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[hypergamyconfessions]

“a lot of hypergamy girls don't realize that these men aren't stupid, they can see right through some basic literature quoting and posturing, and a lot of these circles also don't value intellectual rigor.”

So with regards to this point mentioned by anon let’s primarily keep in mind that all affluent circles are different. What they value will differ based on location, culture, upbringing, age demographic, often their religious views or lack there of. We can debate on this point for days on end about what we’ve encountered in different affluent circles and what rules we feel apply. There will be commonalities, but also a lot of differences in terms of what is valued.

Especially when we get niche specific, what I mean by niche specific is when you’re targeting affluent circles within different industries such as (business, tech, finance,science,medicine) or weather you’re wanting to break into clubs centred around hobbies such as (sailing,golfing,horse riding,art,academia, cycling) Different sets of rules will always apply from one circle to another for example if you become a member of the explorers club, you’ll come to find out that the people there value intellectual rigour and a curiosity for knowledge, because that is their ethos so you’ll easily build relationships there if that is a genuine interest of yours.

Anon is 100% correct though they can see through posturing. So in conclusion the key to overcoming this hurdle and successfully breaking into certain affluent circles in my opinion is to

1.) Get niche specific so that you’re building relationships with like minded people initially based off of your shared interests.

2.) Ensure this is a genuine interest and passion of yours, if it isn’t it will be easily detectable. You don’t have to know everything about what you’re interested in just a willingness to learn.

3.) Observe. Observe. Observe, humans are easily readable and what separates a unsuccessful social climber to a successful one is the ability to observe, learn and understand the environment you’re in to avoid making certain faux pas.

4.) If the circle you’re attempting to break into aren’t looking to expand their network to more people and are intent on gatekeeping, do not embarrass yourself by trying mold yourself to fit in with them. Just move on it’s never that deep

5.) Remember that every single person is or was a social climber in high society, they presently might not be but their great grandmother was. So there is absolutely no reason for you to be intimidated by them when most of them are just masking their insecurities underneath their Burberry coats.

6) Focus on finding your tribe of both affluent men and women who’s company you enjoy, rather than performing like a circus monkey to appeal to a group of people you don’t even like. Start with yourself and think about the kind of people you’d enjoy socialising with. The world is evolving at an extremely rapid pace. As someone in both business and tech, I can tell you that the number of millionaires keeps increasing by the day, so there is a man and a circle out there for you!

Thank you for coming to my Tedtalk 😂

THIS. IS. THE. BEST. ADVICE. EVER.

And I agree with absolutely everything you said. 😊

Very very true that every single circle is going to have its nuances so flexibility and ability to read a room is so incredibly important!

Also LOVE that you mentioned the importance of actually socializing with people you have shared interests with! Getting invited to exclusive events is great and all but if it means surrounding yourself with people you have nothing in common with, it's going to feel like torture.

Thank you for your Tedtalk. I loved it. It was incredibly enlightening.

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[heartlle]

you can’t expect peace from a woman you’ve made miserable

[theposhsworld]

Smart Girls Marry Money - How women have been duped into the romantic dream and how they’re paying for it

by Elizabeth Ford and Daniela Drake

Isn’t it Shallow?

Why, we wonder, does society applaud a girl who falls for a guy’s “big blue eyes,” yet denounces one who chooses a man with a “big green bankroll”?

What’s the difference? Earning power is, after all, a reflection of his values and character. Big blue eyes? Not so much.

The average guy believes most gals are only looking for money, but the truth is too few of us are interested in their income at all.

The modern gal is earning her own cash and is looking for emotional security. Too bad it doesn’t exist.

But what about Love???

From the day we’re born we’re immersed in a culture that elevates romantic love over . . . pretty much everything else.

And with true love as our highest goal, marrying for any other reason has come to be seen as just plain wrong. Immoral even.

In much of the world most of the time, romantic love was considered too temporary of an emotion upon which to build a life together. These days it’s considered the only truly moral basis to build a life together.

social commentators predicted that marrying for love would drive the divorce rate right up around 50%. And they turned out to be right.

