35F, NC, USA who dreams of being fucked hard and filled deep and often with load after load of thick cum. I want to be bred, collared, filled and owned. I am not actively looking for a Dominant, Daddy or Bull. BREEDING - PREGNANCY - ROLE PLAY- FORCED BREEDING - COLLARING -DOMINATION/SUBMISSION == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Voyeur 98% Exhibitionist 95% Non-monogamist 94% Switch 85% Submissive 80% Primal (Prey) 80% Rope bunny 75% Rigger 69% Experimentalist 67% Brat 66% Girl/Boy 64% Vanilla 60% Ageplayer 60% Primal (Hunter) 58% Pet 58% Dominant 49% Master/Mistress 44% Daddy/Mommy 41% Slave 32% Brat tamer 30% Owner 6% Sadist 4% Masochist 2% Degrader 2% Degradee Unless otherwise stated none of the photos, videos or content on this blog belong to me. If there is something that is yours that you need removed, please let me know.
To make this blog a bit easier to navigate, here is a (somewhat) brief list of my writings, sorted by topic. My full set of writings can be found here, with ask responses here and brilliant writing from others here.
General D/s Mechanics
D/s Hierarchy — and some updated thoughts
Lean In — and some updated thoughts
Ask: What are good “starting out” rules?
Punishment
Why I Use Safewords (Even With Trusted Partners)
Things I Got Wrong about D/s
Asks: Starting out in D/s (including a D/s 101 ask)
I’m not complaining even though it might sound like I am. But I can’t go a day on tumblr without seeing at least 3-4 posts dedicated to aftercare represented solely with images and assumptions around submissives being the only ones needing aftercare.
One of the biggest problems with domdrop is that many dominants themselves go through it without recognizing the signs let alone requiring the care afterwards. Most tops are so used to being strong and in control that a drop may be brushed off as manageable. Yes, it is manageable for some, but not all.
Aftercare is a mutual act that needs to occur at the same time. Dominants need it as well as Submissives (regardless of gender).
Some of the things that can be done to ease a top into both recognizing their need for aftercare, as well as provide it to them without them seemingly needed are:
1. Reassurance - Remind them that the scene was good (if it was) and that they made you feel happy, safe and cared for throughout the scene
2. Cuddling/Hugging/Being held - Tops need this as well and it becomes a part of providing the comfort. It’s ok if you remain still during, but I would recommend wrapping your bodies around each other (both of you).
3. Gentle/Light communication - As tiring as the scene might be, it’s still a good idea to keep a very gentle conversation going. It doesn’t have to even be intelligent. But it should contain talking about feelings. While expressing how you’re feeling, ask the top how they’re feeling as well. Not just about the scene, but physically and emotionally generally.
4. Remember till the day after - In a lot of cases, I’ve noticed that tops tend to have belated responses to a scene. This is what happens to me personally where the adrenaline delays the drop by a few hours and then it hits me like running into a brick wall. The crash includes lithargy, low energy, fatigue, low/depressed mood. If you see any signs, they could be indicative of a domdrop. That’s when they need aftercare. A massage, backrub, showering together, or even space if they need it. But space doesn’t mean leaving them completely alone. Ask them regularly what they want, and keep doing the things that they like you to do for them normally.
5. Assist with regaining proper mindset and energy - It uses a lot of power, energy (both physical and emotional). At times dominants enter what is known as “performance mode” where they’re becoming increasingly involved in their role to the point of a temporary loss of identity. That’s part of domspace and requires a lot of energy to maintain. Find out how deep into domspace they went and that could indicate if a domdrop is coming.
6. Remember experiences and signs - This one goes without saying. If you’ve experienced a domdrop then you already know what needs to be done. If you’ve experienced one and didn’t recognize it, then honestly it’s time to really take a few steps towards learning more about it.
All the best. And be safe. All of you.
Here are some resources I collected from the internet on this subject:
Submissive-Seeking's Traffic Light Safeword System
GREEN is “I’m good with this activity, intensity, speed, etc. In fact, I’m ready to go, go, GO!!!”
YELLOW is “I’m concerned this might be the limit with this particular activity, intensity, speed, etc. In fact, please pay extra attention and take heed that things may need to change if I’m to be able to keep going…”
RED is “STOP THIS THING RIGHT FUCKING NOW AND TALK TO ME!!! I need to reassess if I am able to continue with this activity.”
