madman and polluted

evil genius, kind fool. generally contrary and severely difficult. i'm sorry for contaminating you.

[bdbdbdbdmn]

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i'm making a list of posts i want to re-read so i can find my drafts. it's gonna take a while to get caught up, and then i will continue to add to it over time.

"donate to Dem Bois, a non profit organization that provides trans masculine and trans men of color grants for transition related surgeries"

"there is nothing morally cleansing about hardship"

the conundrum of the "gendered soul" theory

"it's really more of a folk myth than anything"/"these are two entirely contradictory lines of logic"

Sylvia Rivera’s “Y'all Better Quiet Down” speech

TERF/TRF/MRA Venn diagram

forgiving other people's medical debt (charity)

Nordic model sex work regulations

"Told they are villains and they are the same as the men who grew up in the 'regular' world despite having never stepped foot in said world."

the gender neutral origin of the term "egg"

DIY T misinformation

"ultimate female privilege"

"if your description of how trans men have male privilege also implies cis women have male privilege, i don’t think you know what male privilege is"

[bdbdbdbdmn]

Hello, how are you? I hope I am not bothering you.

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Please, your donation and sharing of our story could be the reason my husband's life is saved. Our children deserve not to lose their father.

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@qamar2026

Samar's Urgent Plea: Save Qamar and Omar

My name is Samar. I write from a fragile tent in Gaza, a mother who loves her two little children with all her heart. My husband is severely

✅Verified by: @/gazavetters, #53✅

[bdbdbdbdmn]

i feel like i was more on Malcom's side than the show wanted me to be in the new show, but i guess that's how i felt about the original too.

are you on his side in the new show

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i don't know

can you repeat the question

you're not the boss of me now etc.

Voting ended onJul 3

[bdbdbdbdmn]

the only thing he did wrong was lie to his kid and girlfriend. his dad is literally walter white of breaking bad, he should know what happens when you lie to your girlfriend/wife and/or child(ren) on a tv show lmao

[razortouched]

Is "Theyfab" a slur?

There has recently been a claim going around that "theyfab" is not a slur, and is in fact, primarily used as a way for transfems to call out or vent their frustrations about transmisogyny.

Some examples of this claim can be found in the screenshots below:

So, is this really the case? Does "theyfab" primarily exist as a way to call out transmisogyny?

This wikitionary page on the word, cites some of the earliest found examples of the word.

The earliest archived example is of a Twitter post, quoting something that says "theyfab trannies". So, we can safely say that

1. The word pre-exists the earliest archives we have of it

2. The word has been used in an explicitly derogatory way

There is no record of what the Twitter user was responding to, so we don't know the context of the phrase they were quoting.

The earliest recorded usage of theyfab on 4chan is from late 2018. The usage of it in the post, again, strongly implies that the word had already been in use prior to, we just don't have records of it.

However, we do have records of it being used in a derogatory way, in a manner that has nothing to do with calling out transmisogyny.

Most of the earlier usages do appear to be used mainly by trans people, but always in derogatory ways. You could make the argument that some of the early examples are venting about intracommunity issues, but the prevalence of the term being used in outright transphobic manners in that same time period really lends credence to the fact that it is, first and foremost, to be a slur.

[ftmtftm]

I can't provide screenshots because my old blogs are long, long gone, but I was literally getting called a trender theyfab on Tumblr in 2015 and 2016 back when I was the stereotypical, holy emo trinity + tøp bandom superwholock loving trans Tumblr teenager with a dyed undercut and flower crown.

When the bullying got so bad and I literally flip flopped into transmedicalism and truscum communities around 2017, we were all calling people like Milo Stewart (a former trans YouTuber) trender theyfabs and bullying them off the internet.

Theyfab has always been a slur for nonbinary people who were afab who were accused of being "transtrenders" by transmedicalists, truscum, and cis transphobes alike. Those 4chan examples line up perfectly with the "theyfabs are just girls pretending to be trans for attention" stereotype. That's how people still use it today. It's always been a slur, I cannot stand the way that people try to rewrite this when people like me were literally there.

