bithink.

ella. 16. bi. poet. eyes permanently on the stars.

[bithink-blog]

shall i compare thee to a summer's day well the summer's day ain't a little bitch

[bithink-blog]

A Way to Understand Bisexuality

(For the sake of analogy, I'm talking about bisexuals being sexually and romantically interested in both men and women. That is in no way saying that bisexuals can't be attracted to people outside of gender binaries.) Imagine you have dual citizenship in two countries - Manland and Womanland. You have passports for both, and can live and work in both. Right now, you may be living in Manland. You like Manland, you are happy and satisfied with your life in Manland, and you have no particular desire currently to leave Manland. You may have not lived in Womanland so far in your life. You might never even live in Womanland in your whole life. Or, you may have lived in Womanland and liked it but you prefer Manland. The fact that you are living in Manland does not mean you don't have dual citizenship. As long as you would like to theoretically live in Womanland, and you want to keep your dual citizenship, then that's fine. You have to choose one or the other during any particular period of your life, but that doesn't mean that you're not part of both countries. The same logic applies to being bi. You don't become straight or gay once you enter into a relationship. You're still bi, you just happen to be in a 'heterosexual' or 'homosexual' relationship. You're a dual citizen living in a single country.

[bithink-blog]

to the fecal matter passing themselves off as a human being that referred to my trans friend as 'she' purely to hurt them:

I hope he punches you in your ignorant face. I hope God takes away something so integral to your identity for a few minutes that you're floundering in the grass, and you'll know how powerful words can be. I hope he writes a thousand brilliant poems and none of them will be for you.

[bithink-blog]

to the phrase 'what the hell is wrong with you':

1.) Fuck you. 2.) Everyone has their own ideas of wrong. Personally, I think slightly below-par social skills and a crushing tendency towards being nice to people that hate me are far less 'wrong' than your sweet little attempt to bully deviation. 3.) You always come out for the smallest indiscretions and yet you leave a crater bigger than a heart. 4.) I try to write poems and you break my typewriter. You make me think I'm too defective for sonnets. That I need to get fixed. 5.) I am not broken I am not broken I am loved. 6.) Fuck you.

[cisfist-blog]

Ok, I’ve been dancing around this issue for awhile.  THEN WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO CALL IT, BROSEF?

If we take the definition of phobia:

extreme or irrational fear or dislike of a specified thing or group. (So to the tumblr kitties who keep saying “the fear of cis ppl iz rational,” read a book)  So when people have an extreme dislike of cis people, what do you call it? 

[cishurts]

How about you don’t call it anything and stop taking personal offense to any post that says “cis people suck” and go on with your life

[bithink-blog]

So, hang on a second.

If I see a post saying ‘cis people should die’, I, as a cis person, shouldn’t ‘take personal offence’ and should leave it…

But if I see a post saying ‘all women should die’ or ‘all bisexuals are lying sluts’, I, as a bisexual woman, am permitted to beat the living verbal crap out of them? I’m ‘allowed’ to take ‘personal offence’ at that, right? Because they’re insulting me for my gender and sexuality, and assumably that’s wrong…

but not if I’m cis.

Stellar logic. A*

[cishurts]

Ughhhhhhhhhhhh

I have to explain this so much. No. You should not take personal offense to a post saying “cis people should die” because it doesn’t contribute to any oppression or violence, and the person who made the post most likely made it out of justified anger; it’s personal. (Also, by justified anger, that means it’s not anger simply because of traits they can’t change.)

You should take offense and call them out on being biphobic and sexist for making posts like that because it does contribute to oppression and violence and for the most part posts like that are made because of unfair prejudice, hatred of someone because of traits they can’t change.

