Another Desister

I am yet another detransitioned lesbian. Radical Feminist. 23. Lesbian. Yes I still have dysphoria. DETRANSITIONED WOMEN ACTIVIST

[radicallyreidentified]

Reminder post

I run a 16+ dysphoric female server. You don’t have to be a radfem, you can be transgender! The ONLY requirement is that you’re 16+, female, have dysphoria and at the very least OPEN to hearing radfem ideas. DM me and I’ll send you the link

Though my main audience is specifically detrans women. So I heavily encourage detrans women to join. Everyone will be welcomed!

It’s a safe space though, not political except for the specified chatrooms. Please feel free to join!!

[v-vampire]

"i'm a lesbian and we (lesbians) don't like dick" yeah you're 13 i didn't expect you to like dick

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

did you know that lesbians of every age don't like dick?

[mommyhorror]

Why is OP implying that there’s an age threshold where every woman starts to like penis … 😵‍💫

also why are you talking to this 13YO🤨🤨🤨

[hidetothink]

"You'll grow out of it, this is just a phase"

Really digging deep for some originality in your bullshit huh OP

[hondalf-the-grey]

give me a fucking break, OP. nobody's twisting your words, you are literally saying that not liking dick is some immature thing that lesbians should outgrow 🙄

[princessterf]

@v-vampire Lmao as if csa victims can't go and offend? It's not unheard of for former csa victims to offend, your point is invalid. Also I, and a few other radfems, are csa victims so fuck you.

All lesbians like pussy and are only attracted to women (adult human females). No lesbian likes penis, they're female homosexuals.

Also, your community doesn't even protect trans kids from trans pedophiles, focus on that instead of getting big mad because radfems called you out on your conversion therapy/rape-lite post. Many of us are csa victims with some pushed into the child exploitation industry. How about YOU do csa victims a favor and shut the fuck up?

[mymatblue]

I would seriously be rich if I got a penny everytime the "I'm literally a minor/victim/black/lesbian/not cis" excuse was pulled when someone was called out on a shitty take or for making a death threat. Its a boy who cried wolf scenario.

[watermelinoe]

i know that women have rape fantasies, that they fantasize about being hurt and abused, that they seek out sexual partners to hurt them. i know that they’ve consented. i’m tired of being asked to be sympathetic to the women who have fantasies of being victims, arguing that it’s “not hurting anyone,” because apparently the woman herself does not count as a “someone.” i will always have sympathy for those women, but it doesn’t make their masochism any less a form of self-harm, and i still won’t support it.

i also know that men have rape fantasies, that they fantasize about hurting and abusing women, that they seek to hurt their sexual partners. and i know why every argument goes, “but she likes being hurt!”, so that they can put the onus of men’s violence against women on women. it’s because they know that saying instead, “but he likes hurting women!”, means that they have to defend man’s desire to torture and commit violence against women. it’s because then they can’t pretend that the pain and brutality is coincidental, that it comes from a vacuum, that women are doing it to themselves.

in order for women to be abused, there has to be someone abusing her. someone has to agree to abuse her. someone has to want to abuse her. and if you take away “but she likes it!” you’re left with a sniveling coward of a man struggling to explain why he wants to hurt women without sounding like the monster he is.

[lovingdeathmetalbygendercritica]

Also, why do people think so many women have fantasies of being hurt? Why do so many men fantasize about hurting women, why never the opposite? Why do men just want to hurt instead of being hurt? Why do women are always the ones who want to be hurt and why do men are always the ones who want to hurt them?

[sisyphereantask]

@lovingdeathmetalbygendercritical men do have fantasies about being hurt. They have castration fetishes, enjoy being whipped and having hot wax poured on them.

Not the same thing as a woman dealing with trauma by having fantasies about being raped but, men do in fact have pain fetishes.

[certaintraveler75]

@sisyphereantask whenever I’ve seen men with “pain” fetishs it’s always been tied into some kind of humiliation thing? Usually revolving around some idea of them being a failed man for letting a woman treat them like that. Whereas when women have the same it’s treated much more as they’re just “fulfilling their natural role”. Like hell, that kind of rhetoric is all over female subjegation porn.

Even in domination and submission kink culture it’s clear who’s really supposed to be “submitting” (women) and who’s supposed to be “dominating” (men) - hell, I’d argue the majority of submissive men (online at least) like it solely cause of the humiliation of someone “lower than them” treating them like dirt under their shoe. As long as as soon as it’s over they can leave all that behind and get back to being higher up and more respected than her…..