SAFEWORD (or whatever easy to remember and not used in a scene otherwise word you two agree on) is “WE ARE FUCKING DONE, BEGIN AFTERCARE IMMEDIATELY!!!!”
Whatever else being the Dominant partner may be, psychic ain’t it! Expecting him to just “know” is akin to crossing your fingers and running into traffic without looking expecting to be safe. In other words, it’s just plain foolish as well as dangerous.
There needs to be a way to always communicate these basic states of being no matter what words or gestures you guys choose.
Taken from this post
Anonymous said: Hello. My daddy's realised I wasn't telling him if I didn't feel comfortable or needed him to stop. We spoke about safe word
To be absolutely DESTROYED by my Daddy and his friends
I would love hearing him tell them what he wanted to see and hearing them tell my Daddy how I feel and their thoughts.... their dirty, nasty thoughts of his babygirl....
Taking care of my Daddy and his friends.... prepping food and drinks.... spoiling him and his friends just a little.... showing them I appreciate how kind and respectful they always are of me....then as I finish handing out snacks and stuff, I ask My Daddy if they need anything else and he smirks at me....and I bite my lip thinking I know what he is gonna say by that look in his eyes.....He tells me to present my pussy for them looking sweet and innocent in my pretty white dress.... His friends look unsure of exactly what that means.... looking around awkwardly as I immediately reply....Yes, Daddy......turn with my back to them.... standing directly in front of the couches where they sit and drop to my knees, put my head and upper chest on the floor and spread my thighs wide.....flipping my dress up over my ass, presenting my pussy and ass to them for their pleasure....
They of course notice my lack of panties and I hear the collective groan as they realize I’ve been prancing around among them with no underwear on.... my pretty pink pussy vulnerable and bare to their lustful hands and thoughts if they had only known that I was available to play with.....that My Daddy occasionally shares...
I maintain my position.... not shifting in the slightest as I feel them looking at me, shifting in their seats, wondering what happens next.... their attention clearly no longer on the game on television....
Getting fucked hard and deep for as long as he can go… no mercy….. just put on my hands and knees with my thighs just far enough apart that I can’t control the depth of his thrusts….. my head down so my hips tilt my pussy back and open it more…..keeping me as open and vulnerable to his assault as possible and then just taken until he is done and I am full of hot thick cum….. my thighs quivering and me panting while he rubs my clit making me orgasm over and over so all that cum is sucked deep in my womb…. Him chuckling softly as I beg for his cock inside me again….lying spent and boneless next to him as he pulls on and nibbles my swollen needy nipples…. my engorged clit throbbing and begging for his lips and tongue….. Him looking into my eyes as I moan and tremble…. him caressing my cheek as he tells me to beg for what I want….let him know how much I need it…. Licking my swollen and raw lips I tell him I need his cock inside me, I need him to fill my tight, wet, pink pussy….. I need him to stretch me with his thickness and bruise my cervix with the depth and force of his thrusts….. I need him to possess me, own me, mark me, claim me for his own…. I need to feel the hot flood of his cum as he forces his cock deeper than it has ever been…. I need him making me moan and gasp and beg for him to pull back…. him knowing I want exactly what he is giving me…..feeling his already swollen veiny cock swell further as he approaches his peak…. I need him telling me that he won’t stop until I’ve drained his balls dry and he’s not pulling back as he thrusts harder and grinds the thick head of his meaty cock into my cervix…. I need him holding tight to my wide jiggly ass …. leaving bruises of his fingers as he slams hard and deep inside, pushing his cock against my cervix with firm solid pressure, knowing that his cum is going exactly where we both want it… I need him to make me rub clit as it presents itself for stimulation so that as he is stretching and applying force to my sore abused cervix, my pussy is milking him with orgasm after orgasm; opening my vulnerable womb to his potent Alpha seed…. I need his breeding❤️
I am not jealous… I am very possessive of whatever I own and I will fight to keep it that way…So be very careful of whomever you allow to kiss your beautiful soul princess.
My favorite thing is when he is taking me from behind and I can feel his fingers bruising my hips and he is pounding deep...his cock making contact with my cervix with every single thrust.... me panting and begging with each contact ....moaning as I become sore and swollen from his conquest.....he slams deep.....right against my cervix, feeling like he is going to rip through to my womb, flooding my pussy with hot, thick, potent cum and as he fills me full, he pulls my hair so I arch my back and then he bites that tender spot right where my neck and shoulder meet and he growls and sucks and bites firmly....marking his territory...