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#Inktober2019 starts tomorrow!!! Been planning out my drawings for most of today. I am absolutely determined to finish this year. https://www.instagram.com/p/B3Dbe_oHSep/?igshid=1nrb6diu9i3k8

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https://twitter.com/CriminelleLaw/status/1037511306906099712

Reminds me of my mom getting remarried several years ago, for about a weekend - dude waited until after the wedding to tell her he expected her at waiting at home with dinner waiting when he finished work.

I dunno, like I get that this version of manhood is “normal” but goddamn is it the most brittle, contemptable fuckin thing

unified-multiversal-theory

This is NOT these women’s fault in any way - these men hide their misogyny until they think you’re hooked. They know what they are doing.

kittiesatemypronouns

These women are wise and brave. I admire them so much!

geekandmisandry

Not even touching the fact that he thinks teachers and nurses are lesser…he wants her to be less so that he can be more.

imnottechsupport

Am i the only one that thinks they could have come back from this? Like please tell me this was just the straw that broke the camels back and not a one off event. He must be an at least somewhat respectable person if she managed to stay with him up til that point. Him feeling lesser is a taught facet of his life pushed upon him by the patriarchy. It obviously damaged the way he viewed his gf, and his relationship, but that doesnt mean it cant be untaught. And of course its not this womans responsibility to be his teacher, but i hope she at least made him aware that this is what happened and why she left…

geekandmisandry

Literally how can you come back from someone wanting to have more power over you?

He’s not a little kid, he’s a grown ass man and if he hasn’t learned that 1. Teachers and nurses are smart as fuck and 2. That women aren’t and shouldn’t be lesser to him then when the hell is he going to learn from that?

Why does it need to be a final straw? Signs that someone is this fucked up are logs, not straws. And being a “respectable” person is easy when you’re lying about who you are and what you think.

dragonsrequiem

These guys waited until they thought their women couldn’t possibly exist without them and then tried to shut down the things that made them special. Being nurses. Public defenders. Teachers.

These men pointed out what they were so proud of… how hard they worked… and tried suggesting that they stop. Tried making them feel bad about it. This is a common pathway into emotional and psychological abuse.

It was designed to make them feel bad and give it up. The next step would have been “what else can I take away”. Those situations where the woman’s confidence is shattered and it takes her years to get free of the asshole… 9/10 started with comments like this.

Please understand that this wasn’t an off the cuff thing. This was something he’s been thinking for a while, but waited to say til he thought he could make her change to suit him.

crossbowsandunicorns

This is so important. These are not normal or innocuous comments these are red flags and classic behavior of abusers. People like this are insanely manipulative. They hook you in and pick you apart piece by piece. It starts with this, moves on to isolating you from your support system, and then flashforward a few years and you’re convinced that you’ll never be good enough and you need them to survive. You end up broken and completely subservient. These women did the right thing and are brave for speaking. Abusers aren’t usually the neighbors you hear screaming and shattering dishes like you see in the movies. They’re your “friendly next door neighbors” and they keep quiet. People are too scared to talk. Again, why her speaking up is so important.

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the-headless-vulcan

Capitalism will put the bill on your grave and harass your grieving family until they pay

theludicrousrival

One of my cousins passed away unexpectedly at the age of 35, and had been paying back a loan from the bank. About two weeks after his death, my great aunt received a statement from the bank (his mail was being delivered to her house) about a late payment. She called the bank and explained the situation and the only thing a manager could say was “Well, that’s unfortunate. We can arrange so payments will resume in 30 days, that should be enough time to have already paid for the other arrangements.”

On top of the unexpected $10,000 funeral, cremation and burial bill, my aunt had to finish paying my uncle’s $5,000 loan. She’s a disabled retiree, on a fixed income, and could barely afford to pay for her insulin for diabetes. She nearly lost her home of more than 40 years. Fuck the system.

lawful-evil-novelist

She didn’t need to pay. When people die, their debts are not their family’s responsibility.

In fact, it is outright illegal to try and collect those debts from a person who didn’t cosign the loan and isn’t executing the will.

Who is responsible for paying off the debts of your deceased relatives?

Here’s a link to the detail on that one.

eudoxiav

Banks count on people not knowing that last comment so that they can still get money

niniblack

They really do.

My great-grandmother had her identity stolen before she died at the age of 93, and thousands of charges were racked up on credit cards in her name. After she passed away, they called my mother to try and collect. My mom laughed at them, and told them: “She’s dead, good luck collecting.” The credit card asked my mother, “Don’t you want to clear your grandmother’s debts? Don’t you want to clear her good name?” My mom laughed at them again. “No,” she said. “Because a 90 year old wasn’t watching porn with those credit cards, and her name is fine. Don’t give credit cards to old women likely to pass away soon. This is on you.”

Which is how I learned as a young child to always question collection agents, and to never pay off debts that aren’t your own. They often can’t even collect that money from the estate, if there is one, depending on how you write your will and what kind of account the money was kept in.

nephrastar

DO NOT EVER PAY OFF DEBTS THAT AREN’T YOUR OWN.

If a loved one of yours dies and bill collectors (credit cards, loans, etc etc) start calling you off the hook and request that you pay off their debts, tell them in no uncertain terms to go fuck themselves.

The reason being is that the moment you give them a single penny, that debt is now on YOU because you’ve now agreed to pay it off.

Do not agree to pay off their debt. Do not pass go, do not give them $200.

thefingerfuckingfemalefury

Boosting this to let people know that if any of these greedy little dog-fuckers start harassing them to pay off a relatives debt the correct thing to do is just tell them to piss off and not pay them a single thing

And that there is NOTHING they can do if you do this

I just realized that I haven't posted any drawings since January, so I decided to rectify this with some stuff I recently did for my drawing class. ••• I call the 1st piece: "My Old Adidas (Still Sandy from SITW's Church Day)". The 2nd drawing is called "White Tee on Tripod (But, I Forgot to Draw the 3rd Leg)". 🤣🤣🤣 https://www.instagram.com/p/Byxvl7pFhbf/?igshid=1sjvhdo62gwrl

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Happy #StarWarsDay to all!!! https://www.instagram.com/p/BxDLEiSFIr_/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=e4by0lqcyaiv

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Am I doing Spring right? 🙃 https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw41FqTlFdK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=womz3hfhhu6x

Brings back memories. Ear burning, burnt-hair smelling, regretful memories. https://www.instagram.com/p/BwgFH2wnrxt/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1wtltmnbyr6b3

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to all the black girls out here breaking generational curses & healing from all the traumas of your past…i see you and i’m proud of you. i love you.

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Me after work today... 😴 #Rugrats https://www.instagram.com/p/BsyJTTtlJCa/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1gaa1egdkuj5k

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Happy birthday Aaliyah! Listened to some of my favorite songs of hers today! ••• I want to color it, eventually, when I have more time. https://www.instagram.com/p/BsuGg_1FVmt/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=13l8kmh6qlkr3

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