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“That’s it. Turn the page. You’re not there anymore. Turn it right over and begin your new chapter. So much of your life still awaits.”
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Some TED talks that will change your life.
How to make stress your friend by Katie McGonial (14.5 minutes)
“Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.”
8 secrets of success by Richard St.John (3.5 minutes)
Why do people succeed? Is it because they’re smart? Or are they just lucky? Neither. Analyst Richard St. John condenses years of interviews into an unmissable 3-minute slideshow on the real secrets of success.
A simple way to break a bad habit by Judson Brewer (9.5 minutes)
Can we break bad habits by being more curious about them? Psychiatrist Judson Brewer studies the relationship between mindfulness and addiction — from smoking to overeating to all those other things we do even though we know they’re bad for us. Learn more about the mechanism of habit development and discover a simple but profound tactic that might help you beat your next urge to smoke, snack or check a text while driving.
Don’t regret regret by Kathryn Schulz (17 minutes)
We’re taught to try to live life without regret. But why? Using her own tattoo as an example, Kathryn Schulz makes a powerful and moving case for embracing our regrets.
How to make hard choices by Ruth Chang (14.5 minutes)
Here’s a talk that could literally change your life. Which career should I pursue? Should I break up — or get married?! Where should I live? Big decisions like these can be agonizingly difficult. But that’s because we think about them the wrong way, says philosopher Ruth Chang. She offers a powerful new framework for shaping who we truly are.
The danger of silence by Clint Smith (4 minutes)
We spend so much time listening to the things people are saying that we rarely pay attention to the things they don’t,“ says poet and teacher Clint Smith. A short, powerful piece from the heart, about finding the courage to speak up against ignorance and injustice.
How to speak so that people want to listen by Julian Treasure (10 minutes)
Have you ever felt like you’re talking, but nobody is listening? Here’s Julian Treasure to help. In this useful talk, the sound expert demonstrates the how-to’s of powerful speaking — from some handy vocal exercises to tips on how to speak with empathy. A talk that might help the world sound more beautiful.
Your body language shapes who you are by Amy Cuddy (21 minutes)
Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.
The happy secret to better work by Shawn Anchor (12 minutes)
We believe we should work hard in order to be happy, but could we be thinking about things backwards? In this fast-moving and very funny talk, psychologist Shawn Achor argues that, actually, happiness inspires us to be more productive.
A call to men by Tony Porter (11 minutes) [TW: graphic desc. of rape]
At TEDWomen, Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don’t “act like a man.” Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the “man box.”
Part 2: How to hunt.
First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).
As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs).
If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.
So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either:
a). walk up to you and introduce himself,
b). he’s going to move closer to you or,
c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.
If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now.
And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again.
However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable.
What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.
The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link.
Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.
When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.
So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT”
And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh.
Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.
Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself.
You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go.
Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.
Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.
Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?”
I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.
FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.
This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?”
I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.
Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.
Would you marry anyone just for the money and lifestyle?
No.
I see nothing tempting about being locked into a lifestyle of materialistic splendour, with an essentially empty core. I have no desire to live out a hollow, fragmented existence that hemorrhages luxury and money and little else of true substance. I’m not swayed by such a promise. I can provide myself riches, luxury and abundant money. I can buy myself a sports car and designer handbags. But what I’m seeking in life is not a ceaseless cycle of craving; a series of attainment and projection of material splendour that doesn’t channel any real deeper value. I’m not attaching my life, livelihood and self to a relationship and man that satisfies only those surface level ambitions. Because as Eleanor Young in Crazy Rich Asians so profoundly says (and idgaf if y’all are sick of me referencing this character/movie, it’s everything) “we understand how to build things that last”. And THAT’S what matters. Marrying someone with wealth beyond money and lifestyle. I want to and will be with a man who provides wealth in intangible measures; a pedigree, and generation of valuable connections. I grew up in a loveless family; I’m not ever going to cultivate that lovelessness in mine. I will marry someone who prioritises being a man emblematic or holding together something akin to a dynasty with the right values, the right vision and the right loving, masculine dynamics of strength and intergenerational power. Money and lifestyle doesn’t sway me. This does.
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How do you use yelp freestyle?
I’m sure y’all already use Yelp to determine the best spots around you. You look at pictures that reviewers have already posted, right? Click on those reviewers, especially if it’s for upscale places. Chances are they’re rich, and frequent places like it. Look at their activity. If they’re affluent, all places they review will be expensive. These are the people you should focus on. They mark certain spots as hot, or new, and let you know what the scene is like in their reviews before you even decide to go there. On top of it, many of these people list which events they’re going to. One of my mutuals on Yelp (yes, mutual) invited me to a NYE event that is exclusive and specifically for well to do people. She’s married to a man that posted a $100,000 bottle he bought at a Beverly Hills restaurant on Yelp (he also posts events or restaurants he frequents and I LOVE that he does because it lets me know where the wealthy men like him are going). Things like this are far more common than you think. If people like him go to those events, you’re set if you can get in. So build up your own Yelp profile, only reviewing luxury places. Make friends on there. Get ya clout up. You’ll end up being invited to private events you didn’t even know existed. Best part is that this type of networking is free, unless you need to pay to get in an event.
Also, you know how Yelp has labels next to people’s names like “Elite ‘18″? They’re part of the Yelp Elite Squad. If you’re in LA, NYC, or any other big city, nine times out of ten it’s literally going to be full of ladies who lunch. These ladies could be your “in” to their circles. The Elite have free events that only other Elite can go to, like group dinners, wine tastings, etc. Easy way to make friends. So review like crazy and get nominated to be an Elite to get in easily.
