I really hate the idea that trans men automatically pass easier than other trans people and that you don't have to work as hard as a trans man to pass. And to see other trans people and allies alike perpetuating this stereotype is ridiculous.
The idea of "passing" as a whole is transphobic, exorsexist, and varsexist honestly. But nobody is ready to let go of it.
Like no, actually, the fact that we assign pronouns and genders to certain appearances and behaviors isn't a good thing, actually.
The idea of "passing" others non-binary people, binary trans people at the start of their transitions or who cannot afford a transition, binary trans people who do not want a medical transition or whose transition is not "traditional", gender non-conforming and sex non-conforming people, intersex people with variations that give them a mix of sex traits, and intersex & disabled people whose variations/disabilities make them incapable of transition.
EDIT: Somehow, people are taking this as me denying the reality of how "passing" is a useful safety measure.
No? Firstly, I was saying that I am against the way that lot of transmeds use "passing" as a "are you really [insert gender here]" measure.
Secondly, I am aware that "passing" helps with safety and alleviates distress/disconnect and provides euphoria to a lot of TGD people. My point is that we should be destroying the *need* to "pass" in the first place.
If everyone in their everyday life stopped assuming the genders and pronouns of strangers, that would be a massive deal. Nobody would feel upset that their gender isn't immediately assumed correctly, because nobody's gender [PT: nobody's gender] would be assumed *at all*, the same way you don't assume someone's name.
I am encouraging people to stop applying gender and pronouns to appearance, and just start treating everyone individually.
I'm not calling the people who try their best to "pass" so that they can be gendered correctly and be safe bigoted. I'm calling the societal structure that has made that into a necessary thing bigoted.
