Iâve been in the bowl for a year now, and for half of that time Iâll admit I was doing it wrong. I was picking all of the right men, but wasnât acting appropriately when I was with them.
When I was in Miami recently, I hung out with a fellow SB and she told me how she wants a guy to buy her a car, pay bills, this, and that. She also told me when she was with these POTs sheâs to herself and reserved. Thatâs exactly how I was when I first started, and exactly how you donât want to act.
So, how should you act with your SD or a POT? Like heâs been your boyfriend for 3 years
Whether these guys want the girlfriend experience, a mistress, or something in-between, you canât act distant, disgusted, or like youâre just patiently waiting for the cash and to go home.
Iâve had 2 SDâs: One I was distant with, and he gave me this advice and told me to âget in the gameâ - because, hey, this whole thing is a game. My last SD I was very affectionate with and it was a great, almost too emotional experience, but very beneficial.
Iâm not saying succumb to a mans every need, especially if you arenât comfortable in doing so, but read his profile and figure out what heâs looking for and what he needs, and give him just that.
Be affectionate, hold hands, touch him a lot, smile, wink, kiss, compliment him, play with his hair, and inquire about how he his. If you are sexual with him, spice things up, like telling him how bad you want him in his ear. Take an interest.
No man will buy you a car or pay your bills if you just sit there, look pretty, and give him the goodies. Thatâs very mechanical. While that could give you some extra money or have him asking to see you again, it wonât make him want to invest in you and see you regularly.
Chances are you wonât be attracted to your SD or a POT (at least at first), but pretend. Pretend youâre interested. You want shit paid for? Pretend for the sake of money!
