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We push the people we love the most in the world away. Because we're afraid they won't love us if they really see who we are. We want to be able to  blame ourselves for the pain of losing them rather then believing they left because they didn't want us. We're all just wanting for someone to come along. And push back. And Say. "I See you and I want you, and I love you and I'm never going to leave you!" The problem is many do not believe anyone ever will.

"Broken people do for ourselves the best that we have it in us to do. To grit our teeth and clinch our fists in order to survive the world at it's hardest and worst. But it is, by the very act, to be unable to let something be done for you.” The trouble with steeling yourself against the harshness of reality is that the same steel that secures your life against being destroyed, also secures your life against being opened up and transformed and allowing ourselves to be loved. Sometimes people come into our lives without any effort they shake the foundation of all that we've done to protect ourselves. They break down the walls we've built to hide behind. They make us feel vulnerable and exposed. Sometimes because of this we grow to love with an undeniable strength and for reasons that we can't even explain to ourselves. But we can never truly believed we our loved in return. We're so quick to find our flaws and blame them as the sole cause of not being loved back. We get down on our looks, our personality, our weird quirks and habits that actually make us beautifully us!

We try to protect the people we love from us, sometimes by not letting them get close, sometimes by pushing them away, but we only end up hurting the people that we truly do love. To justify ourselves, we are constantly looking for the flaws in them that we see in ourselves. Keeping them at a distance but wanting them close. When we do love someone we are never believing we are worth loving and always feeling like they could find someone better than us. That they deserve better than us. Because we have  been broken. I think anyone who opened their heart enough to love without restraint and subsequently were devastated by loss knows that in THAT moment you are forever changed: and a part of is no longer whole. Some will never again love with that level of abandonment, where life was perceived as innocent and the threat of loss never entered our mind. One life-loss can infect the whole of a life. Like a rash that wears through our days, our sight becomes peppered with black voids. Now everywhere we look, we on see all that isn't. Sometimes we end up laying ourselves at the feet of someone so long we become accustomed to being trampled upon. People that wish to give us nothing but ask for all that we can give them all in return. We know that we are being ill treated but feel like this is the only relationship we will ever find or deserve.

Sometimes we become desperate. In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place. But at the same time we have a hard time not feeling like that's what they are doing to us and we never believe we can live up to the person we think they imagine us to be. We can never believe they just love us for us.

No person can ever really make another person 'happy'. It's just a foolish concept. Happiness is a choice. The world is as you filter it through your mind. You want happiness, look for happiness, don't look around every corner for unhappiness. You will find unhappiness. You will find what you look for.

LOVE! There may not be such a thing a everlasting love or being forever in love or a person that is perfect for you forever or even always being happy with someone. There will always be times when you're sad and lonely and lost, that's life.

But love is real and are perfect moments. Where in that moment, you're with the perfect person for the moment, and you can love that person with all your heart for that little while, and believe in that space of time that you will love them forever and be completely happy and forget in those moments all the reasons that you weren't happy before.

And that moment won't last forever, that person may not stay with you forever or even be able to. And you may not love each other forever or always or always make each other happy. But I believe it's important to find them because in them you can find all the love and happiness your heart will ever need. And if you can find enough of those moments with one person then that's a friendship that will last forever. So if you can find a person to have moments like that with, you've found your soul mate. And that doesn't mean you're meant be together for always. But no matter what, you will always find each other. And love each other with all that love that your heart can give for the moments that you're together and cherish those memories in the moments you're not.

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Remembering where you've been is key to knowing where you should go.

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It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.

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You win!

Good bye… See that wasn’t so hard.

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This is Life Eternal, right here. Be fulfilled, be happy, be kind, be in love, and never do anything that you can’t live with forever.

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STARTLE your partner during lovemaking by announcing that you want to build a dog hospital.

Advice of the day!

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Hot new night club in Atlanta?!? Naaa local Grocery Store, gotta get some eggs.

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Am I doing this wrong?

Learning how to date again!

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Take a deep breath and step away from the Internet. Reacquaint yourself with sunlight, fresh air and hugs. And have a cup of tea. Obviously.

Daily advice

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Three hundred years from now we'll look back on this primitive era and have a right old giggle, our souls mere emojis in cloud storage.

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Recipe says to core, peel & take pictures of pie!

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That goofy obligatory festive holiday picture; because no holiday season is complete with out one. Do it today!

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I've never really been interested in Kingdom Hearts but maybe I should give it a try?

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And thats when his world changed from ok to even better than before! Watch and learn at how its done!

Can't wait for tomorrow.

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Nothing more to say!

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The more I learn about the universe the less convinced I am that its creator cares whether I wear hats, eat lobster or have a foreskin.

Or eat hats, wear foreskin and have a lobster.