hello ! im a lurker anon with a lot of thoughts of whats happened in the past like. less than a day that ive been aching to dump and youre the first person i saw in the tag so ragh! wave incoming!
im pretty neutral on the two sides the anticares are seemingly split into now, cuz i feel like both sides have been reacting very strongly due to not understanding each other, and generally the infighting is unnecessary. i wanna mention first that a lot of people are being crazy harsh about chaosblast like IMMEDIATELY after they (? i dont see prns on their tumblr so i hope this is correct to use) said a single thing. i think there are valid reasons to be upset, but to preach about harassment while The Horde jumped them for a single post is. uhm. i hope the hypocrisy in that can be easily seen. please just block, we dont have to go nuts
Its being left out a lot that Chaosblast... did not say pegglesai wasnt harassed, nor condoned pegglesai being harassed. They specifically said that the post that showed evidence of harassment didnt load for them when they first made a post. It was not an issue of not looking at the full story before posting, tumblr just doesnt load shit sometimes. And they directly apologized for getting that bit wrong too (which is deleted now, along with all the posts they made during that time, as mentioned due to them still actively being stalked, but I myself saw when they posted that). If they answered a question once, 5 more people dont need to send the exact same thing. If you are going to be upset at someone for repeating incomplete information, do not repeatedly send the same thing that has already been answered
now, i wanna go ahead and say: i wholeheartedly believe ventblogs were not at risk of being doxxed. But i understand why they were scared of this! I think fearmongering of this did happen to an extent, but not intentionally. I think a lot of people online fear doxxing, so its kind of a magical threatening word one can use to send people into freaking out-- because not a lot of normal people will know how doxxing works! theyre not gonna actively try doing that themself, so why should they? so, for the record, i will say: Doxxing is not someone can just easily do in the blink of an eye, even if theyve doxxed someone before. In the case of the recent doxxer, they themself claim to be a victim of Woofles. That itself implies they were close to Woofles at some point, and when youre close to someone, that information is much more likely to be shared or found through proximity, and possibly trust in sharing more personal/sensitive info. Besides that, people are often doxxed through sharing/showing sensitive information that can be connected to their irl identity, or through having clicked/downloaded something malicious that can grab information. Getting scared of a doxxer threatening you is understandable! But for future reference, if something like this should ever come up again, ask yourself a few things; Have you clicked on or downloaded anything suspicious from someone/somewhere you dont know? If no, someone is not likely to immediately have all of your information. And also I think its just generally common knowledge not to do that. Otherwise, have you posted sensitive information of yourself online, that could be found by a complete stranger? If yes, that could be a potential issue, but normally for that kind of digging, itll take more than a few things to narrow it down. Stuff like your age/birthday and your country wont endanger you 99.99% of the time. Hell, even sharing your state/city wont always be dangerous, but you regardless should not share anything further than state. Its info like images of your face, images of where you live, what your job is/who you work for, etc that can really be dangerous to share. That, or easy access to accounts you use for irl purposes. I say none of this to seem as though im talking down to anyone, but just to accentuate that doxxing is something done through criteria being met, not something people just Find on a whim and post. If that were the case, the entire anticare space would probably be doxxed at this point. Theres not something like Whitepages easily accessible to the public that allows people to see your account and know everything about you. I say this all to hopefully quell fears a bit, and also so people can understand to not do/share these things about themselves, and that its also unlikely youll randomly be doxxed by someone who was close to a predator and targetting a predator. Excluding cases of clicking/downloading of malicious things, doxxing is often going to be something done by people closer to you, people you know rather than strangers.
However, despite all of this, I understand the fear. In concept, doxxing is a scary thing, and not many people are going to think in depth about how at risk they are if they are actively being threatened/harassed. And because of this, i think anyone who WAS actively mad at pegglesai, or whoever else, for being freaked out from harassment was absolutely in the wrong and should learn empathy.
I do understand where the people upset by the ventblog reactions are coming from, though. To my understanding, those are people much more learned/familiar with doxxing and harassment, and I think when thats something youve endured frequently, its easy to become desensitized to it, and also think others dumb for not realizing how unlikely some things like doxxing are for them.
its a case where I think both sides should really take a second to calm down. I think people in the know of how doxxing works should have been a bit more patient with ventblogs, understanding that many are children or not fully mature yet, and are thus much more susceptible to being scared by things like this. And not to be 'hurrdurr chronically online people' or whatever, but its even more the case for people who HAVE been on social media a lot, particularly as teens. I was pretty much the same up until i was 16, and it was then that I ended up taking a really long break from social media, and I came back to it with much more understanding of how I should act on it. As for the ventblog side, I think they should be more open to criticism. I will say, i can see how what was said was harsh/taken harshly, as it seems people were either actively being harsh, or being blunt. But we shouldnt be acting like The Horde in someones askbox because they said something that pissed us off! The sparklecrit community was built to have a free space where people could speak their mind, even if it differed from public opinion. It was made specifically to avoid the whiteknight culture sparklecare had accumulated. Lets please try to avoid recreating that, no matter the circumstance
And a final thing, a personal critique on ventblogs that I hope can be taken calmly, as I mean no harm with it-- but I think some should be much more careful with the information they post. If its something youre not going to directly inform the public about, you do not need to vague about it publicly. This only creates public interest, that can devolve into distress and chaos. And if its an allegation with proof, please, PLEASE, do not take it at face value. Even if 'well this person has a history of weird behavior' is your reasoning, we should avoid taking things as face value. Just because someone has done a wrong thing, does not mean they have done all wrong things ever, and taking every claim at face value without proof only muddies up what is true and what is false, which harms the people trying to spread that these people are bad in the first place. You are not helping the cause in the way you think you are if you actively spread allegations without proof, or at the very least without mentioning "this is a currently unproven allegation, please take with a grain of salt". When we're in such a community where many bad actors do exist and lurk, we have to be incredibly careful what is shared and spread. It is understandable to want the public to be aware of things sometimes, but some of you, especially adults, should try to have much more mindfulness when it comes to appropriately sharing what absolutely should and deserves to be shared
Anyways, holy yappathon over. I hope what ive said can be taken in a, at the very least, neutral way, as i truly mean no harm, but I can personally see where both sides are coming from. Its a clusterfuck of a situation, exacerbated by two sides not understanding each other, and reacting harshly in return. I hope any/all who have been harassed can find calm now, and feel safer however they chose to step away. If theres anything i missed, I do apologize for that. Im saying all of this with information I have from lurking in the community a lot since the kittycorn doc dropped, and having been on the side of sparklecrit privately pretty much since the sparklecrit community first started/became known as a separate part of the fandom. My memory is poor, so nothing potentially left out is left out with ill intent. I doubt this will really be seen, but watching people fight over this has been... something, and if I can get through to at least one person, then thats enough for me. Fuck shittycorn, fuck shitmera, fuck doxxers, fuck harassers, and good day to all the normal folk out there!
^ posting it so people can give their opinion if they have something to add, or reply to!!