[diaryofadaringwitch]

Pretty sure this is universal for ex-Christians during this time of year.....

[watermelinoe]

i know that women have rape fantasies, that they fantasize about being hurt and abused, that they seek out sexual partners to hurt them. i know that they’ve consented. i’m tired of being asked to be sympathetic to the women who have fantasies of being victims, arguing that it’s “not hurting anyone,” because apparently the woman herself does not count as a “someone.” i will always have sympathy for those women, but it doesn’t make their masochism any less a form of self-harm, and i still won’t support it.

i also know that men have rape fantasies, that they fantasize about hurting and abusing women, that they seek to hurt their sexual partners. and i know why every argument goes, “but she likes being hurt!”, so that they can put the onus of men’s violence against women on women. it’s because they know that saying instead, “but he likes hurting women!”, means that they have to defend man’s desire to torture and commit violence against women. it’s because then they can’t pretend that the pain and brutality is coincidental, that it comes from a vacuum, that women are doing it to themselves.

in order for women to be abused, there has to be someone abusing her. someone has to agree to abuse her. someone has to want to abuse her. and if you take away “but she likes it!” you’re left with a sniveling coward of a man struggling to explain why he wants to hurt women without sounding like the monster he is.

[lovingdeathmetalbygendercritica]

Also, why do people think so many women have fantasies of being hurt? Why do so many men fantasize about hurting women, why never the opposite? Why do men just want to hurt instead of being hurt? Why do women are always the ones who want to be hurt and why do men are always the ones who want to hurt them?

[sisyphereantask]

@lovingdeathmetalbygendercritical men do have fantasies about being hurt. They have castration fetishes, enjoy being whipped and having hot wax poured on them.

Not the same thing as a woman dealing with trauma by having fantasies about being raped but, men do in fact have pain fetishes.

[loumandliker]

cats are like. i am very small and have cute little triangle ears. also locking me out of the bathroom is a hate crime

[kiefbowl]

For every terf you hate there’s a radfem with a fandom sideblog you follow

[whiskey-and-c41]

AND for every terf you hate, there’s a libfem with a radfem sideblog so she can learn without harassment.

[lagoonhag]

Also, for every terf you hate there’s a historical woman who fought for the rights women have today that would probably be deemed as a terf if they were on tumblr.

[xx-fadingaway-xx]

!!!!

[muzzledin2017]

For every terf you hate there’s a woman who was killed for being a woman.

[fingerlickinbutch-deactivated20]

And for every terf you hate, there’s twice the amount of “crypto-terfs” who quietly follow and support her because trying to control people’s thoughts doesn’t actually work

[angry-radfem99]

I created this blog in August 2021. I now have nearly 700 followers (december 2021). There are a lot more women criticizing gender ideology than you think.

[kiefbowl]

people also talk about sex like there are some complicated insider info only super good sex havers know. when are we going to start calling them out lol. sex is like at most 5 things that you can do like 3 or 4 different ways. sex position jokes are for 13 year old boys who would spend money to fuck a warm melon, they are loudly infantilizing if you pay your own taxes LMAO

[that1betch-deactivated20230628]

When “trans women” talk about how “all misogyny impacts them” most of that is stuff that only exists in their heads. Like claiming that they are impacted by abortion, or lack of maternity, as if they are primary victims rather than just experiencing womb envy and being reminded they’re not women. 

They filter our experiences through their lens, how our experiences feel like to them, rather than to us. Our inner lives are not worth considering to them. How we are affected by abortion does not concern them, what concerns them is that we can experience it and they can’t, and this makes them envious. They see their envy of something they can not have as being worse than actually needing to have an abortion, because they are misogynists, because women are not humans with inner lives that matter to them.

[anthropologist-on-the-loose]

The point of officially naming a pet is not to actually use that name but to have a baseline from which to come up with every conceivable nickname to call them instead.