[therapatical]

I've spoken with a lot of people on this, and the consensus mostly seems to be that it came into the popular lexicon sometime in the early 2010s (keffals specifically mentioned 2013, a lot of other people also mention 2014-2017 specifically)

some people seem to have run into it from transmed circles, and others ran into it on websites like 4chan and other alt-right circles. I specifically remember it being used similar to "SJW" and "tumblrina" by alt right commentators around the time of trump's first election. it was always used in a very "blue haired liberal special snowflake" way, in my experience (but some people have different stories and anecdotes to tell on that, which isn't surprising considering how internet culture and language proliferate in often disjointed ways)

[np-444]

I’m reblogging this because it’s important in itself, but I do want to mention that I personally asked cdigoddess (the artist of the bottom right comic in the first block of screenshots) about the meaning of that comic, and she clarified that the point was the explicitly transphobic “afab housing” thing flying under the radar even as the slur was reacted to, not to imply that “theyfab” isn’t a slur. I don’t think she choose the best way to make that point, and I recognize that the comic can be and has been used to do harm, but I don’t think it’s completely fair or accurate to lump her in with people who actually think “theyfab” is ok to use. (Not criticizing the person who put that picture there, they probably didn’t know, just an update.)

[tigerinkangel]

Even if that was her intention; the VAST majority of "afab only" housing is run by cis women. The implication that nb people are THE representation short form for transphobic houses practices is in itself a incredibly bigoted and transphobic thing to imply.

[liberalsarecool]

When a rapist takes away your food to punish you for not allowing him to steal your health care, it's time to admit Trump lied to you.

An empty ballroom will not feed you.

An empty ballroom will not cover your health.

Raping children should have been your red flag.

[everymournfulbreath]

Israel Exposed — War Crimes Archive

Documented evidence of war crimes in Gaza and the West Bank.

[sweet2canyon]

“Trans men don’t expirience transphobia for being a man”

the average threads comment section under a post about Elliot page:

[robotsincastles]

You don’t hate trans men because you think they’re men you hate trans men because you think they’re women

[misogyny-affected]

if your description of how trans men have male privilege also implies cis women have male privilege, i don’t think you know what male privilege is

[bluejaymarin]

i know hearing about Missstrogen constantly is getting old, but if you don't prove that you fervently despise predators and that she isn't welcome, some chud with advertising money is gonna use it as anti-trans propaganda, and the youtuber who reacts to that propaganda needs to be able to say "if you actually did your research, you'd find #anti isff is one of the most popular tags on tumblr right now"

[lovewitch86]

bit of a nothingburger opinion but those people who “grift” government benefits are awesome. i love them for getting “handouts” 9 times out of 10, its poor/impoverished people, people of color, disabled people, or people struggling with addiction. and these are already marginalized groups targeted BY the government. who cares guys who cares

[lovewitch86]

adding onto this: even if it isn’t someone that isn’t a b c or d category of people i mentioned, i still think grifting government benefits rocks. thats change out of their pockets and into circulation

[bdbdbdbdmn]

finally some good fucking tricking down (Gordan Ramsay and trickle down economics references)

[everymournfulbreath]

Israel Exposed — War Crimes Archive

Documented evidence of war crimes in Gaza and the West Bank.

[sweet2canyon]

“Trans men don’t expirience transphobia for being a man”

the average threads comment section under a post about Elliot page:

[misogyny-affected]

if your description of how trans men have male privilege also implies cis women have male privilege, i don’t think you know what male privilege is

[bdbdbdbdmn]

a pet peeve of mine has been the the fun non-factual fact that all humans "start off 'biologically female' from conception and either stay that way or become 'male,' making all men 'ftm' under at-conception rulings on legal genders."

that's not true. you start off physically sexless, and then you develop a sex. you are not first "female" or "male" or even intersex, you are just a clump of underdeveloped cells. we all start with both Mullerian and Wolffian ducts, and only after six weeks does the process of growing a sex and regressing the other of the ducts begin; this is as opposed to us all having Mullerian ducts that may or may not turn into Wolffian ducts. [green is true, red is false.]

here is someone else agreeing with me so that you know i'm not the only one who thinks this:

tbh i've been meaning to make this post for a while, but because of this video, i now need to get this out there so it doesn't look like i'm the last to know once this becomes common sense lmao.

but wait, that's only the context for my real point!

i believe this biological misunderstanding is behind at least some of the transandrophobic and sexist narrative that "trans men have an easier time passing than trans women inherently because estrogen is passive and weak, while testosterone is active and strong and makes permanent changes."