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Too Pretty to Pay Bills: Keys to Gold Digging Success: Tips on How to have the life you deserve as a woman! Style: The Modern Lady’s Guide to Elegance and Charm Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring The Art of Seduction
Solving Single: How to Get the Ring, Not the Run Around
Men Don’t Love Women Like You: The Brutal Truth About Dating, Relationships, and How to Go from Placeholder to Game Changer
The Seduction Mystique: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Loving and Marrying the Right Man How to Marry the Rich
The Sugar Daddy Formula: A Sugar Baby’s Ultimate Guide to Finding a Wealthy Sugar Daddy
Sugar Daddy 101: What You Need to Know If You Want to be A Sugar Baby
A Gold Diggers Guide
How to Meet the Rich: For Business, Friendship, or Romance
The Power of the Pussy - How To Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!
Why Men Marry Bitches
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
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Understanding Freestyling
It’s obvious that the bowl is somewhat over-saturated, particularly on sugaring sites, with salts and salt babies - and thus, the proposed solution to finding generous men and procuring effective arrangements is freestyling and meeting these men in person, rather than online. Despite freestyling being praised as the new way of sugaring, there seems to be confusion on what exactly it is and what exactly to do when you’re at high-class establishments.
The most common definition appears to be going to high-class restaurants, clubs, and places where “rich people frequent”, looking as though you belong there, and then having a rich man approach you or vice- versa, but it seems as though this method is becoming outdated. As the sugar bowl has become more popularized as journalists and college students try to capitalize on this sensation, the richest men and ideal targets are skeptical. If you’re on one of the many establishments of Wall Street, Capitol Hill, or downtown LA, you’ll hear hedge fund managers, bankers, and trust fund babies talk about avoiding gold diggers when picking up women - and they’ve learned to tell the signs: expensive, attractive, well-dressed women sitting alone, waiting to be approached by men. Moreover, the wealthiest men generally will not approach women if they are strangers they don’t know. Such developments call for a new approach in freestyling, which is not to say the old one should be completely abandoned, but rather that it no longer produces the level of success that it used to.
If you’re looking for genuinely rich men (especially not just new money, or those who think that because they have a $100K salary, they’re rich), then the way of entering arrangements is through networking - which is not just meeting these men at wealthy establishments, but entering and mingling with their social circles. If you’re serious about this life and are looking to enter the upper class, become a socialite, or become a trophy wife, then nailing this skill is very important. The best arrangements, the most generous men, and the most valuable services I’ve acquired have always been through men that I was introduced to through social circles or a friend. Example: I have a male acquaintance that I was introduced to by a mutual friend, and when it was obvious there was chemistry, he introduced me to his other friend, a trust fund baby, and together with two other girls we went on a weekend trip to the trust fund baby’s lakeside house, complete with a jacuzzi, jet skis, and tubing. His net worth/income is impressive for his age (one year older than me), but isn’t enough for me to pursue a physical arrangement with him. However, he works in finance and has a knack for investment, and we’ve entered an agreement where he invests my money and keeps 20% of the investment, but over a year he’s nearly doubled the thousands of dollars I originally gave him to investment. You’ll see this through practice as well: how did Prince Harry and Prince William meet their current wives? Through their social circles and current friends. You’ll understand why rich men tend to date rich women, isn’t necessarily because they have a preference for rich women or that rich women are more attractive (though there may be correlation) but rather because in their social circles that is the kind of woman they’re often introduced to. When you’re wealthy and powerful, it’s not in your interest to talk to most people - because naturally, people will be coming to you. In this way, social circles act as a means of both protecting their wealth and status and separating the cream of the crop to include those that are attractive, have social approval, and have a lifestyle fit with these men for ideal romantic partners.
So how do you ‘break’ into such circles? How do you make the results of freestyling become a reality?
•First, if you’re just starting out or are looking for an allowance, it will be relatively difficult to find the *exact* results that you want. You can see from billionaires or men renown from their wealth, they take care of women who aren’t necessarily at their financial level, but have stability and some income of their own. This makes them more attractive because for super wealthy men, they are used to groupies/women throwing themselves at them, so when they encounter someone who is attractive, interested in them, yet has a level of financial independence, this poses a challenge and makes them more likely to invest in you for sponsorship, SGF, or trophy wife, whichever you wish.
•That being stated, I encourage freestyling from the very beginning, since even on standard dating platforms there’s an inundation of time-wasters and irrelevant folks who try to capitalize on the beauty of a young, attractive woman. So to get started, first, you have to network. Assuming you already know how to take care of yourself and to network, the next step is finding out where the rich and successful people in your area hang out. Humans are naturally social, and so when a girl claims she cannot find worthwhile men, it must be that she’s investing time or social energy into the wrong kinds of men. Envision the kind of life or standards that you’re looking for, and delete any man who doesn’t meet these standards or contributes no use to you. This will free up space and social networking so you can pursue relationships with men who CAN invest in you. If you’re looking for men who can do more than buy you fast food and share Netflix subscriptions, delete those that do.
•Next, do some research about which social circles to join. It’s good to decide what kind of interests you have - are they political? Financial? Perhaps you’re interested in philanthropy. If you’re not sure, that’s fine and join as many as possible, and make sure they have a certain level of status or are inviting the right people, or else they will just be another waste of your time. Go to the introductory meetings and dress to impress, and make a great first impression. Introduce yourself, have a story about yourself, and make small talk, and if you’re attractive and reasonably socially-skilled, you’ll find that people are drawn to you. Once one person is interested, the rest will follow. Some women are too transparent by only mingling with the men - take great care to establish good relations with the women there, because they can put in a good and very influential word for you.
•Go to these events, meet new people, and continue going to them. Men will want to contact you and will ask for your number - you should give it, but don’t get overexcited or too eager. You have to refine through these men and ensure that they’re ones that you’d like to date or to pursue arrangements with. So contact them, be approachable, but also ensure that you present yourself as having other things going for you. You don’t have to necessarily be working but having your own savings, own assets, whether those are from yourself, your family, or another man, are important. Always, always, always have the man approach you first. If he doesn’t seem interested, never seem discouraged and just move on to the next one. Have a mentality of abundance. Next step is testing him and doing your research.
•Before doing anything, you should be able to answer the following questions (outlined in books like Ho Tactics):
-Where does he work and live?
