Uphold Radical Feminism With Misandrist Thought

GC radfem. Woman. (was hostile-girl-summer)

[she-volution-deactivated2022052]

okay i was reading this study and (x), it’s about how anal sex is becoming normalised in intercourse between young adults due to pornography.

this is what men had to say about why they engage in it if women find it painful

While not all young men in the study wanted to have anal sex (eg, saying it was not for them’), many men said they encouraged one another to try the practice,and men and women said men wanted to tell their friends that they had had anal sex. Men in a group discussion said anal sex was‘something we do for a competition’, and‘every hole’s a goal’. By contrast, men and women said women risked their reputation for the same act, a sexual double standard familiar from previous literature.

men think coercion is normal

The idea that women would generally not wish to engage in anal sex, and so would need to be either persuaded or coerced, seemed to be taken for granted by many participants. Even in otherwise seemingly communicative and caring partnerships, some men seemed to push to have anal sex with their reluctant partne rdespite believing it likely to hurt her. Persuasion of women was a feature to a greater or lesser degree of most men’s and women’s narratives abou tanal sex events, with repeated, emphatic requests from men commonly mentioned.Women seemed to take for granted that they would either acquiesce to or resist their partners’ repeated requests, rather than being equal partners in sexual decision-making.

coercive rape

Some men also described taking a‘try it and see’ approach, where they anally penetrated a woman with their fingers or penis and hoped that she would not stop them.Shane told us if a woman said‘no’when he started“putting [his]finger in”, he might keep trying:“I can be very persuasive […]. Like sometimes you just keep going, just keep going till they just get fed up and lety ou do it anyway”.‘Try it and see’ generally either hurt the woman or was‘unsuccessful’(from the man’s point of view) in the sense of not penetrating ‘it just didn’t go in really’.(Jack) A verbal‘no’ from the woman did not necessarily stop anal penetration attempts.

conclusions

First, some men’s narratives suggested that mutuality and consent for anal sex were not always a priority for them. 

Second, women being badgered for anal sex appears to be considered normal.

Third, the commonly circulating ideas that ‘everyone’ enjoys it, and that women who do not are either flawed or simply keeping their enjoyment secret, help support the erroneous idea that a man pushing for anal sex is simply ‘persuading’ his partner to do something that ‘most girls would like’.

Fourth, anal sex today appears to be a marker of(hetero)sexual achievement or experience, particularly for men.18The society which our interviewees inhabit seems to reward men for sexual experience per se(‘every hole’s a goal’) and, to some extent, rewards women for compliance with sexually‘adventurous ’acts(enjoyment signifying not being naive, unrelaxed, etc),although women must balance this with the risk to their reputation. Women may also be under pressure to appear to enjoy or choose certain sexual practices: Gill describes a ‘postfeminist sensibility’ in contemporary media, where women are expected to present them-selves as having chosen behaviours that conform to a stereotype of heterosexual male fantasy.

Fifth, many men do not express concern about possible pain for women, viewing it as inevitable. Less painful techniques (such as slower penetration) were rarely discussed.

[emmascorner-deactivated20210606]

Did anyone else get online at a very young age and strike up a friendship with a guy who was your age who treated you like his personal therapist and also sexualized you and had weird crushes on you but you felt bad for him so you stuck around even though he was always like ‘ugh I guess I’m just too ugly to date 🥺’ and it was really annoying but you felt like you had to be available to men or whatever

Or was that just me?

[nansheonearth]

Why is there such a common phenomena of young women talking grown men down from suicide? There was a tiktok about it and there were so many women who agreed that this also happened to them. Girls are being groomed en masse online

[partycitywigsale-deactivated202]

lesbian: it’s come to my attention that gender identity havers behave like an unhinged, homophobic, woman-hating cult

the notes:

does it get exhausting proving us right everyday? lol

[basednucleophile]

really says a lot about them that they think it’s so insulting to call a woman “unfuckable” lmfaooooo

[humblekitten]

I am (not) shocked that TRAs are really calling the Wi Spa incident “right wing propaganda that never happened”. Like. Did they not see the video? There were several women and girls who spoke about being uncomfortable because some dude had his dick out. It happened even if that’s inconvenient for the “TW never do anything wrong uwu 🥺” narrative

[radfem-book-club]

