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mo (taurus) 22 a big ol softy ~ queer

[chasm-side]

My therapist, who specializes in adults with ADHD, recently told me that all of her clients need a three day crash period after a big life change. Finish the semester? Crash. Change jobs? Crash. Go on a really cool, really relaxing vacation? Crash the moment you get home.

It's true of literally all of her clients. She works with a lot of them to put systems in place so that their crashes are only three days. This includes the high-powered execs who travel regularly for work. It does not matter how successful or high functioning they are - they have ADHD, and crashing is just part of the process of living with it.

I'm sharing this with all you ADHD friends out there, just in case you (like me) start shaming yourself if your crash lasts more than one day. It turns out three days is kind of the best case scenario. Be kind to yourselves!

[This post has been edited to change "crashout" to "crash". It was causing confusion and/or offense, especially to people who thought I was referring to "crashout" as the term exists in AAVE (also being appropriated into gen z speak right now). I'm sorry about that. Please reblog this version of the post in the future!]

[areyoudoingthis]

the importance of being earnest gdrive link for anyone who missed it or wants to watch it again ✨

[bifurcatedbeech]

for me, for later when I'm not working crazy overtime

[loveridden1999]

starting a collection

[chic-a-gigot]

L'Art et la mode, no. 9, vol. 18, 27 février 1897, Paris. Dessin de Nada. Bibliothèque nationale de France

[tub-blog]

It Begins

And the ultimate bloging begins

[capnsoapy]

It Ends

And the ultimate bloging ends

[vintagecomputer]

It Resumes

And the ultimate bloging resumes

[modmad]

[frostedmagnolias]

Dinner Gown

c. 1913

unknown maker

UNT Digital Library

[sisyphusshrugged]

let's be several years behind together

[frostedmagnolias]

Edwardian Silk Day Dress

c. 1907

Augusta Auctions

[bifurcatedbeech]

North America's #1 auction house for Couture & Vintage Fashion. Augusta Auctions accepts consignments of historic clothing and textiles from

She's up for auction! Nice detail shots available.

[frostedmagnolias]

Dress

c. 1912

made by Martha Willey Riley, Cherryfield, ME

Maine Historical Society

[bifurcatedbeech]

Dress made by Martha Willey Riley, Cherryfield, ca. 1912

Seamstress Martha Willey Riley likely made this dress while living in Cherryfield, where her husband John Riley was a logger and blueberry f

Gotta add a link so you can look at all the beautiful details....

[yakichoufd]

Baz being the best big brother is everything to me <3 (Obsessional Simon is the best Simon.)

once you get glitter, you can never get rid of glitter...

[chic-a-gigot]

L'Art et la mode, no. 31, vol. 36, 2 octobre 1915, Paris. Robes du jour. Dessin de A. Soulié. Bibliothèque nationale de France

Robe en gaze métallique vert et "or". Corselet en satin vert boutonné.

Robe en Silkajour blanc, garnie d'hermine et de velours bleu.

Robe en serge Moscovite "chamois" garni de taffetas même ton.

[larkandkatydid]

One thing I’ve become a real extremist about is little girl’s clothing and hair styles because if your kid can’t get her hair wet, hang upside down, climb over a fence or run full out in the outfit/hair she is currently wearing then why not? And the answer better be both extremely fucking good and describe something temporary.

[poodletrain]

Hope you don't mind a story that also made me extremist about this issue.

Took my friends daughter (2.5yrs) to the park. Dressed her in practical clothing that's ok to get stained, brought an extra change of clothing. She sat in the mud at the water bank and played with rocks and mud. A little girl came over, couldn't be more than 3yrs. She was looking longingly at my friend's daughter. She has her hair in a perfect style and she's wearing a pretty dress with white socks and dressy shoes. The parents say "Sweetie don't go into the mud, you'll get your dress dirty" and pull her away, while giving me a judgmental look as they see the kid in my charge covered in mud and throwing rocks into the water. It felt really weird, like we saw eachother as aliens with completely different ideas on how to raise children. When my friends daughter was done playing, changed her into clean clothing and went back home. She had a lot of fun at the park and a day full of nature and play. The other little girl kept her dress clean.

[blackmosscupcakes]

When my daughter was getting close to school age, I remember walking past her future school with my mum and noting that all the little boys were wearing the uniform trousers and all the little girls were wearing skirts. And I mentioned that I hoped the uniform policy allowed for girls to wear trousers. My mum asked why, and I outlined several reasons, including "because kids fall over when they're running and playing, and skinned knees are more likely if she's only allowed to wear skirts."

And my mum said "well, maybe in that case she'd learn to be more careful."

Aaaaand I think my resulting reaction of horror at the idea of forcing 50% of children to play more carefully due to clothing requirements made her realise exactly what she'd just said.

(The uniform policy does indeed allow her to wear trousers. She's now 10 and still prefers them)

[the-haiku-bot]

And my mum said “well,

maybe in that case she’d learn

to be more careful.”

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[mayasaura]

Makes me feel a kind of way how Gideon does not once question Nona's personality. Like, she knows who Nona is! She knows that's the Death of the Lord, the monster in the Tomb, a being as old as her universe, and she's furious with her. But she still sees Nona and adjusts her attitude to speak reassuringly to her, like a little kid. Even when she's grilling her about Harrow, it's: Where is she? It doesn't matter what the answer is, just tell me. I promise I won't get mad.

[mayasaura]

Gideon, furious, still treating Nona gently 🥺🥺

[thanergetic-hyperlinks]

Gideon casually averting the early throes of a fourth tantrum lmao

God, if I was directing an adaptation, this exchange would have Pyrrha looking silently in the background.

[junegoose]

Was gonna leave this in the tags but I have reconsidered

[obluette]

you turned yourself into a mausoleum 

heart wrenching commission concept

[cbrcbbr]

marrow

[vi-arcanes-left-biceps]

Love that the locked tomb is an in-depth exploration of the complexity of human relationships, love, grief, co-dependency, devotion, identity; all encapsulated in a profoundly queer, eco-feminist narrative, but when I have to explain it to my friends I just go: okay now imagine if nuns were goth and magic

[vi-arcanes-left-biceps]

To everyone who says they use the "lesbian neceomancers in space" tagline, I'm glad for you but it doesn't work for me because it's not right... It IS right technically but it is not in any way a summary of the what actually happens in the book and not even close to presenting the themes of the books.

Tbh, my angle for a non-spoiler summary is usually "the first book is a closed-door murder mystery with a group of people who are there to become demi-gods/super powerful servants of god, and our protagonists are gothic lesbian nuns, and it's all in space (it's kind of like among us haha). The second one deals with the aftermarth of that and has little to do with the first in terms of plot but it's incredible (it's my favourite) and somehow, it is also kind of like among us... Now the third one, I cannot explain this without the other two, but it's very a beautiful book about being a kid and about fighting imperialism. Just trust me".

Of course this depends on which friend I'm trying to explain it to and the level of detail they will accept for spoiler reasons. But honestly any zero-spoiler summary feels like a disservice to the themes of the books because you can't really speak about the cavalier system in depth, or the lyctors... situation, or anything about Alecto

[verins-little-notebook]

The bulk of Gideon the Ninth is really more "lesbian necromancers on Earth" which doesnt have the same ring to it

[thewillowwhisp]

One of my favorite things about the women in the locked tomb is, because of all the diverse (and pathetic) women, the ones who Are very intelligent or maternal (like Camilla, Abigail, and Pyrrha) can exist as competent women without it feeling like they're the de facto mother of whatever group they're in as symptom of being women.

And they don't have to clean up after male characters because there aren't any/j