[bithink-blog]

This is not negotiable. Saying that everyone of a certain group should die/should go to hell/are bad people is absolutely wrong. It’s a ridiculous generalisation, it’s designed to be malicious and to hurt people, and it’s just never okay. Also, think about it. If a trans person posts on their blog ‘all cissies should die’, who’s going to be reading that? Most transphobes won’t read that blog, and the ones who read that blog won’t care about the statement, because they don’t care about trans people’s opinions. You know you will care, and be hurt by it? Cis allies. So, basically, insulting people of a majority doesn’t in the least affect your oppressors, but does affect your allies.

[cishurts]

If a cis ally stops being an ally because some trans person made an angry post about cis people on tumblr . com then they weren’t an ally in the first place and are not worth time appealing to.

[bithink-blog]

The trans community are allowed to be angry as a whole at the cis community and not support cis rights, because the cis community as a whole have been assholes to them.

However, if cis people get a negative response from the trans community on tumblr, they’re not allowed to be angry at them and retract themselves from supporting their rights.

…What?

[cishurts]

No such thing as “cis rights”, they already have all their rights. So not supporting “cis rights” doesn’t affect cis people at all, nothing happens to their rights. Retracting support for basic human rights of trans people because you saw a few trans people on a microblogging site venting about their oppressors (in a manner that did not harm anyone or persecute any innocent cis people) you do not have a justified cause and by doing so you are actively perpetuating the systematic oppression of trans people, and your decision can even lead to violence. Fuck you for acting like that’s a reasonable option.

[bithink-blog]

I am really struggling to see your point right now. Look, I know the levels of shit that trans people go through. I am personally not trans so I entirely understand that although I have experienced oppression for aspects of my sexuality & gender, I will never know exactly what it is like to be discriminated against for being trans. I also agree that transphobia causes much more harm than cisphobia (I will continue to call it cisphobia, because it literally means 'fear/hatred of cis people' which is exactly what some tumblr users are displaying) and that cisphobia is more or less only present on tumblr. I can even agree that trans people may have a right to be wary of cis people, because due to an extreme lack of educational resources on trans people, most cis people don't understand the intricacies of being trans and so they often get scared, angry or abusive. So we're in agreement up to that point. The main thing I disagree with here is that I don't think you can ever justify death/extermination threats and insults towards a gender, sexuality or race group. Yes, telling cis people that they should all die is not going to decrease their rights in real life, but a) it is deliberately malicious and therefore immoral, b) it will make people feel personally attacked and upset, c) it will give cis people a bad image of the trans community (when most of you are lovely people who just want to stop discrimination) and d) it will discourage cis people from being vocal about trans rights on tumblr (which the trans community needs, since not all people are going to listen to trans people on trans issues). I've given you four solid reasons there as to why you shouldn't propagate death threats against cis people. They are also equally valid reasons as to why you shouldn't propagate death threats against trans people.

[bithink-blog]

What feminism is, according to the Dictionary: “The advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of social, personal and economic equality to men.”

That’s why it’s prefixed ‘fem’, meaning ‘woman.’ Because if we want gender equality, women are the ones we have to focus on more,…

[punk-femme-dyke]

"Thinly veiled lesbianism"

NO FEMINISTS ARE LESBIANS NEWS FLASH!

Apparently I am not a feminists because I’m openly lesbian. How did I not know this?

I also like how asexual people were included in minority groups, as the only orientation listed. They aren’t women apparently? Other LGBTQ people aren’t included?

[bithink-blog]

1.) First of all, I edited the original post to clarify what I meant by ‘thinly veiled lesbianism.’ I am of course not saying that lesbians can’t be feminists. I’m rebutting the idiotic idea that some people have that feminists are only feminists because they’re lesbians.

2.) You’ve entirely misunderstood what I meant by that. What I was saying is that it is perfectly fine to focus on one minority group’s rights without automatically saying that other groups’ rights are discounted, therefore that feminists can support women’s rights without discounting men’s rights. And then I said a few minority groups to illustrate my point. I did not have to list every minority group known to man in order to illustrate my point. Don’t be daft. Also, where did I say that asexuals aren’t women?!