When couples started to marry for love, soon afterwards they also sought the right to divorce.

The reason? If being in love is a valid reason to marry, then being out of love is a valid reason to divorce.

How long does romantic love last? Answer: 18 to 24 months, tops.

The latest scientific studies say that “romantic love” is not love at all. It’s a thrill that always fades away. Well-invested mutual funds, however, last much longer.

Armed with science, no one needs to blame a partner for not being the same “Schnookums” you first met. Your brain simply went back into proper balance and that wondrous bio- chemical experience that once controlled your every thought either evolved or dissolved.

The quest for romantic love is so powerful that a smart girl will lose all rational thought and become victim to cons and slackers who only want to take advantage of her youthful search for “The One.”

we become dumb when we’re “in love.”

If this trend continues, the term “lifelong partnership” may soon be retired— except when referring to certain animal species, like wolves.

Throughout history, a marriage entered into for practical means evolved into long, fulfilling unions, while many times a “love match” ended in a bitter dissolution.

Double Standards

The same societal norms that condemn us for looking for a man with resources, encourage and reward men who go after a woman for her resources: her figure and her fertility.

Good looks are a woman’s most fungible asset, exchangeable for social position, money, and even love.

Dutifully, a modern gal might go bankrupt trying to look beautiful and sexy—in increasingly drastic ways. We’ll put our lives at risk to plump our puckers, boost our breasts or revive our virginity.

It appears the ladies are going all out to hold up their side of the deal. And the guys? Well, somewhere along the way, the deal broke down.

Women are now denounced as gold-diggers for desiring our balance of the bargain.

Why do women work so hard to look good while plenty of guys lie around in sweat pants playing video games?

There aren’t a lot of good men around. Women want the power to choose and are competitive.

Choose wisely. Choose a rich man!

You Don’t Have To Look Like a Model!

Women in their twenties are sexual magnets regardless of their looks, according to sexologist

Unfortunately, most of us don’t know this until we’re in our forties and look back longingly at our high school yearbook photos.

Just being a woman puts you in the game. Deep down, almost all of us know this. And almost all men, under the right circumstances, will acknowledge universal feminine beauty.

you’ve got something that someone will find he can’t live without—and that’s a bankable fact

images of ideal beauty are digitally enhanced. One of our friends had a full time job air-brushing pimples off Playboy models’ asses. So don’t buy the lie that you’re ugly and unsexy.

Use your sex appeal to score a man who earns while you’re still young!

It may sound harsh, and it is harsh, but it’s true. Let’s highlight the reasons:

Your sexual power is unstoppable when you are young.

You may not believe it now, but you will get older.

You will get tired.

Many of us have found that getting it all often costs more than having it all is worth. Why? Well, partly because for working gals, having it all also means doing it all.

On the other hand, many men focus first and foremost on having a great career—and then maybe a hot wife who’ll take care of all the rest

And when they accumulated enough wealth when they’re 40 or older, they are still (or more) attractive to the opposite sex and physically able to start a family. For women in this position, its just not the case…

Economic resources never get angry, ask if you’ve gained weight, or forget to call home.

Even if your husband leaves you for someone younger or you get sick of hanging out with your old man, with a few bucks in your pocket you can live well, pursue a successful career, and still have a shot at “true love.”

Marrying well while young is a smart girl’s best chance to “have it all.”

Remember your hotness is a commodity. Don’t just spend it for the sake of being admired. Instead, try to use it to get something tangible you can take into your old age

You need to be smart because you won’t be the hottest girl in the room forever.

All girls need to look ahead and fight for their financial futures.

The average married woman’s standard of living lags only a little behind that of men. But if the marriage crashes, it’s the women who are exposed to an extremely high risk of poverty. Why? Because on average married women make half what their husbands earn.

The data are clear: If you depend on your career, and then marry just for love with no concern for your spouse’s ability to earn, you’re very likely to end up abandoned or broke or both.

One out of every five elderly women who is alone at retirement will be living below the poverty level. Alone, wrinkled and broke? It doesn’t sound like a very good deal to us.

It may just be better for your health and your wealth to marry a man than to act like one.