-Is he wealthy, and if so, where does his wealth come from? (Trust fund baby, old money, self-made) What profession is he in? Does he look wealthy or is he actually wealthy?
-And most importantly, is he generous? (How much money does he drop on his hobbies, is he cheap/frugal, does he like spending money on women)
Most women get caught up in the generosity, because sadly, wealth is not equivalent to generosity. Test him by going out on a date and seeing what he proposes. Generous men tend to be quite obvious, in my opinion, and won’t show any hesitation in paying for services, calling you Ubers, or taking you on spontaneous trips and otherwise showing off their wealth. If he doesn’t seem generous, drop him immediately. If he makes any excuse that seems disingenuous, drop him immediately. If he tries to force any physical contact, drop him immediately. If he makes any complaint on spending, drop him immediately. Trust your intuition. Filter through the trash. A superior man will take his place.
•By the second date, you should already have established that you’re high-value. Be nice and pleasant, but don’t be so easily impressed. This is where he should be spending more, and you should establish the dynamics of the relationship. Hold off on physical contact until you’ve filtered through his intentions and gotten what you wanted. Some girls are confused as to whether or not they should be upfront or not, whether to ask for allowance straight up or not. It’s difficult to say, because this varies from person to person - and I would say go with what your intuition tells you and do what’s most comfortable in the persona you adopt. Maybe making up a sob story or emotional manipulation is what you’re best at. Maybe it just suits you better to be blunt. Maybe batting your eyelashes and asking to go shopping is your forte. Whatever works for you. Just make sure you establish the grounds of the relationship and get what you want before anything physical happens. Have foresight on what you want and get the money/gifts FIRST.
•Next is… upgrade. Play the dynamics of an arrangement/relationship and see what his relationship needs are. Fulfill them. But always play the game, and never get too attached. Women may get insecure in relationships - “What if he finds someone hotter than me, younger than me, with a better body than me?” Don’t get insecure and don’t rely on male validation. Have confidence in yourself. He is with you for a reason. You can also do the exact same - there will be better men in the midst, and continuing to be desirable to check his ego is important. But in the meantime, maintaining your looks, beauty, and hobbies are important if you are dedicated to this lifestyle. If you want to date vanilla, fine, go ahead, but if you’re looking to escort/sugar/sell pussy.. whatever you want to call it… you need to consistently upgrade using the resources you’re given. Take great care to not get emotionally attached if you’re not satisfied with the lifestyle you have right now - which requires emotional discipline. Remember that there will always be richer men, hotter men, more successful men, or men who have more of all three qualities.
How to Make Him Buy You Stuff by Lydia Lafaso - Notes Part I
Men Provide Resources, Women provide Beauty
A woman’s physical attractiveness isn’t just linked with her fecundity, but also increases a man’s social status in society by virtue of being linked with her.
Men who are perceived as unattractive when paired with women considered attractive, are rated higher in social status and other status related issues.
In other words, for an unattractive man to land a beautiful woman, he must possess something society doesn’t see.
Men want to be with this expensive type of women, because it makes them feel more relevant to themselves and the society
Finding a Man of Means (MM) means looking like a woman for the Means of Means
If you want a MM to give you attention, you too have to give attention to your body and your looks.
No man will pay the same attention to a woman in an outworn jeans and shabby t-shirt, with her dirty hair and no make-up on, and a fully made-up woman in dress and heels.
This is the reality, and always keep it in mind. Even if you are too tired and bored, getting all dressed up will lift your spirits, but will also lift the level of attention you are getting from the environment.
Have the „I’m above the situation attitude” The way you look, says what you are looking for.
Always show a dressier version of yourself. There is no man who doesn’t like to see a dressed up and good looking woman.
You have to build something called The constant level of appearance.
My mother makes up, first thing in the morning, and then she puts on some nice, comfortable dress even if she is staying at home. Then her day starts. And my father was in love with her his entire life. That’s the power of beauty and grace.
If they are used to seeing you all dressed up, your value will rise”
There is no point of looking good once a week, and all other days not. You will just look pathetic to your neighbors.
“It doesn’t count if one day you are super dressed, and then the other one you come looking as a cowgirl. Keep up the level”.
one thing was characteristic of all her looks – she looked expensive.
Look expensive, you’ll attract expensive, look cheap, you’ll attract cheap
In order to have MMs spending money on you, you already have to reflect some money.
It is naïve to expect and behave as someone worth spending money on, if you yourself do not posses anything valuable. You will just seem poor, asking for charity.
So, when you shop with your own money, invest in bags and jewelry, because they will most easily reflect the brand, and are most easily to be sold, if you happen to experience some financial difficulties. Jewelry especially
This weeks theme: PRODUCTIVITY! All entrepreneurs need some tips and tricks to keep us on top of our game!
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Hello! A lot of you have been asking me where and how I’ve learn multiple languages and well, after a few hours of digging through my browser history and bookmarks, I was able to collect all of these resources. I have personally used all of these, so I can assure you they are useful! If there is something wrong with a website or a link, please let me know. Also, if you have any questions or if you want a learning buddy, my ask box is open. (I speak English and Spanish. I’m learning Korean, German, Japanese, Chinese, Portuguese, Italian, and Esperanto)
Note: Learning a new language requires a lot of dedication, more than you actually think! Especially if you’re learning multiple languages at the same time. It isn’t impossible, but it will take time. And by time I mean months and/or years! So please, be patient. Take your time. Don’t rush. Keep in mind that you will mess up and that’s okay. Practice as much as you can. Practice out loud. Talk to yourself if you can. It doesn’t matter if people think you’re crazy. They won’t be thinking the same when you become a polyglot, so don’t mind them. This is for you and your future.
Get started:
Everything listed below is FREE! Some sites do require you to sign up, but that’s for you to keep track of your own process.