3.) I feel like your priorities are a little twisted here. There’s plenty of misogyny and genuine lesbophobia on tumblr, but instead you attack this post by exploiting a couple of word choices and completely missing the general point of the post. It is relatively obvious that I’m not a lesbophobe. I’m a bisexual woman whose blog is full of posts supporting all aspects of the LGBTQ+ community. If you’re going to get angry, I’d suggest getting angry at genuine prejudice.

[cisfist-blog]

Ok, I’ve been dancing around this issue for awhile.  THEN WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO CALL IT, BROSEF?

If we take the definition of phobia:

extreme or irrational fear or dislike of a specified thing or group. (So to the tumblr kitties who keep saying “the fear of cis ppl iz rational,” read a book)  So when people have an extreme dislike of cis people, what do you call it? 

[cishurts]

How about you don’t call it anything and stop taking personal offense to any post that says “cis people suck” and go on with your life

[bithink-blog]

So, hang on a second.

If I see a post saying ‘cis people should die’, I, as a cis person, shouldn’t ‘take personal offence’ and should leave it…

But if I see a post saying ‘all women should die’ or ‘all bisexuals are lying sluts’, I, as a bisexual woman, am permitted to beat the living verbal crap out of them? I’m ‘allowed’ to take ‘personal offence’ at that, right? Because they’re insulting me for my gender and sexuality, and assumably that’s wrong…

but not if I’m cis.

Stellar logic. A*

[cishurts]

Ughhhhhhhhhhhh

I have to explain this so much. No. You should not take personal offense to a post saying “cis people should die” because it doesn’t contribute to any oppression or violence, and the person who made the post most likely made it out of justified anger; it’s personal. (Also, by justified anger, that means it’s not anger simply because of traits they can’t change.)

You should take offense and call them out on being biphobic and sexist for making posts like that because it does contribute to oppression and violence and for the most part posts like that are made because of unfair prejudice, hatred of someone because of traits they can’t change.

[bithink-blog]

This is not negotiable. Saying that everyone of a certain group should die/should go to hell/are bad people is absolutely wrong. It’s a ridiculous generalisation, it’s designed to be malicious and to hurt people, and it’s just never okay. Also, think about it. If a trans person posts on their blog ‘all cissies should die’, who’s going to be reading that? Most transphobes won’t read that blog, and the ones who read that blog won’t care about the statement, because they don’t care about trans people’s opinions. You know you will care, and be hurt by it? Cis allies. So, basically, insulting people of a majority doesn’t in the least affect your oppressors, but does affect your allies.

[cishurts]

If a cis ally stops being an ally because some trans person made an angry post about cis people on tumblr . com then they weren’t an ally in the first place and are not worth time appealing to.

[bithink-blog]

The trans community are allowed to be angry as a whole at the cis community and not support cis rights, because the cis community as a whole have been assholes to them.

However, if cis people get a negative response from the trans community on tumblr, they're not allowed to be angry at them and retract themselves from supporting their rights.

...What?

[bithink-blog]

I don't know what to do

I had a feud with one of my closest friends a couple months ago. Everything she said or did seemed geared to make me miserable. She constantly built up lots of little digs and insults and passive-aggressive comments, until it all blew up and my best friend screamed at her. She has severe clinical depression and bipolar disorder, and I'm the only one of my friends who hasn't had a mental disorder. I guess I'm the most forgiving of my friends, so she took it out on me. We made up, though my other friends are still uneasy about her. What do I do if it happens again? I can't be friends with someone who makes me really miserable... ...but I can't abandon someone when they're struggling that much. Even though she wouldn't let me help her, I'd feel responsible if she did something to herself.

[donationsblog]

<3

[bithink-blog]

Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. This should be in the tumblr laws. When you see it, REBLOG IT.

