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so I’ve wanted to make this post for… actually only two days now, but it feels like forever and I’m so glad it’s felt like forever and. there’s a lot I need to get off my chest. sorry in advance for the dramatics, you can roll your eyes and move on if you want, no judgment.

on a whim I decided to delete tumblr from my phone and cut myself off from the website cold turkey, for a lot of reasons. mainly I feel like this website has siphoned an absolutely ridiculous amount of time from me over the past six years of my life. there are so many things that I want to do and I feel like I don’t have time to do, and not because I don’t have the free time, but because this website is just about the worst imaginable distraction. on top of that, I feel like all it’s done is become a source of anxiety for me. this site used to be an escape from the anxiety in my offline life, but since I’ve managed to eliminate so much of that anxiety and become a freer, more joyful person, this site has become less of an outlet and more of a suck that just makes me feel bad. I can anticipate that every time I come on here I’ll see some bullshit that pisses me off or makes me feel like shit. not that I think I or anyone else should be sheltered from that, but this place used to be relaxing and now it’s not.

also, I’ve had a few Actual Popular Posts now, and I could feel myself turning into someone who spent a LOT of time worrying about how I could make more popular posts, and how I could develop a schtick that would make me popular with more people on here, etc. etc. I’m not saying I’m some super genius who could and should inevitably expect ~funnyman popularity~ on this website, and I’m not saying anything about anyone who enjoys making jokes and being a popular blogger on here. that’s just something I really don’t see myself doing or wanting to do. dumping all this time into what is, in my particular situation and in my life, kind of a meaningless exercise when I could and definitely should be spending my time elsewhere on the things that might end up doing me tangible good is not something I want to do. and although it’s not something I could ever guarantee would happen to me, it’s something I could very easily see myself getting caught up in were it to happen.

of course, the thing I value most about this website is the people. I have met so many fucking cool people through here who I do NOT want to abandon just because I’m going cold turkey on tumblr. if you’re interested in getting in contact with me, either dm me on here or email me at charmingbrothers@gmail and we can discuss how else to keep in touch.

I just really need to get away from this website. the last two days have been a huge relief, on a level I could’ve barely contemplated before this. again it feels weird that I only have been away from here for two days, I’ve gotten so much accomplished and I’ve only felt the urge to return a couple of times.

please keep in touch. and if you feel like you should quit the blue hellsite but are addicted to it and need a sign that you can: this is your sign. fucking go for it. this site has a lot of fun on it but it’s also a giant drain.

PEACE.

#reblogging for posterity #I'll be checking in about once a day just to see if anyone messaged me #for a few weeks #but after that I'm out of here

so I’ve wanted to make this post for... actually only two days now, but it feels like forever and I’m so glad it’s felt like forever and. there’s a lot I need to get off my chest. sorry in advance for the dramatics, you can roll your eyes and move on if you want, no judgment.

on a whim I decided to delete tumblr from my phone and cut myself off from the website cold turkey, for a lot of reasons. mainly I feel like this website has siphoned an absolutely ridiculous amount of time from me over the past six years of my life. there are so many things that I want to do and I feel like I don’t have time to do, and not because I don’t have the free time, but because this website is just about the worst imaginable distraction. on top of that, I feel like all it’s done is become a source of anxiety for me. this site used to be an escape from the anxiety in my offline life, but since I’ve managed to eliminate so much of that anxiety and become a freer, more joyful person, this site has become less of an outlet and more of a suck that just makes me feel bad. I can anticipate that every time I come on here I’ll see some bullshit that pisses me off or makes me feel like shit. not that I think I or anyone else should be sheltered from that, but this place used to be relaxing and now it’s not.

also, I’ve had a few Actual Popular Posts now, and I could feel myself turning into someone who spent a LOT of time worrying about how I could make more popular posts, and how I could develop a schtick that would make me popular with more people on here, etc. etc. I’m not saying I’m some super genius who could and should inevitably expect ~funnyman popularity~ on this website, and I’m not saying anything about anyone who enjoys making jokes and being a popular blogger on here. that’s just something I really don’t see myself doing or wanting to do. dumping all this time into what is, in my particular situation and in my life, kind of a meaningless exercise when I could and definitely should be spending my time elsewhere on the things that might end up doing me tangible good is not something I want to do. and although it’s not something I could ever guarantee would happen to me, it’s something I could very easily see myself getting caught up in were it to happen.

