Hi I've got this big problem that I think blocks me sm from shifting/manifesting. I read your boundaries and I honestly do not know if you wrote about this or not, so please do not feel the need to answer to this at all if you don't want to. I cannot find this anywhere besides shifttok (and I have this problem with shifttok that it makes me very anxious and I feel like most NOT ALL but most of the advice there just makes me think negatively) so, if you could help me I would be greatful (especially since your advice is amazing, I adore your mindset towards shifting/manifesting). Basically what I think blocks me the most, is my fear of failure. I want to shift i truly do, I want to manifest amazing and seemingly unrealistic things into my life, and I've tried before, and it often didn't work. Because of that I simply developed a fear of failure, a fear that if I try I will definitely fail, because I failed before. I truly believe that shifting and manifesting is real but I failed so many times I'm scared to try again, because what if I fail? I feel like everytime i try to shift my mind is whispering ,,btw because you failed so many times, you won't shift! You tried before and it didn't work so why would this time be different? You won’t shift". I don't know what to do about this and it's driving me insane. I try to tell my brain to stfu and ignore this feeling but it's so deeply rooted into me I feel so helpless.
to start this off, thank you for being so considerate and reading my ask boundaries!
barely anyone does that nowadays, and it’s clear.
it’s around midnight right now, but reading this, i can’t NOT answer right now, so here i am, sleep-deprived (which is why this post is less… consistently colored? I guess? IDK?!?!) and i’m glowing like a porch light bcs i care way too much about you not giving up yet.
let’s start; our main problem is… drumroll?!
seriously, that’s valid. that’s common. you are not broken for fearing it. you are not defective for trembling when you think of “trying again.”
you are not weak for wanting to avoid another heartbreak!
fear of failure is the nervous system’s, eh.. poetry, let’s say.
it’s your mind’s way of saying, “i’ve seen this movie before and it didn’t end well.”
the core of it is continuity bias.
continuity bias is this sneaky little gremlin that sits in your head and whispers, “keep the story consistent.”
your brain’s job is to quite literally maintain a coherent timeline,
if you’ve failed something before—or even just assumed you did—it will cling to that version of events like it’s gospel.
your subconscious builds a map based on what it knows,
even if what it knows is outdated, ugly, or false!
that’s why you might find yourself paralyzed at the thought of trying again. it’s not laziness, it’s simply self-preservation. your mind thinks it’s saving you from pain.
humans are ADDICTED to continuity. it’s what gives us a sense of identity,
we crave patterns because patterns mean survival.
so here’s my first tip! woohoo!
not in the cliché, “failure is just a lesson!” way.
i mean genuinely give it a new storyline.
this was how i first shifted. yapping time heh
i didn’t know about LOA back then,
i didn’t have a routine or a godlike affirmation playlist. i was just some kid throwing coins into the void.
i believed shifting was LUCK based. that i was not in control. every night, another coin toss, another “maybe.” and because i assumed i wasn’t in control, i assumed i’d fail.
for three fucking months.
i got so disillusioned that i stopped.
i told myself i needed a break because it was seeping into every crevice of my life. was literally losing SLEEP over it.
had to be pulled out of class and asked if everything was okay at home 😭
and then, one night after taking a LOOONG break, i thought: what if every “failure” was actually movement? what if every attempt that didn’t “work” was just me getting closer to the destination? why not assume THAT?
i visualized a little stick figure, me, nikolas, trudging along a path toward his DR, each attempt a tiny step forward. i assumed that even my so-called failure meant i was in motion.
and guess who has two thumbs and ended up in their waiting room a week later?
then comes the “memory detox.”
okay, that sounds like something a wellness influencer would sell in a glass bottle for $80, so let’s call it revision. an actual term and thing!
you remember all your failed attempts, don’t you?
every one of them stored like cursed souvenirs in the back of your mind.
they rise every time you doubt yourself, haunting you with their “proof.”
but you don’t need to go by the past. who told you that?!
there’s no way it can DISPROVE you, especially when it’s a shifting attempt.
these memories.. they’re clay.
the past, much like the present and future, is malleable. the only thing keeping it in place is YOUR decision to keep it there.
