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Bellemere! ♡ Mollis ♡ He/Her 🏳️‍⚧️ ♡ admin of @mollisposting

[bellboutique]

Haiii! I'm Bellmere. My friends call me Merry. I also go by Maple!

I'm a Bi Mollis (ftm) GNC Trans Man and indigenous mexican trying to deal with the blows life throws at me.

You'll see rambles regarding fandom, GNC/trans issues, fandom, art I like, uhhh and my disability.

Did I mention Mexico? I'm also very Mexican!!🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽

[bellboutique]

Trans-GNC existence is important.

[bellboutique]

highkey, stop sorting gnc and trans people together. Especially since Trans-GNC people are somehow not apart of it...it's almost like this logic is based off of trans-gncphobia.

For example A masc woman and a GC trans man have vastly different experiences and struggles. People only mention "overlap" because they misgender trans men, and see masculine women as MEN. They can't seperate allinity vs gender.

Which is why I don't like the consolidation of transmasc/transfem to meaning both GNC and GC trans people when they've always been distinct classes of people who've always existed, the grouping of them exists as a poor understanding of GNC people, and completely ignores Trans-GNC people as a real class of people. Then slurs like "theyfab" "pooner" or "cislite" are thrown at us just for existing.

[finnu1223]

i think maybe gnc and trans people shouldnt be competing for representation actually

yknow, considering a person can be both

[finnu1223]

these two things arent the same thing tho

im sorry that acknowledging this issue doesnt help you, that still doesnt mean its no help to others

and anyway, studies have shown that gender nonconforming people are treated differently than trans people, based on their identity. if the same person claims to be a gc trans person or a gnc cis person, queerphobes will go out of their way to misgender them in either direction

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if a gc trans person claims to be their real gender, theyre intentionally misgendered as an insult. if a gnc cis person claims to be their agab, theyre intentionally misgendered as an insult. trans gnc people get misgendered regularly by both the lgbt and the gc/cishet communities regardless

its almost like these are two different groups that can overlap. both are treated in shitty ways, and claiming that the discrimination gnc people experience is just misdirected homophobia/transphobia is still denying its existence and protecting it from criticism

to deny gncphobia is also claiming that gnc trans people arent oppressed "because theyre following the gender roles assigned to them at birth", which is ridiculous as well, because a)

- every gnc trans person i know grew up presenting as a gnc cis person (ie tomboys that grew into fem trans men and femboys that grew into butch trans women)

and b)

- even trans gnc people that never changed their presentation still spent most of their life being misgendered

gnc people of all kinds face oppression that is connected to but not the same as transphobia or homophobia. gnc cis people have distinct experiences that gc cis people dont have, and gnc trans people have distinct experiences that passing/gc trans people dont have, and so on. this is not a microlabel, this is a massive issue that effects a wide array of people and shouldnt be discounted or overlooked

please learn about intersectionality and do not tag things as virago if you do not support gnc rights

[bellboutique]

Gnc Trans man here. What Finnu is saying is not only right, but is exactly what we as GNC-trans people have been trying to stop GC Trans people from saying about us. If you want a GNC-Trans voice, it's all here.

Not all trans people are GNC, and we face significant targetting in and out of out community for Gender Non Conformity and being Trans. Check my page if you want a taste of screenshots, asks, and personal experiences backing that up.

Saying "we're all genderfreaks" is vastly simplifying a broader issue GNC Trans people face that GC Trans people do not. It's actual marginalization caused by how people think. What causes people to think this way is lack of knowledge, terminology, or being educated on our specific experiences as being both GNC Trans. To call our lived experience manifested as language "microlabeling" is missing the point of our community being a pillar for GNC people as a class, I exist as a intersection of being both GNC and Trans. Calling all trans persons "GNC" simply for the act of changing their gender disregards my existence as a feminine man who happens to be trans.

We still transiton. We still take horomones. We still need the same rights. Yet, within our communities we have to fight for our respect. Why? We have to fight hard to prove our own existence to people who should understand us. Why? We have to explain the concept of an androgynous person, masculine women, feminine men as GNC, but Trans-GNCs are all of a sudden 'detrans' 'pooners' 'hefabs' Why? Why are we treated so differently when "we're all genderfucks" ?

It's no secret that Trans GNC people are the main target when the community shakes.

[bellboutique]

I hate that GCs control all the narratives for GNC spaces and people. Then they get mad at you for saying gnc people deserve better. The queer, gay, and trans community alll combined are violently gncphobic. Giving GCs a platform to talk on our issues have hurt us time and again because they cosplay the pain we have to endure.