Tips to get you started
Language Hacking tips (blog)
More language hacking tips (blog)
The Polyglot Project (Library with foreign books that lets you translate while reading)
How to Learn Any Language
Effective Language Learning
Ankidroid (flashcard maker)
Multiple languages, one website
Duolingo (Latin American Spanish, French, German, Brazilian Portuguese, Italian, Dutch, Irish, Danish, Swedish, Turkish, Norwegian (Bokmål), Ukrainian, and Esperanto)
BBC Languages (40 languages)
Learn A Language (18 languages)
Conjuguemos (French, German, Italian, Latin, Portuguese, Spanish)
L-lingo (21 languages)
101languages (167 languages)
Languagepod101 (31 languages)
Foreign Services Institute (44 languages)
My Languages (95 languages)
Surface Languages (43 languages)
Lingualia (Spanish)
Linguanaut (16 languages)
OmniGlot (All languages [basic info for some of them])
Memrise (Various languages) (flashcard system)
Livemocha (Various languages)
Polyglotclub
Sharedtalk
Interpals (specify in your profile you only look for language exchange because there can be some creeps in this one)
Couchsurfing
Babbel
Specific Languages
Korean:
Learn to read Korean in 15 minutes! - Really helpful as well
Learnkoreanlp - Focuses on grammar
k-is4korean
Talktomeinkorean
Learn-korean
korean-flashcards - Focuses on vocabulary
Easytolearnkorean
Korean.go.kr/ - Focuses on pronunciation
Lang-8 - Community to correct your entries
Dongsa - Conjugations for verbs
Howtostudykorean- EXTREMELY helpful when it comes to learning hangul and writing structure!
hangulpractice - This blog has some useful posts.
letstteok-korean
Talktomeinkorea (YouTube channel)
fluentkorean
sweetandtasty
seoulistic - For culture lessons
GenkiKorean
Korean Word Game
English-Korean Vocabulary Quizzes
Hangul Keyboard - This is also EXTREMELY helpful with Hangul/romanization. It also converts any romanized syllables into hangul
Korean - Reddit threat
Chinese/Mandarin:
Hackingchinese
Chinese-tools - Pretty helpful with pronunciation.
Chinese Open courseware
Chinese Language - Reddit threat
Chinese Textbook
Chineasy
Learn Mandarin
Chinese Hacks
yoyochinese
How can I learn Chinese
Why is Chinese so damn hard?
Japanese:
Learn Japanese I / II - YouTube
Guidetojapanese
Free Japanese lesson
Japaneseclass.jp
thejapanesepage
Japanesepod101
Tofugu
Erin’s Challenge!
Jplang
Yesjapan
Marugoto - Includes culture lessons
Kana Invaders - Fun game for learning Kana
Another great masterpost for Japanese - So many resources!!!
Esperanto:
Note: I did a research and supposedly Esperanto is an easy-to-learn language that helps you with other languages.
Esperantofre
Esperanto “library”
Esperanto Grammar
Esperanto (Duolingo)
German:
Learn German Online
German Language Guide
Mission Berlin - Mystery adventure game
Basic German
Deutsch Lernen
Slow German
Kids’ Games - For vocabulary
Italian:
MIT Open Courseware
Italian Language Guide
Italian Grammar
Italian For Beginners - YouTube
Latin:
Some Latin grammar
Latin Course - YouTube
Portuguese:
Oneness
Ta Falado
Portuguese (Duolingo)
French:
Learn French Guide
Coffee Break French
University of Texas: Francais interactif
Podcastfrancaisfacile
French Language Guide
Lingopolo/french
Le Journal en français facile
News in Slow French
Francolab
Cliffs Notes
Native French Speech
French Podcast
Spanish:
Spanish - About.com
@spanishskulduggery
Study Spanish
Cliffs Notes
Destinos
One Minute Spanish
One Minute Spanish (Latin America focused)
Thai:
Learn Thai Podcast
Woman Learn Thai
Let’s Talk Thai
Thai 101
Lingopolo/thai
Arabic:
Books to Learn Arabic
Mandinah Arabic
Arabic Verbs (PDF)
al3arabiya
Arabic Pronouns (PDF)
Arabic Alphabet / Also Here / And Here!
Arabic For Language Exchange
Peace Corps
Hindi:
A Door Into Hindi
Learning Hindi
NYU Hindi Course
Quillpad - Great for typing
Namaste Dosti
SU Hindi Course
ispeakhindi
Hindi Script
Vietnamese:
VietnamesePod101
Survival Phrases
seasite.niu.edu
Learn Vietnamese Online
Greek:
Some Greek Grammar (New Testament)
Romanian:
Rolang
One Minute Romanian
Welsh:
Say Something in Welsh
Welsh Vocab
Dutch:
Lingopolo/dutch
Learn Dutch
Russian:
Speak Russian
Russian Alphabet
Taste of Russian
Master Russian
Russian Open Courseware
Russian Handwriting
Swedish:
Klartext
SwedishLingQ
Survival Phrases
That’s it. That’s all I have right now. I’ll try to search for more and will keep updating this list! If you have a request for a specific language, just send me an ask. Have fun and good luck!
My sister just got me started on Memrise for Japanese a few days ago and wow, it’s amazing. It’s not just flashcards but a combination of audio+visual+writing and uses user-submitted, ranked-by-vote mnemonic devices whenever possible. Plus, the way it keeps track of your progress is like a game, giving you points for doing well and letting you compete with other people. :)
And you get a bunch of extra points for reviewing old material at set intervals to make sure it sticks in your long term memory! Not to mention it has a very cute design, having each character/word/phrase be a ‘plant’ you have to keep ‘watered.’
Duolingo is such a life saver.
SD Dating Success Strategies
1. Visibility Is The Key
The secret is to go to right places and be in the right social circles And to avoid men that you see that don’t have a good life perspective to offer.
No matter how gorgeous or attractive you are, if you are not in a right environment, all your efforts ain’t worth a dime.
Even the most beautiful woman will be forgotten if nobody can see her. If you don’t let your surrounding notice you, then your night failed.
Always stand somewhere where everyone can see you, and where you can flirt. not to hide in the dark. Let yourself be noticed! Always keep your visibility, woman!