so what’s stopping you from rewriting the story?
rewriting the past? revising? it’s the exact same as regular manifestation.
tonight, or any time you feel that old ache of failure, close your eyes and revise. imagine those same attempts with a different outcome.
you can imagine you’d have shifted to your DR, or just some simple reality! it’s your preference. picture yourself shifting successfully.
visualize it vividly. imagine you already did.
and let that be your new memory.
you have shifted all those past times.
your mind literally cannot prove you wrong.
because your brain cannot tell the difference between memory and imagination. it literally cannot. it’s the same neurons firing, the same chemistry bubbling. IT QUITE LITERALLY WOULDN’T BE A LIE EITHER! you REVISED, manifested to change past outcomes. YOU DID SHIFT. NO ONE CAN DISPROVE THAT!
BECAUSE YOU MANIFESTED ITTT!!!!!!!!!!!!
i will SCREAM this at you again because it’s so important omgomg
you have shifted all those past times. to anywhere you wanted.
and no one—not even your loudest inner critic—can disprove that.
memory is plastic. mutable. soft. changeable. and this doesn’t just work backward, it works sideways.
you can revise last night’s “failure” too!
“oh, i didn’t shift last night?” NO, YOU DID. SAY IT! say i did. i’m just remembering it differently now.
reintroduce yourself to trying.
softly. tenderly. like petting a scared animal. don’t leap back into big expectations.
start small. micro-manifestations. tiny wins. call it confidence rehab.
you can’t fail at the small things, right?
see an angel number. get a compliment. hear a song you love unexpectedly.
watch how your body begins to trust success again.
it’s like teaching your nervous system to exhale after years of holding its breath!
^ tiny ramble, you can’t fail at ANYTHING. nothing is harder than another thing.
you just give meaning to what’s easy and what’s impossible!
tossing a coin is just as easy as shifting, if you assume it.
fear of failure is often not even a belief, it’s a body reaction.
your nervous system has memorized panic. it fires off before your conscious mind can even intervene.
so before you assume your “limiting beliefs” are too strong, check in with your body.
ground yourself—breathe deeply, unclench your pretty jaw, move and hum…
touch something that reminds you you’re safe. you can manifest in any state, sure, but when your body feels safe, your mind becomes limitless!
FIFTH! SIXTH! AND SO MUCH MORE, I’LL STOP COUNTING AND JUST SLAM ‘EM AT YA!
i encourage the following,
all malleable and could be changed to fit YOU.
faith without pressure—if you always approach shifting as a test you must pass, with YOUR fear of failure, you will choke. rebuild your curiosity, see what happens instead of desperation. your DR, your manifestations, NONE of them can physically be ripped out of your grip. none of them will disappear. you. are. in. charge.
belief fatigue—you may be exhausted from trying to believe all the time. REST. as hard as it seems, it really is refreshing to just get out of the constant anxious and overstimulated mind of a shifter / manifestor. take breaks. live normally for a day or week or as long as you want.
identity work—after applying any of these tips and slowly progressing, make sure to not simply see them as luck. you see yourself as someone who fails at manifesting, and as much as i wanna scream at you that you aren’t, you get to choose that. build a new identity narrative, superstar.
stop using results as proof—your validation loop is EXTERNAL. ergo, you seem to think “I’ll believe it when it works” rather than “it’ll work because i believe it”. hold the second believe internally rather than chasing external proof.
belief inflation—same as the break one, after too much shiftok content, you may have “overfilled” beliefs. contradictory, overhyped rules. simplify it. throw out every rule and make. your. own.
and stop being mean to yourself. seriously. you can do this.
there is not a single person in this damned multiverse that cannot do something as simple as manifestation and shifting.
you may see it as complex because YOU assumed it is.
and what do we know about LOA?
assumptions. can. be. changed.
reality. can. be. changed.
at any time, to anything.
and if all of this feels like too much right now, don’t worry. you don’t need to apply every tip, or even any of them. choose any, or choose many, or remix, or change it up. take one that resonates, tuck it under your pillow, and let it hum quietly in your head.
once again excuse any mistakes, it’s 1:33am…
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