B-b-b-bonsdwell

"Plays well with others" 

[damselthatdistresses-deactivate]

Im gonna fuck u in my bed and then im gonna sell you toarabs as a sex slave, rapemeat!!1!!!

O NOE

[bondswell49]

LOL! The perfect response to such nonsense. Well done.

[mrzeitgeist]

The Truth About Kinky Women

This was written in response to a FetLife post. The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties.

You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That’s wonderful.

Let me ask you something:

Do you have a match.com or OK Cupid a profile that says “I’m a guy. I’m looking for a girl. If you’re a girl or know a girl, would you send her to me please?”

Suppose you’re into stamp collecting. Do you go into stamp-collecting forums and say “I’m a guy who thinks he may like stamp collecting, and I’m looking for a girl to fuck and teach me about stamp collecting.”?

Do you see a girl at Starbucks drinking coffee and say “Hey, I like coffee, too. Wanna fuck?”

Every time you post on here asking for people to “help you out,” that’s exactly what you’re doing.

You seem to think that just because a woman is into getting tied up, beaten, and fucked in the ass, she’s somehow different from a “normal” woman. You seem to think that just because a woman likes to have sex, talk about sex, and sometimes be naked in front of people, she should want to do that with you, without knowing anything at all about you except that you like women to get naked in front of you.

Submissives aren’t submissive to everyone

You’ll hear submissives say “I’m submissive, but I’m not your submissive.” No matter how many times you’ve read The Story of O, there is no chateau full of submissive women who are available on demand to anyone who wants to use them.

Kinky women are not whores

Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them “whore,” but they’re not sex workers. They’re not in the business of making sex of any sort available to all comers. (And contrary to popular belief, there is not a rule that actual sex workers have to accept whoever is willing to pay them.)

Kinky women are not easy

Some kinky women have multiple partners. Some women will do some sort of limited play with people they just met. As a rule most women will not get intimate with a guy they know nothing about. Kinky women are no different.

Kinky women are not objects

Sure, some women like being objectified, to be used as furniture, ashtrays, fuck toys, even toilets. But you know what? The women who like that trust the people who do that to them, Do you know why they trust them? Because they know them as people. They have connected as human beings before they connected as kinksters.

Kinky women have feelings

Do some kinky women want to be humiliated, degraded, hurt, and used? Absolutely. This may be hard to understand, but while they may want all those things, they want them in a supportive, trusting, and caring environment. You call my girlfriend a bitch, she’ll kick your balls. I call her a bitch, and she melts in my arms. See the difference?

The Truth About Kinky Women by Septimus1812 is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 3.0 Unported License.

[bondswell49]

I have a hard time not re-blogging this.

[bondageismybagbaby-deactivated2]

Ballgag only comes out for one reason….then it goes right back in.

[pittprickel-deactivated20230608]

Eric Stanton (1926-1999) – Lezdom & Bondage

See that tear drop in the slave girl’s eye? Love it!

[keenlyclarkkently-deactivated20]

so tightly bound and corseted!  Could you Imagine?

[masterdaddymark]

I’ve posted this before, but it’s so important I’m posting it again.

[itsallprimal]

And I will add.. A Dominant performing what maybe considered a submissive action for their partner, is the mark of what a true Dominant’s Care is about. Never will mine go without knowing how far I will go for them. As they will me. 

~Primal

[sashalee-kong]

Please don’t ever forget this one! I promise you’ll be a success as a Dom/Master if only you can remember simple things like this, it goes so much farther than being an asshole…trust me, I’m a slave! <3 Sasha

[bdsm-wisdom]

Note the notes; someone you know (or need to know) wants *this*

[norbertbdsmlover-deactivated201]

[bondswell49]

Gorgeous golden ponytail contrasted by the glossy ebony of her outfit. Lovely :)

[bondswell49]

Hi..

Hello madame :o 

[yuxm]

[bondswell49]

A princess captured for a night of fun distress! :D 

[gaggedfts]

A Nike employee from Oregon (Hint where I live now) was about to go out for a relaxing run. Instead, her non-running kinky partner had another idea for how she will get some exercise this afternoon.

As a fellow runner…Shame on her partner!

As a fellow bondage kinkster…Nice Call!!!

Yes, the latter is preferred :)

Reblogged from: baloun70

[racyredraven]

Haha is that what kinky people think when they see a girl in running clothes? “You’d look better tied up”? It’s a good thing I don’t have a kinky partner then or I’d never get any running done. :P

[bondswell49]

Ahhh I wouldn’t worry too much, surely you’d be getting plenty of exercise in other ways ;)

[baroniansmythe]

[bondswell49]

Fuuuuck yeah you are. 

[toodomforyou]

Hi, new dom here trying to learn the ropes. Since you're talking about safewords, what do I actually do when my sub safewords? Like I know not to ever ignore a safeword but when they use it, what is the procedure I should follow?