"At best it can be said that the woman's lot in life, the female role, necessitates a lot of medical intervention in the form of mood-altering drugs. At worst it must be said that these drugs are prescribed to women because they are women -- and because the doctors are largely men. The male doctor's perception of the female patient, conditioned by his belief in his own difference from her and superiority to her, is that she is very emotional, very upset, irrational, has no sense of proportion, cannot discern what is trivial and what is important. She has no credibility as an observer of her own condition or even as one who can report subjective sensations or feelings with any integrity or acuity. She is overwrought not because of any objective condition in her life but because she is a woman and women get emotional and overwrought simply because that is how women are. . . She does not have reason or intellect; she has emotion. She starts with a lot of emotion by virtue of being female; when she gets more emotion than is socially acceptable, or when emotion begins to interfere with the exercise of her female functions or the performance of her female duties, then she is sedated or tranquilized. . . The solution to female emotional excess, whether expressed by the woman -- appropriately by her lights -- or hallucinated by the male doctor, is keeping women calm or numb or asleep with drugs."

Andrea Dworkin Right-Wing Women (1983) Chapter 5: The Coming Gynocide

[lofeel]

[rageclit-deactivated20181208]

You can't support trans women and refuse to call them women

You can’t support women and allow any man who says he feels like a woman to be allowed unregulated access to women and girls

You can’t support women and claim that whether or not you’re a woman depends on how you behave and dress

You can’t support women and have the behaviour and dress standards for women dictated by people who on average have spent over a decade being socialised to hate women

You can’t support women and tell us we’re bad people for fearing rape and violence

You can’t support women and tell us that our only choices are to have invasive unstudied medical treatment to try and make ourselves look like men, or have everyone assume that we actively and totally identify with being treated as stupid and targeted with violence

You can’t support women and encourage any woman who hates her body to just start changing it instead of discussing how hatred of your body, especially sexual anatomy, is an extremely common aspect of the female experience

You can’t support women and tell us that we’re bad people if we object to the emotional manipulation and threats trans women use to try and get us to perform emotional labour for them

You can’t support women and refuse to let us discuss misogyny as it is

You can’t support women and tell us if we object to a set of artificial behavioural standards that were made to crush us then we cannot call ourselves women

You can’t support women and demand we accept in our private spaces people who very openly hate us and our bodies to the point that they feel very comfortable telling us our vulvas are disgusting and dirty and stink, that our pubic hair is obscene, and then whine if we’re anything less than enthusiastic about their bodies

You can’t support women and support a movement that silences all the women who’ve been sexually and psychologically abused by trans women because it might hurt trans women’s feelings

You can’t support women and demand that we not name the problems that affect us for what they are because the feelings of a handful of people are more important than our actual safety

You can’t support women and be a rape apologist

You can’t support women and support a movement that is so excited by violence against women that you create popular blogs to joke about how funny it would be to have women whose behaviour you disagree with set on fire or doused in acid or gang-raped

You can’t support women and hate female bodies so much that you see an artificial hole as equivalent to the complex, beautiful organic system that is female genitalia

You can’t support gay people and insist that gayness is disgusting

You can’t support gay people and tell them that they have to be able to be attracted to anybody who decides they’re eligible, even if that person has previously lived very comfortably as the opposite sex for years

You can’t support gay people and support the transitioning of children starting to show indicators of being gay by their parents

You can’t support gay people and not recognise that being forced to ‘just try’ interacting with the opposite sex is an actual conversion therapy method

You can’t support gay people and demand that they allow complete strangers to decide how they’re allowed to feel on a whim

You can’t support gay people if you support a movement where completely obviously gender-conforming non-dysphoric members of the opposite sex can just say “I am the same sex as you” and then either corner the gay person or create a platform for calling that gay person disgusting and perverted

You can’t support gay people if you support a movement that doesn’t even regard sexual trauma as a fully valid reason to not want to sleep with someone of the opposite sex

You can’t support autistic people and support an ideology that relies on the exact debunked ‘brain sex’ theory that has prevented autistic women from getting diagnosis and support for years

You can’t support neurodivergent women and encourage them to perceive their entirely natural discomfort with performative femininity as a signifier that they’re not women and therefore need sterilising medical treatments

You can’t support dysphoric people if you won’t recognise dysphoria as a symptom of mental illness, often trauma

You can’t support dysphoric people if you attack all discussions of ways to deconstruct the causes of dysphoria so that people don’t need to change their whole lives and bodies unless absolutely necessary

You can’t support dysphoric people if you uphold the system of gender that creates the social restrictions on behaviour that cause so much distress

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that claims anybody who believes you have to actually have dysphoria to be trans is “truscum”

