Wished Upon The Pleiades

Transparency: 23, white, "cis woman passing" afab nonbinary, bisexual w/ cis man partner (ldr) Self junk: abuse survivor, rape survivor, undiagnosed neurodivergent, undiagnosed chronic pain, woman-centered politics, I try not to interact with minors, I'm a bear, I'm very whiny and self-centered and I'm sorry 100% of the time. Please introduce yourself when you follow me or I'll probably block you, especially if I see anything racist/ transphobic/ transmisogynist/ ableist/ etc. on your blog. If I don't know you please ask before reblogging any untagged posts of mine. Thanks. var sc_project=8825055; var sc_invisible=1; var sc_security="d10b79ce"; var scJsHost = (("https:" == document.location.protocol) ? "https://secure." : "http://www."); document.write("");

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

What if people could apologize for misgendering a trans person instead of arguing with them about it for two hours and making them suicidal lol

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

On tthe one hand I'm doing really good right this moment but on the other hand please just fucking murder me?

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

So I follow some men on my other account bc that happens I'm looser over there with what I do But whenever they post selfies I wanna unfollow bc ew men

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

Fun things to think about: Because I am a literal actual crazy person my gender can change based on what media I consume

[ethiopienne]

[knitmeapony]

ONE TWEET. THIS FIT IN ONE TWEET. IF YOU FUCK IT UP YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE.

[misotrashy]

So much of this.  An apology is NOT “I’m sorry BUT here’s why I’m totally in the right and think I did nothing wrong.”

[adora-korra]

!!!!

[bogleech]

“lol those wacky liberals always crying nazi this and nazi that” - Trumpers

“no seriously these are nazis” - WWII historians, everyone still alive who was around for any part of WWII or its aftermath, and a fair number of neonazis themselves

[queerlittlecreature-deactivated]

Yeag like i need every “im not racist” trump voter to understand that of neonazis and the kkk are supporting trump enthusiastically, it just means that they see what you refuse to

[oldmancanyons]

does anyone else feel like they constantly have to justify everything they do? Iike I’m always mentally preparing a reason behind everything just in case anyone was to question it.

[teardrops-in-my-eyes]

i only just realised that maybe that isn’t normal

[depressioncomix]

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[antisemitism-eu]

So…

When will left-wingers start treating antisemitism as seriously as they expect the right to do?

I mean, it’s all nice to be shocked that Bannon is appointed to the white house, but there are many on the left who wish Jews would burn in another Holocaust and I don’t see anybody getting upset over that.

[autisticarchive-deactivated2019]

When you call bigots “insane” “psychopaths” “sick” “crazy” or “wrong in the head” you’re actually moving the responsibility for bigoted acts from the systematic racism, sexism, transphobia, misogyny, etc in our society to disabled/neurodivergent people and that is one great example of what happens when you all forget to include ableism in your intersectionality.

[sushie-moved]

honestly i dont even play an active role in my life shit just happens and im like oh is this what we’re doing now ok

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

It's pretty fucked up how one of the things my brain likes to hold over my mom is that I was raped more times than her

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

"Do I actually age regress or do I just know a lot of people who do?" *age regresses about once a week* "...do I actually age regress or do I just know a lot of people who do?"

[beyondthereachesofmortality]

What if I told u that u can make spaces safe for former alcoholics w/o dehumanizing and demonizing current alcoholics

[yulinkuang]

In the next couple days / weeks / always, I’d like to remind people to check the sources and dates of articles they’re sharing/reblogging. Misinformation spreads via clickbait titles on disreputable/non-news sites, or old articles with relevant titles but out-of-date information. 

This is, at best, extremely frustrating and at worst, very very dangerous. There are people out there, for whatever reason, who are taking advantage of public sentiment and creating false news stories that play to our worst fears. Every time you share a false news story, you make it less likely that people will believe the real ones that come after them.

Please check your sources. Don’t help spread misinformation.