Immediately stop what you’re doing and ask the sub what they need. If they’re tied up, blindfolded, gagged, or restrained in any way - start releasing them. Safewords can mean a lot of things. They can be, “Ow, these ropes are pinching me and I need to get out because I’m in pain,” or “I’m about to have a panic attack get me out and cuddle me,” or “I am exhausted and can’t keep going, we need to stop,” or many, many other things. 

See how your submissive responds, and go on from there. If your submissive doesn’t respond right away, release their restraints, and try something that would normally comfort them - a backrub, holding them, stroking their hair, etc. 

You will find a process that works for you. Most of the time, a safeword is just a “I need a break,” and the aftercare process is just relaxing with your partner. But always, always take it seriously, and listen to whatever your partner is telling you. 

I hope this helps! I’m proud of you for taking the opportunity to learn more about how to help your submissive. I hope more new Dominants follow your lead and do their research. 

xx SD

[toodomforyou]

SD nailed it, but one quick thing to add- regardless of why they safeworded, regardless of whether or not they wanted the scene to continue afterward, make sure you tell your submissive that you are pleased and proud that they used their safeword. For MANY submissives, using their safeword is extremely stressful because they don’t want to displease you. It’s not uncommon for them to hesitate to use it. Get your submissive in the habit of using it when necessary by praising them for using it. When they safeword, it helps you understand how their body works and what their tolerances are. So it’s a benefit to you. It helps you keep them safe and healthy.

And like SD said, good on you for asking for advice. Dom to dom, I’m proud of you and I hope others take your example. This is how we all get better.

-LMS

[restraineddenial]

Excellent advice all around and good on you for raising the question. I like to believe that becoming a “Dom” is a lifelong pursuit. It should be taken seriously, as you have the health and safety of another in your care. You must know that you can trust yourself before you ever seek the trust of another.

To that end, I would caution about taking even a step back from what is very well explained above. Spend significant time experimenting playfully before you jump too far into D/s or BDSM activities.

You have these desires. The internet gives all of us access to images and discussions well beyond our pay grade, as it were. There is no need to rush though any step along the path. I still remember the excitement I felt the first time I even purchased a pair of handcuffs, and how wildly out of my mind I was when my girlfriend wanted to play with them. Each tiny step along the way can (and should be) wonderfully intense. You only ever tie your girlfriend’s wrists behind her back for the first time once. The deep kissing that follows is like nothing you have ever had, nor will ever have. Each moment is new, fascinating, and erotic in a whole new way. 

There is no need to rush to elaborate elbow bondage, leather straps, crops, or even vibrators.  Fully explore each little element of each dynamic, and do so fully engaged with her in the moment.  That, more than anything else, will give you the experience you must have to get more intricate, elaborate, and fully (and appropriately) in control. That, more than anything else, will teach you how she reacts, what she needs, and what it looks and feels like when she is in any given stage of submission.

You have to know you can control the rush of your own sexual energy with her tied and struggling beneath you. Your focus must be on her well being.  She is relying on you. It is an incredible experience to deserve that.

So, safe-words are good, yes. They are important. They are not a safety net for bypassing the learning and patience you should enjoy along the way. 

Enjoy your journey!

[thequotejournals]

Some people underestimate how erotic it is to be understood.

(via cravinghisbrutality)

[bdsmcentral]

[mz218]

[mr--echo-deactivated20180601]

I wish more “submissives” understood this… It’s a “choice” It’s always a choice

[firefly-flashes]

It is, at least for me.

I’m not always submissive. I have to work on it.

At, work, I’m the boss. I lead. I direct. I teach. At home, as a parent, I have to be the one in charge. I have to make decisions. I have to get things done.

Sometimes I like it that way; sometimes it exhausts me.

I will never be a perfect, pliant, obedient submissive. I have thoughts and opinions and I’m not afraid to share them. If someone wants to be my Dominant, then that person has to be more dominant than I am. More on top of things. More of a leader. And that’s not an easy thing to be.

But here’s the thing - I’m not just a set of holes and some curves in between. I have a kick-ass brain. A filthy imagination. And endless supply of filthy thoughts and a willingness to focus my attention and energy into pleasing my partner.

That person who will be my Dominant? I’m going to choose him, over any other I could have chosen, and I’m going to proclaim that choice openly, joyously. I’m going to work hard at being submissive for him. He’s going to get all my effort. My passion. My dedication. He’s going to be worth it.

Because he’s going to choose me, too.

[bondswell49]

Preach!

[a-cruel-mans-world-deactivated2]

[tie-me-tightly]

This is what I want. Not necessarily played with, or used. But just tied for the hell of it, displayed, helpless while he goes about his normal routine.

[bondswell49]

Yesssss, so underrated. I love everything about this

[a-cruel-mans-world-deactivated2]

[tie-me-tightly]

This is what I want. Not necessarily played with, or used. But just tied for the hell of it, displayed, helpless while he goes about his normal routine.

[painsanctorum-deactivated201402]

[discomfort-benefits]

“She had blue skin, and so did he. He kept it hid and so did she. They both searched for blue their whole life through; passed each other right by, and never knew.” ~ Shel Silverstein