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Stuff I worry about as a Little
🎀 getting on Daddy’s nerves 🎀
🎀 asking for too much 🎀
🎀 being overly needy 🎀
🎀 being told i need to grow up 🎀
🎀 getting yelled at 🎀
🎀 not being cute enough for daddy 🎀
🎀 doing something wrong 🎀
🎀 not being pretty enough 🎀
🎀 making daddy angry 🎀
Hi there. I have a few questions regarding me and my daddy and need a little guidance. We are long distance and have had a few "issues". To help clear my head, I would appreciate your opinion on the matter. Thank you! 1. Can a Big punish you via the silent treatment? Being long distance, I get really panicky when I don't hear from my daddy. He's used the silent treatment several times and it's... made matters a lot worse. 2. What if daddy doesn't address your little side or gets annoyed by it?
Hi! I want to apologize, I've been inactive for quite a while. To answer your question: Silent treatment is not a good punishment, whether you are long distance or not. Besides littles craving constant attention, in any relationship ignoring your partner is not only a good way to make them insecure/feel unwanted, but also kinda childish tbh. There are lots of other punishments that will have a positive outcome for both big & little.Also, sometimes we need to understand that daddies aren't always going to be in daddy mode. If that's something you can live with, there are plenty of ways to be little on your own without a caregiver. If it happens more frequently than you would like, maybe you need to reconsider the relationship, and if it's right for you.Hope that helps a little(:
Reminders for littles with anxiety
✨ lavender oil is your best friend, put that behind your ears before you sleep or after a panic attack and you’ll be sure to calm down
✨keep a journal next to your bed, it really helps to write down everything you’re feeling
✨it’s totally okay to let yourself cry before, during, or after a panic attack
✨no, they aren’t talking about you
✨no, they aren’t annoyed with you
✨no, they aren’t mad at you
✨you are not a burden or a bother to anyone you love
✨everyone sweats, no one is making fun of you, just pack a jacket
✨warm baths and showers are a beautiful thing
✨always communicate with your partner, no matter how insignificant you think it may be
✨spinny rings are great for littles with social anxiety
✨it’s okay to have to need space when you’re anxious
✨it’s okay to show affection to your partner, they won’t push you away or call you clingy
✨you and your ideas are valid
✨you are not strange for planning every detail out before you do something, it’s okay to be prepared
✨it’s okay, you didn’t do anything wrong I promise
✨your anxiety doesn’t define you!!
A major part of many kinky dynamics is a focus on discipline. While “discipline” can be a fun part of your everyday activities, it can also mean something more specific in terms of punishment. “Punishment” differs from the general sense of discipline in that it has a specific goal to focus on that changes a submissive’s behaviour.
Many people engage in what can be called “funishment,”–punishment-type activities, like regular spankings or other forms of play, that are not meant to alter the behaviour of the submissive but rather to provide enjoyment to either/both/all parties. However, it is important to distinguish the difference between playful discipline and serious punishments. Punishments are consequences of negative actions, whether this is based on officially-written regulations or unspoken general behaviours like brattiness, defiance, or dangerous behaviours.
The idea of punishment is based largely on psychological research in the area of behaviourism. It consists of techniques that are supported by science to effectively alter the behaviour of an individual. (If you want to learn more about the research behind punishments, look up B. F. Skinner’s work in this area.)
Two types of punishments exist: positive punishments, which add undesired consequences to the behaviour, and negative punishments, which take away desired privileges.
Now, before I get into some specific ideas for punishments, there are some important key points I’d like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before deciding on a specific punishment.
Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple. Don’t ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partner’s mental and/or physical well-being.
NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment. Punishments are meant for the submissive’s benefit, at the core. If the submissive’s behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.
Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they don’t particularly enjoy that aren’t on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partner’s experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishment’s sake because “hard limit” means “I do not want to do this under any circumstance.” Using a hard limit as a punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive.
Use healthy discretion. This one should seem obvious, but don’t follow through with punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissive’s control. Say the submissive has a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and can’t sleep. Let them engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they aren’t doing on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.
Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example, if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the “orgasm control” section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.
Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment, Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your partner.
Humiliation
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across.
Clothing Restriction
Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public. Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings), ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about their bodies.
Diapering
For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment. Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for some people.
Sissification
Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional problems.
Public Humiliation
Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner, public leashing, or making them kneel at social gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is simply that–controlling the submissive’s orgasms. Most of these types of punishments are used for submissives who break rules about orgasms, be it without permission or when they were told not to touch themselves. Controlling orgasms is an amusing way to teach the submissive who their orgasms belong to.
Edging
Edging is the act of getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. It’s a little psychological torture, best for those who cum without permission.
Toy Restriction
For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction. Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.
Forced Orgasms
Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly. This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goal–either for number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after each orgasm.
Denial
Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. It’s like edging, but there is no orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a longer period of time.
Chastity
Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your submissive is following orders properly.
Domestic Discipline
Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for punishments.
Chores
Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine with other punishments for your amusement!
Furniture Restriction
Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if they’ve been defiant.