You can’t support trans people if you attack the people trying to discuss how dangerous the current treatments for trans people can be

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that hates anyone who detransitions and dares to speak about it

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that refuses to seriously include trans men

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement whose big names very often turn out to be rapists, murderers and paedophiles

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that knows its big names are rapists, murderers and paedophiles and openly supports their right to access women and children anyway

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement that claims they couldn’t understand the concept of sexual biology until white people showed up

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement that deliberately misinterprets the cultures of other races to use them as props (you can’t support gay people if you refuse to acknowledge how the “third genders” in other cultures very often exist to designate same-sex attracted males as separate from other males. you can’t support women if you refuse to acknowledge that these cultures often have no room in those “third genders” for women because women were not allowed that freedom of expression)

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement based on the ideas of women of colour and Jewish women, still heavily populated by those women, being equated to Nazism for the purposes of sensationalism

You can’t support people of colour if you refuse to acknowledge how privileged you have to be to feel like you can seriously “identify out” of womanhood 

You support misogyny, homophobia, racism, ableism, and you definitely don’t support anything that would be useful to trans people in the long term. You’re a hypocrite. Trans women will always be male. Trans men will always be female. If trans women don’t want to have their male pattern behaviour discussed for what it is then they need to stop behaving like men. Trans men do not get to demand that female biology isn’t called what it is, because trans men’s feelings are always going to be worth less than the safety and wellbeing of females as a whole group.

[shesay-deactivated20250513]

imagine if ed sheerans new music video was him twerking wearing underwear with his balls and dick out singing about getting chocked and having violent sex and like that his new image he’s all grown now it’s disgusting isn’t? Well why can’t u apply the same way of thinking on women why us women r so incredibly dehumanized

[triptihosmrti]

cardi b drugging and robbing men when she was an impoverished stripper instead of servicing them like they wanted was peak girlboss and you can’t change my mind 👽

[transmedicalism-saves-lives]

So rape is good when a girl does it, gotcha. Y’all are psychotic. She should be in prison.

[addictedtocaring]

... how on earth do you go from "a woman drugged men to avoid having to sexually service them" to "this woman raped these men"? Serious question

[bitterbadfem-harpy]

Bc she thinks getting your wallet stolen is on par with rape

[moved-to-empresscaress]

I hate the entire concept of rehabilitating a rapist. Rapists aren't ill. Raping is not a symptom. It is a misogynistic hate crime. Stop letting violent men pathologize themselves out of consequences. They're not the ones suffering from what they've done.

[apportioned-abortion]

There is no situation where rape is necessary, period. There's situations where a murder, a theft, an assault, or neglect would have a clear cause and effect, or would be a result of external factors. There is no situation that justifies a rape, which is just abject cruelty and lack of humanity.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

the fact that society trains women from a young age to be excited about spending thousands of dollars on a dress they will wear in public once…feels a lot like cultural brainwashing 

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

#it’s the capitalism stupid  #american wedding culture is absolutely toxic actually  #i don’t know how bad it is everywhere else but here it’s. hm. soul sucking 

#i’ve always thought instead of normalizing huge expensive fucking weddings  #(with all the financial and emotional pressure that puts on young couples)  #it should be more normal to have intimate weddings with close family and friends  #and then after maybe 10 or 20 years or whatever. when the couple has a longstanding stable relationship and hopeful financial stability.  #THEN maybe do a larger celebration if they want to.

#plus by then they will have accumulated close friends as a couple (friendship changes A LOT after your twenties)  #they can invite the friends and found family they’ve chosen over the course of their life together  #instead of like. your mom’s cousin you met once 5 years ago or whatever  #i think large celebrations definitely have their place especially in tightknit communities  #and the history of wedding celebrations across different cultures is super interesting  #but the Standard American Wedding is. hm. bad

[bookwormcheerleader]

I’ve got this feeling this is what it used to be. like ok my grandmas wedding? double wedding with her sister, semi matching blue linen dresses (hers with a red belt because she has always been Like That). no one was there except family, even then not many of them, and my grandpa’s family was still back east so they couldn’t make it (we been poor for generations lol).

and then their 10th and 25th and 50th anniversaries were big parties, getting bigger with every milestone. friends and family from before they were married, their kids and grandkids, friends they made as a couple from around the country

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

yeah I’m definitely wondering how normal a lot of modern wedding “traditions” would have seemed before the rise of magazine fashion culture, and (more recently) reality tv shows like Bridezilla and Say Yes To The Dress 

None of my older relatives have stories of enormous thousand-dollar wedding dresses. That and other extravagances feels more like a modern capitalist invention 

[sonnetsandsinging]

My nana sewed her own dress in the mid-1960s, going so far as to go to the wedding dress department in Marshall Fields and measure the dress she liked so she could copy pieces of it.

