And no, I don’t miss her every minute.
She is not my every thought.
She is not my every motive.
But I do. In my heart, it hurts like an infected wound.
It hurts like a dagger that hasn’t been removed.
Like a bullet, that has been since covered with healthy skin,
Healed, but not the tissue within.
It hurts when I hear her songs.
It hurts to see others sing them,
forgetting who we used to sing them to,
As they bang their heads to the drum.
Nobody tells you about that pain.
Nobody tells you there are songs
you can’t ever listen to again.
Nobody tells you you’ll be mad,
Every time someone tells you she’s in a better place,
I know she is happier and I’m being selfish.
Someone actually told me that you know.
They asked me why I cried and didn’t even let me finish.
Nobody tells you you’ll be mad,
At everyone who pretends to be sad, but then tell you to move on.
It’s not their fault I KNOW.
Now it’s hard to let it show.
Nobody tells you how it’s no longer normal,
How you have a panic attack in your shower,
Only to wipe your tears and put on something formal.
You have a party, the night’s not over.
Nobody tells you you’ll have to pull over on the highway.
Take a minute, because driving is hard when you can’t see.
You’ll arrive fifteen minutes late,
It’s ok you’ll tell them there was traffic.
Nobody tells you it’s no longer normal,
Quick think of another excuse
Being sad just doesn’t cut it.
Life moves on, this isn’t news.
I don’t know if this is common.
Nobody tells you about that panic attack you had,
And later had a fight with your mother,
When you thought you’d forget her laugh.
Nobody tells you that you’ll be mad,
Realizing you won’t ever get to hug her.
I miss you. I wish there wasn’t this barrier.
I know I’m being selfish, I know you’re happier.
I would also love to be with Him.
Here, I’m just a duckling, trying to swim.
Trying to keep from drowning.
In fact, my greatest fear. My deepest worry.
Is not being enough, not getting to meet you again.
I can “talk to you.” I know.
I don’t have the heart to tell them it’s not the same.
An embrace is not the same.
A response is not the same.
As talking to the corner of your room.
Even if I know you can hear me,
When the flowers bloom, you won’t be near me.
Nobody tells you that on your birthday,
Your one wish was to have her,
To hear her voice, to hold her hand.
Nobody tells you how you’ll feel bad,
Why didn’t we take more pictures?
They’d be a constant reminder.
Nobody tells you how you’ll feel lonely.
Your friends by association, the ones you had in common.
Everyone copes in their own way.
One brings flowers every week, the other afraid to show weakness.
I wish I was with you today.
I hate the words “passed away.”
Nobody understands “not wanting to talk.”
They get so offended, it’s not their fault.
The next time someone “almost dies,”
They don’t understand why you flinch every time.
They say it so loud, yet nobody else cries.
They don’t get you don’t want to talk about it.
They get angry, it’s not their fault.
They just don’t understand it.
I swear I’ll see you soon.
Wait for me by the star dust.