Caging
Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small enough to confine them, but still large enough so they aren’t going to hurt themselves by spending too much time in the cage.
Bedtime
A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who don’t do their homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and easily frustrated) when they don’t follow these rules.
Time-Out
Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special “time-out chair” so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other punishments if they break rules more than once.
Sensory Deprivation
Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added psychological torment. Plug the submissive’s ears or use headphones, blindfold them, bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they won’t want to end up in isolation again.
Objectification
Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it completely naked and/or in front of guests.
Dietary Restriction
If a submissive has done something against the rules, you can make them follow a strict diet. This is especially useful for those using behaviour modification to lose or gain weight. However, be careful to ensure the submissive is still getting enough nutrition. For littles, see how much they want to be a brat after you take away their dessert privilege. For pets, try making them eat out of a bowl on the floor for each meal.
Speech Restriction
For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as “this girl,” “Your slut,” “Master’s puppy boy,” or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all day.
Corporal Punishment
Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments don’t work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if you’re going with one of these methods.
Impact
If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun. Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes.
Rice Kneeling
Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as you do this.
Figging
Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is a milder form of this punishment.
Writing Assignments
Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether it’s writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.
Lines
Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive who is disrespectful, you can have him write, “I will always be polite around my Sir,” a hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, “I will ask permission from Mistress before I cum,” until they fill up five pages. What’s even more fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while they write.
Apology Letter
An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were punished.
Essay
An essay is a good assignment for submissives who don’t seem to understand their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean, but to guide them to healthier behaviour.
Homework
Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your choosing and have them report back to you–because knowledge is power! Grade their paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.
It’s important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with punishments when necessary, they’re sure to be trained in no time!
xx SF
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Method 1: Pick a color you like Pick a cute food you like Method 2: Find the names of foods in other languages Ex: Peach translated to Japanese: Momo Method 3: Puns on celebrity names Ex: Rabbit Downey Jr. Method 4: Sweet names Ex: Charlotte, Abby, Jasmine, Belle/a, Mimi (names in other languages too: Rin, Yuki, etc.) Method 5: Two words thrown together Ex: Bubblelace, Puffbow, Mooncloud
Im terrible with names im glad i found this :3
Excuse me, hi, I'm having attention withdrawals
Symptoms include:
*Leg kicking
*Huffing & puffing
*Whining
*Teary eyes
*Spamming messages to caregiver
*Extensive temper tantrums
This is a serious issue that effects nearly every little every day. Pls, message your little, tell them they’re cute, prevent Attention Withdrawals (it won’t actually prevent them, we can never have enough attention srry).
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Dear person reading this,
You deserve a life full of happiness and positivity. So don’t let others get to you and believe in yourself.
Hey! It's been great talking to you lately, I would love to meet some more people in the community. Would you mind helping me meet some new people?
Of course!! Everyone, please say hello to a good friend of mine(: He's a very friendly daddy who has been feeling pretty down and lonely lately. I'm sure some new friends would cheer him up!(:
I want you to order my food for me because I have a hard time making choices on a menu. I want you to spank me because I can’t get up and you won’t let me waste the day away in bed. I want you to give me weekly/monthly goals to help better myself and my craft. I want you to make sure I’m eating actual food and not just a cheese stick for breakfast. I want you to take me somewhere new, but hold my hand the whole night because you know how uncomfortable new adventures make me.
I always thought I was some weak, love sick girl because I wanted a guy to guide me and give me direction. I’m glad I know now that I want a man to push me to achieve my goals to become a better me. That’s a small snippet what being submissive means to me.
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My Mommy Sassie Cassie sent me your way so I thought I'd say hi. So... HI!!!! I might be a Pet but I like following other types of blogs too.
Hiiii! (: I'm so happy she did! Nice to meet you 😄
Can you help me find a little?
I'm not sure how I could help? You could private message me if you would like though!
Hi there! I just made this account and I'm a little shy. I have a few questions that I thought I'd ask. While I identify as a little, there several little qualities that I'm lacking in that make me question if I'm truly a little or not. For example, I've never been a binky kind of girl, I get mad at my drawings and I tend to misbehave a lot with my daddy. I know I'm a brat, but I'm worried that I'm not a true little.
Oh goodness, you have nothing to worry about sweetie. You are absolutely a valid little!! Lots of littles don't like binkys. And as far as being a brat goes, a lot of us, myself included, do that from time to time. You have nothing to worry about 😘 Feel free to private message me, I understand feeling shy and needing some friends to help guide you. We were all new once!
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You are not a daddy/mommy if all you want from your little is sex. You are not a daddy/mommy if you don’t care about their well being. You are not a daddy/mommy if you ignore them. You are not a daddy/mommy if you demand nudes from them 24/7. You are not a daddy/mommy if you just like to be called the name. You are not a daddy/mommy if you belittle your little. You are not a daddy/mommy if you think little space is childish.
If a little trust you enough to call you daddy/mommy, do not make them regret it. Trust is something that is easily broken and hard for us to give to anyone once it gets broken. There are too many fake CGs. Don’t be the reason we don’t trust someone who actually wants to be one for us.
