Romance in Novels
I’m a huge fan of romance in novels. I have friends who think that if a novel isn’t a romance novel, it has no business being there. That’s their own opinion, but I’d be damned if my novels didn’t even have a hint of romance. To a lot of people, romance does make novels more realistic. People fall in and out of love all the time, they love the right people, the wrong people. They love people and then realize that they’re feelings aren’t actual romantic love but simply platonic. Human beings are complicated. Which is why I love writing.
However, I have noticed a concerning trend lately with how people write romances. They insert this ‘alpha’ character who totally dominates the ‘beta’ character in a way that’s incredibly uncomfortable and disgusting. They portray this twisted ‘romance’ as this beautiful love story. I’ve seen it time and time again, especially in YA novels. The main female protag is swept off her feet by this guy whom is generally excessively rude and dismissing of her and is throughout the entire story, while she falls more and more in love with him and then he suddenly shows interest in her and becomes overly possessive. That isn't love.
It’s different if you want to write a story about an abusive relationship, and you honestly portray the relationship as toxic and awful. It’s another if you portray an abusive relationship and then romanticize it and try to sell this romance to your audience.
Write your romances in a way that you’d want to be wooed. Sure, you might be into bondage, BDSM, or a more aggressive partner, but make sure you write it in a way that’s incredibly consensual and show your readers that the two characters truly love each other and would never intentionally hurt or manipulate each other.
Consent = sexy after all.
