"Settling” is not settling for a man, but opting for a lifestyle and an agreeable companion.

Move To Rich Areas

Aristotle Onassis said, “If you want to be rich, live with the rich, even if you have to live in the attic.”

Eighty percent of the people who get married live within two miles of each other. (Dr. Joyce Brothers)

On lasting Marriages

Studies have shown that as either partner’s fortunes rise dramatically, he or she is apt to start looking for a new mate.

With cash comes more confidence, more sex appeal—and more opportunities.

The paradox is that if you marry a man with potential, when he finally achieves, he often leaves.

Helen Fisher suggests, that the person who feels powerful in the relationship is usually the one to walk. This may help explain why battered partners often don’t leave their abusers.

Anthropologist David Buss offers the following to guarantee a long-lasting marriage: To preserve a marriage couples should remain faithful; produce children together; have ample economic resources; be kind, generous, and understanding; and never refuse or neglect a mate sexually.

[venicechick]

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[justcatposts]

He ‘buries’ coffee because he doesn’t like the smell. 

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[barbienefertiti]

[devilsanddancingangels]

100 Attraction Principles from “Why Men Love B!tches” 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much. 3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond. 5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. 7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer. 8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else. 10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. 11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. 12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests. 13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl. 14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is. 16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. 18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard. 19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him. 20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same. 23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t. 24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him. 26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort. 27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. 28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. 29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. 30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself. 31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock. 32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes. 33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way. 34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete. 35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl. 36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters. 37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world. 38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another. 42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY. 43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner. 44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship. 47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed. 49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior. 50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

51. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 52. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 53. When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.” 54. When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother–and the odds that he will take you for granted increase. 55. Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you–right where he wants you. 56. When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer. 57. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 58. A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way. 59. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 60. If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back. 61. When you nag, he sees weakness. 62. He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover. 63. In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect. 64. He’ll forget what he has in you, unless you remind him. 65. Many women talk a lot out of nervousness–which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity. 66. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 67. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 68. In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long. 69. Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool: because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate. 70. The element of suprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement. 71. Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine. 72. Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable. 73. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. 74. Men often automatically assume that a *****ier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid. 75. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 76. He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own too feet financially. 77. You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect. 78. Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own–with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely as his mercy. 79. When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister. 80. The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will. 81. In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person. 82. Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you. 83. Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on. 84. When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.” 85. People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight. 86. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 87. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 88. When you alter the routine, your not being there is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact. 89. Don’t give a reward for bad behavior. 90. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. 91. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 92. Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in. 93. Once you start laughing, you start healing. 94. You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face. 95. A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 96. The tension that arises with a slightly *****y woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand. 97. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 98. Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way. 99. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 100. The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

[jourdepluie91]

Tropea (Calabria, Italy)

[federiac-deactivated20250916]

The toxic part of the leveling up culture, really made you believe that in order to be an high value woman, you should constantly talk about your standards. Listen to me: you don’t have to tell anyone about what you want. You don’t have to post that you expect a man to provide for everything in the relationship: just walk away from men who don’t. No explanation, not to him, not to your girlfriends. If a man starts disrespecting you, maybe makes sexual allusions while chatting, expects you to go to his home to “netflix and chill”, just don’t answer him, block him, whatever. You don’t have to say that you are a high quality woman and you have other standards. The same applies in every situation, when you say no to something because it doesn’t match your standards: you don’t need to explain yourself and saying that you have other expectations, please. Be silent about the things you want, especially on social media, especially on your personal profile. Just walk away from what doesn’t match your standards. Silently.

[virgoassbitch]

Men be like “how DARE she want more for herself!!! 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤”

[asiansiren]

What are the biggest differences between an average girl look vs. a successful escort look? Is it body? Fashion? Or act?

No, no, no...

What do you think...?

Yes, it’s all an act...

Plenty of plain women securing the bag. Plenty of model-looking girls getting used and dumped.

And no one ever speaks regarding this... but relegating yourself to an ultra-glamorous “bombshell” type, or even an all-natural “model” may actually be a detriment. Because you attract a personality inclined towards short-term thinking and satisfaction (aka, not as much revenue for you.)