I learned how important it is to be in a strategic position in the club – always somewhere in the center, or next to the bar where everyone was coming to take a drink.
When offered a drink, always say thank you, smile, and raise a glass in his direction, even if he is on the other side of the club. Look him straight in the eye, and let him feel your power
If someone seems strange, pushy or aggressive, say no to the next drink he sends and ignore him completely. He’ll get the message
A real lady never leaves the party last – she leaves it among first, letting everybody think she has better things to do.
2. Select your Targets
Don’t give your phone number to any guy, just collect all of their business cards, names and phone numbers.
Say: “I am sorry, I do not often meet men in clubs, so if you don’t mind, I would rather take your number and give you a call these days”.
If you go out with every cute guy that asks you out, you would waste your life on endless dating.
You have to be smart, and do a pre- selection at home. First google them at home, and then decide who you will call.
It also makes you more desirable and unreachable, when no one gets your number, but it is you who is choosing!
Check his background, possessions, and then if he is worth it, meet him.
Always pretend you’re clueless about him, he mustn’t ever realize you where scanning him.
When a guy doesn’t want to say clearly what he does for a living, he is either nobody, or a liar, or a criminal. Anyhow, remove him. Only play safe.
Until MM doesn’t buy you something, he is fake. EVERY MM IS FAKE UNTIL HE PROVES THE OPPOSITE
3. Maintain a good Reputation
Feel free to date several men parallel until you chose the one you like. Usually you will have either 5 admirers or zero. That’s how these things roll in life
But be Quiet About Your Game. Always be a bit reserved about your interactions with men with your friends. Not too many people should ever know much about your love life, because people love to talk.
No man wants to date, as in a serious relationship, a girl he find promiscuous. To buy her stuff even less likely.
Even if you dated and slept with hundreds of men, men will always be men, so never be honest about it.
Crazy stories from college, threesomes and sex in public are details you are sharing with your girlfriends, never with your boyfriend.
Who knows how many good relationships I destroyed with my wish to be over-interesting…
Present first the best things about yourself, leave the trash for later.
In order to make MM (man of means) want to invest in you, you have to seem as an unreachable “not-everyone-can-date- me” kind a girl.
Therefore, try to date men in different states and cities. If all your partners are from the same place, the stories will inevitably come.
Ex MMs have a great part in your reputation, so never neglect them, always stay friendly with them.
This way they will just spread the word about me being a nice, modest person, with real feelings. MMs talk between themselves, trust me.
So save yourself, and treat them all nicely. At least they should think so.
I learned you have always to play nice, cause you never know who knows who and who is connected to who.
Delay Sex - Don’t be too easy
Why on Earth would he spend his money and time on you, if he realizes you would sleep with him straight away?
If you sleep with him immediately he will not have any reason to invest anything in you, since you already gave it up before he even had to try.
He kissed me and proposed to have a second wine at his place. I kissed him back and said I would rather see him some other time (so here I was giving him a positive signal), than to rush into things (here I am a good girl).
On their second date, Mr. Congressman offered her to take her to a weekend in L.A. She refused, because she knew it was a strictly sex invitation.
When a MM invites you to a trip only after few days of dating, know it is usually a booty call, and he will probably ditch you afterwards.
She said no to him, and she claims to this day that this refusal was the reason he stayed with her.
She emphasized to him that she needs first “to get trust into him”.
Say “I do not like to rush into things” and that you would like to get to know him better, because “I really like you”.
Say you are currently experiencing financial difficulties, and sex just isn’t or you mind. His reaction will tell you everything.
Source: How To Make Him Buy You Stuff by Lydia Lafaso
Understanding Freestyling
It’s obvious that the bowl is somewhat over-saturated, particularly on sugaring sites, with salts and salt babies - and thus, the proposed solution to finding generous men and procuring effective arrangements is freestyling and meeting these men in person, rather than online. Despite freestyling being praised as the new way of sugaring, there seems to be confusion on what exactly it is and what exactly to do when you’re at high-class establishments.
The most common definition appears to be going to high-class restaurants, clubs, and places where “rich people frequent”, looking as though you belong there, and then having a rich man approach you or vice- versa, but it seems as though this method is becoming outdated. As the sugar bowl has become more popularized as journalists and college students try to capitalize on this sensation, the richest men and ideal targets are skeptical. If you’re on one of the many establishments of Wall Street, Capitol Hill, or downtown LA, you’ll hear hedge fund managers, bankers, and trust fund babies talk about avoiding gold diggers when picking up women - and they’ve learned to tell the signs: expensive, attractive, well-dressed women sitting alone, waiting to be approached by men. Moreover, the wealthiest men generally will not approach women if they are strangers they don’t know. Such developments call for a new approach in freestyling, which is not to say the old one should be completely abandoned, but rather that it no longer produces the level of success that it used to.
If you’re looking for genuinely rich men (especially not just new money, or those who think that because they have a $100K salary, they’re rich), then the way of entering arrangements is through networking - which is not just meeting these men at wealthy establishments, but entering and mingling with their social circles. If you’re serious about this life and are looking to enter the upper class, become a socialite, or become a trophy wife, then nailing this skill is very important. The best arrangements, the most generous men, and the most valuable services I’ve acquired have always been through men that I was introduced to through social circles or a friend. Example: I have a male acquaintance that I was introduced to by a mutual friend, and when it was obvious there was chemistry, he introduced me to his other friend, a trust fund baby, and together with two other girls we went on a weekend trip to the trust fund baby’s lakeside house, complete with a jacuzzi, jet skis, and tubing. His net worth/income is impressive for his age (one year older than me), but isn’t enough for me to pursue a physical arrangement with him. However, he works in finance and has a knack for investment, and we’ve entered an agreement where he invests my money and keeps 20% of the investment, but over a year he’s nearly doubled the thousands of dollars I originally gave him to investment. You’ll see this through practice as well: how did Prince Harry and Prince William meet their current wives? Through their social circles and current friends. You’ll understand why rich men tend to date rich women, isn’t necessarily because they have a preference for rich women or that rich women are more attractive (though there may be correlation) but rather because in their social circles that is the kind of woman they’re often introduced to. When you’re wealthy and powerful, it’s not in your interest to talk to most people - because naturally, people will be coming to you. In this way, social circles act as a means of both protecting their wealth and status and separating the cream of the crop to include those that are attractive, have social approval, and have a lifestyle fit with these men for ideal romantic partners.