[abysswarlock]

You bury a seed not because it looks nice in the dirt, but because the limbs that branch out will look nice in the sky

[anthropologist-on-the-loose]

Congrats on contributing to the ancient tumblr tradition of turning shitposts into profound poetry

[liache]

i love that we and cats share pareidolia (seeing patterns where they dont exist), but instead of seeing faces in everyday objects like us, they see snakes

that computer cord? snake. string? small snake. cucumber? short fat straight snake

[yiffmaster]

snake pareidolia is one of the strongest things in human minds too! people report freezing mid-stride before being consciously aware of a snake in front of them, and the same happens with coiled rope, etc. in humans and other primates. it’s even been proposed that the need to detect snakes was a factor in the development of primates’ insanely good color eyesight

[ehlbee]

It’s because snakes are wonderful and we must stop and admire them at any cost

[vaesbian]

i want every single amab nonbinary lesbian to know that u belong in lesbian spaces, especially nonbinary lesbian spaces, just as much as any other lesbian, and you not being a binary woman doesn’t mean you can’t identify as a lesbian. the nonbinary lesbian label includes you just as much as it includes every other nonbinary lesbian

[piquegender]

no :)

men get the fuck out, you were never welcome and are an active threat to lesbians. refusing to listen to them IS harmful, repeatedly attempting to ‘join’ those spaces IS harmful.

[stuffmomnevertoldyou]

As Women Take Over a Male-Dominated Field, the Pay Drops

Work done by women pays less because women do it, research shows.

It may come down to this troubling reality, new research suggests: Work done by women simply isn’t valued as highly.

That sounds like a truism, but the academic work behind it helps explain the pay gap’s persistence even as the factors long thought to cause it have disappeared. Women, for example, are now better educated than men, have nearly as much work experience and are equally likely to pursue many high-paying careers. No longer can the gap be dismissed with pat observations that women outnumber men in lower-paying jobs like teaching and social work.

[chamomileyes]

A striking example is to be found in the field of recreation — working in parks or leading camps — which went from predominantly male to female from 1950 to 2000. Median hourly wages in this field declined 57 percentage points, accounting for the change in the value of the dollar, according to a complex formula used by Professor Levanon. The job of ticket agent also went from mainly male to female during this period, and wages dropped 43 percentage points.

The same thing happened when women in large numbers became designers (wages fell 34 percentage points), housekeepers (wages fell 21 percentage points) and biologists (wages fell 18 percentage points). The reverse was true when a job attracted more men. Computer programming, for instance, used to be a relatively menial role done by women. But when male programmers began to outnumber female ones, the job began paying more and gained prestige.

[femininewritings]

This is the stark reality. The pay gap exists not because of women’s “inability” but because they are viewed as inherently less valuable human beings.

That’s it!

[paraparamita]

arguments like "there are infertile women so TWAW" make me seethe, because we both know well just how dishonest you're being.

menopause is a natural process. but it isn't as if going through menopause means you never had your period. and for women who haven't gone through menopause it's most commonly a result of hormonal problems, damage to the fallopian tubes, uterus or cervix, a genetic abnormality, or a disease that affected your reproductive system. none of that is natural, healthy or that common and it isn't the standard for most women

every one of them know that when they say it, but they don't care. none of these people care about infertile women at all, they only care about women's pain as long as it can be used to benefit men in some way.

it always hurts me to see women and girls parrot stuff like this when it was never made with them in mind, and they just seem completely oblivious to it

[jennifersbodyodyodyodyody-deact]

infertile women weren't called broken and useless and not real women just for tras to put infertile women in the same category as males

[eatshrooms]

 So why aren’t we allowed to criticize something that actively leads to an increase in violence against women, 88% of it contains violence against women, it literally changes brain chemistry, it contributes to sex trafficking, and often isn’t allowed to be further studied due to irreversible and damaging effects?

Oh that’s right, because porn is more important to men than women’s safety.

[seranavolkirad]

“We must ALL perpetuate the gender roles imposed by the patriarchy, otherwise I won’t feel valid, brave and stunning”

[goblinous]

So gender is just clothes and names and pronouns then?

How is gender supposed to be some mystical innate thing if getting rid of superficial gender roles makes it impossible to know?

[radicalcoffeeclub]

Gender = sex role stereotypes

[ms-gay-frogs]

soooo.... they need things to be stereotyped as feminine or masculine or else their identity doesn't exist, meaning their identity is literally based on biases and gender norms.

[wifecaroldanvers]

wow they're getting it!

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

I want young lesbians to know that you don't have to settle for mistreatment.

If you're interested in a girl and she's being flaky about her affections for you (entertaining affection from other girls or even boys) then you deserve so much better.

You WILL find someone else. You don't deserve to be only an option for somebody. You deserve to come first. You deserve someone who's just as interested in you as you are her and who's loyal.

You deserve someone who's in love with you and doesn't just see you as someone to play around with.

[goldstarlesbianpride]

Lesbians don’t have any guidelines for our love lives and that causes us to settle for less. I wish I’d had more self respect when I was younger or had someone to help me navigate dating/sex as a gay woman. For any lesbian who feels lost please know you deserve respect.