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[cellophanebunny]

Let's trash the idea that androgyny is thin and masculine

[bithink-blog]

In gender psychology, androgyny means 'having a mix of characteristics that are both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine.' According to the BSRI, I'm androgynous, and I'm a quite feminine cis woman. I just have quite a few masculine characteristics to do with assertiveness.

Androgyny has a lot of definitions depending on context. What do you think androgyny is? :)

[cisfist-blog]

Ok, I’ve been dancing around this issue for awhile.  THEN WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO CALL IT, BROSEF?

If we take the definition of phobia:

extreme or irrational fear or dislike of a specified thing or group. (So to the tumblr kitties who keep saying “the fear of cis ppl iz rational,” read a book)  So when people have an extreme dislike of cis people, what do you call it? 

[cishurts]

How about you don’t call it anything and stop taking personal offense to any post that says “cis people suck” and go on with your life

[bithink-blog]

So, hang on a second.

If I see a post saying ‘cis people should die’, I, as a cis person, shouldn’t ‘take personal offence’ and should leave it…

But if I see a post saying ‘all women should die’ or ‘all bisexuals are lying sluts’, I, as a bisexual woman, am permitted to beat the living verbal crap out of them? I’m ‘allowed’ to take ‘personal offence’ at that, right? Because they’re insulting me for my gender and sexuality, and assumably that’s wrong…

but not if I’m cis.

Stellar logic. A*

[cishurts]

Ughhhhhhhhhhhh

I have to explain this so much. No. You should not take personal offense to a post saying “cis people should die” because it doesn’t contribute to any oppression or violence, and the person who made the post most likely made it out of justified anger; it’s personal. (Also, by justified anger, that means it’s not anger simply because of traits they can’t change.)

You should take offense and call them out on being biphobic and sexist for making posts like that because it does contribute to oppression and violence and for the most part posts like that are made because of unfair prejudice, hatred of someone because of traits they can’t change.

[bithink-blog]

This is not negotiable. Saying that everyone of a certain group should die/should go to hell/are bad people is absolutely wrong. It's a ridiculous generalisation, it's designed to be malicious and to hurt people, and it's just never okay. Also, think about it. If a trans person posts on their blog 'all cissies should die', who's going to be reading that? Most transphobes won't read that blog, and the ones who read that blog won't care about the statement, because they don't care about trans people's opinions. You know you will care, and be hurt by it? Cis allies. So, basically, insulting people of a majority doesn't in the least affect your oppressors, but does affect your allies.

[peytonsbackpacks]

In honor of almost reaching 1,000 followers on this blog, I’m doing a giveaway of this tote bag! If you reblog this post you have a chance to win it for free and ill mail it to you!! The giveaway for this bag ends the 20th! Reblog for your chance to win it!

[transisstor]

Reblog if you think fanfiction is a legitimate form of creative writing.

[bithink-blog]

Of course it is. You can still write a gorgeous and life-affirming story, even if the core characters or the core world isn't your own creation. People write beautiful stories all the time about real-world people in real-world scenarios; they didn't invent those characters or that setting either.

[el-placer-de-no-pertenecer-deac]

💏

[fishingboatproceeds]

I just want to point out one thing here: When was the last time the girl kissed the boy in a teen romance? Ever? Has it happened ever? I seriously think it might not have happened ever.

[mjwatson]

lmao is john green praising himself

[giraffepoliceforce]

Listen here, shitstain. I’m sick and tired of all the John Green hate popping up on my dash today and we’re going to talk about this.

The film industry today is one big colossal fuckstorm. The odds of an author having one of their books adapted into a film is so monumentally slim that even getting film rights optioned (which in no way guarantees the book will be made into a film) is something the majority of authors will never be able to experience. The odds of a book being adapted into a film that stays faithful to the source material is nigh on impossible.