So how do you ‘break’ into such circles? How do you make the results of freestyling become a reality?
•First, if you’re just starting out or are looking for an allowance, it will be relatively difficult to find the *exact* results that you want. You can see from billionaires or men renown from their wealth, they take care of women who aren’t necessarily at their financial level, but have stability and some income of their own. This makes them more attractive because for super wealthy men, they are used to groupies/women throwing themselves at them, so when they encounter someone who is attractive, interested in them, yet has a level of financial independence, this poses a challenge and makes them more likely to invest in you for sponsorship, SGF, or trophy wife, whichever you wish.
•That being stated, I encourage freestyling from the very beginning, since even on standard dating platforms there’s an inundation of time-wasters and irrelevant folks who try to capitalize on the beauty of a young, attractive woman. So to get started, first, you have to network. Assuming you already know how to take care of yourself and to network, the next step is finding out where the rich and successful people in your area hang out. Humans are naturally social, and so when a girl claims she cannot find worthwhile men, it must be that she’s investing time or social energy into the wrong kinds of men. Envision the kind of life or standards that you’re looking for, and delete any man who doesn’t meet these standards or contributes no use to you. This will free up space and social networking so you can pursue relationships with men who CAN invest in you. If you’re looking for men who can do more than buy you fast food and share Netflix subscriptions, delete those that do.
•Next, do some research about which social circles to join. It’s good to decide what kind of interests you have - are they political? Financial? Perhaps you’re interested in philanthropy. If you’re not sure, that’s fine and join as many as possible, and make sure they have a certain level of status or are inviting the right people, or else they will just be another waste of your time. Go to the introductory meetings and dress to impress, and make a great first impression. Introduce yourself, have a story about yourself, and make small talk, and if you’re attractive and reasonably socially-skilled, you’ll find that people are drawn to you. Once one person is interested, the rest will follow. Some women are too transparent by only mingling with the men - take great care to establish good relations with the women there, because they can put in a good and very influential word for you.
•Go to these events, meet new people, and continue going to them. Men will want to contact you and will ask for your number - you should give it, but don’t get overexcited or too eager. You have to refine through these men and ensure that they’re ones that you’d like to date or to pursue arrangements with. So contact them, be approachable, but also ensure that you present yourself as having other things going for you. You don’t have to necessarily be working but having your own savings, own assets, whether those are from yourself, your family, or another man, are important. Always, always, always have the man approach you first. If he doesn’t seem interested, never seem discouraged and just move on to the next one. Have a mentality of abundance. Next step is testing him and doing your research.
•Before doing anything, you should be able to answer the following questions (outlined in books like Ho Tactics):
-Where does he work and live?
-Is he wealthy, and if so, where does his wealth come from? (Trust fund baby, old money, self-made) What profession is he in? Does he look wealthy or is he actually wealthy?
-And most importantly, is he generous? (How much money does he drop on his hobbies, is he cheap/frugal, does he like spending money on women)
Most women get caught up in the generosity, because sadly, wealth is not equivalent to generosity. Test him by going out on a date and seeing what he proposes. Generous men tend to be quite obvious, in my opinion, and won’t show any hesitation in paying for services, calling you Ubers, or taking you on spontaneous trips and otherwise showing off their wealth. If he doesn’t seem generous, drop him immediately. If he makes any excuse that seems disingenuous, drop him immediately. If he tries to force any physical contact, drop him immediately. If he makes any complaint on spending, drop him immediately. Trust your intuition. Filter through the trash. A superior man will take his place.
•By the second date, you should already have established that you’re high-value. Be nice and pleasant, but don’t be so easily impressed. This is where he should be spending more, and you should establish the dynamics of the relationship. Hold off on physical contact until you’ve filtered through his intentions and gotten what you wanted. Some girls are confused as to whether or not they should be upfront or not, whether to ask for allowance straight up or not. It’s difficult to say, because this varies from person to person - and I would say go with what your intuition tells you and do what’s most comfortable in the persona you adopt. Maybe making up a sob story or emotional manipulation is what you’re best at. Maybe it just suits you better to be blunt. Maybe batting your eyelashes and asking to go shopping is your forte. Whatever works for you. Just make sure you establish the grounds of the relationship and get what you want before anything physical happens. Have foresight on what you want and get the money/gifts FIRST.
•Next is… upgrade. Play the dynamics of an arrangement/relationship and see what his relationship needs are. Fulfill them. But always play the game, and never get too attached. Women may get insecure in relationships - “What if he finds someone hotter than me, younger than me, with a better body than me?” Don’t get insecure and don’t rely on male validation. Have confidence in yourself. He is with you for a reason. You can also do the exact same - there will be better men in the midst, and continuing to be desirable to check his ego is important. But in the meantime, maintaining your looks, beauty, and hobbies is important if you are dedicated to this lifestyle. If you want to date vanilla, fine, go ahead, but if you’re looking to escort/sugar/sell pussy.. whatever you want to call it… you need to consistently upgrade using the resources you’re given. Take great care to not get emotionally attached if you’re not satisfied with the lifestyle you have right now - which requires emotional discipline. Remember that there will always be richer men, hotter men, more successful men, or men who have more of all three qualities.
Reblogging again because I’ve got asks about freestyling. This is good advice.
I reblog this everytime I this is this.
The Art of Gold Digging
1. Change your Mindset
You don’t have to be a cutthroat scandalous woman in order to be a genuine gold digger.
Most of the true gold diggers I know are the nicest, sweetest, most charismatic women you would ever want to meet.