And aside from fitting in and demonstrating some social capital to your audience or target client in regards to style, dress, external accessories, it is also meaningless in the pursuit of end goal (wealth).

People get too caught up in the details, bite off more than they can chew.

Ultimately, things like your heel height and the style of your nails hold no real meaning: they’re just arbitrary details used to 1) induce conversation, 2) attract the eye and signify someone who invests in their appearance, and 3) are blank canvases to project some qualities on that you want to be associated with in your persona of seduction.

Selecting them doesn’t mean anything otherwise - like nobody genuinely cares whether you’re all in nudes, though perhaps it’s to appear sensual and modern; or red nails, yet another popular choice, given that red’s supposed association with “passion”, which is also discretionary ...

You need to perfect the “heaux” aura… your mindset, the way you carry yourself, and your body language should indicate that you are a woman who fulfills the fantasy, but only if you obtain investment. Only then! Otherwise? Never.

You don’t need to wear ten thousand diamonds, or to don a crocodile Hermès Kelly.

You don’t need to have 10L of Juvederm injected.

You don’t need to have been on the cover of Vogue.

But you should be comfortable internally and externally, projecting the image, that you are a sexual object available for consumption at the right price. And you need to find men who recognize that quality, and terminate relations with anybody and anything that doesn’t recognize this.

Even I, as an escort, can recognize other escorts when traversing out and about. Just from a glimpse. And I can recognize clients - men who would hire escorts - from walking out and about. And men normally recognize me as an escort ... the number of times at Davos, I was asked, “Are you here for business or pleasure?”

The “heaux aura” or behavior signifying you are an escort normally comprises of body language, some overt sexuality, and positioning yourself in social situations where there is a “gray” area. Is a ‘good’ woman going to be out alone, at the bar, with no girlfriends or a boyfriend, at 9pm in a somewhat suggestive outfit? No...

So, how do you do this? How do you project this image?

The first change is internal.

When you go out… you internalize and have the mindset, that you don’t perform sexually for free.

Your time is not free …

Your beauty is not free…

Your presence is not free …!

Read it, internalize it, embody it, breathe it. You don’t explain yourself: when somebody even questions this mentality or framework, you move on.

The second you go out to freestyle, your mindset should be, where is the money? Are you making rent tonight, or no?

Because then, you control your body language to project the image that you are sexually available. You are not a regular woman. What does a regular woman do?

A regular woman hides behind their phone, pretending to be busy. A regular woman avoids eye contact and is timid and insecure. A regular woman is afraid to be seen as sexual and to take up space. She gazes around hurriedly to seem preoccupied. She’s there to relax and be alone, to meet a friend, for a little business meeting.

You differentiate yourself. You’re alone and seem approachable. You’re not on your phone, and you are open and confident. You are aware you’re easily an object of desire, and own it. You are sexually open and in control. And yes, you are a sexual being, but only for the right price. You make eye contact.

And if you’re a beginner, it will take time to reprogram yourself. You need to constantly re-position yourself, and notice and alter the way you carry yourself to give that suggestive, questionable atmosphere. A steep learning curve. So practice whenever you can, and exert discipline.

It should happen. If you are in the right position, meaning, you are 1) in a locality with high amounts of wealth, 2) in a space with a high number of single, unattached men, and 3) have the right body language, it should occur.

You nip conversations with useless men in the bud. You keep your eyes on the prize. You internalize your value and remain unwavering on your end goal.

And you’ll always experience dead nights, or useless men seeking to exploit you. Grow a thick skin; unfortunately, male entitlement to attractive members of the female sex knows no bounds and knows no humility or humbleness..: Make it clear you are here for business - get to the action as fast as possible. Cut them off; keep it moving.

At one point, you’ll probably have practiced your body language and presence so often, it will happen without you even noticing. And you’ll be approached for solicitation even when you don’t intend to. They will come and find you. Then it becomes yet another problem to deal with. 😉

[assyrianjalebi]

Indira Varma in Kama Sutra: A Tale of Love (1996)

[trustfundkiller]

Escort Touring 101 & What To Do When A Client Pays For A Trip

2014 more than any other year I have travelled extensively. 2-3 times or more Every month I was off to some local. It was wild and fun and crazy.

