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my blogs activity represents splitting in a nutshell

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i'm too shy to communicate my exact symptoms with a doctor, would it be an ok idea to say "i have all of the symptoms of (for example) bpd and they were caused by something that causes it"?

yeah that is 100% okay to do! good luck!! 💕

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That BPD feel when ur actually starting to get better and feel more stable but u dont want everyone to know bc u dont want to lose the validation and concern and genetral attention u get from people who know about your mental illness....

this

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Hi ! I feel great again so I plan on going out of my house tomorrow but if has been more than a month since I didn't left my dark room so do you have any advice on what I should do to protect myself ? I already thought about sunglasses but I don't know if I should do/bring something else

definitely put on a high SPF sunscreen and try to stay as shaded as possible. maybe wear a hat that shades your face?? idk how cold/warm it is where you live but just cover up as much as you can.

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When I am happy (a episode i guess) or i meet a girl who i want to be like and i start copying her appareance and personality, likes etc i start thinking i dont have bpd and a ed (i am not officially diagnosticated) and that i am just exagerating and faking and that all the time i have just being an idiot (i see my scars and i feel really bad thinking why i did that if everything's ok, if i don't have any problem in life etc) is this a bpd thing? Thank you <3

copying others appearances and personality can be a bpd thing, yes doubting your mental illnesses and thinking their not valid is also a very common thing that those with bpd go through. don’t think you’re being stupid because you’re not. all your problems are valid and you’re not exaggerating or faking i promise.

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Is a bpd thing that I want to have like traumas or something like that? I mean I want to have like a trauma or a reason to be like this idk. I just feel bad for feeling like this or for doing somethings although I have gone through child on child sexual abuse (i have asked and people said it was but I just feel exagerating) and kind of bullyng (i grew up without friends and kids used to say bad things to me). And these things can count like trauma or something like that? Thank you!💛

this is another case like the last ask i just answered. it applies to me 100% but idk if it’s a bpd thing. and yes all those things are traumas. don’t feel like you’re exaggerating you’re valid <3

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I'm being looked at (dont know the english term for it) for possible bpd, I was wondering if it's a bpd thing to like do shit you know you shouldn't? More specifically like "i know my bf wants space and he has told me time and time again he's just tired" and then you put the phone down like "i'm not gonna text him" and not even a minute goes by before you pick up the phone and start shit because your brain just goes into FULL MELTDOWN the harder you try to not let it out?

i have a lot of asks in my inbox where idk if it's a specific bpd thing but it 100% applies to me, so idk it probably is

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tbpdfw ur fp n u are connected at the hip but then they get a bf and u don't matter

that really sucks. my fp is my boyfriend so i don't have that problem

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I went to see a psychiatrist for a diagnosis because myself and my GP think I have BPD. Although the psychiatrist recognises that I have most of the symptoms of BPD he said "let's not jump to conclusions" and told me that a "diagnosis won't be helpful". I'm really gutted because I'm not coping and I feel like having a diagnosis would just help me feel less alone (if that makes any sense?). It's frustrating knowing their is something wrong but not being told what.

i understand this completely. i think diagnoses are really helpful and i'm all for them. they can really help you feel validated and a lot of the time helps you understand the disorder better. even if you know you have it before you have a diagnosis, i feel like once you get a diagnosis you have more motivation to learn about it.

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not sure if it's a bpd thing or a me thing but am I the only one who feels really sad/upset when I don't get the first place on anything, like a competition, the first one to finish something or to get somewhere??? I don't know why because I understand that people win and lose but I can't accept??

i'm not sure it's a bpd thing but i'm the same way lmao

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I relate to a lot of bpd symptoms/things (like splitting, unstable identity, mood changes), but I'm not sure that the fear of abandonment fits the way it does for most ppl. I basically just don't have any friends bc I'm scared they won't like me, and idk if that is my social anxiety or if it could be fear of abandonment. Is that like a more "quiet" way of experiencing it or just something else entirely?

it kinda depends. i mean it's sort of life fear of rejection which can be translated to abandonment in certain situations. i'm not sure about your situation, if you could translate it to abandonment, but if you think you have bpd, i'd recommend speaking to a therapist if possible or do as much research as you can and work towards getting better.

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(cont'd) for a couple hours). But I dont know what to do. It feels like every day is a constant effort to make him like me, he is 100% my focus and its embarassing. And I think other people notice which makes it worse. Because I try not to talk about him too much because I don't want people to know but I guess I fail and still mention him a lot. My friend told me to give up on being good friends with him because I annoy him. It just all hurts so much and I dont know what im doing wrong

(2) aw i don't think you're doing anything wrong. being obsessed with a person is never good, but it's all part of what you're struggling with right now and it's perfectly normal in this community. just so long as you're working towards recovery you're doing everything right.

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I have a fp who I have no romantic interest in, but I am straight up obsessed with him. I am constantly thinking about him and waiting for him to talk to me, over analyzing everything he says to me. But he doesn't seem to like me much or want to be close with me and its extremely upsetting for me. The other night he was leaving and when I said "have a good night" he just said "ok bye" and i actually had a melt down and self harmed over THAT (and decided I hated him and he was a piece of shit fo

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What do you do if you finally found a medicine that helps but the side effect is hearing voices? Do I suck it up and stick with it or get off it and risk not finding another one that works as well.

you should definitely talk to your doctor about that and see if there's anything you can do about that. if the voices are really bad than i'd definitely recommend trying a new medication, but there might be a booster medication that you can take you alleviate that side effect. i'm taking anxiety medications but i have a booster of an antipsychotic at a really low dosage to help with some some symptoms.

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What can I do when my coping skills are failing me no matter what I try to do?

my advice is to just keep working at it. don't give up. also eating healthier and taking supplements or even getting on meds are great methods that helped me tremendously

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Also, love your art sideblog. I'm also just getting back into my art (I paint) after a hard semester. It makes me feel productive, which is something I struggle with in the summer without any homework. Anyways, your drawings are awesome! Art is great! And I hope it's helping you as much as it's helping me!

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You're very mature for your age. I just want you to know that. (And there's a difference between the maturity that is forced upon you when someone abuses you and personality maturity, and you have personality maturity.) This blog is wonderful and you've been helpful to so many people and I hope you can remember that when you're having a hard time. I hope you & everyone else is having a good day, and if not, that you have one soon.

this is so sweet !! 💕💕😭