I’ve been in the bowl for a year now, and for half of that time I’ll admit I was doing it wrong. I was picking all of the right men, but wasn’t acting appropriately when I was with them.
When I was in Miami recently, I hung out with a fellow SB and she told me how she wants a guy to buy her a car, pay bills, this, and that. She also told me when she was with these POTs she’s to herself and reserved. That’s exactly how I was when I first started, and exactly how you don’t want to act.
So, how should you act with your SD or a POT? Like he’s been your boyfriend for 3 years
Whether these guys want the girlfriend experience, a mistress, or something in-between, you can’t act distant, disgusted, or like you’re just patiently waiting for the cash and to go home.
I’ve had 2 SD’s: One I was distant with, and he gave me this advice and told me to “get in the game” - because, hey, this whole thing is a game. My last SD I was very affectionate with and it was a great, almost too emotional experience, but very beneficial.
I’m not saying succumb to a mans every need, especially if you aren’t comfortable in doing so, but read his profile and figure out what he’s looking for and what he needs, and give him just that.
Be affectionate, hold hands, touch him a lot, smile, wink, kiss, compliment him, play with his hair, and inquire about how he his. If you are sexual with him, spice things up, like telling him how bad you want him in his ear. Take an interest.
No man will buy you a car or pay your bills if you just sit there, look pretty, and give him the goodies. That’s very mechanical. While that could give you some extra money or have him asking to see you again, it won’t make him want to invest in you and see you regularly.
Chances are you won’t be attracted to your SD or a POT (at least at first), but pretend. Pretend you’re interested. You want shit paid for? Pretend for the sake of money!
