not serious) like Oswald. I really like Graham. My gma is called Gram and I think that would be fun. Also, he could be my little graham cracker... which makes me laugh! We called Hudson huddy buddy for his whole 1st year.

[barnbabiesmama]

The more I think about this right side pain the more I think it's my appendix. It's been bothering me for almost two weeks though so I'd be dead by now right? No fever but my pukeyness that let up a little is back in full effect. And I'm so damn uncomfortable. Like 7 pillows propping me up and another 3 holding my legs up. Ughhhhhhhh

[mommacomms]

So I’m looking at rear-facing car seats after looking at my state’s laws (rear-facing until one year and over twenty pounds), and I’m REALLY overwhelmed with all the brands and features and what-nots. Any mamas have suggestions for me? I’m considering rear-facing until two or older, if that helps any.

[drinkingfor3-deactivated2018011]

We have the same problem. RT for help!

[barnbabiesmama]

Loved my graco my ride 65 for rear facing. Hated it for forward facing (hard to tighten, which after reading reviews, seems to be a common graco convertible seat problem)

My advice: CUP HOLDERS! Do not buy a seat without cup holders! It will make you sad!

Also, go somewhere you can install it in your car before buying. Some just do not fit right in your car. Babies r us is really helpful for that

[barnbabiesmama]

Got fitted for a maternity support belt today.. left it at the store bc I feel like my woven wraps will do the same thing. Week of crazy pain on my right side. Last night it woke me up a LOT! Went in for the 2nd time this week. Baby's heartbeat is still holding strong in the 150s. They say my ligaments on the right side have stretched too much too fast. Hubs is worried it's my appendix and it's gonna affect our our trip to wi. He woke up with the kids this morning and fed them while I bathed and cried. And played while I went to the dr and picked up another prescription anti nausea med. He's really been helpful lately and it's so nice.

[barnbabiesmama]

Omg this mac and cheese needs to cook faster so I can go lay down!!

[makesongsnotmistakes]

[howlinattheimpala]

[iwasrorya-deactivated20130504]

What the… but… how… wha…. how did this person…. I…

[magick-missile]

[buttchair]

i just wrote -2-2x= like 75 times on a paper oh god

i filled up both sides

[astroidbelt-moved]

what just happened

[wendy-darling-forever]

this makes me uncomfortable, 

[kateinator]

then do =x+2+ for the next part

[fraud-monet]

for “or blow me a kiss, and that’s lucky too” it’s =+1=+1

[sailorkitkat]

What is this sorcery?!?!

[floretsilva]

this is my favorite post on tumblr

the ending is: 12=x1=

[ollieofthebeholder]

So I just worked out the whole song, and here you go:

- 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + - 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + = + 1 = + 1

- 7 2 + 7 = x + 2 + = 2 + 2 1 = x + 2 +

- 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + - 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + - 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + - 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 +

- 7 2 + 7 = x + 2 +

- 7 2 + 7 = x + 2 + = 7 7 2 + = x + 2 + = x - 7 - 2

- 2 - 2 x = = x + 2 + = x + 2 1 = x + 2 + 1 2 = x 1 =

[finaltennessee]

My mind just broke

[kiarabearaa]

*writes furiously*

Mom: Are you writing an essay?

Me: Hm? Wha-oh yeah. An essay. Definitely. 

[barnbabiesmama]

On a related note... There's a woman looking to rehome newborn kittens after the mom has completely abandoned them and she can't bottle feed them.. I may have sent the info to my husband. He's being so weird about kittens these days. There's one that was found in the yard at his job that he bottle feeds during his lunch and takes selfies with. Weirdo

[barnbabiesmama]

Thought I heard voices outside

Which is weird because our road is dead after 7. Especially on rainy days, which it is. I'm alone with the kids and there's a HUGE meth problem in our town. Which has turned into a rather large home invasion/robbery problem. Nope just my cat wheezing in her sleep. Think it's time for the vet for her. I've tried 3 different foods since Christmas with an entire bag of food mixed transition to new food each time. She's still puking like a fool. But she's at least visible now so that's nice

[barnbabiesmama]

@theshadlekoffs can you please do this? It's the only logical step after pony tails in the tail! Please! My dogs don't have enough hair I don't think.

[barnbabiesmama]

Rosary gender predictor

Well I did that this weekend too. And didn't burst into flames! So yay! It also said girl.. they also mentioned that it will tell you, in order, how many kids and what order. Weird. I didn't stay long enough to find out if we were having more. Currently, I'm debating getting my tubes tied while they're c-section - ing me. I was hell bent on not having more til both kids said they wanted more. I got the 4 yr old to agree fostering and possibly adoption would work for him. The 2 yr old just wants to copy big brother

[barnbabiesmama]

My 2 yr old was such a dick yesterday at C's kindergarten thing yesterday. C goes into kindergarten next year and we went in to meet teachers and the principal while he was with his kindergarten buddy. I had my 6 month old babysitting kid wrapped on my chest, who slept for most of it, and H. I was one of only 2 parents that didn't have a spouse with me. And the only one with more than 1 kid in tow. He screamed or cried the ENTIRE TIME! And all the other parents death glared at me. Big fun was had by all. This morning, over 12 hours later, and I'm still mad at him. Ughhhhhhhh 2 is hard sometimes! I also haven't been kidless in over a month.

[barnbabiesmama]

I bought a new carseat (with cup holders) for our trip back to WI because both of my 2 yr old's carseats have NO CUP HOLDERS! So stupid, why do I not look at that?! It usually doesn't matter but a 12+ hour car ride requires cup holders. But, I bought it on amazon because Prime. And I had a gift card from my birthday. Forgot to enter in my gift card. Ughhhhhhhh! Oh well I'll have to find something else to buy! Darn!