[youngbadmanbrown-deactivated201]

I wish every white person at one of these protests would commit to doing one-on-one relational work with other whites to deal with their racism

[youngbadmanbrown-deactivated201]

This frustrates me because I’m in a very “liberal” academic space and my white classmates are always having lil breakout groups to discuss allyship, meetings to talk about how they can support black and brown efforts and organizing

But they seem to have zero idea how to actually talk about racism to other white people who don’t already agree with them

I was talking to a classmate today who told me he “felt bad” because his parents and siblings voted trump

And I’m just like: what’s the fucking point of doing all this chatting about allyship if you can’t even sit down and reason with the people closest to you.

Why are you always looking to us for a free education on race when you just compartmentalize that shit or use the insights to get closer to other poc

[l0veless-generation-deactivated]

I think I can add something here as a piece of advice on how to go about this:

I work with a mix of people who carry a wide array of political viewpoints. I work closely with a guy in his 60s who tends to lean Republican on most issues. 

One day, I was in a car with him and another colleague, around my age. The conversation diverted into entitlement spending and race. Us 20 somethings were on one side of the issues and a 60-year-old white guy was on the other. 

After hearing him rant for a bit, I calmly asked, “Hey ____, what’s so wrong with those living in the projects getting unemployment benefits?” I let him answer and then posed another question off of his response. I kept calm and kept letting him speak, then asking follow-up questions. Eventually, he was calm and I could tell he was satisfied that I heard his point and where he was coming from. I also noticed that his views became less and less extreme every time I posed a question. His emotions were subsiding and he was critically thinking about each question. So, I expressed my position of how certain people are exposed to certain opportunity and race plays a major role in exposure. I related to people we both knew. I related to stories of friends that he didn’t know. I asked him, again calmly, if that perspective changes anything. 

He kind of grumbled something and we arrived at our destination, ending the conversation.

However, the next day he came in and stated that he gave my position a lot of thought and felt like I brought up a lot of great points. He said was willing to think about these things. 

I was COMPLETELY taken aback. I realized that my conversation was effective. I honestly don’t know who he voted for or if there a major impact on his thinking, but something changed enough for him to thank me and bring up a willingness to change, albeit how small.

So I guess my advice would be the following:

1) Have people re-examine their own thinking. Don’t tell them how to think or haw you think. Ask them questions that have them explore their thought process.

2) Relate your position to shared experience. Put a face and a name to the marginalized group. Don’t let them go to the ‘well they’re the exception’ answer. Go back to 1) and ask them questions.

3) Stay calm. Like 100% be calm. Disarm their emotions and don’t escalate with your own. This gives them an opportunity to think rationally rather than emotionally. 

4) Don’t do it to feel good about yourself. Do it because it’s the right thing. If you are white/male/straight/cis, you need to do this for those who are not. Keep your thoughts on the marginalized and not making yourself feel good or ‘not like them’. This is not about you.

5) On the flip side, understand white poverty and what is going on in the manufacturing industry. Get the other viewpoint, even if you don’t think it’s worth empathizing with. Just understand that issue. Keep it in the back of your mind when asking questions.

I honestly don’t know if this will work in every circumstance or is enough. I feel like I made a change in someone’s way of thinking.  I thought it was worth sharing. 

[youngbadmanbrown-deactivated201]

Thank you for this.

[thunderboltsortofapenny]

This was exactly what I needed to find today, thank you

[therealpotter]

This lines up really closely to motivational interviewing techniques and I love that. Good to remember.

[khealywu]

I had this method work talking to 22 year old white guys about rape culture at a bar once. They listened and it sunk in and it was very very VERY surprising tbh but also made me feel really good.

[kiriamaya]

This is great, and exactly what I’ve been looking for!

[ithotyouknew2-deactivated201710]

Call me crazy but I’d say the blame for “letting” Trump win would probably be on those who actually voted for him

[nefepants]

*stares blankly at half of my mutuals and gestures to this*