And honestly, for the state I was in, I wasn’t making any real money consistantly, majority of the money I made was from other places.

So I decided to attempt to write out my experience with Touring on my own as well as things I do when clients pay my travel expenses.

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Before You Travel

Trusted Traveller Programs

If you know your going to be hopping about frequently there are some programs you should know about to help speed things up during your travels, below are the ones I’ve found most beneficial.

TSA Pre Check - Good for alot of the major airports in the US. Allows you to zoom through the lines and not have to remove shoes, computers or belts. When you are running late and the difference between catching your plane or not is the TSA line you will be happy for this.

Global Entry - If your going to be globetrotting, you really want this. If you ever thought about working in places like Dubai, Australia or Asia you REALLY want this. Why? If your smart you will be bringing back currency exceeding the 10K USD limit, you are not going to want to declare that because it will open a whole host of problems, namely “Where did you get the money from?”. If you keep making trips to these places, for no apparent reason eventually someone will get curious. You vacation in Dubai 10 times a year? This way ma'am… Your not hurting anyone, your not dealing in drugs, you are a low risk traveller for all they care, GE will allow you to enter back into the US without too many, if any problems.

There are more programs you can Read About Them Here.

Airline & Hotel Loyalty Programs

Ideally, you should pick a few select hotels & airlines that you like and join the loyalty program. I spoke a little on this in my other guide How To Survive A Long Distance Flight but here is a bit more detail:

Depending on how you present your self and where you travel you may want to join different programs here are a few of my favorites:

USA

Starwood Preferred Guests - Include the St.Regis and The W Hotel chains

Marriott Rewards - Only the Marriotts

Kimpton Karma Rewards - Includes hotels like The Epic, Hotel Palomar, signing up gets you free Wifi for the hotels! This is my favorite USA program.

Europe, Asia, Middle East

Golden Circle - Shangri-La hotels, I have Jade Tier and the service you get with it is amazing.

Hotels will ALWAY give you preference and treat you to upgrades and nice things when you book directly with them over a 3rd party site. However there is one 3rd party program I highly recommend:

Hotels.com - Stay 10 Nights get one free. If you often stay at hotels that cost 300+ a night and you rack that up, thats a 300-500 room yours for a night for free. They award you according to how much you spend on average.

A Good Tip: Get memberships with the hotels but use Hotels.com to book them, when you check in just let the desk know your a member so you can get points. If it ever comes a time when your due for a free upgrade, and have your 10 nights in Hotels.com, book the hotel with Hotels.com then upgrade your room when you check in at your hotel! A free spa suite! (Perfect for when you need a fancy place for new photos)

The same deal can be said for airlines, however theres no good site like hotels.com for airlines, however with some airlines you can ‘cheat’ a little.

Emirates - Emirates has a partnership with Alaska Airlines….It is much cheaper to buy miles from Alaska than Emirates….Especially if you have a travel points credit card. You can cheaply buy enough miles from Alaska for first class or business class on Emirates. Just buy the miles then transfer them over to Emirates.

One World Alliance - American Airlines, British Airlines, Japan Airlines. I became an Emerald member and more than once I have received a free flight. Whenever I can not use Virgin, I go with one of the OWA.

Now Lets get on to something that alot of people want to know:

How To Plan For A Tour

Potential tours can be hard, you have to decide where will work best for you, where to advertise, yada yada.

Well, I’m going to save you some trouble.

What should I charge during a tour

Some ladies have lower or higher prices depending on the city, for NYC $500 is a good average for a lady at 300-400 someplace else for example, an NYC lady in the midwest who is $500 might do $400. Some people don’t change. It’s up to you what you want to do. If you want to change prices, look at native ladies who look like you to see what they are charging and match them. Just keep in mind that you have to make back a minimum.

How much money is needed for a tour?