Movie studios are large corporations intent that exist for the purpose of earning large amounts of money. It’s problematic, yes. But as of now it’s one of the only ways for a film to be financed in such a way that allows not only for production but distribution and promotion as well. These studios are very defensive of their money, and are therefore very cautious about the sort of movies that they will produce. This results in them taking as few risks as possible, with their definition of risk being anything other than the basic, predictable, and often misogynistic tropes that we’re all getting tired of.

Yes, John wrote the scene this way. But the fact that the studio allowed it to stay in the film moderately intact is surprising, and John Green is allowed to be both happy and surprised by it.

it is very unlikely that a movie studio would be willing to make a film centered around teenagers who are dying, let alone pour enough money into it to give it a real shot at being a success, and John Green is allowed to be both happy and surprised by it.

And seriously? This man is watching one of his dreams come true and you’re going to give him shit for being happy about it? Jesus Christ. Give it a fucking break.

[adultswim5000]

SOMEONE FUCKING SAID IT

[milindso]

Literally no aromantic person wants romance completely gone. We just want amatonormativity gone.

[bithink-blog]

We’re all moving towards our orientations being legitimised, and some of us are closer than others.

For instance, whilst I know it will take a fuckload of time before bisexuals are legitimised and people stop thinking of us as confused/greedy/sluts/closeted/non-existent, at least most people have heard of what bisexuals are and *pretty much* understand the concept. We're even 'trendy' to some people, apparently. Woop woop.

But asexuality and aromanticism is so wildly outside of social norms (i.e. sex is everything and romance is the ultimate goal for a fulfilling life) that it will take a much longer time for aromantics to be normalised than for bisexuals to be normalised, and that sucks royal balls.

But until people finally get what aromanticism and asexuality is, and that they’re not caused by low libido or hormone deficiencies or mental problems etcetera (i.e. SOMEONE ACTUALLY DOES RESEARCH) I guess we can mainly focus on how awesome platonic love actually is.

Seriously, ‘more than friends’? That term can go die. First of all, if you’re not friends as well as lovers that’s most likely not a fulfilling relationship. Second of all, romantic love is great but it doesn’t ‘transcend’ friendship and familial love. It’s different but not superior.

[bithink-blog]

Context

To certain members of the Lynch Mob who like to hunt people down for using anything that can be construed as a slur:

Context matters.

There are certain words that are never okay. Arguably, they’re not even okay for people of that minority to use, because there will still be members of the minority who are hurt by it. Examples: r*tard, n*gg*r.

However, for most other words, it’s completely context-based.

1.) Different meanings of words

'Faggot' also means a kind of meatball. Okay, I know most meatball-lovers won't be called homophobes, but it's worth acknowledging.

2.) The person you address the slur to

Calling someone with an intellectual disability ‘stupid’ is ableist and wrong and should just never be done, ever.

Calling your friend Dave stupid when he neglects to lock down his bike and it gets stolen is not ableist. It’s not in any way referencing people with disabilities, it is just saying that Dave has no common sense and has done something insensible.

3.) The person who says the slur

Minority groups as a whole have the right to ‘take back’ slurs, more than majorities do.

4.) THE MOTIVE

This is obviously the most important thing to consider.

If a man walks up to a woman in a short skirt and maliciously calls her a slut, that is offensive and misogynistic and wrong. He is trying to shame her for wearing what she likes and is degrading her and her autonomous sexuality.

If a man at a comedy club makes the joke ‘Yo mama is so slutty, she’s been pounded more times than the I in Pixar’, that is clearly aimed to provide humour. It’s a funny metaphor, that sex is like…well, you get the picture. It is a joke. Jokes often exploit stereotypes, and provoke offense, but they do not have a malicious motive. They usually make fun of stereotypes, anyway.

If we stopped every joke or quote that contained anything that could offend or trigger anyone, guess what? We would have no good jokes left! Jokes are supposed to trigger humour by making the audience identify with an observation. These observations are often stereotypes.

Conclusion: Chill, people. Seriously. Focus on actual prejudice.