[secretscents]

Honestly one part of advocating for gnc people is so we don't have to see the weird takes alot of gnc people have under this tag. Some are just really essentialist, transphobic or just plain out harm yourself in saying.

[secretscents]

and I always notice how they feel about trans women...yeah no I perfer our framework over tumblr callout posts who try to merge all queer people for their own interests.

[bellboutique]

soo im not crazy after all. Tumblr has a problem of speaking over individuals to make "validity" posts when some of ya'll don't fucking know about those groups enough to navigate others attacking us. It usually does more harm than good.

[bellboutique]

Gcs hate it when a GNC boy has boobs (NOT pecs) and and GNC women bind.

(It's almost like...GNC people are GNC)

[finnu1223]

i think genuinely, if it had to list one of the worst things about being hetgnc its struggling to find resources about us. all of the hurt, the lifetime of pain, and to not have a name for it. theres a few scattered studies, a few vague historical resources, but it feels like no one is looking for us

i know theres history but i cant find it. i know theres others but i cant find them outside of here. i hope theres a future but its hard to see sometimes

theres no infrastructure or dating websites outside this tiny community, nobody wants to talk about us. most, regardless of identity or sexuality, regardless if theyre gay or straight or trans or cis, shut down the very idea

it feels like, any space i enter i am seen as a monster that makes no sense. i am told that both my gender identity and sexuality has to be wrong no matter what space i occupy, because no one ive met has ever seen or heard of anything like me

i think there must be more of us but they dont have the hope of community, they dont have the promise of lovers friends family that will accept them for who they are if they just get to that city

it could be there, it could be, but theres barely a word of it. i have to imagine it because no one has ever told me of this place or where i can find it

who would want to sacrifice their life like that, for no promises? who would want to lose family friends and lovers, to be their true selves, with no hope for relief? you have to make a bet and you have to hope its a damn good one because otherwise it drives you mad or kills you

i know i sound crazy and i think its because i am. ive had to be to choose this, and yet i couldnt choose anything else. i could never be anything else

all i know is i am here, and i still have hope in things ive never been promised

[bigmommah]

Mollis representation!

credits to chknbunny

[anonymous-blahaj]

I don’t usually make posts like this but I feel like this perfectly illustrates something I’ve noticed in trans spaces (and queer spaces in general). Also this VERY big blogger sent me an ask calling me transmisogynistic and thought I wouldn’t know it was them. I left a comment on this post and minutes after I did, I got that ask. You aren’t slick.

I’ve noticed alot of gender stereotypes being enforced by alot of queer people but in a woke way. This post is an example of that. If a man dresses feminine or does traditionally feminine things, he must secretly wanna be a woman. Gender non conforming people are just confused and lost to these people. They’ll become ‘normal’ when they come to their senses. It reminds me of when I was biology and this girl (she’s very openly a lesbian and has short hair) randomly brought up how her tboy friend still painted his nails and had ‘girly’ interests and long hair. She said that was ‘suspicious’ but she’ll just ‘go alone with it’.

GENDER EXPRESSION DOES NOT EQUAL GENDER

Get this bigoted conservative view at of your fuckin heads! It’s not progressive to tell someone that, because they present a certain way, they must be a certain gender. This is so similar to conservatives who say that if someone is a certain gender, they must present in a certain way. THEYRE KINDA THE SAME.

Can we all please grow past this and actually be queer and progressive❓

please?

If you don’t stand with gender non conforming people, you don’t stand with any queer people

[bellboutique]

GNCphobia (Gynarchophobia and Cuphobia respectively) is a huge problem in the trana community towards trans people who are also gnc.

Their reduction of femininity to womanhood and masculinity to manhood and any gender-nonconforming act effects us and they know it. They do it under the guise of turning GNC characters trans, when it only reveals their gender essentialist views and harms us within the community.

(Not defending the use of "femboy" because it is a transmisogynistic term, but the way they said it is literally Cuphobic.)

[anonymous-blahaj]

femboy was originally meant to mean exactly what the name would make you think it means.

Feminine boy

It’s still used like that alotta the time but it’s been sexualised and co-opted by bad people. I think the term is fine when used to describe what it’s supposed to and not to devalidate someone’s identity.

femboys are a part of the gnc community after all

(everything else you said was great)

[bellboutique]

...? Yeah it was meant to mean feminine boy which was entirely used against trans women by design. Transmisogynistic fetishism is included, it's even listed on the wikipedia page. I was a there when the term got popularized on the internet, it was not for actual feminine men.