Most Places in the USA: It will cost around 1K - 1.5K for airfare and hotel alone. Places closer to your home will obviously be less but if your going from Los Angeles to Boston or from New York to Miami, thats a good average.

Worldwide : Easily 3K alone for airfare and hotel.

With ads, it depends on how you market yourself. Your ad budget can be as low as $10 all the way to 1K+.

When booking flight and hotels, check the cancelation policy. Make sure you can easily cancel or change in case of anything.

How do I figure out where to tour?

Put out feelers. This works best for Eros Guide, put out base ads in other cities describing a fly me to you package or a potential tour date and see how many guys line up. Look on eros guide and see what kind of escorts are advertising in the city you want. For example, Atlanta is filled with buxom T&A for days, type of ladies, you may do well if you fit that look. Latinas dominate Miami. Little things like that can help you build a list.

You can also pick a lady who is similar to you in rates and looks and copy her tour city list. just don’t be that person who follows the poor lady around like a puppy…its okay if you cross paths once or twice but the same exact tour schedule? Ladies are not dumb.

Where To Advertise For A Tour

USA

A General consensus has agreed that a general combination of Eros Guide, P411 and Date-Check net the best results. Then the local review boards for whatever area your touring. ECCIE for the South, TNA for the West, TER for the East. RS2K is the Midwest favorite that is not a board. If your going to an obscure city for some Godforsaken reason, Backpage is your friend.

UK

A little harder but not impossible. Captain 69, Punterlink, and AdultWork seem to be the kings. I especially love Adultwork and because you have to pay for C69, the people active there are more likely to book. Why waste money just looking after all, they get a list of ladies they want and then pick. easy.

Everywhere Else

Do not underestimate the reach of backpage and craigslist, it can be a joke sometimes in the US but other places it is a gold mine.

A note on other ad venues* If you can not find it on the first two pages of google for certain keywords neither can your clients and it’s probably a waste of time. A majority of ad malls are unless they are popular.

Getting Clients For a Tour

Depending on how big your tour is and how you operate, the minimum time you should wait to advertise is 1 week before the day. Ideally, I would do a month or 2 weeks before.

Some ladies offer pre booking specials and others require deposits. It’s up to you. However keep in mind that for men who want 2hr+ appointments, get a deposit, sometimes they cancel last minute and thats money wasted.

How to make back money if people cancel

Honestly? Freestyle. If you have a really nice hotel, put on your finery and head to the bar. Be shameless, your actually a guest here, there is always one man in a bar who wants to be approached or who wants to approach you. Greylist the dudes who cancel, if they want to book again, they have to pay a fee.

A City I put ads in got very little inquiries.

Don’t go unless you have enough clients to make back your investment + one hour of your time at minimum. Even that is a bit steep but sometimes you will have the last minute people who will boost profit.

A City I put ads in got no inquiries.

Cancel the tour. But NEVER announce that you are canceling it to the public. You will lose face. You will always get the last minute guys who will ask and you have two options: Tell them you are booked up, or tell them you are no longer coming but if they book an overnight or something you can come to them. Don’t ever say it’s because you did not get enough inquiries, make it seem like another place wanted you more so.

With that said heres some advice on what you can do when a clients pays for a trip

Free Trip? Huray! Congrats! Most if not all of my travels have been like this. You can use the advice above to plan your trip but for your sake heres some additional things to consider:

Go a week earlier than you need. If you client will have a hotel or your meeting him at his home, go down a week early to get some extra cash from the trip.

Know your Clients schedule: If he will be gone from 11AM - 2PM, make plans to see a client or two.

Just because a man invites you down doesn’t mean you should stop working, if anything try to see if the area would be a good tour destination for the future.

In the end if it doesn’t matter to you to work or not then by all means don’t. I just want you to know you have options.

However, make sure you know your clients personality a bit before doing this, if your not sure but still want extra money, don’t see anyone while your with them but in place go a week early or stay for a week after.

What makes a tour successful?

I consider a tour successful if I made back twice my investment. So if it cost me 1K to tour, I need to make back a minimum of 2K. The more money you put into your tour does not really translate into how much you will make. You can spend 2K on your tour but make only 500. I think you should spend the bare minimum in order to maximize profit.