if you think everyone starts "female" and "biological maleness" is determined by how much testosterone you've ever been exposed to, it would make sense to believe that most trans men pass and most trans women don't. because you've now invented a world where all trans women can do is try to manage the symptoms of testosterone, while trans men's weak and infantile-level of physically impressionable bodies are being superpower overloaded with the magic irreversible damage drug.

but human pericis adult women are not biologically akin to tall human babies. they are not a "less evolved" or "rudimentary" state of human.

as trans people who have gone through both puberties, i was hoping you'd remember that you experienced permanent active growths both times (ex: boob and cock enlargement vs tcock and eboob enlargement), and that you experienced a "passive" suppression of some development both times as well (ex: not getting taller before your growth plates fuse and not developing wider hips vs stopping periods and stopping hair loss) [i color coded the examples blue for trans guys and pink for trans women to make it less confusing, i'm sorry it's not very inclusive.]

tl;dr: trans women's transitions are not entirely just "putting toothpaste back in the tube," just as trans men's transitions are not entirely just "squeezing the toothpaste out." both do both. there are a lot of tubes all doing a lot of different things.

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[comment on this post]

masculinspirit: Get off that „trans- Trip“ - The sooner, the better. YOU‘re on a fast lane to suicide. https://www.bbc.co.uk/sn/tvradio/programmes/horizon/dr_money_prog_summary.shtml

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bdbdbdbdmn: all that the moral of the story you sent proves is that you can't change someone's gender identity or how they wish to express themselves by forcing them to follow gender roles [<-aligning it with the values of the trans community]; that the mutilation of infant's (inherently unable to consent as they are babies) privates- both for religious purposes (circumcision) and/or due to intersexism (chopping up an intersex baby's bits to make them look less ambiguous/more like either a penis or vagina)- is wrong [<-aligning it with the values of the trans community]; and in my opinion, it also proves that gendered upbringing in general is unethical, sexist, and abusive [<-once again, aligning the conclusions you should have gotten from the article with the values of the trans community]. David's horrific experience is very similar to how trans men are raised, especially intersex trans men. trans people do not start feeling their gender after bottom surgery, so religious infant genital mutilation that accidentally results in penis loss would not disprove trans people if that penis amputee kid grew up to not want to get a vagina surgically attached. also, the brother that killed himself was the one that wasn't forcefully raised as a girl. are you stupid, or do you think i'm stupid?

i thought it was too good to only be seen by this loser, so here. but yeah, he's just going around commenting shit like this on posts in the transandrophobia tag, so block him before he gets ya.

still though, i never get the point of this one. "you claim i shouldn't force people born with penises to live how i consider masculine, so i forced someone who's penis was cut off to live as a girl and tried to get him to agree to childhood vagina surgery, and you're still mad??? you must just be a hypocrite!" there is no help for you at this point, i fear.

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[bdbdbdbdmn]

there's this trans guy i follow on tiktok even though i disagree with him probably most of the time. he has an interesting way of turning transphobic talking points against trans people into a pseudo-pro-trans opinion, and i am now used to seeing him there.

what's annoyed me most recently was this take he had about parents of trans kids. it was a whole long rant about how parents have The Right to be upset and grieve, Actually.

and while yes, everyone's feelings are always valid and thought crimes aren't real, the way he frames it is as if Big TransgenderTM has an Unfair Policy on this issue and Trans Kids These Days are Being Mean.

do trans people not also have the right to be upset that their parents are so upset with their transness; or to be dysphoric by constant reminders of how every second of every day of their lives, their parents have been waiting to do a wrongly gendered significant event with them? his example was parents wanting to see trans dudes in wedding dresses really really badly btw.

and lowkirkenuinely, the fact that the parents are even thinking like that in the first place is kinda The Problem and is transphobic/sexist/homophobic/ageist/etc.

and everyone is allowed to be uncomfortable with change, but your kid isn't evil if they don't want that to be their problem or if they also have their own feelings too.

imagine if it was about anything but trans people. if my hypothetical co-worker said his parents had to go through years of grief because he wanted to play baseball instead of soccer because they always dreamed he'd play for their favorite community college team, i would be horrified and disgusted. now add back in the political implications, and it should feel even worse to you.

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Voting ended onJul 16