of course, the thing I value most about this website is the people. I have met so many fucking cool people through here who I do NOT want to abandon just because I’m going cold turkey on tumblr. if you’re interested in getting in contact with me, either dm me on here or email me at charmingbrothers@gmail and we can discuss how else to keep in touch.

I just really need to get away from this website. the last two days have been a huge relief, on a level I could’ve barely contemplated before this. again it feels weird that I only have been away from here for two days, I’ve gotten so much accomplished and I’ve only felt the urge to return a couple of times.

please keep in touch. and if you feel like you should quit the blue hellsite but are addicted to it and need a sign that you can: this is your sign. fucking go for it. this site has a lot of fun on it but it’s also a giant drain.

PEACE.

lasturlontheleft

#GHJHHJJJNHVVGBJKMJB

snowflakeeel

This is literally the best submission i’ve ever gotten

dykeselfcest

the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive); it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language; it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked. (you can do racist things, you just can’t SAY racist things.) i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like, being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family

neilnevins-deactivated20240617

Bugs Bunny could singlehandedly defeat Thanos by dressing up as a TSA agent and setting up a metal detector in the middle of the battlefield saying that all metal objects must be removed if you want to pass on through now stick around for my 2,000 word essay on just how effectively he would convince The Mad Titan to comply

neilnevins-deactivated20240617

“For shame, doc! Dontcha know we got other folks waiting?”

(Thanos looks behind him and sees dozens of Bugs Bunnies dressed as angry yelling travelers with huge bags of luggage. Thanos rubs his neck guiltily and begins sliding off the gauntlet)

vampiricyoshi

I felt compelled

#LONG POST #FAVE

certifiedddyke

People acting like the Met Gala was “cultural appropriation” as if art and religion, specifically western art and Christianity, haven’t been intrinsically linked since the religion began…

talesfromthewater-deactivated20

You also can’t appropriate a dominant culture. If this had been Hinduism, it’d have been fucked up and cultural appropriation. But let’s stop pretending Christianity as a whole and Catholicism more specifically haven’t been pushed on people around the globe or a driving force behind colonialism.

loopy-lupe

Big Earthbound/MOTHER 3 commission, the goal was to do a smash bros-esque poster with pokey, ness and lucas. I usually don’t post commissions but since this one’s a biggie…!!

#earthbound

cherryseltzer

piece of advice from an old tumblr person: if you are a woman and you are dating a man, do not settle down with, cohabitate with, or marry a man who needs you to do basic things to take care of him. like, if he can’t cook food for himself, go shopping, do laundry, clean a house, keep his own calendar, make his own doctors’ appointments, fill out his own forms, do his own taxes, etc. you are setting yourself up for a relationship full of you caring for another adult like a child.

partners help EACH OTHER. sometimes people have very valid reasons they can’t do those things, but they should also help YOU with things that are hard for you and easy for them, whether it’s basic emotional support, chores, paperwork, making phone calls, etc. if they say they ‘don’t know how’ to do something and expect you to do it instead of learning how to do it, they are not worth your time.

if your male partner’s parents did not prepare him to take care of himself, do not become his second mother. find a partner who can take care of you as much as you take care of him, and can take care of himself as well as you take care of yourself.

scientia-rex

and if that means being single forever, get yourself a cat and lean in, because being a grown-ass man’s second momma is a bitch and a half. I’m married to a fairly fucking aware feminist-identified man and he still can’t take care of himself for shit and it is the one major source of tension in our marriage and it has led to so much tension now that I’m in med school that I have repeatedly seriously contemplated divorce. It’s not a small issue, it’s not trivial. You are a PERSON, not an endlessly nurturing selfless machine. You deserve to have your own story, not be picking up socks in someone else’s.