hi!! i'm alex, a non-sam aromantic nb man currently exploring the concept of sexual attraction after realising i might not be ace, just dysphoric. pre-op, 1/2/2025 low dose t, 1/2/2026 regular dose t. mlm sub-leaning vers, not necessarily polyam or exclusively t4t but i believe in their beliefs.
tags
#me - my pics
#my darling boy - parapartner/imaginationship (whatever you want to call it)
what i'm into/language i prefer under the cut
giving/me doing it
receiving/him doing it
both
more of a situation than an activity
what i like:
edging/orgasm control
historical fashion, with a focus on 18th-early 20th century menswear
swordfighting/swordsmanship
forcemasc
mild somno (maybe? like being half asleep but not fully)
(pre)cum, especially messy or in large amounts (storebought is fine)
omegaverse/knotting
gender nonconformity
smoking (i don't smoke and will never encourage someone to start)
bottom growth pumping
frottage
begging
praise
overstim
hypno
crying
hands
voyeurism/exhibitionism (only between partners though, not public sex)
glory holes
intercrural sex
temperature play
face sitting
jerk off instructions (especially with lots of teasing)
mirrors
gay "corruption"/initiation
what i don't like:
incest/fauxcest, rapeplay, ageplay/cgl (including daddy kink), petplay, intox, necro, raceplay, piss, scat, spit, vomit, needles/piercing, misgendering*/detrans, foodplay/feederism, medical play, electrostim, humiliation, bondage that isn't super easy to get out of, tickling
*with the exception of anything i specifically am ok with being called
language i like: pet names (like baby/sweetheart/darling/etc, not like kitten or puppy), good boy, bitch, slut/whore, (t)dick, just hole is fine (no need to specify)
holy shit, just had the literal best session ever. i'm kinda pissed i didn't film it, it was so hot. i'll try and describe it for you.
so i was on my knees with a mirror on the bed between my legs, and i had some of my cum (about 3ml if you care) in a syringe, and i fucked myself with it and let it squirt out inside me. then i played with the mess for like 15 more minutes, letting it drip onto the mirror, and then when i made myself cum it was so wet some more of it dripped down and my cock was attached to the mirror in little strings. the way the light was, it was so pretty and shiny as it slowly dribbled down onto the mirror. i pushed out all the extra liquid from my hole and it was so creamy and lovely when it came out.
but yeah, i wish i had something to rewatch later because that was the hottest shit i've ever done.
Happy Whimpering Wednesday my hoard! I was encouraged to try practicing to edge again, and thanks to innovations from other sluts on the internet, I got some training in!
Edge4Me doesn't work GREAT for me, but there is something so hot about staring blankly at my screen panting and desperate for the screen to turn green again so I can keep stroking off...
hey um. if you have loads of spare time it could be fun to collect your cum in a syringe and use it for a squirting dildo... trying it now and fuck this feels good
forcemasc but it's roughhousing with your cis best friend after you come out. you have to deal with him teasing you with words like, "c'mon, this is just how boys mess around," and "is that all you've got? hit me like a the man you are," as he straddles your hips and holds your hands down.
he leans down and whispers, "we're just boys being boys. you can take it, right?" he asks, while he deliberately grinds his hips against yours as if trying to provoke you, and it works.
you struggle to escape his hold, but finally manage. you both toss and turn on the floor until you eventually end up on top. you attempt to restrict him in the same way he did to you, pushing your hips down onto his.
he looks up at you with a mischievous grin, his hands gripping your thighs tightly. "there we go..." he mutters as he moves his hips upward slightly.
“that’s my boy.”
nine in the morning btw… what am i doing w my life 🧍🏽.
Hey! Do you have any ideas for ways to actually incorporate forcemasc into the bedroom? I love forcemasc and my confidence in being masc in the bedroom has been kinda low, but I don't know how to actually "play it out" like in real time with another person (I'm a bottom btw but I hate being perceived as feminine). My boyfriend is supportive and wants to forcemasc me too but neither of us really know how that works in a roleplay sense in real life... Open to suggestions!
Okay, this answer is going to be long.
People can have an hard time to implement forcemasc in their sexual lives because it's a kink that's more a dynamic than a specific practice. For example, petplay would also be a dynamic, while impact play is a specific practice. In kink, you can use specific practices to enforce dynamics.
So, what is a forcemasc dynamic and how to materialise it with specific practices ?
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Forcemasc is the fiction you are being masculinized against your full enthousiastic consent and as such, can be separated in 2 other dynamics : masculinization and consensual non-consent.
Masculinization
Anybody from any gender can masculinize anybody from any gender. It can be a masculinization of your body, your gender or "just" your gender expression. To engage in masculinization, you need to decide on what it will focus.
Your sens of self ? The gendered words used for you ? Your body langage ? Your clothes ? Your haircut ? Your bodyhairs ? Your hormones ? Gender affirming surgeries ? Sexual practices ? Bod mod ? Voice training ?
