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On “Cancel Culture”

People who are actively “cancelled” don’t get their thoughts published and amplified in major outlets.

When I talk about cancel culture, it has nothing to to with celebrities, it is about average people being harassed over misinformation or mistakes they have since learned from. The idea that a single mistake you made in your past could be latched onto and used to shut you down wherever you go, even though it no longer has anything to do with the current you.

Cancel culture springs from the (very incorrect) idea that people can't become better over time. It doesn't affect celebrities with their own PR team, it affects normal people on social media whose every word is suddenly etched in stone.

snailbreak

this changes fucking everything

The complaint claims Breonna Taylor got wrapped up in a case that was less about a drug house and more about speeding up the city's developm

snailbreak

Greg Fischer murdered Breonna Taylor. Gentrification murdered Breonna Taylor. Police murdered Breonna Taylor. And none of them have been arrested.

tenderstatue

Real estate paralegal and licensed title underwriter here. So from that deed’s derivation clause, I understand that the last conveyance was in 2004, which means that Breonna and her bf were renting the property. It’s a shady land grab for sure (I know it when I see it), but the more expedient way to clear the property for sale would have been to find an excuse to evict the tenants, or simply to decline to renew the current lease upon its expiration. I guess I’m just confused as to why the city would resort to murder when they have a perfectly legal – if not ethical – solution at hand.

Still, the cops who killed Breonna and tried to frame her bf should be arrested.

mysharona1987

From The Washington Post. Damn

daredeviil

ICE made a decision to order all international students whose universities are online to leave the country or risk facing immigration consequences and getting deported which essentially means that students will have to decide between leaving the US or risk their health. many countries don’t even have their borders open and some people may not even have places to go so please sign this petition which requests that international students get the option to finish their degrees and remain in the USA

90strend

stop normalizing celebrities running for president with no fucking knowledge or background in politics

radicalreliablerandomness

I'm just saying, if Aang were alive today, he'd be one of those people who had a tiny metal Razor scooter and he'd go to the skate park and do some surprisingly good tricks on it

nothing-more-than-hot-leaf-juice

I like that this post implies that Aang is a historical figure rather than a fictional character.

dearherondale

I found this youtube comment and honestly,,,, true

mtvmakesmewannasmokecrack

so just to be clear. shane dawson has:

mocked trayvon martin’s death

shared a GRAPHIC fantasy about mutilating and killing a black woman who called him out on racism and misogynoir

defending pedophilia on his podcast

gave multiple racist influencers platforms

one of which he made jokes about their racist scandals the whole time

the other he sympathized with when he whined about getting called a cracker in response to calling 2 of his latino employees b**ners

made a parody of nicki minaj in black face, in which he was mostly making fun of her for having plastic surgery and having a fat ass, literally a modern day minstrel show

made a song where 2 characters were at a club and the joke was that they saw a trans woman and thought she was hot, saying the t slur in said song (only source i could find)

made a video where he jacked off to a poster of willow smith (who was ELEVEN. 11 at the time)

profited off of a character who’s literally based on black stereotypes for years

done blackface in other instances i don’t even know the context of

shouted the n word

there’s a bit in another of his old videos where he literally masquerades as an immigrant who doesn’t know much english- this hasn’t been called out yet, but i remember seeing it in 6th grade (in the same video he asks a character that’s supposed to be his mom- but just him in a wig, as usual, if white people or latin people are better, and the mom character refers to as a trick question)

refers to himself as poor in his videos to this day, even though we all know he damn well isn’t.

these are 13 instances that i alone know of. if this man doesn’t face repercussions, he will continue getting away with this shit. nothing will fucking change, this will happen every 6 months.

guerrillatech

xbox-nun

politijohn

lotr-shitposts

the-memedaddy

deadpoetwilde

not 2 sound whiny but i wish more attention was given to the importance of art and literature and philosophy and other humanities again so they'll return to being a really great part of what shapes a decade or an era instead of being seen as useless because they don't fit into the capitalist ideal of a productive society

pterribledinosaurdrawings

Very annoy when this happens

queensugardaily

Bonus:

flavoracle

SO MUCH THIS!!

When helping kids learn from their mistakes and correcting past behavior, it’s important for parents and other role models to separate what they DID, and who they ARE.

Look at the exchange in the images above. The kid apologizes for “being bad,” and the adult points out that it isn’t a question of “being.” It’s about specific behavior.

“Definitely was acting brand new. But you ain’t got a bad bone in your body.”

For a personal example, I’ve been working with one of my kids about bullying other kids. And when she behaves that way, I will tell her, “What you’re doing is bullying,” or “Stop bullying them.”

What I WON’T say is “You’re being a bully.”

Because kids listen (even when we feel like they aren’t) and they are constantly taking in information that they use to define themselves. And the worst thing I could do in this situation is say, “You’re being a bully,” and they believe me.

It happens so often, it’s tragic. We tell kids, “You’re a bully,” “You’re dumb,” “You’re being obnoxious,” and they internalize that. And as soon as a kid accepts “I am a bully” as part of their identity, they will act accordingly.

On the flip side, I used to think it was OK to label kids with “being” statements as long as they were positive, but I’ve learned even that has hidden dangers.

For example, imagine one of my kids finishes a puzzle really quickly, and I respond by saying, “You’re so smart!” Seems great, right?

But what happens when they move on to a harder puzzle and they don’t finish as quickly? So they start thinking things like, “Dad said I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast. But I didn’t do this one fast so I guess I’m not smart after all.” Or, “Dad says I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast, but I didn’t do this one fast so it must be a stupid puzzle that’s made wrong.”

I guess my point is, use “you are” statements sparingly and carefully with kids. Tell them things like, “You are important,” “You are valuable,” “You are loved.” But when it comes to behavior, make it clear that what they do does not define who they are. Let them define themselves.