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🧚🏻‍♀️ 24F Just another lonely girl trying her best to make it in this f*cked up world.

[rosieandthemoon]

Garden of Ninfa in Italy

[gothredy]

[rosieandthemoon]

[boobina]

we exist for love btw

[5oil]

[nikoriis]

i imagine being medicated would feel good as fuck. unfortunately i have to rawdog whatever's wrong with me

[patronums-deactivated20231125]

I say weird shit and have incredible tits

[beatmepinknpurple]

[beatmepinknpurple]

I have no one to tell about this but I want to share so bad, so I’m posting.

Last night I had a sex dream, which I do experience occasionally but nowhere near enough for my taste. Even when I do have them, they’re often more uncomfortable than pleasurable. This one, was everything I always hope for when I go to sleep.

I was at a gathering of sorts, and a man I knew (in the dream, not in real life, unfortunately) came up to me and asked me if I wanted to sneak off somewhere to have some “fun” with him. I said yes, because he was very attractive, the dream led me to believe that we already had an existing sexual relationship, and I was in the mood. However, I wasn’t sure how we were going to be able to sneak away without anyone noticing.

Well, this man FIRMLY GRABBED ME BY THE SHOULDERS AND BASICALLY DRAGGED ME TOWARDS THE BATHROOM THAT WAS RIGHT THERE AND EVERYONE COULD SEE. He locked the door and pretty much shoved me in, right in front of everyone, while I was protesting, because WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. (Keep in mind, I’m not actually upset, I am incredibly turned on by his audacity, slight aggression, and general gives no fucks behavior.)

So now we are in the bathroom, everyone has just seen him haul me in, and his hands are now all over me. He had approached me from behind, pressing himself against me, and was kissing my neck. He unzipped, pushed his pants down, pulled out his cock, and was attempting to slide it into me when I grabbed it and pulled my panties aside to guide him there underneath my skirt.

Sex always feels so incredible in dreams. Do you remember the last time it had been a while, maybe a few months or more, and you finally had sex again? Remember how it felt like your entire body was on fire and the place where you were connected was hot and throbbing and felt like it was full of electricity? It’s not boring or dull or simply doesn’t feel as great as it could… That’s how sex feels in every dream of mine.

Since this is a dream, things don’t exactly make much sense, and even though that bathroom door had been locked, suddenly other party goers were joining us. Not physically, as they were only watching. The room was no longer a bathroom, it was larger now, and full of light. Everyone could see what was happening. Perhaps I should have been embarrassed. The man now had me on my hands and knees, was leaning over me, and whispering dirty things in my ear. He was pounding into me roughly, hips never faltering, even when the room began to fill with people.

Instead of being embarrassed, I took the opportunity to show off. I began thrusting myself back against him, my skirt bouncing around us. I ground myself back onto his cock over and over as his fingers dug into my hips. No shame about my moans, they were pouring out of me. Everyone watched, drinks in hand, while we fucked on the floor in front of them. I could put more details into this, but alas, it was a dream, so it ended very quickly after that.

My dream soon turned into something else entirely, and my mind was occupied with other scenarios, ones that were not as fun, and I honestly can’t remember. Guess the one that was the most interesting was the one that stuck.

[landsccape]

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[beatmepinknpurple]

I wonder what it feels like to be appreciated, admired, and adored.

[prisonrot-deactivated20260602]

u can either reach me on tumblr dot com or hand written letter

[swagcatholic-deactivated2026072]

[vamptits]

I can't keep having the same conversations about love languages, mbti, iq, bmi, "brain fully formed at 25" and shit over and over again...

[vamptits]

these things exist on a spectrum from untrue to straightforwardly racist btw. so if we could retire them forever that'd be nice.

[hareofhrair]

“Love Languages” are just common couples therapy techniques mangled and repackaged by an unqualified homophobe. Relationships generally need all 5 love languages to be fulfilled, which is to say, everybody needs to communicate with, spend time with, and do things for their partners, and that’s got nothing to do with any special way you communicate affection.

MBTI has been proven completely ineffective at predicting anyone’s success at a particular job, and half the people who take it twice will get different results. Reputable psychologists do not recognize it, and the company that owns the rights to it uses it to scam people. People don’t adhere to strict binaries in basically anything. Very few people are going to be exclusively introverted or extroverted. It’s just astrology repackaged as pseudoscience. Shockingly enough, you can’t boil the complexity of the human experience down to a dozen Types of Guy.

The concept of IQ is flawed from the start— “intelligence” is an abstract concept that encompasses many different skills, from social intelligence to emotional intelligence to the very narrow kind of problem solving intelligence IQ tests generally measure for. It cannot predict how fast you learn, how much you know, or how logical and well read you are. It mostly measures how good you are at solving puzzles. Coincidentally, it’s also a pretty good predictor of income and education level, take a guess why. Most people’s IQ will change throughout their lives, because it’s inconsistent bullshit we’ve only held onto this long because we’re still kinda hoping we can breed the ubermensch. IQ tests and the way they attempt to categorize people are explicitly eugenicist and racist.

BMI was developed by a man known as the grandfather of eugenics, who first of all was a mathematician, not a doctor, and second never intended the formula to be used to categorize individuals. It’s intended to give a rough estimate of obesity in populations, and it’s not even good at that. It hangs around because of fatphobia and insurance companies who want it as an excuse to charge fat people more.

The study which determined people’s prefrontal cortex was still developing at 25… stopped measuring at 25. Evidence suggests your brain probably never stops developing. Stop infantilizing grown adults. This is a branch off from the larger mess of misinformation surrounding fMRIs.

If you haven’t put together what all these things have in common yet, here’s the moral of the story: STOP TRYING TO CATEGORIZE PEOPLE. STOP TRYING TO PUT PEOPLE IN A GODDAMN BIOLOGICAL HIERARCHY. EUGENICS IS BAD, AND WILL ALWAYS BE BAD, NO MATTER WHO’S DOING IT.

[aidashakur]

As a victim of someone’s nonchalance… I wanna drown in love. Be overly affectionate with me.

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

[sounddesignerjeans-deactivated2]

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.

[sparklefartstheunicorn]

May I also suggest Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit by Raven Kaldera, d/s companion books that address kink with a disability. They're a should read for everyone, imo. You never know when you or a partner are going to have changes in your body that affect what you can physically do. Temporary illness/injury and even just age can affect your sex life.

[dogspouse]

I'd like to suggest Better Bondage for Every Body! It goes really in depth on anatomy, pain processing, self-tying, and has chapters specifically focusing on how to do rope bondage on/for someone who is disabled or has chronic pain, which was really important to me.