In the Slums and Ghettos, the poorest of the poor are doing things to their neighbor you wouldn’t do to a stray dog. So when people say things like „people with money are evil, corrupt, cold and heartless“ you know thats only BS the broke people say to make themselves feel better and justify their lack of ambition to make something better out of their lives
Don’t be a people pleaser, especially when the people you are trying to please aren’t doing anything for you or looking for your best interest.
„Success is a great deodorant. It takes away all your past smells.“ Once you’re up in a mansion or on an exclusive Island, would you really still care what people would say about you? That’s the point.
Don’t be apologetic because guys out there will not be apologetic for trying to have sex with you once they find out you’re an easy target or sucker for love.
They will not be apologetic for taking advantage of your fragile state. They will not be apologetic for using you and moving on
2. Change Your Environment
When women are broke together, they get into all kinds of immoral activity. They get high and casually sleep with all kinds of guys. But all of a sudden, when one person tries to break out of the mold and do something different and better themselves away from the pack these friends start preaching morality.
Women who escaped their poverty circles always had to stay low key with their game in order to avoid the negative backlash
It is lonely at the top but it is jam-packed at the bottom. Remember its better to be envied than pitied.
Gold diggers do not have pity-parties. Misery loves company, but gold diggers will have none of that.
A true gold digger has nothing to complain about because she’s getting hers.
You are going to be the one on vacation, you are going to be the one traveling the world, you are going to be the one living the lavish life yourself. You won’t have time to talk about somebody else living that lifestyle.
In many cases, poor people procreate with other poor people, therefore they never break the cycle of poverty that goes on for generation after generation.
Rich people know how to nurture and breed family bloodlines of wealth like thoroughbred horses.
This is how they stayed rich for generation after generation after generation. They understood the concept of assets on assets. Try to become an asset.
Go to upscale places, hang out around upscale people in upscale places. If you can place yourself there physically, you will get there mentally and ultimately financially.
Just get into the dating scene with rich guys to be around that wealthy vibe, to learn from them, and to make contacts through them.
You’ll learn how to deal with rich guys and you’ll learn how to be an asset when that one Prince Charming does come into your life and you want to have that long-lasting relationship.
3. Get in the right energy
Think about success all the time. Think about being a winner all the time.
If you don’t have that winning mentality, you’re not going to appreciate what you get, simply because you don’t appreciate what you have.
It is very important to speak highly of people. It is very important to have a positive outlook about life, about everything.
You don’t want to project a negative aura. When people see that, they loose interest in you.
You want to at least appear to be as positive as possible. A woman who has a good vibe and good energy is infectious and people want to be around her.
Successful men conduct business in large part by being charismatic and impressing others. Often they want a woman who’s the same way.
When your target is trying to enlighten you on something, you want to show that you appreciate and respect him. You don’t want to play dumb, but being ditzy in a subtle way works countless times.
4. Commit To The Game
The way to learn the lifestyle is to re-invent and rebuild yourself from scratch.
You’ve got to get rid of the old, meek you and transform into a brand new gold digging seductress.
Women who live out their entire lives in safe situations, only dreaming one life „on the other side“. Some of them try to explore the other side in secret. But this tends to be half-assed
You get in what you put out of a situation. I you put half-assed energy into the game, you’re going to get half-assed results
You have to like what you do. You have to be addicted to the thrill of the hustle.
GD Game:
The biggest mistake women make when they’re dealing with POTS is that they try to deal with all these guys the same way. That’s like playing lottery when it comes to dating.
Every target is a custom job. You have to be a chameleon with your game.
You’ll have to be able to adapt to the game that the guy is using towards you.
A good gold digger knows how to adapt to any man and any surrounding
when you date, do not think that your only job is to look pretty. If that’s the only asset you’re bringing to the table, at some point in time you’re going to be replaced.
Being a pretty woman with a lot of game to back up your looks will get you in the door and keep you in the game.
A lot of rich guys assume that most women out there who try to step to them are selfish. You have to prove otherwise.
But if you can come across as a selfless humanitarian, or as someone who cares about the environment and what goes on in the world, your target will respect that. It will lower his defenses.
GD Looks:
If you want to live in a castle, you have to look like a princess.
You can’t have a low budget look trying to get wealthy men. You really have to invest in yourself.
When your targets see that you invest in yourself and take care of yourself, they’re going to want to continue the process as well.
If he’s financially disciplined, he wants a woman who’s at the very least physically disciplined.
White clothes give off the illusion of wealth and success even if you are not rich. wear as many white outfits as you can.
Wealthy men do notice a a woman shoes and look at the style of shoe a woman is wearing.
When wealthy men see that you have nice shoes, it tells them that you take time out to take care of your feet.
The subconscious correlation men will make is that you’re going to take that same care and dedication with other parts of your body and by extension, with other people.
More than that, shoes and feet are an aphrodisiac to men. When they see women in heels, they zone in on the way they walk, and how graceful their stride is.
the best way to walk in high-heeled shoes without them hurting your feet is to walk one foot in front of the other. That will help alleviate the pain and it will give you a graceful, sophisticated look. That will help you look more thorough in the game.
Best Places to start GD:
Excellent places where you can meet rich men is are upscale hair salons, high end shoe stores , expensive restaurants and golf
You can have the whole damsel-in-distress thing going on, and wealthy men will be glad to show you and teach you how to play golf. They love helping a little lady learn the ropes of the game. This is also a great opportunity for a conversation starter as well. If you want to be a good gold digger, definitely take up golf.
Happy hour at an upscale hotel is another great place to meet wealthy men. Every city has at least one or two upscale hotels. There are cities with several upscale hotels. You can go there during happy hour, either alone or with a friend, just to wind down and have a drink.
The hotel bar is a great place to rub elbows with the upper crust in your neighborhood or city.
In many of these places you won’t even have to strike up the conversation yourself. Just by positioning yourself in these locations, many guys will simply step to you.
