One thing that self-proclaimed pro-jedi people consistently fail to realize is that love is impossible without attachment, and this is exactly why jedi think it's bad
Because jedi are a religious order shaped after real life religions with no reflection on them, and they're therefore susceptible to same pitfalls of reasoning
The fact that jedi prohibit love, since they view it strictly as danger, exposes them as people who, at their core, are not good with self-control, emotional regulation and communication, and cannot navigate such relationships safely without risking to "fall to the dark side"
They are afraid of love because it's unstable, because it makes you prioritize some people over others, and they see it as "unjust", because it compromises their "neutrality to all matters" and their position as "humble servants" (reminder that jedi actually forbid use of the force for trivial matters since it's disrespectful, according to their religion)
Their solution to this complex feeling is to avoid it, so it never clouds their ideas of what is right and wrong
But this is unpleasant to think about for an average pro-jedi person, since it goes against their view of jedi as this perfect religious order who has collectively reached spiritual enlightenment and therefore is exceptional at those things (as if highly religious monastic orders were ever paragons of healthy relationships in real life, but I digress)
This requires them to rethink meanings of words and invent explanations as to why some love is good and some love is bad, and how you can actually love someone without really caring about them at all
At this point there's a need to "sterilize" love, distill it from strong emotion, make it "safe" and "palatable", make it adhere to the jedi views, and demonize "possessive love" that jedi "actually prohibit", and by "possessive love" they mean person's need to prevent other person's death, since it is a manner of control, if you think about it, it is after all selfish to want your loved ones to be alive
This is a deeply unhealthy mindset to have, since it's an extremely self-negative outlook on basic human need to care for other humans and to be connected to other humans, but you'll never see pro-jedi people admit to that
They will argue that actually love is welcomed, but only when you aren't affected by actions of other people, as long as you cannot be impacted in a negative way by them (or positive way, since it tips your impartial view of the world and makes this person more important) - you're good to go
It's somewhat disturbing, really
Watch someone argue so vehemently that this is the correct and morally good way to approach relationships with other humans, when it casts doubt on any motivation of yours to do good for others, since it's based in your selfish want to see other people happy
It also requires you to emotionally isolate yourself in order to not be affected by other people's actions towards you
What a lonely way to live, surrounded by people who won't even care if you simply disappear one day
Never seizes to amaze me, the mental gymnastics people go to to justify this line of thought only because jedi are a religion, and religion can't possibly be wrong or have strange opinions on human nature
No religion would ever prohibit something inherently human that's actually good and healthy
No religion ever would force you to experience guilt over something as simple as function of your brain and body
Right?
