Why don’t you like tiktok hypergamy content?
I really dislike women who sit on their phones screaming at their audiences about how they “CANNOT” let themselves go and how if they do, they’ll become worthless and their lives will spiral into endless misery. Can’t do it; it’s self-hatred and negativity disguised as motivational content, and I believe that the feelings another woman has about herself and her own life shouldn’t be spread to the vulnerable.
You don’t need to be consuming content like that if you already feel behind or think that your life has changed for the worse; what you need to be doing is finding ways to pick yourself back up again. If you truly believe you’ve “let yourself go” or somehow let yourself down and you think that the only way to get out of the loop is by watching videos from people who just affirm the negative opinions you have about your current situation, you have to stop. Truly hopeless situations are rare, and you have the power to end the loop you’re trapped in, to change the patterns controlling you, and to repair the narrative surrounding you.
If you gain 20 pounds and start watching videos from people who tell you that your life is over now that you’re fat and you’ll never be desired by anyone, how could you not internalize those messages? Why punish yourself? Seriously. It’s better to consume gentle, healthy content if you’re going to consume any content at all. If I gained a bunch of weight, had a bad breakup, or went through any event that destabilized me, I’d want to focus on filling my mind with things that made me believe in myself, that made me believe that trying again and promising myself I’d do better was the only way to keep at it.
I don’t need “harsh truths” from people I don’t know; I’m harsh enough on myself as it is, and I don’t believe that casual cruelty under the guise of “help” is motivational. The friends I’m lucky enough to have now have never been sharp with me, and I’ve worked hard to punish myself less. Why give people who don’t deserve my time or space in my brain such power over me? Why allow negativity to creep into my life and make me feel despondent? I have better things to do and a real life I plan to live and enjoy.
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