[anonymous-blahaj]

I don’t usually make posts like this but I feel like this perfectly illustrates something I’ve noticed in trans spaces (and queer spaces in general). Also this VERY big blogger sent me an ask calling me transmisogynistic and thought I wouldn’t know it was them. I left a comment on this post and minutes after I did, I got that ask. You aren’t slick.

I’ve noticed alot of gender stereotypes being enforced by alot of queer people but in a woke way. This post is an example of that. If a man dresses feminine or does traditionally feminine things, he must secretly wanna be a woman. Gender non conforming people are just confused and lost to these people. They’ll become ‘normal’ when they come to their senses. It reminds me of when I was biology and this girl (she’s very openly a lesbian and has short hair) randomly brought up how her tboy friend still painted his nails and had ‘girly’ interests and long hair. She said that was ‘suspicious’ but she’ll just ‘go alone with it’.

GENDER EXPRESSION DOES NOT EQUAL GENDER

Get this bigoted conservative view at of your fuckin heads! It’s not progressive to tell someone that, because they present a certain way, they must be a certain gender. This is so similar to conservatives who say that if someone is a certain gender, they must present in a certain way. THEYRE KINDA THE SAME.

Can we all please grow past this and actually be queer and progressive❓

please?

If you don’t stand with gender non conforming people, you don’t stand with any queer people

[bellboutique]

GNCphobia (Gynarchophobia and Cuphobia respectively) is a huge problem in the trana community towards trans people who are also gnc.

Their reduction of femininity to womanhood and masculinity to manhood and any gender-nonconforming act effects us and they know it. They do it under the guise of turning GNC characters trans, when it only reveals their gender essentialist views and harms us within the community.

(Not defending the use of "femboy" because it is a transmisogynistic term, but the way they said it is literally Cuphobic.)

[anonymous-blahaj]

I don’t usually make posts like this but I feel like this perfectly illustrates something I’ve noticed in trans spaces (and queer spaces in general). Also this VERY big blogger sent me an ask calling me transmisogynistic and thought I wouldn’t know it was them. I left a comment on this post and minutes after I did, I got that ask. You aren’t slick.

I’ve noticed alot of gender stereotypes being enforced by alot of queer people but in a woke way. This post is an example of that. If a man dresses feminine or does traditionally feminine things, he must secretly wanna be a woman. Gender non conforming people are just confused and lost to these people. They’ll become ‘normal’ when they come to their senses. It reminds me of when I was biology and this girl (she’s very openly a lesbian and has short hair) randomly brought up how her tboy friend still painted his nails and had ‘girly’ interests and long hair. She said that was ‘suspicious’ but she’ll just ‘go alone with it’.

GENDER EXPRESSION DOES NOT EQUAL GENDER

Get this bigoted conservative view at of your fuckin heads! It’s not progressive to tell someone that, because they present a certain way, they must be a certain gender. This is so similar to conservatives who say that if someone is a certain gender, they must present in a certain way. THEYRE KINDA THE SAME.

Can we all please grow past this and actually be queer and progressive❓

please?

If you don’t stand with gender non conforming people, you don’t stand with any queer people

[serene-dipity]

I know this is an out of the blue comment. But "Even the most tiny, traditionally fem-looking person in the world can genuinely come as masc with enough confidence!" Gave me so so so much hope, hope I can come back to even though I don't look like how I want to look like.

Source: https://www.tumblr.com/serene-dipity/803778518438854656/do-you-mollis-really-think-a-woman-can-be-actually?source=share

Oh that's awesome, anon! I'm glad to hear it! 😁

I won’t belabor the point cause obv you’ve read the post already lol but it really is true! I know someone irl who’s 5’2 and she’s the dude-iest dude I’ve ever met (tbh I know several people like that lmao)! How you act and how you dress define so much, so just keep working towards whoever it is you want to be and you’ll get there!

Thank you so much for the lovely message, I hope you’re having a good day! :D

[bellboutique]

The more I think about it, the more angry I am about gnc people who are trans have to deal with this shit.

[bellboutique]

You can't talk to a GC trans person about GNC trans issues without them being transphobic. They will misgender us to silence us.

[secretscents]

Toby Fox would shit his pants if he discovered Virago & Mollis. Chapter 5 is full of GNC characters.

[bellboutique]

Why are trans men becoming the target for attacks by everyone? Saw a trans person say trans men aren't affected by the t slur?