Take also the time to establish boundaries : do you want to be forcemasc-ed but not called a man ? Do you want to have gender affirming surgeries but not have them included in your forcemasc play ? Are you willing to change haircut but not to shorter than your shoulders ? All valid and legit <3
Then, you will identify the practices you want to use : Praise ? Degradation ? Training ? Conditionement ? Hypnosis ? Control of your clothes ? Control of your bodyhair ? Administrating HRT ? Daily gender affirming affirmations ? Forbiding shaving ?
CNC
Consensual Non-Consent is a way to role play not being willing to engage in some acts, while staying safe and fully willing. To engage in it, you need a safeword or any other mean of freely communicating no in a way that will be immediatly understood as being outside of the role play.
It can be as simple as pretending to be manipulated into sex or as intense as pretending to be kidnapped and raped at gunpoint.
Now that you know what part of you will be forcemasc-ed and how you will do it, you're going to ask how it's going to be forced on you.
Do you want to be physically restricted ? With hands ? Cuffs ? Shibari ? Tape ? With sensory deprivation ? After a fight ?
If you want to be conditionned, what are the punishments used to make you complie ? Impact ? Electro ? Writting lines ? Doing push ups ? Orgasm denial ?
Do you prefere it to be only verbal, pretend you're in a toxic relationship where you're being manipulated into being more masc to deserve love ? To deserve pleasure ?
An established power dynamic, where the dom doesn't need to ask fo consent (in role play, ofc) ? Just have to decide they want you to be more masc, and even if you beg against it, they will do it and you will obey.
Combine !
Now that you identified each part of the scene you want to play, connect everything in a coherent and fluid way ! A few example :
your dom tie you up to do your t-shot while praising your body and the affect T has/will have on you. It make them so worked up they have to fuck you after
You said "my clit" instead of "my dick" and didn't correct someone that misgendered you ? Well, do 10 push-up, and say "I'm a man, I have a dick, I deserve respect and I shouldn't let other try to convince me otherwise" between each one. Then, perhaps you will be able to win back forgiveness between your dom knees.
you're blindfolded and being edged by your dom, who make you repeat gender affirming sentences. They will only let you cum once they're convinced you really believe it !
10 spanks for each day you're late for your t-shot
you're being stalked, your more feminine clothes disappear, same with your make up and recently you noticed your bodyhairs are getting thicker. You suspect something had been mixed with your body care products. Until you wake up in the middle of the night to being fucked while your tdick is pumped. (need some suspension of disbelief or the means to do a few days of play)
your dom only let you cum if you top or if you take it from behind, like a man
you're talking about your dysphoria and your insecurities, your dom refute everything with praise of your body and masculinity. You say you don't believe them. You get punished and forced to repeat each praise
And many other way, depending of what you like and what speak to you ! It can also be mixed with other dynamics kink, like petplay, ageplay, master/slave...ect
Obviously, this is just a way among others to create a forcemasc scene, but I think for people not used to kink, it's a great step-by-step method to start. Only do things you're confortable with, and that apply to you even if you're a dom. Do aftercare, take care of each other and communicate !
You wake up to my cock grinding into your ass and my hand over your mouth--shh baby, you can't cry out, your friends are in the other room. Won't you let me put just the tip in? Fuck I can't help getting louder and louder, it feels so good, would it really be so bad if they heard? Maybe they'd like it…
first dating app experience, it went well and we seem compatible but i was anxious the whole time. hope it gets easier when we meet irl 😬 got to talk to him about some of my fantasies, and he's really good in terms of knowing what he likes (since i have no idea what i'm doing). he's super understanding about everything, which is good because i'm worried about being too much to deal with. he's not giving chaser vibes either, so yay. i'm not sure i'm doing this right, besides some bad experiences as a kid i have actually no experience with sex with someone else and i'm really not used to someone being attracted to me without it being some sort of crime. i have to keep reminding myself that neither of us are doing anything wrong, that it's developmentally appropriate for me to be seeking this kind of thing out (and i'm actually behind, statistically). but my brain keeps telling me i'm in danger even though i know i'm not. aaaaaaaah.
first dating app experience, it went well and we seem compatible but i was anxious the whole time. hope it gets easier when we meet irl 😬 got to talk to him about some of my fantasies, and he's really good in terms of knowing what he likes (since i have no idea what i'm doing). he's super understanding about everything, which is good because i'm worried about being too much to deal with. he's not giving chaser vibes either, so yay. i'm not sure i'm doing this right, besides some bad experiences as a kid i have actually no experience with sex with someone else and i'm really not used to someone being attracted to me without it being some sort of crime. i have to keep reminding myself that neither of us are doing anything wrong, that it's developmentally appropriate for me to be seeking this kind of thing out (and i'm actually behind, statistically). but my brain keeps telling me i'm in danger even though i know i'm not. aaaaaaaah.