[marzipanandminutiae]

I know during the 19th century, for all but the absolute wealthiest western brides, wearing your wedding dress as your “best dress” (or at least one of your regular Nice Dress options) for the rest of your life was pretty normal. not all wedding dresses were white- though, no, that trend did not start with Queen Victoria; she was just one of many celebrities who helped it gradually become an expected norm -and most of them were very fancy day dresses. not even what the era would understand as your most formal clothing

the idea that your wedding dress should be the most expensive dress you own and only worn once really is pretty new

[thebonewound]

why are little girls taught to be beautiful. why was i watching my weight at age 10 why was i wanting grown men to find me attractive. why did i watch all my girl friends wear makeup and go on diets and shave their entire bodies when we werent even teenagers why cant we just be kids why cant little girls just be little girls. boys got to experience childhood but once i turned 10 i became a sexualized monster whore

[partycitywigsale-deactivated202]

I don’t blame American women for feeling politically orphaned. On the right you have males trying to abolish abortion and voting against the ERA and VAWA. That’s fucking evil. But then on the left you have males telling mothers that if being exposed to a naked stranger’s penis makes their nine-year-old daughters uncomfortable, then you should have left that stupid TERFy baby bitch at home. Seems to me that under a patriarchal system women are considered second-class citizens across the entire political spectrum. 🧐

[whenidiehallelujahbyandby]

maybe if you guys wouldn't act like every camab person is a sexual predator until proven otherwise we wouldn't be in this mess

[cliteralviolence]

This you?

[homofemale]

well stop acting like a sexual predator

[basednucleophile]

what is “this mess”? you being a sexual predator? that’s literally your fault dude

[widening-skies]

I love seeing people say a classic book is boring and badly written and they didn't get past chapter three because it was so bad (all valid and sexy opinions), and then seeing other people lose their shit because the genius of 1984 or the great Gatsby or whatever was not duly appreciated. People nowadays are illiterate and society is going down the drain etc etc. How dare you not appreciate the deep meaning of this neverending book full of boring male characters doing shitty things. Don't you understand the value of this work for humanity. *foams at the mouth*

[blissfulascension]

Again

Misogyny against women you don't like is still misogyny

[faewnry]

“we’re not trying to be asian we just want to look like an anime girl” - an argument they use very often

anime is asian

egirl culture heavily relates and sources itself from asian cultures all these girls are profiting off of asian ethnic features as they infantilize actual asian women with their behavior of dressing up in our aesthetics and act like a sexy child online for profit and male validation which further fetishizes actual asian women besides it’s tone deaf, we asians have been mocked for our eyeshape for decades but now it’s fashionable not to mention the current rising hate against asians for a white(non-asian)girl to just put our features on as a “costume” and profit of it without a single regard towards our struggles it’s very offensive

[hikkigf-deactivated20221102]

i feel like a lot of non-asians interpret our complaints about stuff like this as them not being able to wear like upturned winged eyeliner when you can wear eyeliner in any style and it would be fine..

it's the combination of like wearing wigs with common asian hairstyles (that jabami yumeko black hime cut, dark brown pigtails, etc) and religiously copying makeup and fashion trends with asian influencers specifically and taking pictures with boba/asian food exclusively and not answering people when they ask them if they're white which winds up making them look like straight up racial stereotypes...

[faewnry]

yes! It’s the whole package, the Sanrio, the boba, the make up, the anime, the fashion, the language, kpop ....etc. it’s their whole borrowed aesthetic. I’m not saying people can’t like hello kitty but it is an issue when they profit from being a walking stereotype of Asian women that already get sexualized enough as it is we don’t need people with “waifu” in their bios that alter their appearance to look mixed/asian acting like sexy children whilst hugging their mymelody plushie on top of it, the way the west indulges themselves in our culture without caring about our struggles is very dehumanizing it really feels like asian culture and bodies are just a form of entertainment meant for consumption nothing more

[pink-pill-stacy]

"Acting like a sexy child online" that is so accurate it hurts.

I love mascots, sanrio, rilakkuma... but their whole shtick is so pedophilic and disgusting. You really put it into words.