hihi!!! call me beau, or blush, or beau blush! i'm a trans guy in my early 20s that uses this account (and others connected) as horny outlets. please be kind and respectful, this is a big step for me!
DNI: minors (stay safe and off my blog pls), you know who i am offline (unless we're cool like that), any and all bigots (TERFs, zionists, racists, transphobes, etc.), men dni blogs (i am a man). also i block ageless blogs so do with that what you will.
my original post tag is #beau barks 🐾, my asks tag is #asks tag 🦴, and my ask games tag is #send asks please! 🐕
(divider by @cafekitsune)
my links - fansly / (content) discord server / pleasepraiseme / throne
🟡ehhh,,, we can talk: hypnosis, overstimulation, piss(ing), dubcon, spanking, oral, forcefem, ownership ("i own you")
🛑not for me: harsh degredation (words like worthless, useless, etc.), fauxcest, scat, vomit, snuff, raceplay, knifeplay, noncon (& the word rape), needles
(i don't necessarily mind people who are into these things interacting with my blog, this is just about what i'm into being personally involved in :P)
about this blog
i started blogging on this side of tumblr shortly after starting T (feb 2024) and i've been here ever since!
my asks are open to anyone to tell me how they want to use me (or how they want me to use them (or just send me whatever)), and my dms are open to whoever i interact with! i do struggle to hold longer conversations (#myautism) but i'll try to give you at least some attention!
about me
i'm still exploring my identity, but im excited for the ride! currently labeling myself as a gnc trans man and i'm still figuring out my sexuality but i think i'm bi??? poly for sure, though.
im also a member of a DID system, which we don't post about on here much, but you might see a reference to plurality every so often! my headmates sign off posts with emojis to represent them :3
some of my non-kink interests are the twitch and youtube spaces, listening to music, drawing, and crochet :3
PUT ME ON A LEAAAASH PLEASE oh my god im like. insane right now i wanna have someone have me on a leash so bad and call me a good boy. seriously please treat me like your dog let me be your subservient pet
i got my first bong earlier this week >:3c i hit it earlier tonight & just took an edible, feeling so take-advantage-of-able... whatever that word is....
found a REALLY GOOD tail plug and ears set thru a reddit comment, but i can't decide if it's worth the investment... its $111 for both and like... where would i wear them......
clearly i need an owner that can take me out and about wearing them
excuse me ma'am but I met your "evil alter" last night and I regret to inform you she's just a tsundere with moral ocd. no, it's ok, I can still call her evil if that's what she's into. yeah, I don't mind acting kinda scared of her during sex. I just wanted to let you know she's chill. yeah, and her paws are cute I thought so too.
I want to share something someone told me when I first started out as a dom because it was kind of a lightbulb moment for me as an emotional sadist. At the time I was doing aftercare but I didn't understand what psychologically recovering from a scene really meant. Then someone put it into dom terms and it just sort of clicked. So I thought I'd share in case anyone else needs to hear it.
As a degrader and a sadist it's so hot that some subs will be as pathetic as you want them to be... so don't fuck around with their emotions outside of that, that sub is already literally playing with and altering their emotions for your benefit and pleasure. You're overstressing the emotion muscle if you do and rest is essential to any healthy exercise.
You're not giving their feelings any time to rest and recover if you cause emotional distress outside of playtime and you're not giving them the safety and security to play with their emotions again. If you consistently play with humiliation, degradation, or other forms of psychological sadism, you need to be aware of this and plan accordingly.
Avoid big talks or heavy topics immediately after, and do things that will lift your partner's mood in the days following an intense scene even if their mood doesn't need a lift. While you can't see it, by doing that, you've essentially put an emotional ice pack on a sore muscle.
For physical injuries lift the area affected so it can circulate and heal better. For emotional ones it's the same process, lift their mood so positive feelings can circulate and help the recovery along.
A little addendum I think bears mentioning since this post has been blowing up my notes lately:
It's easy for doms to understand that some subs are turned on by embarrassment, shame, humiliation, degradation, objectification, etc. That is an easier concept to grasp. But I think that's a bit of a simplified way of putting it and a more accurate way to explain what's going on is that some subs experience embarrassment, shame, humiliation, degradation, objectification, etc from their dom and are turned on by it.
I think putting the emphasis back on the painful emotion the submissive is putting themselves through is such an important distinction that needs to be made more often. Sometimes the fact that the sub is still experiencing these very powerful negative emotions during sex or scenes (for your benefit by the way, doms) gets lost in translation when someone says "it makes me horny when you humiliate me."
But they're NOT just horny when you humiliate them, they're still also humiliated. And for those of you saying "well duh, of course" please just trust me when I say, as a dom myself who went through learning this and has helped so many other doms learn this, that most doms are absolutely not making this connection at all and that's why my post above has been reblogged a bunch of times by both doms and subs.
As a dom, what we are incorrectly assuming is that the input is 'humiliation' and the output is 'horny' based on what we see and how our sub reacts when we play like this. We are not registering that they are also still humiliated because in the moment they're acting horny. It's an easy logical error to make due to faulty observations and this mistake isn't just limited to male doms in my experience. A lot of folks from all walks of life don't quite grasp this at first. And once you do grasp this you can give better aftercare.
The reality is that the output is both horny and humiliation and your aftercare as a dom better contain ways to treat the emotional pain you inflicted on your sub. In this case, reassurance (I'm so proud of you/of how much you took for me) and positive affirmations (you make me so happy, you're so beautiful/smart) are a hell of a drug for making sure their psyche stays intact and recovers properly.
