Inferiority and me - A love story
So let's talk a little bit about inferiority shall we? First of all I fully respect that the word itself can trigger some uncomfortable associations with some folks. That's why I wanted to try to explain how I see it and what it means to me. And if you still find it hard to digest, well then please just try to think of it as a "Your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok" type of thing. And also, this is my view, my experience. That doesn't make everything true for everyone. Everyone's desires and hopes and background is different.
With that little disclaimer out of the way then. Inferiority. It kind of means less right, being less. It doesn't mean the inferior party has less human value, less rights to have their needs (well some of them) taken cared of or that they should spent 24 hours a day chained up in a basement when not licking shoes and degrading themselves for entertainment of the betters. Unless that's your thing of course and then, hey go for it.
So what is it then in my view? Well at it's core it's a power dynamic of course. It's dominance and submission. But it goes a little bit beyond that as well, a little deeper in a way. I'm talking about a dynamic between two or more parties where the roles has been engrained into the relationships to the extent where it's no longer "just" play. It's no longer where one (or more) has chosen to submit and one (or more) has chosen to dominate. It's where it's just a natural part of the relationship. How you interact, behave, obey, control, humiliate, belittle, perform and whatever words you chose. Where if I'm told to do something, I do it not only because I have chosen to submit but because it is the natural response to someone better than me telling me to do it. And on the other side (although I admittedly don't have many dominant cells in my body) you dominate and assert your dominance not only because you've chosen to take that role, but because it's your natural response in the dynamic with the bottom. When it just makes sense. All within agreed limits of course.
Behaviors and actions over time creates an environment where the submissive can't help but look up at his or hers superiors and the dominant can't help but look down at the submissive. It certainly doesn't happen overnight and I think it probably takes a special kind of dominant and a special kind of submissive to get there. And it's not for everyone either and that's fine. It's not a goal, saying this type of dynamic is better or more real or whatever. Whatever floats your boat right.
But what floats my boat leaving me on the seas of submissive bliss, is when I can look up towards a dominant, seeing that they truly see me as inferior and me feeling to the core that the natural, proper thing to do is obey. And then they'll get what they deserve which is my utmost obedience and dedication towards improving their life, be it with chores, amusement or just staying out of the way. And I will get what I deserve which is them pushing me to deliver on my promise of subservience, through their words, through their actions, through the humiliation of being less, through denying me what they can freely have. I deserve that because I might be inferior, but I'm also pretty frickin awesome and I deserve to get to thrive in my role at the bottom of the pack where happiness and purpose lies. Serving the superiors so they can enjoy themselves. What better purpose can one have?
And I'm not talking fantasy, I'm talking reality. Important distinction. Oh, and two more words that shouldn't be needed but unfortunately are - Consent and Communication. Consent all the fucking way and loads and loads of communication. Without those two words you're just fucking up yourself or someone else and hey, don't do that. Deep dynamics takes hard work from everyone involved to build.
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