It’s really about timing and positioning yourself strategically in the right locations.
Just getting to a spot and being in the right place at the right time is about eighty percent of the game. The rest should fall into place.
In order to participate at an exotic car event, one has to have serious money to have a car to get into one of these races. For wealthy men, it’s like a hobby to them. Women don’t generally know about this. This is a great little secret of the gold digging game.
How to spot a rich man
One thing you want to look at are a man’s hand. If you see a man with a manicure that means that he likes to present himself in a certain way.
Look at those fingernails. When you see a guy with nice hands that shows that he’s not doing manual labor. Most millionaires just don’t do manual labor. They have other guys doing the grunt work
Avoid guys who are too flashy. Most guys who dress in gaudy outfits and trying to display money, are not really rich.
Wealthy men dress clean and they’re well groomed, but the don’t wear loud colors and don’t display over the top jewelry.
The casually dressed guy sitting at the bar could be an undercover millionaire. There are targets who purposely dress down and drive an average looking car to hide their wealth.
Follow them around town and see where they hang out. They might be driving that bucket to the yacht club. They might spread their wealth in several different banks and investment houses.
Fake Watch? The second hand of a genuine Rolex watch does not tick. In most watches, the second hand will tick. The Rolex hand floats, it never ticks
Things to be aware of:
Protect your reputation. For a Gold Digger, being labeled a slut is career ending!
When you just meet a guy, and he wants to immediately take you on a vacation within the first few days of knowing you, that should send you a red flag.
He knows that once you’re away from what’s familiar to you, you’re going to be a little more vulnerable.
You don’t want to have sex too soon because the minute you do, you don’t have anything left to bargain with. You don’t want to put yourself out there like that.
When you go on vacation with a target immediately after meeting him, you have to dust off the old school, “It’s that time of the month” line
You do not want to flat-out reject your target because that will leave a negative vibe. You want to be able to do it in such a way that your target will come back wanting you more.
Remember: As a true to the game gold digger, you’ve got to be subtle in the way you do things.
Let’s say a target wants you to spend the night with him at his home. You never want to say, “Hell no, I’d never do that.” You never want to diss the gentleman. You want to play it real cool.
For example, you can say something like, “I have to respectfully decline.”
The reason why you don’t want to blatantly reject targets is because a lot of these guys think with their egos. As a gold digger, you want to cater to and stroke their egos. You want to make them feel manly.
Don’t think with your own ego, because these guys will sit up and tell you that you’re the best thing since sliced bread, only to tell you the next day, “I’m done with you. I’ve got a new girlfriend.”
Part of the sugar daddy game is they’ll offer to get you a nice house, they’ll offer to get you a car, or something else of prime importance. Sugar daddies make it all seem like you have them wrapped around your finger.
Unfortunately, the opposite is true: They’re getting you wrapped around their fingers. That’s the trick a lot of women don’t know about. Once you get into that house, once you get into that car, you’re under their command.
A true to the game gold digger is always in control of the game. You let him think that he’s in control, but you always run the show as a true gold digger
Don’t ever let a target manipulate or pressure you into any situation. No matter how much money they give you, never let a target use money to control you.
Always Come Across As Being Unattainable
You want your target to pursue you. You want to have your target earn you. You want your target to court you. The reason is a simple one: People value what they work for.
if you go to a restaurant and the food is a hundred dollars a plate, psychologically you’re going to think that the food is better because it’s more high-priced.
You want to come across as being unattainable, like you’re not quite ready for a serious relationship.
You have to be courted into a relationship, slowly, gradually. Your time is such where you seem a little too busy to spend with your target. You always want to keep your target chasing.
He has to know that you are a high maintenance young lady. If you come across as low budget, he’s going to treat you like you’re low budget.
Wealthy guys are going to test you. Some of these targets are going to try to play you like you’re beneath them.
You have to step up to the plate and let them know that you’re high maintenance and that they’ll have to continue to treat you like you’re high maintenance
No matter how smoothly and subtly you work it, you want to be stern and still get your point across.
Discipline
When you have a sense of discipline, you will be able to control your actions and not let your actions control you.
You’ve got to be very disciplined when it comes to dealing with your targets, because they’re going to try to impress you, they’re going to wine and dine you. They’re also going to test you and see how weak you are, they’re going to try to see what moves and motivates you, they’re working really hard to see your Achilles’ heel.
You’re going to have to stand strong and not be swayed by any of the wealth you see before you. You can’t be thrown off your game by any sexual chemistry you and your target may both have.
wealthy men like the challenge. If you can show that you can go toe to toe with the best of them without breaking down or giving in, the payoff will be worth it.
Be Unpredictable
“familiarity breeds contempt.” When people get too used to you, they almost develop a certain level of disdain.
you do want to be unpredictable. You change your patterns every now and then.
This could be as simple as switching hobbies. You can rearrange your daily routine. You can change your look. It could be something as subtle as that.
If you’re used to going to the mall everyday, at the same time of day, think about heading for the gym instead.
There are all kinds of little things you can do to switch up the pace and throw your target off-guard. That way, he won’t be able to simply put you in a box.
When they think they know you, turn left and go the other way. You always want to keep them on their toes.
It’s like putting together a puzzle. When you’re working a puzzle, you’re intrigued by that puzzle because you’re trying to figure it out. Once you put the puzzle together, you’re not intrigued anymore. You have it figured out.
As a gold digger, you want to keep adding pieces to the puzzle so your target will never fully figure you out.
Change your demeanor and attitude. One day, act totally happy-go-lucky. The next day, you have a dead-serious look on your face.
Source: “The Art of Gold Digging” by Tariq Rasheed
Part 2: How to hunt.
First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).
As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs).
If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.
So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either:
a). walk up to you and introduce himself,
b). he’s going to move closer to you or,
c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.
If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now.
And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again.
However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable.
What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.
The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link.
Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.
When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.
So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT”
And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh.
Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.
Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself.
You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go.
Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.
Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.
Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?”
I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.
FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.
This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?”
I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.
Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.