Now lets get into some finer details of touring:

What to Bring On a Tour

I never travel with more than hand luggage, airlines lose things like you wont believe. But it’s easy to pack for a week or two depending on what your planning on doing.

If your only going to be seeing clients, Pack one set of lingerie for each day your staying, An evening/party dress, One pair of jeans, one nice blouse,( or a sun/day dress for the jeans and blouse) one simple shirt, one set of heels, maybe a toy or two and your make up. Anything more can be bought or given to you by the hotel.

*A note on condoms* I like to buy the mega packs of 100 / 500 because it’s dirt cheap and I have them for a long while. Condoms have a shelf life of 4 to 5 years. I buy a new set just for piece of mind once a year. I can not bare to go to the store to buy them so I get the big pack online for $10-$20 bucks (Trojan or Lifestyle) and just hold on to it. I put some in each of my bags and secure the rest in a good cool spot. Think about doing this: Paying $5-$10 every time you need condoms is expensive, even $30 for a Costo box of 30-50 is expensive. Condoms are a must have item, buy in mass bulk and save money and always be prepared. Amazon.com & Condomania are excellent places to buy good brand name FRESH condoms for less. Also the embarrassment factor is low. Once a year vs every week or month sounds like a good deal to me.

All the above can fit in a nice Longchamp bag or other carry on luggage if you have a computer.

How long to stay at a hotel

Depends on how much volume you have and how long your staying.

If your seeing one or two guys a day and staying for a week. I’d keep the hotel the whole time.

More than 3-4 guys a day and I’d change after 2-3 days.

What To do about Housekeeping?

As disgusting as this sounds, it might be in your best interest to…..dispose of used condoms outside the hotel. Store them in a bag and dump them yourself. Workers are trained to look for signs of trafficking and the top two things to set off alarms are alot of condoms and not letting them clean the room everyday……Some hotels have a “Check In” policy, if you deny service for 48 hours, they will forcibly come in to check that you are alright, especially if your a woman and checked in alone.

Other considerations

If you can you should try to see the city your in. I made the mistake years back of going to beautiful places but only seeing the airport and hotel during my stay. Don’t be like that, go see a show or attraction. Enjoy yourself a bit and take pictures. Theres so much to see in the world.

Good Luck Touring!

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congratulations on the surgery. do you have any tips on looking for the right surgeon other than looking at reviews? I know nothing about the cosmetic surgery world. lol.

Thank you!

Real Self is the place to start. The “Yelp” of cosmetic surgery.

Look into whatever major metropolitan area is closest to you. Location does matter.

The probability of finding a good surgeon is much higher in certain regions, where it matters. I would not go to a surgeon who 1) isn’t located in a major city with high surgery demand, or 2) isn’t the “best” in his/her region.

Look into surgeons with over 50+ reviews on multiple procedures. Look at the photos aside from website uploads, which tend to be biased in favor of the surgeon and does not reflect their real capability. You want personalized reviews with folks giving detailed descriptions of the surgery process and photo updates of what it looks like.

Be precise and exacting with what you want from your surgery so you don’t waste your time. There are a number of procedures you can consider for similar effects but the end game will be different (e.g. surgical lip lift vs. lip fillers; liposculpture vs. cool sculpting).

I would also consider Instagram for certain well-known surgeons, but be warned, there are also a number of “gimmicks” on there. Advertising for unsafe and unverified procedures. Avoid.

Almost always, for a specific procedure you have in mind, there will be a specialist who is very, very well-known in that area. They’re famous, they worked with a celebrity. They become the best surgeon for X surgery. You will normally find out quickly via Real Self, your personal research, or word of mouth. Your call as to whether or not to use that surgeon, but just know. I might also recommend Reddit - they have a plastic surgery subreddit where they post photos of their before and after.

If you’re looking for a certain procedure, overseas may also be a point of consideration. Ex: ethnic rhinoplasty. You might look exactly the same afterwards in the U.S.; try foreigner-friendly hospitals in Turkey or South Korea.

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